A relationship is a mutual agreement between two consenting adults, wanting a connection with one another. Entanglement is an involvement of two or more parties, where there is no desire, but rather a co-depended need for someone to be in your life. Entanglement will keep anyone of us on an emotional merry-go-round. Prayers up, for all who feel as if you are in an emotional crises, if you feel as if there is no hope.....Please let go....Let God!!!!!!!! Only God can break the cycle if allowed/set anyone of us free!!!!
This broke my current situation down. I am not in the relationship I want instead I am in an entanglement that is draining me emotionally. Now that I can name it, I know what needs to be done. We will either be happy together or happy apart. Thank you, Iyanla. This video was a healing.
Exactly . a relationship with a narcissist is a entanglement .i have been a few myself. My lord. Your so right . thank you. So very much. God bless you. Love you ma vanzant.😀😀😀😀😀🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖💖💖
WOW God Bless You Iyanla. Finally, Finally I have found a message that makes so much sense. Yes, a 30 yr entanglement. Time to do my part & move on, I'm tired. Excited to do the work on myself. Yes, notes were taken & I'll keep coming back to refresh my mind with your words of wisdom. Thank you from the bottom of my heart
I'm healing my personal issues, truth be told i can't believe my attachments.... i was so so lacking within myself thats why i excepted so little....I forgive myself I AM IN HEALING....
This woman has a " Satanic anointing " and is on the way to Hell. the Bible says in Hell there wont be a moments of rest. Jesus warned against man and his idols" serving the prince of the air aka Satan. it gets kind of complex bcz some ppl, Believe in the Devil & God . the text says *** No man can serve two masters. Yes here in the short period of x. but the end result is the lower parts of the earth. You would be surprised how many celebs worship Baal. and are apart of the "occult". this oppressive. driven society is at its wits end. a fools eyes are in the ends of the earth. the prudent has understanding. DO not be deceived Beloved "" if you are serving 2 Masters when #ChristheKing returns the enemy will take your Soul. He is a liar and has been since the beginng of time.
Entanglement is such a tricky situation to be caught in, glad I am free from that now. Took a step out on faith and walked away from it it was indeed scary but I did it because I had to. For me
@@lizbethbrady8308 I feel that I am in an entanglement, and have been for 30 years. I don't don't think either of us are narcissistic but we are unhealthy in that we are co-dependent and I know on my part I expect my husband to fulfill me and make me happy. I wonder if maybe that's just being married to your high school sweetheart for over half my life. I???
WOW!!! TALK ABOUT AN "AHA" MOMENT. "We attract to us what we are INSIDE, Not what we SAY we are, Not what you THINK we are, Your going to attract who you ARE"
Nope don’t believe that I didn’t not set myself up or go looking for a entangled marriage. I have been married before for 15 yrs until he passed away an their was nothing entangled about my marriage. But this one here is another story 5 yrs I am a mess
Terrie Smith Good for you! I wrote the same thing above... Amazing to see how many entanglements there are by the comments, but been there done that and happy to be on the other side of that!
My marriage isn't really a marriage at all. It has all been a 15 year long entanglement. Realizing this is both great and devastating at the same time.
This video must have been sent from God 🙌 RIGHT ON TIME!! I just ended a 2 year entanglement and I feel like I knew this the whole time but I stayed because we had a baby.
What she is saying is not even debatable--it's the truth. You will find evidence in yourself and your relationships that she just spoke of so eloquently. Iyanla is a master on relationships and I hold her in the highest regards.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am in an entanglement & I have been for two years too long. I need to let it go. I'm not sure that my heart can withstand anymore breaking. I want more & we just aren't on the same page. We've tried, but he's broken my trust several times and now I'm at a point where I don't have any energy that I'm willing to give to try. It's very hard to let go, but it is necessary.
Mariah B well done for having the strength to consider change and doing the right thing. I pray for spirit to give you wisdom and courage to do what is right
Mariah B how I got out of my last relationship I had to literally talk to myself out load and remind myself that I'm a good woman and I deserve the best. I deserve better. what u have to do is make the decision to go or stay and stand your ground. hope this helps.
Thank you so much Iyanla for sharing your knowledge and insight with me.This was the missing piece of information i needed to move forward in my relationship with self and others .
you are an amazing woman I'm speechless I'm married been married for 7 years together for 11 and this relationship has been an entanglement the entire time I'm going to work on some things as well as him he has to or this has to end thank you so much for helping me to identify my issues within myself as well as the dysfunction that is within my life things are clearing up since I've been watching you day by day you're such a blessed woman
I'm trying so hard to get out of my entanglement relationship of 8 years. It's so difficult because we live together. And I can't afford to move me and my son into are own place. So every day is a struggle.
