My mother married a white man and I immigrated to Australia when I was a child. When I was growing up I was surrounded by asian women who married white men. More often than not I see these women work very hard to earn money, raise their children, doing work around the house and 'serve' their husband. And yet the husbands are disrespectful, lazy and ungrateful. Disrespecting their wife as a woman of race and their culture. These women get treated like a slave when they should highly be applaud for all their daily hardwork. I cried everyday for years as a child growing up and seeing my mother being treated in such a way. And yet she still tells me to be grateful to him. It makes me furious. Just because I am in a 'better' country due to my mother marrying a white men. That doesnt mean that WE are that men doormat. But the problem is, there is not one single person outside of our home who knows what's really going on inside. The reality is even though I was raised in poverty back in Asia but I had a childhood and was happy. And when I moved to the 'free' country I felt that all my childhood was robbed from me and I was locked in a box with tears and aching heart as my daily bread. I felt so alone and hopeless. So dont look badly on these Asian women. Because these women have to be one of the hardest working and strongest women I ever met. All women should be respected. No matter the race or background.
Men like your mothers husband behave that way to plenty of 'white women' too,white,black,brown and yellow,they hunt out women they can dominate bully and control so 'buying Asian brides' as it's called is just another fork off the bullies track when they fail to trick another 'white' national woman or want to speed up the process and bypass all the effort of dating and having to pretend to be who they are not. I don't think anyone looks badly on any women who honestly just wishes to lift themselves and their children out of poverty and constant struggle, we look badly on horrible dominating bullies like your mothers husband who abuse and trick vulnerable,nice women
Thanks for sharing your story. I was wondering how local people interact with these foreign women in the island. Aren't their children discriminated against at school by other children or maybe eben teachers? If these children are brighter than local children, do these children get jealous of the half Asian children? I live in the States as an Asian woman with English as a second language. When white males approach me, I get an impression of them as overly confident as if they already knew I would be honored. That being said Asian women are more likely seen as "less than" by white men; therefore, Asian women should be graceful to be approached by white men. This is why I think women should be educated(instead of men to be educated) to be independent for their freedom. When women need to depend on men, some men take advantage of them. Unfortunately, we cannot control these men's mentality and their behavior to respect women.
My father is white, my mum is thai, I am male and look more Thai than white. My dad doesn’t say and he tries but I can tell he is distant and looks disappointed in me. he cannot see himself in me. Although They never said, it felt like my dad looked down on thai men like he was superior, he didn’t think that he would have to raise, love and understand one, his son. I was so thankful when I got into uni and moved out.
Great human stupidity is an attempt at self-deception. Especially under the influence of idiotic modern trends. Human nature is an established mechanism, physical and, more importantly, psycho-emotional. And we are trying to deceive this mechanism. Stupidity. People are unhappy, as a result, trying in various stupid ways to become happier, we drive ourselves into misfortune even more. Nature is always higher than human. Don't do anything about it. People are stupid and vicious precisely because they are people. It just needs to be accepted and forgiven. We are far from perfect. Good luck buddy.
Not to dismiss your instincts, but sometimes assumptions can be wrong, maybe a Heart to heart with your dad could clarify, at the worst, he could confirm what you felt all along, but maybe the distancing was more about him than you, and he could let you know that, you may have picked up on the energies but concluded different perceptions than what he was feeling or thinking. You’ll never know for sure unless you ask. It took my mom being on her deathbed for us to have a meaningful conversation and heal a lifetime of estrangement.
It's not about love and respect. It's about males wanting someone who they think is dumb to the laws that they can therefore control. Same reason they aim for much younger females. Nothing about love. Business and ego.
@@barbymadison878 well the women are also looking for an easy way out….out of their shanties in their third world homes. Why work for it when you can just marry into it, right?
