Bedroom cleaning motivation for neurodivergent people 

I heard someone say before that depression is nothing more than our bodies screaming for "deep rest". So now if I am low in my moods I dont say I am depressed, I say I am in need of deep rest. And that really shifts my entire experience. Thanks for sharing your journey. Autistic here and I struggle with keeping a perfectly clean home. What helps me is most days I do one load of launry and one load of dishes. This helps prevent it from becoming too overwhelming to tackle.

Ive always like the saying "so far you've survived 100% of your worst days." It reminds me that the way I am seems to have worked so far! Love your videos, Remi! ❤️

This has got to be the realest most down to earth and relatable cleaning motivation video channel Ive ever come across.

Thank you, Remi. I have lymes disease and didn’t know I’ve had it since I was 4. It makes a lot of sense now. And when people would be upset at me forgetting so much all the time or having anxiety/ depression issues or just go off into a stare, it was so hard and embarrassing. But I couldn’t help it. My brain and body have been sick for so long from parasites and bacteria and lymes disease. When big stressful things happen my body can sometimes shut down and the nerves in my legs make it difficult to walk. My legs both go to sleep and I can’t feel them. I say all this to say, your videos are so encouraging. I’m married now with two littles and I’m so in love. They bring me so much joy and I’m so thankful to God for them. They don’t mind mama is forgetful or stares off or has to have a couch day sometimes. I love to see the love for your family. It’s so sweet. Thank you for being an encouraging person in my day.

I’m not here to judge….I just want to say that I’m a 48 year old African American woman and yes I’M JUST LIKE YOU! Thank u for your honesty and Thank u for sharing your struggles. I have a very poor relationship with my health care team. I’m forgetful, I miss appointments, I forget to pick up meds, I’m busy, I’m confused and I’m so flawed. I hate the way I am, and those disapproving tones on the other line PISS ME OFF. We are not perfect and neither are they.

My name is Nancy, I wanted you to know how much I admire your work and honesty. I love the way you make your videos, cause they are organized and right to the point. Your videos are so much better than the others on RU-vid. They start talking about themselves or they are shouting at you from the TV. I've never been diagnosed with ADHD, but I suspect I have it, cause I do all the things you said : start working on something, and then I get easily distracted and don't finish the first one. I love how you show how to make the list and follow through until it all gets done. I'm always making lists and sticking notes on the front door so I know what to get. My companion died 5 weeks ago and now I need to go through her stuff. I will need to go through all my stuff so I can move back to my homeland and take care of my mom. In short I need to declutter and then pack for the move. Thank you for all your advice and tips, continue making those videos, I'm sure I'm not the only one that enjoys learning with you. Take care and may God's blessings get sprinkled on you and your family. Nancy Ruiz - Garcia

Thank you! You're the first person to explain why making telephone calls and appointments is so difficult sometimes.

My daughter has dyslexia and also struggles making phone calls, she's in her 40's and occasionally I make 'officia'l calls for her ❤

Sending you love, thank you for posting this. I needed this. Adhd autism, anxiety, and multiple autoimmune diseases completely cripple me. My bedroom is probably about 10x worse realistically. I actually thought about hiring someone to help. I am scared to because I'm afraid they won't, or they will charge me more than I have. What you spoke about is me in so many ways. Simple little things are hard, almost impossible for me to accomplish. I feel I have people out there in the world who know what I feel and I appreciate their stories and I appreciate you sharing your home to help us.

I suffer with anxiety and depression, so seeing this video warmed my heart and made me happy.

Dear Remi, I recently found out about your channel, and I’m loving your videos. Thanks for forgiving me and everyone here for our everyday imperfections, it really feels good to hear someone actually saying those words of forgiveness and encouragement, like you do. And let me just say, you are really doing great managing to do all the things you do with work and two kids, I’m very impressed! Your videos are pleasant, very well executed and edited, it’s clear that you are putting some serious effort in them and the result is great. You really motivated me in my everyday tidying up routine, I have just one daughter but my house gets messy too! Thanks a lot for everything and forgive my english, I’m from Italy. Keep up the good work!

Thank you for these videos. I am retired, and no longer have the children to pick up after. My struggles are still the same though, with my anxiety over phone calls and things to do that I put off. And when you put them off the anxiety becomes worse. It feels better knowing that I'm not the only one. Your videos help me to get motivated and to feel better about myself. When I have a really hard time, I make myself put away or clean just 10 things and then it usually gets me to cleaning more.❤

I just wanted to let you know that I listen to your videos while I clean. It motivates and calms me while I tackle my own messy house. Thank you so much!

