Authentic Relationships Through Gaming | Episode 014 Video Game Addiction

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Relationships online can be the most authentic of our lives.
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The relationships we form through gaming are authentic. Authentic relationships are based on external judgments based on appearance. However, online, most of our judgements cannot be made.
In this video, Dr. K explains how online relationships can be authentic because judgments on the internet don't matter.
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@poemd2414 4 года назад

A good friend of mine used to tell me that in the internet it's the people's software that matters, not the hardware.

@deadmanperipherals 4 года назад

deep

@Synky 4 года назад

@skunkjulio 3 года назад

I'm stealing this.

@blazerphoenix7989 2 года назад

I m using this too

@kenichimendoza8571 4 месяца назад

deeeeeeeep

@hallo-mt5tx 4 года назад

the best friend i ever found was when playing league of legends and he was on the enemy team talking shit haha known him for about 8 years now

@mysticflow467 4 года назад

hahaha

@marcosantana4330 4 года назад

Lmao same here meet this guy from metal gear online mgs4 version , talked mad shit the whole time as i was destroying his team . Still talk to him today. He still talkin shit

@LetoDK 4 года назад

Hehe how did it go from enemy team member to more conversations?

@cobi617 4 года назад

@@LetoDK probably a "1v1 me" cuz that happened to me too lol

@Peapod901 4 года назад

Literally though, I met this one guy on the enemy team and we flames each other, 1 v 1d, I lost, then like 3 weeks later he invited me to play a game and invited me to his Skype (now on discord) gc and I met one of my favorite groups of people like 5-6 years ago

@amritpatnaik8881 3 года назад

While i absolutely agree with everything you said, something you missed out on was a dynamic of gamers being judged based on their skill instead of who they are. the internet definitely makes worldly superficial factors irrelevant through anonymity, but judgement still exist based on deterministic criteria depending on the context of the game. These criteria are things like in-game skill, rank, level, achievements or even special gear/cosmetics, all of which act as a form on substitute for real life achievements symbolizing your experience/skill in the game; thereby creating similar hierarchical dynamics within the gaming community.

@ElroyDesmond 3 года назад

This comment needs to be seen.

@CiubyX 3 года назад

I would rather say it is way less important. Sure, on the surface of things - but you also make your surrounding way easier on the internet with people who share similar things with you... it's a roundabout way of saying that I think this disparity is less stark than what socioeconomic or otherwise appearance would garner you in day to day life in normal situations.

@HanyuuHOLO 3 года назад

I kind of quitted lol nowadays but I used to be grandmaster and I had friends all the way from unranked to challenger. Sure, if you feed one game, your teammates on that game will probably hate you. If you play a ranked game and you're matched with four players that are above your rank, they will immediately think you suck. But I don't think this video is focused on those kind of fleeting relationships that just last during those 30 minutes, rather the people you add to play frequently and have some chatting with.

@HanyuuHOLO 3 года назад

@@CiubyX I definitely agree. On real life, you are limited to a set of people from your workplace, college, town, or whatever; and that's it. They like what they like, they do what they do... and if you don't like the same stuff you don't have any alternative. On gaming, just by the mere fact of meeting people through the game itself, you already know that the other person likes gaming, or at least likes that specific game. It's like a massive social club where everyone shares this same interest for the topic the club is about, even if there are some of them who are more into it, or better at it, or have been in the club for years, etc.

@ZvCkt 3 года назад

A legend is born...

@elverdadNuo 3 года назад

John 117 is that you?

@yummy8074 4 года назад

I think that people in games make much more lasting relationships because the chance of finding someone compatible with us among thousands of people we meet is much higher than for example among 20 other people from the class, 50 other kids from the neighbourhood, 200 other kids from the school etc.

@halicusdiaarcan102 Год назад

That's a very fascinating viewpoint! Of course I've heard of online friends that don't mesh well IRL (the digital medium is very different from a person/person medium), but I imagine that the chances of finding people who mesh with you well IRL and online is also higher. Great insight!

@Thmyris 4 года назад

Gamer friends are more authentic because you are playing the same game. You put effort into doing accomplishing the same goal, together. It is almost indifferent from having a colleague in your job on the same team. That bond of struggling through something together with someone is really really powerful. Some marriages are built on this bond.

@deadmanperipherals 4 года назад

yup

@odee126 4 года назад

Same with sports and business

@envadeh 4 года назад

You don't know what indifferent is, do you?

@Thmyris 4 года назад

I have an online friend in UK. I live in Turkey. I never left my country. He is 15 years older than me. The thought of having someone on literally 10.000 kms away that, if, whenever I visit that country I can go see that friend in his own house is literally heart warming. It gives you a weird sense of pride.

@julyol119 3 года назад

I actually did that. Also have a UK friend and I line in Germany and went to London together. Was a great vacation :) That was years ago now and we're still friends and he'll be visiting me soon as well. It really is cool xD

@key-reel 2 года назад

Dewd! I can't thank you enough! My misery is about to be finally over. I have ADHD. Watched other material. Everything fits. Now I will treat myself as a proud hunter and organize everything about that concept. 3

@pixieskitty Год назад

A bit of a counterpoint. To access the internet, to have free time to play games, to buy those games, to speak english if you are non-native speaker, that already it is an entry point paywall. People do notice in conversation if you are rich or poor depending on the problems you get, like if you have or not free healthcare, what it means to get sick in your country, what it means for you economy. People from South America who are online, they aren't your average Joe's blue collars just highschool done type of people, they are rich kids, with the world as their oyster, and it shows. Lots of love from Argentina, your techno-Diogenes

@nyer 4 года назад

Idk how this doesn't have more views

@rrAinierr Год назад

This video hits home for, although I didn't have the happy ending like Dr.K and his online friend. I met a completely random guy through call of duty on xbox and he became one of my closest friends. As I grew up and computers became mainstream for gaming I forgot to reach out and add him outside of xbox and when I went back 4 years ago to try and reach out, he too had moved on in life and wasn't active on xbox anymore. To this day, every now and then when I stumble upon stories like this it reminds me of him and I still try to reach out and find a way to reconnect with him.