Don’t judge, these women are looking for a better life and these men are looking for a wife , everyone benefits, this probably happens a lot around the world and watching this video looks like everyone is happy and I’m happy for them 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🇵🇹
I’m half-Thai and English and get called a prostitute allllll the time. My mum always loved my dad, until the day he passed away. Imagine being a medical student, like me, and getting called a prostitute once a week my your patients and people on the streets. Please don’tV paint the picture that ALL Thai girls are prostitutes, many of us are educated and work hard. UPDATE: it’s been 2 year, I wrote this in my 1st year med school and now that I’m in clinical year (at hospital everyday), I can confirm that it doesn’t get better. I want to clearly state that prostitutes are also most likely educated people and we shouldn’t judge someone by their need to stay alive (unless it hurts others). I want to thank everyone who supports the Black Lives Matter movement, as my school is now looking into the inequalities BAME students face in practice. To my fellow females and POC, or anyone who is judged by their sexuality or appearance or heritage, let’s support each other.
Mary joy looks depressed marrying that bucktooth Norwegian. I laughed when she said he looked like his picture, avoiding commenting her disappointment.
Wow Mary Joy can speak 3 languages, is a supervisor, went to university, and is an awesome mum to 3 (now 4) children! I am happy to watch this video :) most of the videos I have been watching at of Filipino women being exploited and/ or marrying for the wrong reasons. This is so refreshing to watch.
I am pleased to say that I am married to a Philippine lady who I think is the the most beautiful person on earth. She has brought into my life a sense of family, love and care. She makes me beautiful food, keeps our home clean and tidy and loves me with all her heart. I cannot ask for anymore in my life. I look forward to having children with her and further enjoying good family life and blessings for the future. I applaud the courage these women have to travel to such far destinations from their family and homeland and the work they do to knit together hope for men who's lives are lonely and sometimes lost. Just like any relationship no matter what the nationalities involved, it takes time to get to know each other before marriage, but negative comments that have been put here are uncalled for and aim to tarnish even the good relationships. I suggest if you don't have anything positive to say, then don't say anything. From the content of the heart the mouth speaks. Evil words, evil heart.
It's because Filipinas don't see your face. Just an escape. For them and kind of security But sooner or later they will go back home....They don't like butterfaces ..just guapos like😉✌
Give her credit for giving up her life in her country in exchange for a better life-style in a faraway country with her true soul mate...awesome story..enjoyed watching this video..
The lady is a shy type of a woman to show her affection to her husband infront of other people, especially to the camera. This is common to many of the Filipinos who used to live in the Philippine countryside.
That Thai lady is indeed so pretty, and if she wants to be on her own, then more power to her, but she could easily get another man with that face and hair. And if she does meet another man, she will now have the experience and wisdom to take things slowly.
@@chrisnamaste3572 It was Mutual. Native Faroese Women went to other places to look for a better life. The bachelors were left at there own expense with no girls to marry.
As a filipina myself, this is a difficult subject to to talked about. But seeing as i see a lot of prejudiced comments being thrown here, i’ll try to give a perspective about what its really like. There are women who seeks a better life than what our country or our men can offer. Poverty, lack of education and sometimes pressure from family to provide for them makes it an easier choice for some to try and marry older foreigner men who they think can help to better their lives. And most of the time it does happen. These women gets to immigrate in their husband’s country where access to health, education and most importantly a higher salary, these things are greater than the slums and hardship theyre used to back home. It is a culture happening even now. Even family members urged their daughters or nieces to marry men like that because they think our own men are no good compared to foreigners. They think being white also equals to better bank accounts. And while you see these women as opportunists or gold diggers, their story is not for you to judged. BUT i know women who learns to eventually love their husbands and are very loyal to them, love is quiet thing that grows within them, when i asked them how, they told me that their husbands are equally loving and caring, 2 qualities that warms a woman’s heart. I know women who raised their children and give them the childhood they never had. I know how these women provides for their family back home by their earnings they get abroad. These women are generous, selfless and they have a kind heart. It is very unfair to automatically assume the worst of them just because of the choices they made. As if they have options and opportunities like those in the rich countries in the first place. As if its not hard enough as it already is to leave the comforts of home and settle in a different country with a different language and an even different culture or weather and much worse, leaving the people you love behind in the pursuits of having more. When someone offers you a much better quality of life than what you had back home, wouldnt you want to grab that immediately and hold on to that hoping and dreaming against all odds that it is finally your answer to all your problems? These women feels that way. Their circumstances are very different from yours so you dont get to raised your flags as if you are so much better than them. You’re not.
