I believe it's an Infp thing that every time we are stuck in a fi-si loop we always tend to dream in leaving this crazy society and live a peaceful life in the middle of a meadows nowhere.
Small hut with single tree nearby, in the middle of nowhere that is full of colorful flowers and surrounded by the mountains beneath the blue sky with few white clouds. What a beautiful place. (INFP here)
so funny...right before i saw your comment, I just said to my partner “I was really lazy today. I’m telling myself it’s okay and I earned it, since I socialized the entire day yesterday” (saw my family the whole day lol) 😂
I am an unhealthy INFP who is always searching for things on the internet to explain myself back to me. I've taken all of the quizzes, done all the research, looked into all of my astrology, the list goes on. I'm just always looking for something that tells me how and why I am the way that I am. So when I say this I'm almost fed up with myself, because I always find things that I relate to and see myself in but I never do anything about it lol. But I honestly have never been so called out so perfectly as I have been by this video lol. Absolutely everything was on fucking point. I've been in the loop for quite some time now. And I've been working a 9-5, soulless, excel-ridden existence for the last 3 years and I've hated every second of it. And I've stuck with it because I tell myself, it pays well and has benefits and you don't have to worry about your next meal or how you'll pay rent. But I'm fucking miserable and addicted to shit I shouldn't be addicted to because it gives me this false sense of excitement in a life that has none. Part of my problem is that I can't decide what I want to do. I'm really drawn to music and singing, but I've recently gotten really into movies. And I've actually signed up for an acting class at a local theatre and the first class is tomorrow night and I'm so fucking nervous and all day today my mind was thinking of reasons to back out. But I've finally reached a point in my life where I understand that if I don't do something that I'm obviously drawn to, I'm going to keep thinking about it incessantly until I just fucking do it. So, it's 2 AM and I've had a little bit too much drink and I'm nervous as fuck to go to this class tomorrow night. But I'm going to make myself suck it up and go, because I know deep down I really want to. I've just been in my comfort zone for so long now that it's so scary to think about getting out of it. But I know it will be good for me. And I have this gut feeling that I'm going to like it a lot more than I can even imagine
If no one else does, I believe you can do it! try it out for a little while and if it doesn't work out, so be it, but you can say you gave it your best shot. -Fellow INFP :)
Wow, definitely forgot about this comment. I’ve got this terrible habit of over sharing with strangers on the internet when I’ve had too much to drink 😅 I appreciate the kind replies ♥️
@@marissiatiller2397 I really enjoyed it. I only completed half of the classes that I paid for because it was just really taxing for me, emotionally. I just didn’t know how to cope with how I was feeling. So I told the director of the class how I was feeling, and thankfully she was very kind and understanding. I’d really like to go back at some point but I need to be in a better headspace. A more self assured, confident headspace. When I was there doing the exercises with the class it was so jarring for me, but in a good/meaningful way. I think the biggest thing was that I liked the position I was putting myself in and I liked what I was doing and I liked my performance, but because it was soooo far removed from my comfort zone and I’d never been in that kind of environment before, it just really took it out of me and I just didn’t know how to deal with it. But all in all, it was a really good experience and I fully anticipate doing it again sometime in the near future
I am an INFP and the reason I am proud of being one is because when I was younger I was pretty lonely. I cry a lot I have barely any friends and I barely know myself. But once I know I am an INFP I started researching about my personality and I started to know myself which is very exciting for me. I started to know my weakness’s and started to improve in mentally and I am pretty happy now. :)
This is one of the most concise and comprehensive explanations of INFP cognitive functions I've ever seen. Loved the practical examples you gave also. There were some gaps in my own knowledge and understanding of the functions, and you've definitely filled the gaps with this video. You are gifted teacher. Subbed and looking forward to watching all your videos!
My thoughts exactly. Definetly tailored to INFP way of thinking. The first time I got the grasp of how the Xi/Xe relate to one another. I've watched plenty of Frank James videos but I haven't gotten the hang of it from those. Thanks, Alexis. 😃
THIS IS ME!!! I have big artistic dreams but I’m too shy to actually do anything about em. I take singing lessons and singing is my passion and I love it (and luckily I’ll be able to continue singing in college) but I got super pessimistic thinking I wasn’t good enough because I’m too introverted. Luckily I’ve gotten so much better, but the biggest part that I’ve had to work on with singing is confidence. Edit: the whole loop think hits home. Playing video games, bad eating happens, pessimism and living a small life. But what’s funny is that I broke out of that loop without realizing I did. I still do some things like video games, but not to the extent. I do more stuff that’s different and new and I’m more extroverted (sort of).
