Autism in girls Q&As 

I talk with my psychologist tomorrow. I'm terrified she'll tell me I'm crazy. With no sense of self during my last diagnosis of bipolar 2 im sure it did look like that! I had no idea I didn't even understand me yet! How did it go for you?

I’ve felt the same as you ;-; my autistic friends told me I was definitely autistic and it makes so much sense now. I don’t hate myself anymore

Wow that’s complete lack of understanding and compassion for somebody who is going through something they genuinely cannot help. But don’t let it stop you from being around people! 💖

My mom tells me that

Rebecca Benway Anyone, who says that to you, isn’t showing any validation for your genuine feelings. They aren’t being compassionate towards you or respecting you. You deserve to be respected and valued as an individual - we all do! 🧡

I am exactly like this too! Please tell me if you’ve found out what causes this?

Relating to this so much!

@Donkey wow, thank you! I'll look into it

Aspies do NOT have a life expectancy of 35....

Hi Emily! Thanks for your feedback and I will definitely be uploading more soon :) 💖

Thankyou 💖💖

Rachel Weisz I think feeling depressed and alone is something we can all feel on the spectrum. I can’t remember a time when I wasn’t, but I still remain optimistic and try to stay focused on things I enjoy ☺️ and it’s definitely difficult trying to break the habit of masking after so many years. If only I’d known what I know no! But one step at a time right :) you’re never alone though! And I totally get you about the diagnosis and sometimes it’s easier just to say to people I have Asperger but then they invalidate my struggles then which is annoying. It’s great to hear from another aspie though thanks for reaching out! ☺️

You're not alone, I'm 28 and got diagnosed with high functioning autism last year. I'm also struggling with not masking and my brain fighting with itself regarding if my diagnosis is correct or not. I don't have support from family members or friends regarding autism because they are sceptical about my diagnosis, and they think that I'm fabricating the issues I am now showing instead of masking them. I struggle with loneliness, and I also think about life and the meaning of life itself continuously. It's good to hear I'm not alone - and neither should you feel lonely. It is especially difficult if you look and act neurotypical because people underestimate the internal struggles you might have. But if you ever want to chat about your process I am open to it - I wouldn't mind having a person in the same boat to talk to myself to be honest with you.

Holly Potter thankyou for taking the time to watch ☺️

Charl Davies bless you, have a lovely day 😊 you’re a beautiful human and never let anyone tell you otherwise

Thankyou Ellie ☺️😘

Thanks 💖

I can only give you my experience being a 29yr old male diagnosed ASD-1 under the DSM-5 standards. Before I was taking Prestiq for anxiety, I used to have emotional outbursts when overwhelmed. In the past I have puts holes in walls, shattered car windows with elbow strikes (happened three separate times). When plans would change in anyway outside of my control, I would get incredibly angry and overwhelmed and would be extremely hostile towards loved ones. Once placed on Prestiq, I personally noticed a huge difference with my ability to cope with change. No holes in walls, or any other destructive behaviors in over a year. That’s just me at 29 years of age. Idk if that helps at all.

Dyspraxia is a part of autism

@@lotuswolf1518 really? kind of makes sense as i was so dispraxic as a kid / had to work so hard to do everything

I really feel for you. When I was your age I was terrified of school and had major anxiety, which only expressed itself as me being very quiet and secluded. I am 28 now and I only got diagnosed last year. The upside is that you know at an earlier age that you have autism, so you can learn to deal with your anxiety in a healthy way. Is your family supportive of you and your diagnosis? Is there anyone you can talk to at school about your issues? Please don't feel alone, I've been where you are, and it's okay to be scared. For me, drawing and writing was always a great help in school. I'd sketch during classes or write notes. It kept me busy, calmed me down and helped me concentrate. Perhaps you have something that could help you?