Nice to read a considered, balanced and thoughtful comment. I feel as you....."don't judge lest ye be judged" and all that. As an aside, I lived on the Shetland Isles, the most northerly part of the United Kingdom, just for one Winter......never been so cold in my life! Lol.
Cy Star...The bottom line is that the parents of these "girls" want better lives for themselves (not daughters) thru their wealthier WHITE son in laws. The parents pimp their daughters out & care less about their daughter's future.
There are women and women, so don’t get confused with it. You are right, it’s all about how you were raised. I emigrated to another country for better life... without a man. My daughter was 10 month old when I got divorced and her and I went on a adventure. I didn’t need a man to help me out, I did it alone so don’t tell me that you need a man to get things done. I went from business to business to ask for a job and i have to say that I was never jobless for more than a week or so. Yeah, of course you learn to love people you are surrounded with, that goes for your coworkers, neighbors etc, that’s just a bs excuse to convince yourself that you didn’t do anything wrong. My heart is clean because I didn’t have to lie to anybody that I love them. How about you?
Really ??? Life is not easy everywhere, but people try to make the best of it, but Filipinos always try to escape, instead of fixing their problems in their own country, if one finds the way , he/she brings the whole village, starting to overwhelm and hate the population of the country where they are guests themselves, why is that???
No she did not speak the truth you don’t know what she did before this she is a horrible person I just because you see a nice looking apple don’t mean it’s good on the inside she is rotten on the inside treated everyone badly she did not get the money to purchase that house by herself nothing independent about her at all
I think the video title should be rephrased to Faroese men looking for love in Asia. Clearly, not all, but many Asians, those who come from poor backgrounds are after the better opportunities, not love, while many Faroese men are trying to gain power at home by marrying women who are more likely to take on traditional roles.
Then base on what you initially say looking for love it should be looking for caretakers or maids. The single man in the video said it well. He wants a traditional woman. One who would do things for him. Like the Filipina who made the fried fish in the beginning of the video. But she educated herself, has a job and even learned the Faroe language so she wears many hats.
Sofia You are seeing it in reverse. It's the women gaining power by marrying outside of a misogynistic culture that suppresses women. In the faroes they can be whoever they want to be. And the men are just awkward, that's why they opt for a partner that's less hard to attract.
neejohnenjegek Kiv "It's the women gaining power by marrying outside of a misogynistic culture that suppresses women." You are actually wrong. Many of my fellow Filipinas marry foreign men because they see it as a way to get better jobs and a better future for their loved ones back home. You have no idea what you're going on about. Women in the Philippines actually have a much more equal treatment to men compared to any Asian country. They're breadwinners. This is just one way they see to provide for their families back home.
No matter where you go in this planet, you will always find a Filipino living there. Guaranteed. And whenever you need help, they willingly offer it with a smile. :)
A cold island that needs a warm touch by Filipinas. It is just a give and take situation. Faroese men assured safety to the Filipinas and as a gratitude they give back warm love and care. Life is just as simple as that, just be kind to each other and everything works, hardships are bearable and sacrifice is easy. Love comes eventually.
I love how respectful and warm the interviewer is. A lot of times in find these interviewers have a presumption about Asian women marrying away from home.
I admire the Thai woman. She's strong and independent. I'm happy for her. I am Filipino but man, I kinda cringed when I learned that Mary Joy's mom and sister also married Faroese men. However, I'm not judging them or anything. I think MJ is an amazing, smart woman. I think that like most Filipinos, they just wanted a better life. A better future. I hope people realize that we are not all born with equal opportunities. Not all of us can afford to follow our dreams and marry who we love. A lot of Filipinos are born poor. There isn't anything wrong in wanting to have a better future as long as they are not hurting anybody or breaking any law. It's their life and they should be entitled to do whatever they think will be good for them.
To the people commenting about the Filipino lady being uncomfortable at the dinner table, i would be uncomfortable if someone was filming me showing PDA or anything like that, too. Especially when she can get judged by people like the ones in the comments.
It seems to me the Faroe Islander is more akward and unattractive, and the Philipina is young and pretty and looking for financial stability. They are both getting something out of it. To call her a gold digger is ridiculous considering the guy is no millionaire. To call him exploitive is ridiculous. She was 20 years old. God bless them.