Its not much, but everything you said in this video is so similar to me, and I find it so comforting that you share these things so we can relate. Thank you

I have to tell you that I felt so seen by this video. I have adhd and yes I do take Ritalin and it helps me a lot, but I am still very forgetful and flimsy and people don’t understand how much it hurts me when I try my best and I forget something important. Being nd isn’t easy and it felt like no one could ever understand me, but you described it so well and I felt so good that I had to tell you ❤ may Allah bless you. You are a huge blessing and so very helpful. Thank you for sharing and posting and doing all this ❤

I dont mind the phone calls too much, but i am horrible about keeping appts. I will reschedule all of them at least once. They do sound condescending when i do show up. They have no idea. I love watching your videos. Dont beat yourself up too bad. Im 54 and with depression, PTSD, and anxiety that started 4 years ago, I have trouble turning my head "off" sometimes just to feed a dog and 2 cats. On those days, my husband (a godsend) helps me!

I have to write a list on paper and actually tick things off as I do them. It’s satisfying to see progress and it’s a physical reminder. Love your videos Remi.

What helps me keep from making even bigger messes is advice from Dana K. White from the channel A Slob Comes Clean. She says over & over again: “Take it there now!” I’ve always been so distracted that I’d set things down not even noticing I was doing it, or I’d feel so overwhelmed that I’d think, “I’ll just do it later.” I’ve made progress, just as you have. Keep up the self-care.

Hi Remi. This is the first time I’ve commented. I found your channel a few months ago and binge watched all your videos and shorts. Then I watched them over again whilst cleaning my own house, which has gotten a bit out of control over the last couple of years. I just wanted to say thank you. I love the motivation of watching your spaces transform, and I also love listening to your stories. You are funny, don’t take yourself too seriously, you’re honest, and unapologetically you. I also love how you manage to tell people to take a hike, yet in the nicest way possible, and whilst still validating the struggle of being neurodivergent and keeping a clean home. As someone with ADHD who actually really likes to clean and tidy, I struggle so much with keeping up the momentum, and with other people’s expectations of what should and should not be possible. I can only imagine what it must be like for those who struggle and hate cleaning. You’ve been a huge catalyst for me in accepting who I am, and for not feeling guilty about struggling with things that NT people can’t even fathom, nevermind sympathise with. There is a lot of ADHD content out there, but yours is the most honest yet affirming I have found. Every time I see a video from you I smile in anticipation. Thank you so much for putting your life online and subjecting yourself to criticism from so many people who are blissfully ignorant of what it means to have executive functioning problems. You’ve said a few times that if you only help one person see that they aren’t alone, then it’s worth it for you. Well, I am one person, and I am so thankful. And I’m sure I’m not the only one. ❤❤❤

I just adore you! I love your messages and you help me every time I watch your videos!! Be proud of yourself and know you help a 68 year old Memaw in Forsyth, Georgia USA. 😊❤️🙏🇺🇸

Remi - I want you to know I stumbled across your channel a few months ago, and I connect and identify with your content so much. Thank you for creating a safe, open-minded space for those of us that struggle with these types of things. Your content is therapeutic, encouraging and hopeful and there needs to be more like it out there. Also, just when I thought the relatability to your videos was at the max, I saw your video today about anxiety around making phone calls and I felt completely seen. I struggle with this a ton and felt very alone in this struggle until today. Thank you for being vulnerable and for being yourself and for making such positive content. :)

I’m still like you and I’m 70! You help me❤️🙏🏻Thank you. I’m going to clean my bedroom😘

Hi Remi! Your videos, shorts,or whatever they’re called, always puts a smile on my face. You are so dead on about whatever you’re talking about in the video. Keep it going and I’m sure you can make others smile too.

Sweet Remi, I also have the phone call phobia 😂 and I am almost 40. Bless your heart. What I do now is approach things in almost a healthy mad way. I tell that little voice to get the heck out of here and that I am just as good as anyone else and that I deserve things just like anyone else. ❤

Thankyou Remi, I’m a very active pensioner, and was getting a bit overwhelmed with everything I want or need to do, and I’m just the same with any telephone calls, at my age, but it never leaves you if you’re neurodivergent, does it. You’ve just lifted me from a possible depression! Thanks again! Take care 😊

I've said this a few times now, but you are amazing. You really are. ❤

I owe my summer projects around the house that i got done this summer to you...bless you and thank you for being you.