I'm in the same predicament, you just have to make a choice to leave. I refuse to spend another month in this situation. I know it will be difficult, but it's for the best. #movingin23days #makeaplan #sticktoit God bless Sis
Baby doll I feel you on that I'm a man and want out but fear the threats and the damage to my property also the stalking. shit is a drain yo.hope the best for you "freedom "shall come one day oh yeah 13 years of this down fall
An outstanding video, Iyanla! You've unlocked the secrets of a foundational relationship. I plan to replay this video several times and share this video as well. This is a prerequisite video to benefit ANY relationship. God bless you!
A timely word! I have been watching your videos and started reading your books (in the meantime & Art of faith). I came to realise that i was broken and needed to learn to love myself before anyone can love me. This video has just confirmed that I am in entanglement but I am not sure my partner is willing to put in the work for transform it back to a relationship. Quite frankly I am tired of all the effort I put in and the lack of I get back. I do want to leave but having 2 children keeps me where I am.
Crazy ... I and most other people I saw laughed hysterically when Jada said it was an "entanglement with August". Everyone was like, "girl, please! You know you were cheating! " Now after watching this, I've realized that I and probably a plethora of other folks have been in entanglements thinking we were relationships! Incredible! If it weren't for the wisdom and love this wonderful gift from God named Iyanla demonstrated, soo many of us would still be jacked up! Thank you, Iyanla. Wow! Just ... Thank you and God Bless You!!
Confirmation that I'm in a entanglement. Truth sets us free. Truth is a beautiful thing. I'm so thankful for this video. God revealed to me that I have a pattern of settling, not being honest verbally with what I really want & feeling frustrated & bitter afterwards. I'm 41 & lately I've become completely emotionally exhausted from the entanglement I'm in. In the past few weeks, I made up my mind to truly put my feeling first & say how I feel even if it hurts his feelings. Then I came across this video & it's been such a blessing. Thank you for clarity on healthy relationships & entanglement. God bless you!
Iyanla you are so wise. I could only hope to actually meet with you one day to personally thank you for all your help.. Thank you for your advice as always.
These R spots have brought crucial knowledge that aids in the healing we all need and deserve. I just released myself from two entanglements. One with a friend, and the other with a romance partner. I'm grateful I used the knowledge given and recovered the self-respect needed to do it. It was not easy, but I did it and I'm not going back. My mantra is: I'm releasing myself from negative patterns of behavior and moving forward in love with my life!
I now know why my caged bird sings!!! I want to be free after 20 years of marriage and seven years dating. I just want to be truly happy. He never satisfied me, But I held on for the security. Time to take a deep look within !!!
I so understand this after 30 yrs in a dead end. Security. I too am fearful, but I can no longer go on this way. I'm tired & want to be healthy & happy. Pain is a great motivator .
Wow girl, Wow. I wasn't even able to come up with the language about my experience in this life...entanglements vs relationships. And I would NEVER have imagined that relationship needs this big work. Thank you for sharing your insight, it is fascinating. xo
Whoa, I feel like Jada must have listened to this, and probably (at least) twice too, as instructed at 15:51.. 😅 Too many of the same points Ilanya made & phrases she said came up in the Red Table Talk for it to just be a coincidence methinks.. 👀 And this is deep.. 🤔 #Entanglement - @Acharich
Wow, can you see me!!! One of my favorite books is Acts of Faith its behind you the small purple book. It's a daily meditation for people of color. Great inspirational book.❤
Wow MS. Iyania I'm a Man! And this is right on time.. I truly Love My Lady,but She doesn't want change!! I'm ready to move to another State @ Do something different but she's so stuck.. I love hard @ willing to do whatever! but I'm very tired.. We have no children I'm really trying to hold on.. Thank you
Chocolately Good We'll I think when one get use to a certain environment change is hard,but sometimes is necessary.. Your Family friends will put you on a guilt trip because they don't want you to change.
You can’t change people but if they don’t care then Thank God you have no children .. if they don’t care about you or your vision or who you are or don’t respect you then move on before children are involved!
When we first meet them, just because of what we feel "mind you, feelings are driven by many factors e.g prolonged loneliness, heartbreak, need to settle etc" we conclude that they are our soulmates. Instead of getting into the real discussion in order to determine if they are compatible, the fear of loosing them starts haunting us. we then start focusing on pleasing them for them to never find a reason to leave. We get them soo comfortable to a point that they forget our needs. After we've given more then enough and we start expecting back, the frustration of us thinking that its supposed to flow naturally or like you did, gets us bitter, angry, lonely and disappointed and we explode. Than boooooom, the relationship that could have worked if things were clear from the beginning is ruined. I've been in entanglements all my life and the last one was the easiest to walk away "thanks to Iyanla" because i knew i didn't do the work. I've learned the hard way and i promised myself to never lie to myself ever again. From now on, whatever it takes,iam gonna do it the right way, step by step, then wasting my whole life with the wrong person.