I wanted to be a singer when I was younger but I've sort of lost the desire because of how hard it is to be well-known and big in the industry. I just gave up on it. I also wanted to be a writer/screenwriter. I loved watching shows and creating fan fictions. whenever I don't understand how I feel, I write it down to understand it.
wow... I feel confident as to plan out my entire life... and trust me I have my life planned from the get go... im planning on becoming a famous youtuber then going on and leaping to become an actor and from there build up a company that will help humanity all in all from a small plan of mine... the infp in my keeps telling me that I have predicted the future and that I am sure that this will happen... but I am not sure... at least I get 1k subscribers... now I have 20 million left to go!
I'm an INFP and I am an Engineer, going through engineering training really helped me grow and become more logical, precise and plan oriented person, I don't chase dreams like before but now I'm more focused on solving real problems and achieve ideals through action, no dreams can be achieved through dreaming only
Really cool reading this. I'm an INFP too, and I've experienced something similar. I entered university declaring mechanical engineering straight out of high school, but things played out to where I ended up returning to university at a later time, now pursuing a career as a social scientist. Learning about research methodology helped solidify my understanding of the importance of structure, which in turn allowed me to hone in on how I should structure my own life to do what I want to do in life. Man, that felt long winded through my fingers. Alright, anyways, hope things are good with you, thanks for sharing
The interesting question to ask is what is a small life? I mean, as an INFP I've written over 100 books set up community groups and done a range of different things from running a marathon to parasailing in Tunisia, but I still prefer just to sit in the house and binge-watch Netflix and RU-vid videos like this and passively investing money in the stock market to fund my scholarship fund that I want to set up to promote the values and principles of community education - that's me using Te in the service of my Fi, by the way. As far as i can understand the collective unconscious of our species, it seems you can only live a big life in the eyes of others if most people know your name whereas I think a big life is one where you pursue your own goals despite the pressure to conform to society's norms. To be authentic in a world that wants you to be inauthentic seems the bigger lifer to me.
Ya I think a "big life" is one where you reach your subjective potential and one in which you feel no regret at the end of your life based on your standards and what you feel is your life purpose. A "small life" is one in which you make fear-based decisions and allow fear to cause inaction which leads to regret on one's deathbed, whether they admit to themselves or not. (Basically fear vs. courage)
I never thought anyone could understand me this much. It's officially confirmed that I am an INFP. I shut away all my poetry and writing because I had to focus on studying. I was eventually even convinced that my writing was not up to the mark, so I thought it was better to stop. It's been two years, and thanks to you, I am gonna start again. Thank you
For the first time I've understood the cognitive functions :) I have been stuck in a comfort zone Si mode for the past few years, thanks to depression and controlling family issues. Time to get my Fi-Ne back :)
I’m dropping in a bit late to give my experience! I am an INFP and discovered the functions a few years ago. I learnt that I was stuck in a nasty Fi-Si loop - living at home, smoking a lot of 🍃 and drinking, with big artistic dreams but doing basically nothing besides a part time receptionist job … and I partly consciously, partly subconsciously put my Ne into gear .. I moved to a more exciting city into a small room in a shared house, I started a small business on Instagram and worked some low paying but enjoyable marketing jobs, and really started stepping out into the world. That was in 2020 too, during the pandemic and all! Three years later I do my small business (I make jewellery and other stuff!) and live in an apartment with my partner. So things have definitely turned around for me and I’m really proud. I do still battle with addiction and food addiction can be added to the list now … I still struggle with Fi-Si Loop in other words. Im glad I’ve come back to the world of MBTI especially this more Jungian function version. It’s opening my eyes up again to the importance of me using that beautiful Ne function of mine that got me to where I am in the first place!!
Wow I have always thought about myself as an introverted extrovert, this explains why. I enjoy social things but I am definitely more comfortable in the introvert zone and tend to stay there. This analysis hit on so many things that I have been thinking about recently
I’ve taken several MBTI tests, and I’m a bigtime INFP. I’m an artist for a living, I HAVE to be alone, my whole life is practically a daydream, and I’m fictosexual. I’m also a massive crybaby over pretty much everything. 🤣 I’ll talk your face off about stuff that interests me, but if you slight me, I ghost like a MF. 🤣 Soooo INFP.
On the dreams things..... So, I've found that as an INFP, when I give up on a dream, a new one usually comes and takes it place. Which, sometimes ends up in me looking like I quit on one, because my mind will keep circling back, and eventually I'm just like okay. I give up on this one, I go back to this one I guess? And that's the long story short on how I went from wanting my own salon as licensed hairstylist to deciding to go back to school for nursing in only a year. I will also say, the client interactions as a stylist killed me. I can not people that directly without being a perpetually too exhausted pigeon.