To each his/her own... love is everywhere. love is a refuge. race, color, age, size and shape are not to define a person but how you carry yourself and conquer the world...
Both men & Women from the islands of Filipines make great nurses, they are in most hospitals in the West, They are hardworking, loyal & very clean. They have great values & maintain family unit in most cases.
@@krishnakhundongbam9797 yeah, for many its a relaxed carefree life as tiktokers and house wives while men spend their days on fishing boats on the wind swept ocean.
so basically out of the 300 women , 299 are Filipinos. gotcha.the title is very misleading. it should say, "the Faroe Islands are importing women from the Philippines. "
oh, snowflake is sad.. truth hurts , huh?? btw, such a well thought out and intelligent response to my post. lol!! let me guess, you're married to a flip?? come back when you have a more articulate response then you and I have a more sustainable debate on why you disagree with my post.
You see western women can find any single man with resources just like the Asian women are doing . But the west women look for rich men first . The is making them look for women that have better home training . Thailand women are not like that . They more into the western lifestyle looking to see who has the most money
I am southeast Asian girl, I am well educated, I am not poor and I am not a bargirl. I have had been in relationship with people from all races and all colours, so what? We fall in love with people, not money. Well of course there are some southeast Asian girls are money diggers, but do not blame the whole race because of the act of small group of people! p/s: English is not my native language.
Nur Hidayah Karim don't lie to yourself. Everybody knows you and the rest of them are gold diggers to escape poverty and so u can show off a white man to your people back home who also know you're a gold digger
thanks for this video... this place is beautiful 💜 now one of my bucket list to visit 💕 i’m so excited to see the amazing nature in this wonderful country 😊😍
Wherever you are, you have to find yourself before you need to find another. Thanks for this very beautiful story about women who made Faroe islands their 🏠.
In reality not all are looking for love.they are looking for comfortable life. Some guys also looking for young Asian women. They are young fresh, loyal and loving women.
Stop lying to yourself it is about love that is all they have is single males of all ages with old ladies that can't make any kids . And they Thailand women are making asian people look bad . They life style is more like western women looking for the rich men to marry .
Well, the shortage of women in Faroe island is actually a tragedy. It is a problem many outlying places in Scandinavia. But I think a wife from Asia is better than no woman at all. Our outlying places must live also in the future.
"...................................... If the women aren't there, it's difficult. You can't invent a woman. So, yeah. you have to find the woman elsewhere. And the easiest way is the Asian Countries......................................" I am Filipina who once dated a Western man and I see where these Faroese men are coming from. This is an honest, practical and realistic point of view. Most of us dream to settle down and have our own family. According to BBC, in recent years the Faroes have experienced population decline, with young people leaving, often in search of education, and not returning. Some of their Faroese women have proved more likely to settle abroad. So what about the men left? They have to widen their options in search for a wife so they turn and look beyond their island for romance. That's when interracial marriage favors them. And for everyone's information, the Asian women are not just plain housewives. Some have come in are very active in the labour market, which is good for Faroe Island's economy. Stop this hypocrisy about "Mail-Order Bride", "Golddigger", "Marriage for Convenience", blah, blah, blah. Everyone, any race or skin color, is capable of Fraud and Scam. I don't see anything wrong if a woman will see a man beyond his good looks but his capability to stand for her, emotionally, physically and financially. If interracial marriage works in Faroe island and what makes it as it is now, who are we to judge???
Probably they are envious. The many nationality whom married to other race are very proud of themselves. To those white women, percentage of your are higher having sugar dadys before you settle down...That why white men choose to find the rigth partner- The perfect parner .
Thai women are generally very strong and independent. My wife is Thai and we have 2 beautiful kids. she's not shy about speaking her mind in regards to her beliefs and opinions. she like most Thai women missed their beloved homeland and their way of life ( food, culture, lakorns, music) . we travelled back and vacation either every year or every other year. this Thai lady in this documentary is resilient and hard working, those 2 traits will make you a survivor no matter the circumstance Life throws at you. good for her!