OMG entanglement: you described my parents n family no wonder why friendships n such didn't last long even tho some longer than others wow. Glad i'm working on this n self improvement now so hopefully this next relationship is better than i've ever had. Thank you
I’m sitting here realizing the same exact thing: my family relationships are all entanglements first set up by my parents, then it trickles to my sister, cousins, aunts, etc., And that surely explains why all of my friendships & romantic relationships have been the way they have. Crazy
I was in a relationship and at first it was equal but started to become very much one sided. I advocated for myself and said that my needs were not being met. We came up with lists for compromises but she didn't stick to them. I was constantly put last. If something had to give it was me. Drinking with friends constantly came before me. In 7 months I met her friends 3 times. I would ask to be invited but I wasn't invited. I loved her but I love me more so I walked away. I know my worth and I know what I want. I want a partnership, I want to be with someone who is willing to work WITH me to build a life together. That was the first time in a relationship that I felt like the last kid picked at school for the team sport and that will be the last time.
I'm in a relationship because we do our work. We read relationship books together, pray together, go to church together and love and respect each other. I used to be in entanglements and they feel awful. My parents have been in an entanglement for over 20 year. Bbut I've broken the cycle 💃🏾💃🏾 Won't He Do It!
hello iyanla Vanzant i know what you were talking about a Entanglement i was in one With my father i lived with him for Years All i wanted was to be his daughter Iam 21 and iam a domestic violence survivor and my violence came from my father and his wife and it lasted two years and I was mentally and physically and financially abused I didn't think I was going to survive it I was paying my father rent of 320 a fornight out of my disability payment and he was getting cares payment for me and last year I told him I was going to stop paying him rent cause I wanted a life of my own and he said if u don't have that money in his bank account by midday I will have no choice to take you to court my heart dropped my own father saying that so I went to the police and they didn't do anything so the next morning I got a lawyer and I went to court myself and I got a restraining order against him and then I had to go again cause he objected the order then I had to face him and his wife in court and I won now he can't talk to me or see me for two years
I am in an entanglement, and I know we have the potential to get better. We both to save our relationship and family.. I want to so bad show this video to my significant other and hope that he receives it well. I want to begin the process of saving our relationship and overcome our down falls.
Iyanla Vanzant are you reading? Because your body language and eyes not moving denotes that. Now I know you are wise so maybe if you are reading cards is bc you don't want to lose your train of thought and/or also for timely videos. Either way I still love you and your honest messages.
Thank you Iyanla, this is truth ... I live in entanglement relationship, same argument over n over , try to move on but he holding me back for the sake of his investment of the business we share.
She said most people in an entanglement are addicted to "something" that creates a patterned problem in a relationship. YES. I thought I was in a relationship with someone I loved so much. I believe their addiction to sex, porn and desire for multiple sexual partners is what ultimately got in the way of us building a true foundation with each other. I just wish they were more honest with me. But I wish them well and am thankful they ended the relationship.
I am in an entanglement and I am going to share this video with my husband and begin counseling and I hope he will get counseling and address his issues as well.
I decided not to share the video with him because I know my husband and he has already said that he doesn't care for Iyanla and I don't think he will accept what is being said. He is the type of person that has to figure things out for themselves otherwise he doesn't take the information in. We are now separated and I am moving him and his baggage out of our home as I move out as well to get my finances i order. I have been enabling him to be irresponsible and I am not doing it anymore.
Good for you! I did the same thing for the same reasons safety being the main thing and now after sharing this with him (after an aggressive public confrontation) he was in denial but realized he couldn't deny the truth when his his children's perspectives if his behaviors was TOLD to his face He decided it was time to visit a therapist (alone 1st & then together) I KNOW you will be alright my sister. Thank you for the inspiration. Ready... set... Let Go and let the journey begin. light and love to you and yours. JD
Thank you for sharing with me as well. I am glad your guy decided to go to therapy. I wish mine would but I welcome this journey. Love to you and yours as well.
I now know what Entanglement defines... it's been 18+ years and listening to this video is Confirmed that I have to get out before I'm completely destroyed.. Thanks for sharing this with me and others. GOD BLESS 🙏
This is incredibly validating bc you’ve confirmed for me Ms. Iyanla that my pattern of entanglement began with family - first my parents, sibling, then extended family. This dysfunction has served as the archetype for all my other relationships (friends, romance). But God is doing a new thing in me where these old patterns are being uprooted. Everything I thought I knew is crumbling, so it’s chaotic right now, but so worth tearing down the old to build the new. Thank you much for sharing😇
Thank you for shinning your light on us. We sincerely love and honor you and your work. You are a Magnificent gift. From the Creator of all divine living soul beings. Ase