I came across your Chanel the other day. I absolutely love your videos. Your voice is so soothing. Watching your videos have helped me so much already. You make me feel super calm, and like i can take a breathe. I feel so much better after watching your videos. I feel so relaxed and zen. You also make me feel like I am not alone. I struggle with my mental health a lot and it makes it hard to clean my house and take care of my self. You are an amazing person. Thank you for all that you do.

I need you to do a podcast! Your voice and chatter are both soothing and motivating at the same time. I could absolutely listen to you chatter away on a podcast for an hour as I clean.

Just keep talking, Remi. I love it! Its like I've been accepted!

Oh my god, I absolutely related to almost every word you said... And I thought I was the only one..!!! I make myself ill with anxiety worrying about phone calls, as well as actually attending the appointments..! I could say soooo much more, but really just want to say how amazing and REAL you are.... So glad I came across your videos... You're so honest, which is unbelievably refreshing xxxx Going to tidy my bedroom now... 😜👍 Xxxxx

Am so thankful I found you at RU-vid!! And even more thankful that you share your life! It motivates me to start trying to get myself together! Thank you!🙏

I needed this pep talk so badly and you, internet stranger, delivered. Youre awesome ❤✨️🥹

You're not the only one who has trouble making phone calls Remi. Especially not in our generation. Proud of you for tackling things that are intimidating like the phone call and this clean.

A small bit of advice... I have anxiety whenever I leave my apartment to the point of agoraphobia. It has been a huge help to not take the "reminder appointment card" at any time and put it in your phone's calendar instead. Anything. I put laundry day in mine. Thank you for making these videos. They help me even in Washington State, USA.

I put off making appointmentss for same reasons. And as soon as you make one you have it hanging over your head, annoyingly, with the risk of missing it. It's a pain. I love that blanket on your bed. Such a nice dusty pink! And that lamp makes gorgeous light. I got a lamp recently ( 2 months ago) but only just b9ught the extension cord for it 2 days ago lol. When I can be bothered I'll go get the extension cord out of my bagand plug it in!

I don’t like making phone calls either! Glad I’m not the only one. And I’m 67 years old, you’d think I’d be over it by now! LOL!

Wonderful commentary. I get something out of every one of your videos. Thank you! 🤗

Hi, I just found ur channel, and I love it. I'm can't stop watching them. I have a magnet on my fridge, and it says A Clean House Is A wasted life . And I get that bc if ur constantly cleaning, you miss out on the little things with your kids and your partner. I just lost my son, and cleaning helps me bc I'm forced on something else. I'm so glad I found your channel. Love love love it, 😊 from Manitoba Canada 🇨🇦 ❤

Honesty, wisdom, adulting, parenting & Cleaning 😁 your are my absolute favourite ❤️ thank you 😘🥰 xxx

I want you to know you have helped my mental state SO much. I had cancer and my house fell into ruins. Cleaning a year worth of dirt and grime from a kid and four cats was more than i could handle with my anxiety, but thanks to your pep talks I've gotten it done and am on top of it. I am even making a phone call to the dentist myself this week. 😆 Thanks for sharing your struggles

I love the long videos, I watch with a coffee until I finally have the motivation to tackle the task ahead. I think your account is motivational, funny and feels relatable to REAL PEOPLE ❤

I make the next dentist appointment before we leave the surgery and put it into my phone calendar with all the reminders I can (from 30 minutes before, to 1 week before). And I take the appointment cards and staple them to the bottom of my paper calendar on the right month (or December, for February next year). That's okay, I can do that. But phoning people up is horrible. What helps me is the Flylady trick of being dressed to my shoes first, and standing up to make the phone call. Of course, the standing up is okay for "hello dentists, we're ill & need to reschedule" but doesn't help with trying to get through to the GPs to make an appointment... Being on hold and moved up in the queue isn't ideal for anyone!

thanks for making us feel better and more inspired😊. i happen to be in the neurodivergent gang myself.

I love your videos and I know just what you mean about making phone calls! I am in my fifties and still find it hard to make one!

i found your videos recently and just binge watched them all, you are so likeable and wise beyond your years that i find myself wanting to be friends with you irl while i listen to you chat about things!!! hope you have a great week!!!

Phone calls literally give me panic attacks. So I just write down everything I am going to say and wait till the very last minute.