Getting to bed on time will really help you to cope, try creating a nice bed time routine that you look forward to. I use a red lamp (helps your melatonin production) from about 8pm that makes me feel calm, safe and sleepy. Don't forget that many others will be nervous too, try to make some small connections with people by finding something to laugh about or something in common. Secondary school is bigger, which might be scary but it does mean that there will probably be more people who you might get on with. There are lots of ways schools can help you to cope, ask for help if you need it. Keep focusing on what you do enjoy each day.

I’m not sure on that one, I struggle with processing what people say and so my response times are sometimes longer but it doesn’t affect my actual understanding of it, I just need more time to think about it. Does that make sense?

@@charldavies yeah that does make sense! i just was wondering if having a hard time understanding things might be a symptom of autism or maybe some sort of learning disability i may have. thank you for the answer!

Hi Eloise. Before I was diagnosed I had a friend that was doubtful of my potential diagnosis of autism. It felt invalidating and unsupportive. But I think that if more awareness was raised for autism in girls then people may respond differently. I’m sorry to hear that they haven’t been supportive but don’t feel disheartened because people who cannot accept you aren’t worthy of your time anyway. Don’t let it eat you up inside because people can be horrid but it’s a projection of their hatred and isn’t a reflection of you. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life so don’t be afraid to cut people off that make your feel bad in yourself because like is far too short to waste precious time. I know the feeling of the whole burden thing all too well. I felt like I was unworthy of help, felt like I didn’t deserve it. But that is never the case! Of course you deserve help! Just try not to put too much pressure on yourself. It sounds as though you may be suffering with low self esteem but don’t worry, keep pursuing your diagnosis and try to help yourself as much as you can. Also, don’t be afraid to tell people ‘no’ or take yourself out of situations that make you feel overwhelmed. Give yourself a break, life is already so very stressful, concentrate on yourself and do things that make you feel good. Treat yourself, build yourself up because you are worth it and you deserve to be happy and fuck anyone who thinks otherwise. You’re not lying, It’s just that when people that are supposed to support you don’t and make you doubt yourself and invalidate you it makes you question yourself, but don’t because you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. Good luck with your diagnosis and let me know how it goes. 💖💖

Charl Davies Thankyou for those words, you've really cheered me up :) I've started to keep a diary to help with my mental health and I've been focusing on myself more. My best friend has been trying to be more understanding (after I shut down at my cities pride) which I am very grateful for. I used to play roller derby to help me feel confident but I haven't been doing that for a couple of years and I've tried to keep roller skating but it's not the same. But I am taking up skate boarding which I love as well and there are so many great people to skate with. I'm going to college in a few weeks so I'm happy to start a fresh with new teachers and new friends that will hopefully be more accepting, understanding and kind :)

I totally get that!! 💖

So I was only diagnosed with high functioning autism last year when I was 28. My dad, who people described as being stern, reclusive, and arrogant, is probably where my autism came from. He was never diagnosed, and his whole life he was described as a difficult character. He is a succesful businessman, and very smart. My heart breaks for him though. Nobody wants to be described like that. Just because he has difficulty expressing his emotions and making eye-contact doesn't mean he is a bad human being. As a child I can tell you that the best thing for your children is if you can be the best version of you. If you're struggling because of autism it's only better to learn what autism means for you and how you can best live with it. It'll help your kids to know you embrace your diagnosis. I wish my father would seek help and a diagnosis, because kids can feel everything and want the best for their parents. Also, if you accept and embrace it, living your life, they'll see you do that and do the same.

Charl Davies oh gosh I only just realised you replied to me thank you so much 💖 I’m going to go to the GP just nervous about them not taking me seriously. We have paid over £3000 to get my son diagnosed because the NHS wouldn’t take us seriously just hope they don’t do the same to me

Speakingfor Crows thank you 💖 how was your diagnosis journey was it straight forward through the nhs?

Hi, I suspect that I am aspie but I didn't talk with no one. How did they react? What have you say? What are your traits for a self diagnosis?

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