Girl holy crap I have never watched a video that made it so easy to comprehend infp. I kept thinking omg that makes sense, okay so does that… and that lol this video helped me realize I 100% am an INFP. Thank you!
I was thinking that... I'm an infp but when i start writing something... I start by writing i think instead of i feel... does that mean i am thinking one or a feeling one.? That's a big confusion to me.... what do you feel about it as you too wrote as " I think" instead of using "i feel" or something else.
This is the most eloquent and validating video I've ever seen on INFPs. I'm going to come back to it again and again. What you said about us, that we are "meant to invent" was spot on. I always say to people that I want my job to entail creating things that have never existed before. I feel like I have an insatiable need to create and I get bored with any type of routine very easily. Thank you for your motivational words and encouragement for us INFPs to actually put our art and our inner thoughts out into the world.
Now I know why I have been living that way =') Never really going after my dreams. But having this creativity inside of me ! I am definitely going to be working on my Te more !!
I came here wanting to know more about my personality type. I didn’t expect to leave so motivated after your video by learning about my cognitive functions and how to use them better. Turns out I was very unhealthy INFP in constant Fi-Si loop perhaps in my whole teenage years that caused me depression and even made me occasionally suicidal because of exactly what you said, lack of meaning and purpose. And it was Ne and a little bit of Te that got me out of it and finally took the first step to seek help from those that I can trust. It was a real and painful hardwork but it was worth it. I can say I’m in a better place now and am still working on myself. I wish I could’ve watched your video several years ago to save me some pain (but what is life without pain? okay, my Ne is exploring randomly again). Anyway, I don’t write comments that much but this one I had to write because I’m just happy that you and your videos exist and can help people out there who need it so thank you. ❤
As an INFP, I have no trouble maintaining the creative drive, plugging away at the artistic stuff - but the mundane, day-to-day stuff falls by the wayside - until there's a crisis - then I force myself to stop the creative stuff for, yes, sometimes months at a time, in order to get the practical stuff back under some minimal control. And, no, haven't had much success with either.
Wow, you described INFPs perfectly. And especially for someone who isn't an INFP. And you're so right about having to show the world what we can achieve. Getting stuck in the INFP Fi-Si loop isn't great.
i found out i'm an INFP maybe two weeks ago, i've been watching videos about INFPS and the MBTI test in general since and i feel like this video was at the same time brutally honest and the best thing i could hear, i've been in this loop of bad habits for a while, smoking weed a lot, playing video games and just meeting with some friends from time to time, always thinking to myself that i have no purpose at all in existing, litteraly the exemple you gave, and i'm so glad i found your video, because in all the videos i've watched on the subject so far it's all about how INFP's are compassionate caring great listener etc etc, your explanations with the help of your graph are crystal clear on what i'm doing wrong with my life, and what i should do to improve i want to change myself, and i feel more or less ready for it, i just need to find the key now, a lifeline in a way, something that will motivate me to wake up every morning great video :D
i love ur honesty, and i related too u so much❤ first time watcher (definetli not the last!) just found out about this test and had many of the same feelings. hold on ur not alone inn this confusing world🥰
as an infp whose gotten through nicotine addiction, and have worked two unsuccessful jobs (because they were too draining), I can promise you I will never give up on my dreams no matter how confusing or wacky they get. I believe our strength comes out when we have structure in our lives, for me that looks like working at a warehouse from 4:30am-9am loading packages in trucks. This isn't many hours, but it gives me a sense of purpose and opportunity to execute how great my work ethic is, and it's gotten my body used to more exercise which has made me want to try more things! The hours also allow me to explore my hobbies and learn how to manage my money. I couldn't be any more excited about the future, after overcoming nicotine addiction, you literally are unstoppable.
ngl kinda watched this for shits and giggles (on myself) but honestly whaaaat. i really learnt something from this, given me some stuff to reflect on, thank you!
I daydream a lot, like my whole life revolves around daydreaming. Even if I am at work or working on a deadline, daydreaming is something that I do unintentionally. I have many hobbies growing up. I don't ask questions if I don't know something else. I just do research on it. I find researching by myself more fruitful than asking others. I love reading people's actions and demeanors. It is one thing that I am proud of because most of the time, I am right. Not really sure if I am an INFP, but I think I relate more to this MBTI.
Thank you, that was really motivating. Also, the way you explained everything was so different and new, it made so much sense. Thanks for believing in us INFPs, I’ll try my best, don’t worry 🙃
Another INFP here saying that you described my life! I’m really trying to get into a consistent routine of doing art almost everyday. In the past I did exactly what you said-I’d pick up my art and work on something for a few weeks to a month (I do pointillism so one project takes a while 😉). Then I’d be done and do zero art for months. The consistency is so hard to do but I’m going to keep fighting. I’ll revisit this video when I need a pick-me-up. 😁
This video was so good, it helped a lot. My friend is INFP and he has exactly this problem of having a goal but having no structure, organization, or scheme to get there. I am an INTJ and Te is my co-pilot and I was thinking to make him stronger in that function. This video is a blessing, it gave me a further confirmation that my guess may be correct! Thank you, thank you so much!
