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This video is about a weird train trip I had. As I said in another video, I’m not interested in trains unless I need them to get from one place to another. However, public transport means potentially dealing with unfamiliar people, and this can be challenging (and quite funny).
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20 май 2024

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@Ophmar4 Месяц назад

The perils of public transit...

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

Yes. Hives of unpredictability. Not good for an autist.

@autisticjenny Месяц назад

I can totally relate to being somewhere and wanting to get away from someone. I went to the thrift store a few months ago. I was looking at some books (my favorite isle). I made the mistake of saying something to the man next to me because every now and then I try to be a little extraverted for kicks and giggles. I commented "These Japanese books are interesting." I expected he would say "yes" and that would be the end up it. He began to talk about country music and how he met Kenny Rogers one time. As he was talking I was wanting to get away but my every attempt felt like he didn't "get the picture." I finally awkwardly said "well, thank you for talking. Bye." He looked confused. But I was out of the conversation. Next time I won't try to speak to someone when I'm on the book isle.

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

Yes, sometimes I'll be in a good mood (it happens), and I'll actually start a conversation. But when the other person just sees you as some sort of conversational dartboard without feelings or thoughts of your own, then that's just very depressing.

@avaughan585 Месяц назад

Yeah i wish random people would talk to me more too

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

I don't mind it, as long as it's friendly, brief, and not completely one-sided.

@tracik1277 Месяц назад

They are just so irritating aren’t they?

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

People? Some of them are.

@NitFlickwick Месяц назад

I have been told regularly by neurotypical people that I look unapproachable by default. For a while, I thought this was a problem. Now, it’s my autistic superpower. Still, people on public transit are immune. I’m regularly the first person approached by people who need to get something off their chest. I hate it.

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

My face is permanently on 'resting grump' mode but it ain't no superpower.

@billeaton1970 Месяц назад

On a train one time I had to endure listening to a woman who seemed to be able to talk incessantly all the way from Bristol to Brighton. I could have gone by car in peace and quiet and have made hardly any journeys by train since.

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

The man I met on the train just steamrollered straight into a monologue about what was on his mind - it just didn't occur to him that I might just want to be left in peace. Very odd and uncomfortable.

@billeaton1970 Месяц назад

@@AutisticNotAlien I find it odd that we autistics are allegedly not aware of the feelings of others yet many of us take care not to impose on other people while some (and I stress the some) apparently non autistic people have no hesitation at all in imposing themselves on complete strangers. I have decided that next time this happens to me the solution will be to say, as pleasantly as I can manage, something like "thank you for engaging me in conversation but I am not a great conversationalist and prefer to read my book/listen to my audio/look out of the window at the passing scenery". I realise that this might be easier to say now than to put into practice at the time.

@AutisticNotAlien Месяц назад

@@billeaton1970 Yes, my thoughts exactly. You've expressed this so well. One reason I'm so cautious about conversations is that I'm hyper-empathetic - contrary to the myth that autistic people have no feelings. I never want to say the wrong thing because I absolutely hate hurting people's feelings. I felt so uncomfortable during my train trip that I had to drum up the courage to calmly explain that I wanted to opt out of the conversation/monologue. And even then, I felt bad. However, I don't think I needed to feel this way - as I left the train, the man was chuntering away to another poor soul.