Be better than fine | Nora McInerny | TEDxMinneapolisWomen 

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you had more occassion to laugh this past year

hugs I lost my sweetheart suddenly to cardiac arrest 7 weeks ago💔

@@cilla3636 I'm so sorry for your loss.

This is a good one I’m going to start using it 😂

🙏

I highly recommend Grief Share. My father recently passed away due to suicide and then my grandmother died several weeks later. The Grief Share support group has really helped, and that are people in it who have are dealing with losses from over 20 years ago. I offer condolences to you that you lost your mom the way you did. That's so heartbreaking.💔

What coping mechanisms did you find helped ?

How old are you?

Not that I'm talking about you Religious Beliefs; I have similar ones. I'm just asking to know the context of when this came into your life

Don;t worry by the way, God didn't kill them. He's omniscient but not Omnipotent

great that it helped you along a little. I’ve handled things terribly badly. terribly.

@@Onlinesully I'm really sorry that you feel that. I'm almost a year on. Some days very hard, some days better. I hope and pray that things improve for you.

@@Srieire It’s a lot

I am very sorry for your loss ❤

I'm very sorry. My father died similarly a month ago, I feel what you are going thru....

Hello Kate, how are you

I totally hear you! I lost my dad at 26 (he was 58) and I never thought this would affect my world so much. After that I got to know my ex-boyfriend, we spend years together in which I tried to deal with the loss. The relationship unfortunately wasn't good for us or at least me... I think people name it "toxic" (I never had such a relationship before... only healthy ones) Anyway, I loved him nonetheless, I still do. We broke up and it broke my heart. I'm 32 now, I say "fine" as well, although I want to scream "terrible!!!"; I know that most people don't want to know and won't understand. I was always a very talkative and outgoing person, but not anymore... I stopped talking. Somehow I no longer see the point in it.

@@Sandromeda. I was in a terrible relationship and had just broken up with him, finally, when my dad passed away. After that, he convinced me he changed, I don't think I believed him, but I went back anyway because I wanted some sort of comfort I hoped he would provide. He didn't. When I left him, I had nothing and I was homeless, but that was better than spending another day with him. While with him, my light dulled, but since leaving him, I have learned so many things that have made me brighter than ever before. For starters, I read the book, Boundaries by Henry cloud and john Townsend. It is absolutely life changing. It teachers you why you were even in that kind of relationship in the first place and gives you tools to build your life back up from the inside out. Now I feel like I'm thriving for the first time in my life.

So very sorry for hour loss!!! Nora has become quite an inspiration to me. I did begin listening to here from day one. I have a hard time explaining exactly how she lifts me up as im down... One thing tho she helps others realize this: Y͟o͟͟u͟͟ a͟͟r͟͟e͟͟ n͟͟o͟͟t͟͟ a͟͟l͟͟o͟͟n͟͟e͟͟ ... Y͟o͟͟u͟͟ f͟͟e͟͟e͟͟l͟͟ l͟͟i͟͟k͟͟e͟͟ y͟͟o͟͟u͟͟ a͟͟r͟͟e͟͟ d͟͟e͟͟f͟͟i͟͟n͟͟i͟͟t͟͟e͟͟l͟͟y͟͟ b͟͟u͟͟t͟͟ h͟͟e͟͟r͟͟ w͟͟a͟͟y͟͟ a͟͟b͟͟o͟͟u͟͟t͟͟ t͟͟e͟͟l͟͟l͟͟i͟͟n͟͟g͟͟ a͟͟n͟͟y͟͟ s͟͟t͟͟o͟͟r͟͟y͟͟ d͟͟o͟͟e͟͟s͟͟ s͟͟o͟͟m͟͟e͟͟t͟͟h͟͟i͟͟n͟͟g͟͟ t͟͟o͟͟ t͟͟h͟͟e͟͟ m͟͟i͟͟n͟͟d͟͟ .

Going to see her live in Boston on the 18th

Susan Steinkraus im not Nora,but ive gone through the same loss. My husband died from cancer only 17 days after diagnosis. As far as what to say to your friend, you dont really have to "say" anything, just " be" there for her. When she wants and needs someone to just " listen" to her vent and talk about him and all the pain and beautiful memories they had together. When my husband died i felt caught off guard when someone else brought up his name ,i could deal with it better if i was the one who started the conversation about him. Dont smother her,but dont avoid her either. Just make your presence known and be ready to really listen when she needs to talk. Remind her that you will always be there for support. Most people stop even calling within a few weeks and thats sad. There will be special days that are harder for her to deal with. Anniversary of his death, their wedding anniversary, a birthday,etc. those are the times you really need to reach out to her . If you feel the need to have to say anything, keep it simple. " im here for you if you need to talk" is plenty. Im glad that your friend has you and you care. There are many of us who dont have that after a loss . God bless. 🙏

@@cathyt144 thanks! This is helpful.

Yes, the best thing you can ever do for someone who is grieving is to just be there. Sit with them talk with them do not offer advice. The worst thing you can ever do for someone that is grieving is to give them advice. Just be there with them when they want to talk they will

Hello gorgeous how are you doing now, nice thought of you, I'm Anderson can I know you

@@cathyt144 ...beautiful reply & you are so right.

Because you can’t cry all the time.

Because she is funny. If you didn't get the whole point that you still live when you are grieving then you need to listen to her various Ted Talks & read her books. My husband's funeral/celebration of life was filled with laughter & also tears.

And?

@@virginiavinch5716 grieving and stand up made me uneasy. I lost my son, Alex, age 22 the year before and made me cringe when I listened to Nora. It was my personal reaction