YeahYa, I agree with ‘INFP voices’ comment. This is an exceptional video. I absolutely love how you have woven a golden thread of protecting the INFPs dreams through it all. Brilliant and intuitively empathetic. ❤️🔥
@@PowerRedBullTypology hi, it's been a minute since I wrote this. But I am referencing how much she admires their once as artists or writers. Seen you around, think I like all your comments that I've seen, but don't know your type. ?
Up until now, the only videos I've seen about INFPs were ones that labelled or categorized us. This is the first one I've found that points to how to grow, to conquer unhealthy habits, and make motivating, healthy goals. Thank you!
Literally have spent all morning taking notes on your video. Hearing you say most of this is kind of scary. For as long as I remember I have felt misunderstood and as I get older the contrast only grew more stark. It seems that the fact is tho, I am understood, just not by most people out there 🙂 Definitely gives me some sort of comfort and motivation to continue the creative journey. Thanks for all the details and the excellent sharing/format.
I think part of the problem is that INFPs REALLY need someone to believe in them; to encourage them, give feedback, help them see past the previous/current situation. A typical difference between teenagers and adults is that teens often can't conceptualize the big picture and adapt to it. INFPs tend to keep that limitation, so they come across as self-centered crybabies, when really they just feel like they're living blind. This doesn't have to cripple them, but it can without long-term support.
As an INFP I want to thank you not only for the tips being quality but also the way you presented. For me (and I’m sure many other INFP’s), I struggle with typical learning bc of how much jumping around and “assumed” parts of ideas teachers just skim over while I’m still trying to understand their last 5 sentences, but the way you presented this was perfect for me being able to follow along. I just love how you broke everything down and made things very clear-cut, it made it not only tolerable but also enjoyable
I’m a 17yr old INFP. I’ve been into MBTI for a while now and have been curious to learn more about cognitive stacks. Hearing the bit about the Fi-Si loop we can get stuck in was crazy. I’m homeschooled and spend so much of my time just rotting in my room. I don’t go out and make friends, and I blame it all on the fact that I’m homeschooled, meanwhile there are plenty of kids at my school who have friends. I’ve always just told myself that I have no choice in where my life takes me, at least right now. I’m comfortable doing the same thing everyday, but I hate it. I hate being alone most of the day. I hate that I’m not productive. Like you said, I hate that what I do has no meaning or purpose. I want to be a writer so bad, but I’m not putting in the work because it’s uncomfortable and hard. I can get so discouraged when I feel like my effort is going nowhere. I’m going to try to work on those things now. Amazing video.
Middle-aged INFP here and so much of this connects with me. No conspiracy theories for me, though (thankfully) - although in certain moments I do feel like liquidating everything I have and buying a small place out in the desert where I can just be alone in solitude and perhaps find some peace. I got started in a cubicle and worked my way up in the ranks, pretty much suppressing my natural tendencies - or at least I was lucky in finding bosses that appreciated how I looked at things. I attained a fairly senior position, and then was spit out from the corporate world after 30+ years. Since then I have reconnected with a feeling there is a more creative path I should be on. I definitely identify with having big dreams (or even smaller goals) and not knowing “where to even start!” I’ve thought/said that more times than I’d ever be able to count. I struggle with the “you have to prove it to people” part - assertiveness and boastfulness are not strengths of mine. I love your analogy of a mosaic! I use that analogy (and countless others) all the time. I think I live my life through analogies! I’ve been told numerous times that I am a perfect example of the expression “Still waters run deep,” I also keep editing this comment because as I watch the video there is more that I identify with. You are reading my mind! Thanks for the video!
how can you be sure that your theories are not conspiracy? Always when I hear that phrase, I wonder where is it specified what is allowed to think without being labelled as a conspiracy theorist? And can you be 100% sure that your thoughts are not 'conspiracy' territory in the eyes of some other person? As an INFP you probably are a bit airy fairy compared to average ESTJ's and starting from that point I have noticed many sensing oriented types tend to label anything abstract or philosophical as a conspiracy theory and not worth of existing as it's not proven neither by science nor their 5 senses.