Some of what you said about anxiety reminded me of myself...

i love your channel so much! it is so motivating! also love how the bedding and the throw match with the candle, it's so nice!

Bless you your an amazing lady ❤❤

Hugs to all 🤗 I really needed to hear this one today ❤ thank you Reni ❤

Yr doing a brilliant job remi. I also forget things all the time ♥️♥️

I live by my planner. If it isn't written down- it doesn't exist. Helps woth anxiety b/c I can open it up and just stare at it if I need to.

I always love watching you make the bed- your comforter and throw are soo pretty! Thanks for inspiring me to get up and do a tidy 💕

I’m obsessed with your voice ❤

Thank you Remi 💖💖💖 it's like your describing me sometimes. hello from Utah 👋👋

Love your videos! Always so encouraging! I'm in my late 30's and pretty sure I have undiagnosed ADHD, so I can definitely relate. I read Getting Things Done & implemented the method a few years ago and it was life changing for giving me a system to get things out of my head so I don't need to use so much mental energy trying to remember my tasks & to-do's. Now I know exactly what to do when a task comes to mind!

I seen your name and was like 😁😁 a new upload. Just love love watching your videos, they always make me feel safe and secure. Because i have fibromyalgia and 2 little ones things get on top of me quick! Your videos make me feel less alone in not having my house "perfect" thank you ❤ ps i sometimes still get my mum to call the doctors on my mental bad days and im 27year olds...😬

Hi lovely Remi, it so helpful and very motivated. I know my bedroom is a mess, but thank u for your videos 📹 help physically and mentally, so thank you so very much. I appreciate and send love ❤️ ❤

Just found your channel, I totally relate to you in this video! I want to go back to my teenage years sometimes playing Sims. Those were the days 😅 I also get stressed about having to cancel appointments or rearrange them. Ugh…I totally get it.

Your so comforting to watch and listen to bcoz your real and don't you ever change who you are xxx

Literally, just you talking makes me feel better

I got to do a deep clean on my bedroom yesterday for the first time in a bit, and I don't want anyone to go in there now 🤪

I find to help with stressing about upcoming appt or tasks to do I write it down on my notes app and use my calendar with alarms. This helps calm my mind a bit. When I forget I check my to do list and or calendar. I also check list and calendar in morning and before bed.

I absolutely love your videos. Very relatable and in tune with everyday life.

I still have problems making phone calls. I have to nerve myself up, sometimes for days or even weeks for phone calls that take a minute and when they're done, such a sense of relief. Why is it like this when I know that sense of relief will come? I don't know.

Well done love your doing a great job.Remember to say something nice to your self every day. Hugs and love to you 💕💕💕💕💕

I also dislike calling for appointments, heck even for delivery! But as a soon to be mom, older than you, gotta get the hang of it as well

I am so grateful than I work as a clerk, so I can have all my appointments and notes TODO in my work calendar. Thank God no one have access to it since they would see my crazy everyday personal notes as "call OB, vacume bedroom, clean fridge, cut onions for onion powder, do laundry,.." next to work meetings. I looks sometimes as secret code for some ilegal things :D but this only help me to do not forget about them so I know what I need to do after work is done.

I have so many challenges mentally and physically but it's so nice to watch and listen to you ❣️ I'm inspired to keep going with my unpacking and organizing my apartment

You are such a sweetheart! Your videos always make me smile and feel relaxed. Thank you so much for that. ❤

What I stress the most about is my husband's comments about one negative thing I did badly and the way he don't see anything I did good

Love your videos, feels like you are living my life 30 years ago! As to appointments I use the calendar alert system on my iPad, you can set audible alarms to remind you. I rarely forget actual appointments but I sometimes get the day wrong because I lose time .

Love getting a notification that there’s a new Remi video!! 🎉

Ahhh great to see you once more , I love a before and after shot it's soo satisfying Remi , hope all is well my lovely ❤

Remi, I HATE making phone calls 😭 I get my friend to help me sometimes and I’m in my late 30’s! I’ve been like that since a child, but I think its because of my social deficits and my inability to make small talk, so I write down/memorise possible scenarios so that I am prepared and I use online forms wherever I can. My GP currently allows this, so I am so happy that it is one less place to call. I hope this isn’t rude to share as it is unsolicited, but I have a calendar on my kitchen wall (away from my bedroom) where I write down all my appointments as they come up and all the places I have to go (shopping,gym,therapy) so I can see my week and month and I am able to organise my cleaning/rest/fun a little better. For appointments, I put an alarm in my phone which goes off twice, so that if I do forget I have enough time to get ready and go. I put it in my phone immediately or I do it at the beginning of the week. Another thing that may help some people is to put up sticky notes on the front door/bathroom mirror or somewhere where its kind of annoying and you have to look at it. Anyway your bedroom is lovely messy or not 🩷

Hi I'm new to your channel 😊 I have watched some of your videos and love them, love how honest you are 😉 you go girl you're doing grrrrreat ❤

I do adore watching and listening to you. You are an amazing friend. Thank you, Remi!!