@Lingatsu 4 года назад

Really true ! I still talk with a Belgium friend that I first met in 2012 on call of duty. We was on the same team and played minecraft, gta, a lot. Good funny moments with all our friends. Sadly, depsite all these years, we still didn't find a time to meet IRL. I always bring pretexts.. I struggle to trust people in real life. I'm afraid of being awkward too. It looks like I can maintain this kind of "authentic relationship" only through gaming. I tend to analyze a lot people facial expression. It give me an unconfortable feeling of what they can think of me.. This can be related to a lack of self love. Since I don't really think good of myself.

@julyol119 3 года назад

I actually make it a point to meet the online friends that I feel like I have a real connection to in RL. So far, aside of one impulsive meeting where I didn't know that person as much, it went really great. I'm still in contact with them and we visit each other now and then. One of them even lives in a totally different part of Europe then I do. They are great friends!

@Disruptor1990 4 года назад

its actually amazing how much i can see myself in all these videos. this really gives me something to work with and im happy these videos exist. its also very nice to hear that someone professional knows about the hordes of internet ragers that apparently boned my mom. if thats not a sign of good research idk what is

@northshift 3 года назад

Exactly dude! Im glad I found this channel. Dr. K is really bringing a positive change/development into the field.

@DaGoof120 3 года назад

I literally met someone on roblox in 2011 who I still talk to today. I met him and another online friend in person last winter. It legit didn’t even feel real when I first saw him.

@scudjoples 3 года назад

Did u like them as much in real life as u did on the computer

@deadmanperipherals 4 года назад

This hit hard with me. The next presentation is gonna hit harder unfortunately.

@dmax1 4 года назад

@ZeroSleap 3 года назад

Been friends with a norwegian from PSN from PS3 era.We've been talking since then on facebook and i even got motivated to learn some Norwegian to speak to him in his mother tongue :P Might visit him some day.

@taskeen777 2 года назад

Tru. From a group of 11 online friends who have equally cared for each other for 5 years. But the criteria is to know how to make irl friends and yet choosing them; Instead of using them as a crutch (we are a group ranging from 17-22 year olds if that plays a factor)

4 года назад

I've never thought about. Indeed, most of friends, that I made in game, is present in my life so far.

@ZorroVulpes 4 года назад

I was also kind of thinking that my gamer friends also know more about me than my real-life friends. Like I see the people I know in real life once maybe twice a month but I play with my gamer friends at least once a weekend. We also hang out for longer, and there is usually less alcohol involved with my gamer buddies so we are more coherent.

@themarkus6472 4 года назад

I lost a great online friend and it’s the biggest regret in my life. We played competitive cod together for growing up. While it is difficult to make actual friendships in real life I was able to connect with him so much. We would talk about visiting each other one day even though he lived in Canada. Due to my unexplained mental health problems which I know elk now what caused it. Our friendship drifted off.

@woodsmaneh952 2 года назад

This guy is no bullshit. Love it. Thank you for creating a really important and useful series.

@nightlight7654 2 года назад

«People tend to be valued for who they are»:Not a good thing for many people!!!

@key-reel 2 года назад

Can you please talk about 2 things: - how is suppressing emotions is different from controling them; - how do different meditations work from a perspective of brain waves. Tank you for your content.

@g__6623 2 года назад

I haven’t had this experience of having a group of online friends that I’ve been playing with for a long time. Lately I’ve just been gaming in my own

@ikaantynytlapsi9474 2 года назад

I'm grateful for this exquisite content you provide for free thank you.

@zachmccluskey5959 3 года назад

I met one of my bestfriends online and have known him for about 8 years. We have been living together for almost a year now.

@miguelguerreiro4858 4 года назад

why does Dr.K seem to be about to start laughing so many times?

@jackismname 4 года назад

I mean thats just how he looks but when he says stuff like "they tell you they want to fuck your mom because of who you are"... I would laugh thinking about that lol

@notgonnabetelling1469 11 месяцев назад

@8:28 "The relationships we form through gaming are blind and not based on ... and are permanent." My brain wants to know what goes into those 3 dots cause it swears something goes in there but just can't figure out what.

@transon6655 4 года назад

gamers : everybody gets to talk shit

@hodorba5567 3 года назад

4:20 press x to doubt

@leulwosen4436 4 года назад

i can see myself in all these videos.

@4xzx4 3 года назад

The ending though. xD

@ReflectionRF 3 года назад

LMAO I was looking for this comment

@MrTurboCrafter 4 года назад

I been meeting up with a friend I met online back in 2014 every summer for the last 3 years, people think I'm crazy

@vepply Год назад

bro started his youtu e carer with the blackpill

@MultiGoban 4 года назад

Haha Overwatch

@nilen 4 года назад

bad!

@Eeben93 2 года назад

He's looking cute with the long hair

@harryodendaal345 2 года назад

Okay so his hair has always been flexing...

@davpro1792 Год назад

8:00 i have a SOLUTION Just marry the true authentic girl you met online LOL

@lukecronquist6003 3 года назад

Everyone knows being a girl on the internet is a massive advantage, it's just supply and demand

@KLemon16 3 года назад

@pankobby depends on the game. Some are still dominated by men and boys. The mainstream stuff like WoW and such probably not anymore

@UltraJay 2 года назад

in other cases is a massive disavantage, usually in the games field boys treat girls like garbage and act like if a girl cannot commit mistakes in the game