Wow, you are really good at explaining! No unnecessary information, very clear and concise explanation, and great use of graphics, too! I didn't even have to keep rewinding the video because I didn't get distracted at all. I was so focused haha. Thanks for this video! Thoughts on the video: - The 1st and 3rd function loop really got to me. That's where I am right now. :( I never thought I was being unhealthy. I thought it was normal for INFPs to feel that way. - I would usually feel so hopeless for a few weeks, then I would feel bursts of optimism (my Ne, which i just learned from this video hehe), but then I would just go back to being too introverted. Ahh, the cycle repeats itself. - Oh, my goodness. I rarely use my Te, AHHHHHHHHH so frustrating :( I make a lot of plans, I create these really intricate daily schedules and routine, I would spend hours mapping up my future but I rarely follow through. I really don't use my Te a lot. - THAT STORY SOUNDS LIKE MINE??? WHAT THE HECK. I'm so inconsistent wow Hi, I'm not sure if you'll see this comment but I hope you can do an in-depth video on how to become a healthy INFP and give us practical tips. I'm really struggling right now :(
So glad I stumbled upon you!! I am def an INFP. You clarified so much. Now, heres the thing....can living with another person (husband) push an INFP to go into that comfort zone where they go inward, cling on to unhealthy habits, become fearful, live in their feelings and memories...even though they have aspirations of becoming an artist and being joyful, active, and healthy?? I feel that whilst I was balanced in my 20's (to a degree - partying took preference over everything else), after getting married (and having kids) I feel that my husband actually doesn't draw the best out of me. Its like his type forces me to be unbalanced and in that Fi / Si loop!! I comfort eat, have bad eating habits and am lazy. I have lost the zest I used to have in my 20's before meeting my husband (married 23 years). You described my artistic goals at the end of the video to a T! (btw, we are in the process of separating! I would love to get him to do they test but I think it may be a bit late for that plus there is no way in hell he would now).
Thank you for this. I didn't expect such good advice that really felt tailored to me. I have massive dreams but struggle to pick which to pursue and have a constant fear of I should just do the 9 to 5 and stop being "lazy" by not doing so. Really helped me today. Wanting to study but it just seems like so much. I like the "in reality you need to grind for 20 years to live well for after that" and just "push for 5 years, you'll give yourself a good shot at it". Thank you for that, is what I needed to hear today.
In our Fi-Si loop with our Ne shouting at the back of the car we tend to go through MBTI test and take test for how many times just to see that glimmer of optimism once more. A good thing I watched this, I really thought I'm a different type again due to my emotional fluctuations from Fi-Si. Also the practical examples really helped!!! Thank you so much!
I got tears in my eyes when you talked about the loop. It did happened. It DOES happen. It's happening. It's euphoric in a sense that I feel like I can be sure that I truly am INFP because of how much it speaks to my feeling. And it's sad that I did wasted my time, and it's sad that I had to give up dreams that I felt like were flimsy dreams, dreams that because of this loop, I am reminded by words that people said to me. All this time, I thought that I got INFP and found happiness just because it describe personalities that I aspired to be but not necessary who I am, and because I didn't get far, I blamed myself for not being creative enough, and finally thought that I have no talent in creativity. I resigned to my fate even though deep down I struggle with it as I refused to bring myself to do the job that I am expected to be doing. I get into bad cycles and rumination and decided that I may as well perish on my bed with the past self that extinguished with my aspiration. Thank you. This might be the wake up call I need to be able to be proud that I AM exactly who I thought I was and hot giving up hope.
i've always wanted to leave an impact ever since i was small, but i kept doubting my skills. i love drawing, and even planned to make my own cartoons, comics, but i'm self-critical. i love singing, i even think i'm quite decent if i had more practice, but i was afraid to embarrass myself and i couldn't do it in front of most people. i love writing, i want to write my own books, whether it'd be stories or poetry, i wanted to express myself and somehow help people, but i feel that my grammar is too bad or my story is too cliche, badly written. i wanted to act, be the center of the attention, but i hate attention when i get it, and i've never had proper experience in it so i did badly. my family and friends support me through it, but i couldn't help but feel i'm not doing enough. i make most of my accounts public so people can access my content, but due to my lack of motivation and art blocks, i never want to tell people about the accounts. i hoped people can stumble upon them accidentally and stay for more. i know that will never work, but i keep doing it. now, i'm trying, despite thoughts that said i will fail. i tried pushing my confidence, find my motivation. i'm trying new things, and i've been improving what i have as of now. thank you for making this video, i truly appreciate it. it helped me understand myself a bit more.
This is very true and a great explanation. I was stuck in that "loop" for years after losing my father and it just is a terrible bad-coping/self-protective thing. As hard as it can be, forcing yourself to do new/fun/helpful things and socialize is the best way for INFP's to feel less stuck in life.
