Reframe From Goals To Actions | Episode 013 Video Game Addiction 

" focusing on the ACTION, and ignoring the result, moves you closer to the result."

This channel is criminally underviewed

If only I had heard this advice 10 years ago. I've since learned to focus on "just doing stuff" on my own. But, God, I had some rough years during my adolescence.

"focus on action, ignore the result" I learned in stoicism. It's great! But maybe need an entire lifetime to learn.

This shifting of focus from outcomes to actions reminds me of the expression that turning up is half the battle.

right out of animation school I worked as animator for like 5 months in a mobile videogame company. each quarter they would gather the entire office and an upper management guy would show everyone the quarterly results, and money goals met or not met or if they were doing better or worse than the previous period. I thought how absurd it was to focus on money goals , like, you can't control that ! rather focus on making a satisfactory experience for the end user. Edit: Sure if you are ceo, owner,shareholder, I guess the point of having a company is to make money. But you don't have to make the entire office worry about that. As artist I only want to care about making good art, having a good work environment / relationships, and being properly compensated for my work.

9:48 This is referred to as "outcome independence" in other circles and is unbelievably effective especially in interpersonal relationships

This man is amazing. Such good presentation skills!

„focus on the action, not the result”, thank you so much for the advice ♥️

Paradoxically, after following your advice my outcomes greatly improved. You are the best Dr. K.

One good way I had to keep working at a personal project (I love starting projects and almost never finish any) was to tell myself that I will work on it 15 minutes per day, everyday. 15 minutes is not a lot, but compounded I still made much more progress than I expected. if I don't feel like it, 15 minutes is not something that'll ruin my day either. And more often than not, since I had opened up all my stuff to work on it well I continued for 30, 45mins or a couple hours sometimes.

this is exactly what gamers need, because we are sometimes so bad at abstract outside the box thinking( at certain things), that a " simple" lesson such as this one just completely blows the mind. Its actually incredible reflecting on this makes a lot of sense. I set a goal to do a certain home workout every second/ third day and i completely blew up. Thank you those little messages really change a lot

i have been using youtube i dont know how long but this is my first comment to a video.I am not a gamer (played in high school years) but i feel blessed to meet this channel , maybe the reason stoicism got so popular is people start to search what they lack.Thank you Dr. Alok for doing this.And i also wonder your opinions on what kind of therapy would be more benefical to gamer type people?

Man, this is fucking gold. Thank you, thank you very much for this. I finally understand myself. I hope you see how much you are helping people with your work. And how worthwhile was your work.

Video by video, you’re making me a better therapist. This was pure gold. Thank you.

great idea. I also found the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear to be really helpful as well. For example, thinking of what a healthy person would do when trying to get healthier and being process-oriented would move us closer to our (abstract) goals than focusing solely on outcomes.

It really resonated with me a lot the focus on action rather than the result, wholeheartedly appreciate this video and the whole series

I also motivate myself through a bit of a hybrid method. I go to the gym to achieve something else: in the long long ago, I lifted weights so my BMX skills would improve (the bikes aren't exactly light). More recently, I worked out so I could compete competently in Spartan races. The only downside to this method is as soon as you achieve the thing you set out to do, you can definitely fall off the wagon. The upside is you can keep making harder and harder challenges for yourself.

Dr K is a blessing to the world. Keep doing what you do.

This is definitely one of the best videos in the series. How does it only have 6,000 views?!

I am so glad I've found this channel, really have been needing this for a long time

Every video is so spot on like it's so accurate... it's actually amazing.

This video series is great because it provides a logical framework to deal with open ended problems and paralyzing thought patterns. This is the first time in a while I can take something away from a youtube video and apply it.

I don't comment at all but, I really needed to hear this. We all are truly blessed to have you share what you do. Cheers to you Dr. K, everyone in the world, and to patrickstarq of 2021.

I will now use my gamer-brain's frontal lobes to their extent and try to break down this abstract concept of being 'action oriented', in a google docs. Thank you for this, healthy gamer gg. Immensely relevant information for me and many.

Ive been watching a lot of your videos Dr. K. Thank you so much for uploading them. They truly are life changing.

"focus on the action, not the result" *league of legends subreddit flashback* "focus on improving, ranking up will follow naturally".

Quit gaming recently and even before that I was looking for goals and looking to accomplish goals. It was difficult, now I know why. Last week I hit a plateau when losing weight, I checked the scale daily. I was becoming obsessed and conflicted. I wanted o see progress like I wanted to level up. I needed to keep moving forward and that just what I did. I constantly think about what’s going to happen or this and that’s going to happen. This week I stopped doing that for a certain thought and I stopped checking the scale, Emmy weight has started declining again. It just takes time. Real life time.