Maybe you’d like an engagement calendar where you could write down the things you need to remember. Then you’d only have to remember one thing: to look at your engagement calendar!

I really enjoy your videos! I really relate to you, I swear we are very similar ❤ so happy I found you!

Lovely clean bedroom. Bet it makes you feel so much better after.

Our brains were never intended to keep track of appointments. This is just the sort of memory task we need to outsource to the calendar app on our phones or a physical calendar if that helps visualizing what lies ahead.

I really appreciate this video, especially explaining not being able to mentally rest when something is coming up.

Massive changes and effort Nancy. Sorry for your loss. Hope you're back home. Your mum will be glad to have your support. 🕊

Ugh, I get anxiety calling for doctor and dentist appointments too. 😩

Automatic message reminders from doctors and dentists have been a saving grace for me. Like I haven’t had a professional hair cut in years because I kept missing appointments and then felt so anxious about it I had to switch hairdresser 🫣

Hi Remi :) I adore your videos, when you give yourself grace I am reminded to give myself a little grace too. Loving your vibe!

I have problems with making phone calls too.

I can not quite believe I have discovered you. Actually though a fake account as ironic as that is. I feel like I am looking in the mirror speaking to myself when I listen to you on you videos. Thank you, just thank you x

Another excellent message ! It really is the best feeling getting into a lovely fresh bed and in clean pjs ( and a soak in the bath if you’ve time ☺️) I remember being so scared to become an adult ?? Felt I was never going to be good enough..... Anyway I’m now 56 with 3 grown children who are now fully fledged adults !! I’ve done absolutely fine ...still don’t have oodles of confidence but I try ...I guess I’m saying never stop trying ... we get there ! I wish I’d not been bothered about what others think ! Well let me tell you I absolutely don’t give a dot now 😁 Thanks Remi !! You’re videos are such a great watch 👌💐

Remi, I come to you for such relief. If you can conquer this, so can I!!!

Thank you that did help. I know what you mean about having to put the big girl pants on. It's so hard sometimes. ❤ xxx

I hate going to the doctor, I hate making doctor’s appointments (and I only go once a year for my annual thyroid check, lol) to such a point that I’m down to my last thyroid med before I call. 😬😂. So, my very loving fiancé recognized I had a mental/emotional problem with this and he took over calling and making my appointment. He not only keeps track of the appointment, but scheduled his time around that day and drives me there, then takes me out to lunch afterward. He is a rather unusual man, I suspect. 😊

I needed to hear this today, thank you ❤

I am beyond proud of you! I am decluttering my house as well to try and take it out of disaster status. One particular book on audible has helped me more than I can explain and perhaps it could help you. “How to manage your home without losing your mind” by Dana K White. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there and being my friend to clean with 💕

I use the Calendar on my phone. You set the appointment and time and then at the bottom it gives you the option to set the alarm. For the alarm you can set for the day of or the day before. You can also set up multiple alarms for one appointment. And then it pops up as a notification on your phone about an upcoming alarm. Then your alarm will ring on your phone to help you as you have set it. 👍👍😎

I would love to see you spend another day cleaning your aunt’s house.

❤ so true thank you x love your helping videos xx😊

Im so happy to have found you! Your videos inspire me! Thank you ❤❤❤

I’m not a fully functioning adult, probably because my childhood was taken from me by my mother. She always said I was mature for my age, and so put on my shoulders her adult issues from the time I was 10. I keep trying to look back and see if I could have done anything to possibly make my circumstance today better, and I just can’t see where I could’ve done anything at all differently. I’m 35. My mother and her husband took everything normal from me from a young age and it’s really just messed me up a bit in the head. Mother and father wounds but no counseling. There’s a stagnation overall in my life. No. I can’t do anything more. God gets me through my days. He’s always been more there for me than my biological parents. When you have absolutely nobody, God actually does step up. I’m still in the valley but I’m doing my best not to camp out here.