I know I missed the train by a couple of years on this one...lol. I'm an INFP and even though I've known my type and have been studying personality types for 20+ years, I was still at a loss of why I do some of the things that I do until now. I'm an adventurous and fairly successful person as far as reaching goals I've set for myself. I just realized why I had a tendency to go from my comfort zone to living outside of my box and then back into my comfort zone to re-energize. I knew that I needed to stretch the boundaries of where I felt comfortable to be able to grow as a person but I always thought that isolating myself from the world at times was a bad thing and now I know it's something I needed in order to stay healthy. Thank you very much for this video. It has gone a long way to understanding myself.
I had doubts about if I'm an INFP or not, because everyone talks about INFPs being all colors and bubbly and optimistic, but I didn't feel like it and your video made me realize I've been shutting down my extraverted intuituon and focusing more in my introverted sensing. Thanks for helping me understand myself better! :D Now I know for sure I'm an INFP and what I need to work on, you cleared all my doubts, thx! :)
thank you for this video, I feel like it provided a better scope of the reasons for my actions and thoughts, especially why I can't seem to achieve the goals I set in my life.... It was very insightful and has inspired me to improve myself as a person, so thank you!!
The thought that I will have to mobilize the strenght I don't have to work at something for 5 years consistently is so overwhealming... I already used so much of my strenght to even survive my school years, my upbringing, and I saved myself by going from therapy to therapy, to the psychiatric hospital. I spent decades miserable, confused, terified, and doing my best to get help, to have a therapist, to get okay meds, to start understanding how my family's history and collective trauma shaped me. And I am living the best years of my life so far. It's like I only just started living at age 26. But I still don't know what I'm supposed to do 100%, and I just don't have it in me to achieve this consistency for a long period of time...
This really hit home. I am stuck in that FiSi loop at the moment. Not intentionally, but because of the environment and circumstances that I'm in. But, watching this, it makes sense. I need to just suck in my guts and face the people and the world outside, along with all its realities. My therapist tried to explain that I have blocked myself off from external inputs due to social anxiety, now I know that facing it and dealing with it head-on is the only way to break this loop and actually feel like I'm going somewhere again. So, thank you for this video
I like how you analyze this type and appreciate them. I think it's amazing to learn about other types. I still haven't figured out if I'm INTJ or ENTJ. I have been reading books on both.
Wow, this video made me realize why I'm so miserable in my day-to-day life even though outwardly everything is fine and well. I'm in a serious Fi-Si loop that has lasted for years. I'm afraid to get out of my "comfort zone", which in reality is not comfortable at all but very unhealthy and stifling. But I don't know how I can get out of that loop. I very much appreciate the insights of this video!
It’s really important that you utilize your Ne if you want to get out of the Fi-Si loop. Some of the best ways to mature/grow your extroverted intuition function are to 1. get out into the world and explore new places, 2. meet new people, and 3. engage in new hobbies.
ugh, that Te. So you're basically saying I'm bad at traditional work environments AND bad at achieving my own goals. I already knew this of course, but now I know why.
Thank you for the last tip of advice. You were describing my habit of working with music. Now I’ve done music, without going public for 20 years. (Years back results showed me as intj). Today results infp. I can’t believe your spot on about so much. Thank you for your genuine concern to see infp’s flourish and share one’s uniqueness with the world.❤
Yes, I am. 100%. Thanks for explaining the small letters, it makes a lot more sense now :) It was very helpful to see how the cognitive functions interact and what I should focus on to grow. I got pretty good at using my intuition and exploring outside of my comfort zone, but fear, anxiety, negative overthinking loops and unhealthy behavior patterns are still holding me back from following my dreams. Finding lasting motivation and discipline is a problem. It's very hard to dedicate any consistent effort to any hobby because my interests shift quickly and I work in short spurts, only when I'm in the mood. When I get randomly excited for something, I pour my heart and soul into it but if I run out of interest or energy before the project is done, or if it's not met with the positive reaction I expected, I'll probably never finish it, get depressed and discouraged and stop for months to years. But art is my calling and the more I try to run from it, the more unhappy I am and it always catches up to me eventually. I know I can't settle for a "small" life and a boring meaningless job if I want to be truly happy so I don't have a choice. To my fellow INFPs with big dreams but small drive, it's really hard but don't let your dreams stay only dreams
i really love how you explain this. i assume you've read a LOT of books and researches to achieve this knowledge. you're reallu right about infp not being able to be consistent. it's REALLY HARDDD for me to be consistent of something. no matter how much i want to achieve a goal, i work hard for a short period of time, but then rests for a very long period of time. I've been doing this all my life and glad to know that I'm not the only one. thank you so much for giving me insights of my weakness that i should handle and change NOW OR NEVER. i have a dream too, and as you said, I'm gonna be consistent and proof people my worth. thank you so much
Wow! I never fit into boxes but this was spot on for many of my positive and challenging quirks. Thank you for sharing this. I've been doing a lot of post pandemic reflection and trying to come out of my cave to rejoin the world more. This analysis has helped me understand some of my conflicting thoughts and quirks (I've always been an introverted extrovert with an interest for making music and writing while working as a talented but struggling programmer / analyst / project manager) and confirms that I'm on the right path.