If you believe that Thai ladies are all prostitutes and out for your money you should better review the people you meet, and the way how you spent you holidays. It is you who put himself into that mental ghetto.
Im gonna guess it will be a few more years before she brings in her whole family, divorces you leaves you debt and kids and ruin you're life a winner is you my friend
MrMikeinDevon not only in Thailand. It depends on where , who and how you spend your money for. Yes if you spend for bar girls of course they want money from your pocket. There are many good people and good ladies in Thailand. I'm sorry for your experience!
Richard Bug- I haven't check my comments since I posted a year ago. I finally have a chance to see your jaded and misguided comments. were you used up and spit out by some Asian lady in the past?? is that why I sense your bitterness?? WE have been married for 9 years and I'm still waiting for the BS you assume was going to happen. my wife's father passed away 6 years ago. her mother has no desire to come to the U.S , she is back home taking care of grandma. in fact, I have been the one who has asked my wife to bring my mother in law to the states. she has been a loving and nurturing yai ( Thai for grandma) to our kids whenever we come back to Thailand on vacation. I would love for them to be together more often, but my mother in law is happy where she is in life at the moment. furthermore, I live debt free and will retire in 3 more years. so before you make ill informed, generalized comments online towards complete strangers , perhaps you need to think before you post.
Worked in the middle east and all the Filipinos women there as well as in Hawaii all want a westerner to marry to escape the Philippines. Don't blame them if their goal is to escape poverty, but nothing was off limits to them -- whether the man was married, whether they had to lie on others, anything to get as much money as they can. Acted sweet as sugar but lacked integrity.
there's a proverb "Tamarind on the mountain, salt in the sea meet in the one pot." meaning even two persons of different backgrounds / from distant places can meet and eventually get married,
AnthroP Like every relationship this matters must, but don’t forget that mutual respect is above all what’s important. It’s like food, you must like it regardless of the price, but there’s a lot of cheap food that tastes better that expensive ones and bis versa.
Hmmm women looking for men with money is UNiVERSAL 😂. I’m a young successful white girl and I prefer a man who has more money and success than me. How does that make me different from these women? They deserve to seek a better life just as everyone else. If men look for hot chicks, women look for successful $$$ men. That’s just the way the world works. There are Russian mail order brides so it’s also Russian white women who do the same.
Kate Lama true. Women want stability. Btw im a filipina and id go crazy if i dont have my own money or my own job. If i date someone a filipino or an italian id be happy to know a man has more 💶💶💶 to me itis a bonus
I hate to point out the fact that these women seem to come from a specific demographic in the Philippines. I hope people who watch this don't generalize everything they say on here about the Philippines or about Filipino women. When she said that the Philippines was more "patriarchal", that's her experience and not a generalization of the country as a whole. They paint the Philippines as this country with absolutely no opportunities and a very dangerous, unsafe place to live in. One of the women even mentioned that the "Faroe Islands is the last paradise on this earth." Not to knock on Faroe Islands, it seems absolutely beautiful but I just wonder how many other countries and "paradise" has this woman seen or experienced to be able to make such a bold statement? These women seem to come from the same social class so their experiences and knowledge are all they know within their bubble and does not speak for all Filipino women. With that said, the good thing about Filipinas in general is that they truly value putting their families first no matter what. They would sacrifice personal happiness if that meant their families will be well taken care of. They are known for their nurturing, caring, hospitable ways along with personal cleanliness and having a home that is always in order. These Faroese men are looking for the "traditional" type of woman that these Filipinas truly embody. That is why many of these types of marriages work for the most part and is a win/win situation for both counterparts. That is if the men are actually good human beings who treat their wives with respect and not just treat them as personal maids and sexual slaves.
@@shauncameron8390 Exactly. Unfortunately, there are those kinds of men and women that give such a bad rep that tarnishes the ones that are actually well-meaning good people. It goes both ways.
Fair play to that Thai girl. U go girl! For all the hate comments, please do understand how hard some people's life back in their own country, it is absolutely normal to wanting to have a better life in a better place.
Really? Being a model is the only option for a person who is perceived attractive by society? Firstly, the concept of attractive or beautiful itself should not have standards. Secondly, to be a model should NOT be any little girl’s aspiration.