Bro looking handsome

Puh...amazing. i think in the end my problem is fear....therefor paralyzis...

exactly! I'm not sure about games being the cause of this thought pattern though, I think sometimes it's the other way around. Maybe it's just that goal-oriented people will enjoy games more. In fact I've never been a heavy gamer and I don't even play anymore. Yet all of the things you said apply to me 100%, even though I don't think I've played enough to reprogram my brain... maybe I was like this all along.

Superbe series ! I did quite a few changes in my mindset those last few years, always was a compulsive gamer during my teens and still am to some extent, but I focused on doing things, taking my chances and saying yes, and often I was really surprised by the outcomes, thus making me more confident each time. I realize now that I did quite a bit of what you said, but hearing it out loud is really cool, and a good refresher in this post-lock-down period (in Switzerland) during which I kinda let my gaming go loose again. Thank you Dr. !

I am someone almost 40s, I can say he described my entire life in this series. (Episodes Video Game Addiction)

This really hits my add and adhd, mixed with being a hardcore gamer, wish I found this channel sooner rather than later in in life.

Thanks, man! Really helped me a lot getting out of addiction.

You making me wish I had never played a game

The span of people who can learn from this is greater than gamers, but non-gamers won't know that because it's aimed at gamers

Thanks alot! this is crazy good! And clear

5:38 - you got to try because you literally dont know whats gonna happen 6:05 - why you dont know what is gonna happen

It is so weird to see Dr K standing up lmao

this man need a nobelprize and for the nerds reading this in 10 years there still hope

I need to save this and listen to it when I shower every single day

I’m happy to say that I’m already doing some of these pieces of advice :)

I really needed this, Thanks a lot. God bless you.

Thank you so much for the series!

your videos are so inspiring and educational! love your channel !

as always, very interesting dr K!

Holy fuck did I need to see this. Thank you brother

what about starting first from changing identity, as James Clear talks about in atomic habits

I love how he says a "gamer" like it's another species

Related: People with autism apply to a job if they have 100% of the listed requirements, while neurotypicals will apply to a job if the have about 50%. Most job requirements are actually a "wish list" for the ideal candidate, rather than hard requirements.

This video is so underrated

As a gamer, action vs result actually makes a lot of sense, cognitively. Now if I end up doing it... another story. But it increases the odds of my action. lol

❤

I just like these videos by default

this is a GOLDMIND

Where can I watch more of him talking about this phenomenon. Any video titles/links?

he is the best

6:05 the term "the game doesn't want u to" doesn't exist irl. Neither do invisible walls XD maybe that's why dark souls is so appealing.

I like these videos

Did he just drop into Harvard?! :D amazing content!

Wait does any gamer really experience not trying stuff because they're a gamer and they think they'll fail? Never played games like ninja gaiden or I wanna be the guy? Games taught me that it doesn't matter if you fail a million times, because you only need to beat the game once. Same thing with finding a good job. Emotionally it may be hard to rejected 100 times, but who cares if that 101th time you get a job you really want? Just curious, are there other gamers who learned that failure is okay from games?

Jordan Gamerson

I'm getting a lot of MJ Demarko vibes from this video. Focus on the process

So you just got fucking lucky. Great so now Im again leaning towards maximizing your potential for beneficial RNG

Amazing advice. i have a question tough. How do we applicate that if we want to progress at something ? For example if we want to progress at Basketball. Because to progress at something we tend to be objective oriented. Like : "today I'll make 20 shots. I'll need to make more next time". In this case is it a bad idea too ?

WTF. He went to UT thats where im at

How do you be action orientated for an assignment?

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Jesus when he said 3:40 hilarious

Wait, so are you saying "don't have goals," or are you saying just not to focus on them? Because I don't know how to have goals and *not* focus on them.

2:24 focus LUL

aint no way I'm getting a free life coach session for free rn

I've watched all of these in a completely wrong order

Dr. K, Unfortunately, I have to largely disagree with your example on applying to Harvard for the job you got. Your earlier stated, " ...because chances are it's not going to work." The actual situation with you being the only applicant actually gave you 100% success rate. This is not a good example, it actually counters your earlier statement. I do understand your meaning, but perhaps a follow up statement on perception of low chances versus the actuality of a high chance. Of course, if we had all the data we could make objective choices on mere risk alone. We truly could. A fun alternative would be an example about gambling and playing with low chances, and why we do it. Thanks,

The more I listen to this more i realize how league of legends has ruined my thought process.

the Jordan Peterson of gamers

6:18 I see

lol this camera human is trying really hard to keep him dead centre XD

Jordan B. Peterson is the dad I never had, Dr. K is the older brother.

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Geveway alok bg

'chicks'? seriously?