I'm an infp. Oil painter, inventer of products, I have patents on my products. I'm very creative and I can build most anything my mind can create, In my minds eye. If your an infp I want to encourage you to stick with your dream and ideas it may change the world. I Love music on a deep level, where draws me in the presence of God. This is the best explanation of infp I've ever heard. Thank you. Your spot on. Even the negative side.
I've realized I really love using my Te, but yes it's only periodic. Sometimes I work a lot without procastinating. Also not all the time, but I like working with numbers. My Si is stronger than my Ne (or at least it was), but people tend to say I think outside the box, so yeah, I try to work on it. I don't know any INFP who doesn't write, myself included:-) Thank you. Your video was really helpful!
Thanks for making these videos! It's especially good that you show your "working out" during the first 2 minutes to explain how we can understand the cognitive stack after reading the 4 letters.
Wow. Your descriptions and suggestions are completely on point. As an INFP I've realized that constant improvement has always payed off in contrast to the times where i'll have burst of creativity and then sudden voids of aspiration. This definitely the most direct video i've watched on the topic so far, making it the hardest to not watch lol. Thank you!
I didn’t come here to be personally attacked! But wow that’s spot on. Like others have stated, I think you explained infp weaknesses and strengths the best of any other videos. Thanks! I now see the trajectory on how to better myself, specifically with my introverted habits, and procrastination. Ive wanted to be a musician my whole life and definitely get my self bogged down in analysis paralysis and ultimately getting frustrated and running out of steam. Music has been my way of escape and inner thought. Ive often thought ahead in life and assumed i’ll just be a failure at my dream career. But Its really all that I’ve aspired to do. I have a whole music studio that I’ve saved up for working the 9-5 for the last several years ( and prioritizing my time with work instead of music) and i’ve struggled pretty hard with many small and large obstacles with song writing and producing, even with the proper resources. I’ve struggled to make goals and meet them even though I completely understand how to. I have often thought “i’m stupid” or “i’m probably mentally challenged” because I’m not as quick or as motivated as others. I guess understanding yourself is the first step to self improvement. I’ve got a long way to go. But it’s worth the effort. Thanks!
In my experience the FiSi-Circle pulls a lot of cognitive energy and produces stress hormones like cortisol that lowers motivation to do anything at all. A bunch of bad experiences we don't process - and we are done, game over. So, the key is the processing of experiences stored in our Si actively. Si just continuously shows memories and projections to Fi - which responds basically with: "yeah, that's bad." and the atteched emotion. Which is hell. This loop doesn't really process any emotions, it just shows the memory and gets a emotional reaction. What you can do though is writing your thoughts down and scrutinizing it's many possible meanings with Ne, getting to new perspectives and interpretations, that could as well be true. And stick with it as a daily habit. Get it done. As soon as all these new connections and possibilities have been made conscious, the once bad memory integrates as a positive experience and stops popping up in the Si. For me this was the door back to life and it makes other processes like goal setting aso possible. INFPs - take care of yourselfs. You maybe powerful, but there is a beast in all of you that needs to be unleashed.
This is explained so well from the get-go. Wish I ran into this sooner. I was having trouble with the code until I sat down and thought it over and finally got it. This confirmed the exact way I could understand how to figure out the functions and why. The breakdown of all the functions and how they relate to each other is done so well with the visual writing and comparisons and examples
Well geez. Thank you! I legit relate to so much of what you said and I've been mired in the loop for a while and sinking deeper. That IS exactly the type of artist I want to be. And I am stuck, alone. Lol, addicted to youtube and twitter. You just gave me things to think about to get out of it. Thank you.
This was the best explanation of INFP that i have heard, you explain things very clearly. It is amazing how accurate you are. I now feel so predictable/stereotypical.. . thanks for the video!
Girl i don't even know what to say... You just pointed out everything wrong in me in a way that's not offensive but understanding.... Hours of surfing the web and I've never seen someone explaining infp quite as well as you do.. Thank you 🙂 you earned a sub..
😮I have really questioned if I am an INFP. This is how I am to a T. Nothing I have heard seems to make sense because I keep hearing about the healthy balanced version. I am definitely an unhealthy version. This has led me isolated without a purpose. And I have never felt misunderstood like something is wrong with me. I don't know how to take my wild imagination and dreams and put it into action as it seems so impossible. I struggle to implement things, magically thinking things will just come together. Thank you so much for explaining this. It gives me hope and I feel understood, finally. Thanks again!