The whole controversy surrounding these intermarriages is because some think these Asian women will actually change the Nordic and Celtic DNA of the Faroe Islands, Nordic people are often considered to be La Crème de la crème of the European ethnicities.
The majority of women that contact and live at the women's shelter in The Faroe Islands are from Asia. I really think this should be mentioned in this documentary.
It must be down to the fact that they will marry whoever is willing to bring them there, whiteout even knowing the person, that will put any woman in a dangerous situation, put together the fact that they will completely and fully depend on their husbands, as soon as the situations get bad they really don’t have a way out, they are trapped, they don’t have any money, they don’t speak the language, they don’t have any friends or families, I mean it’s only obvious they will be more prone to entering abusive relationships that might end them in a woman’s shelter
@@forreal245 Any woman regardless of ethnicity or race, heck even a transgender gets motivated with $$$$ 😁😂. Why do you think Lauren Sanchez is proud to have cheated with Bezos ehhhh? 😁😁🤣
Filipino women should not allow this type of exploitation from the media. People won't stop talking and make derogatory comments to you and to your culture.
Blamed those men..if they never woo this pilipina do u think they can go there?and,ask those men why choose pilipina as theres a lots of diffrent women out thre?why they after pilipina then?
Foreign media always portray the Philippines in a bad way from the slums to this they always always make time to make a documentary about us since we are loving people we tried to ignore the criticism against us instead used it as a weapon for a better life.Filipinos ranked 3 of the happiest people on earth and our economy is getting better.We older Filipinos generation might suffered from those ugly heart people but I’m sure it will not take forever.The earth is round nothing in this world is permanent one thing is sure Asia is getting bigger and better watch out for us soon!
I cringed when at the dinner table, Mary Joy reacted standoffish-ly to her husband showing her affection by putting his arm around her. A part of me felt bad for her, because in looking at her wedding video, you see how young she was and that she had her entire life ahead of her. It seems like she didn't get the chance to "live", in the sense of making use of her youth to forge for herself the type of life she truly wanted. She got to marry, and leave the Philippines and have children. So, those are good things; but at what cost? Poverty makes people desperate man.
Christine different culture different expressions may be... The common mistake especially for Americans is when they judge others from their own standpoint. People are different in many ways than one.
I'm not American, and my intention was not to judge her negatively, nor do I. I based my perception of her situation, based on what I observed. Whether or not that's actually the case, is another story. But neither you nor I know the truth.
Mary Joe does not love her husband, she basically "sold"/ sacrificed herself to help her family. Obviously she comes from an impoverished family and married him for money, a better economic situation to help get money to her family in the Philippines. Then later got the other women from her family to the Faroe Islands. That's why her cousin said "love is sacrifice", because they all didn't marry for love, but for $$$. Sad.
Don't we all look for a partner to build a life, not just "be in love" with? I have no shame in saying that I looked for a mentally stable, kind, hard-working man who would be a good father. Men look for similar attributes in a wife. I had passionate love stories with other men before him, but they were not marriage material.
Pallas 27 Are you one of those know-it-alls who always generalize people and think you're perfect and you haven't been dependent all your life? 😆😂 Not all Filipinas are like that
They want Filipina as a wife because we are caring, nurturing, good homemaker, smart and not lazy. We treat our husband with respect and love them unconditionally. Im not an easy girl either, my husband courted me forfive years.
Femie Myers no they want finipinne women because they are ugly losers and they can’t get any woman, they know the Filipinas are easy and that’s why they pick them!! they also love the Asian submissive women to gain complete control over them! Simple as that love
Werewolffy i totally disagree with you. Im married to an american man and we have respect to each other and i can definitely voice my opinion and he doesnt contro me, i can pretty much do anything i want.
Danny Viking listen I live in Switzerland and is very common here too, every loser that can’t get laid will eventually get an Asian wife!! That’s just normal, everyone is aware of that!! The filippinas are just looking to escape poverty one hand washes the other!!! There’s even a term for it and is called Mail bride!! I’ve said it all 🙋🏽♀️
Yassine el ghazoui exactly, what these people don’t seem to know, is most of these filippina women will eventually end up in women’s shelters, after escaping these abusive relationship