I love this video, and I love the way you communicate. I would describe TE as the commanding function. TE doesn’t care about what the group thinks too much. TE is about delegating work and whatever it takes to take action and get things done. As an INFP myself it’s important for me to be clear about what TE is so I can manifest it more in my life.
Very nicely described INFP personality, including the Fi-Si loop. It actually surprised how well you described it, including the context of Ne. I am going through the Fi-Si loop for years. It's this whole: I have some (interesting) memories that are like 10 years old and I am constantly re-living them and re-evaluating how I feel about those events/memories and it gets kinda tiring and irritating but it's something that is difficult to control. I am aware I am missing the Ne input that would give me something new to think about. But as you mentioned, Si is a "safe" functionality so I am always wondering if I should go out there and do something crazy/new/exciting but I get stopped by the fact it's outside my comfort zone. Also, I'm kinda the case you described: I wanted to be a writer, I focused on the craft for 5+ years and got great results. I did get feedback from someone who mattered to me at that time who bashed my Ne exploration and I got stuck (She told me X, that made me feel like Y and I got dejected) and eventually I abandoned writing completely. I got a secure job in an office that I don't hate completely, there are parts I love for sure, but thinking about the future doesn't make me excited. But it is safe and I know what to expect. And lately, I've been working on my Te (I set salary and investment goals, I started budgeting) so I am intentionally climbing my goal-oriented ladder higher and higher and I must say it's really satisfying and moving me forward. In any case, great video! It really made me think about focusing more my Ne. Like planning a random new experience / doing something out of my comfort zone every week/month or something like that. 😊
The movie La La Land (one of my favorites) has a subplot that is sort of an INFP fantasy, that Emma Stone’s character does one night of one play and is discovered by “someone in the crowd”. I’m guessing the real world requires 100’s of nights of performances (or whatever way you need to put yourself out there) before you get lucky and it pays off. I struggle so much with big ideas and low implementation. I’m a musician, written 40+ songs, used to perform a lot of open mics, but never put in the work to get recorded and shop around demos. I still play instruments, but it’s more of a hobby / free therapy. Now I want to be a standup comic, an audiobook narrator, and create RU-vid content that destigmatizes mental illness, but it’s so hard to begin to start planning to start beginning the small steps toward those goals (tons of jokes written, but haven’t crafted the wording and a set list; bought a ton of expensive recording equipment, but can’t get myself in front of a microphone to record narration; lots of mental health topics I feel strongly about, but don’t know where to start and not looking forward to editing videos). Even working a Te desk job is a Fi-Si act for me because it’s safe, comfortable, predictable, and someone else is setting the agenda for me. And I feel, and imagine this is common to INFP’s, that strong desire to make some sort of positive impact to the world or at least my circle of influence, and I judge myself harshly for not really doing anything meaningful.
Ma'am I don't know how you got here but can you get out of my head. I've been watching MBTI videos for a few years and have been looking at finding ways to turn it into a new career. Your videos have been the some of the most informative and and easiest to understand. As an INFP you described me so perfectly I expected you to call me by name at some point. Excellent job
my problem was i had so many people in my life (including my parents) who wanted me to do something “smart” and “real” for a job. i wanted to go to AMADA and do broadway, but i was repeatedly told that artistic pursuits would be too difficult, there would always be someone better, i’d never have any stability… i tried for almost 10 years to be what someone else wanted me to be, became so unbelievably depressed and almost non-functioning for another 10. now i’m 40 and working a dead-end receptionist job, all because someone else thought they knew better for my life and i was too scared by what they said and of disappointing everyone else to do what i wanted. and of course, now the world has expanded so much thanks to the internet and social media that i feel like i don’t have hardly anything to offer. so i’m stuck at a job i hate, with my joy, creativity, and soul being slowly sucked out of me… like a damn dementor attack.
Great vid, thank you Alexis. Really well broken down and solid advice. I'll watch it again to get my head round the different functions. I've learnt in the last year to put creativity at the forefront of my life, having given up on it before thinking it wasn't important. Wish I knew this stuff when I was younger. I'm a dad, my name is Alexis too and it turns out my daughter is infp so hopefully I can encourage her towards her real potential.
It’s so hard to help others understand that sometimes I literally need to wrap myself up in my own sadness so I can create a metamorphosis from the experience.. to learn and grow and master my own thoughts and feelings which is an every day bittersweet struggle for me at times 😅 I genuinely appreciate the people in my life that understand how to help me operate my isolation in a healthy, yet validating way. ❤️🙏
