Being Exposed vs. Doing an Exposure with OCD 

Thank you so much. I didn’t know that I only was being exposed. No I’m actively seek exposure.

@@augustolegal All the time, but one of my obssessions is having absolute control and creating a narrative, a story in my mind that I expect everything and that I actually have planned for a situation I am in which is not true, so I go with it or try in a humble manner

I’m so confused! Idk how to do this!

Can you have some examples of Exposures in ROCD?? Like, I mean, I don't have any other one that seeing what I don't like in my partner

Well, I was trying to do it by increments, where I stop checking certain things in the house before I leave (because I have "checking OCD"), but have not done a full exposure, and I kind of feel like I need to because I am really not sure if my OCD is getting any better. It takes a lot of effort to tough out a full exposure, and since I wake up feeling tired, I'm not in the mood to do anything that requires a full effort after I wake up in the morning. Some mornings are successful when I leave a couple of minutes earlier for work; and other days I'm just in the mood to put up with the extra anxiety, and so I just give in and drive myself crazy. I know that I need to do a full exposure though; I really do! I need to just only check things once or twice, and then leave while feeling scared to death.

Do you have an update on how you’ve been handling your ocd?

@@AdornedGrace bro i still have but i slowy mastering how to manage it and also i keep doing exposures

​@Potara Gaming progress is all that matter, good job 👏. Keep going with the self improvement

@@potaragaming4159how ya doing now?

@@potaragaming4159 how goes it?

What do you mean by intrusive feeling ? Tell me if you don’t mind

I'm not diagnosed either but these videos help, I feel ya. Good luck

Have you made any improvements with this yet? I struggle with this as well.

its hard to do self erp, im doing it myself right now. i hope youre doing fine now!

That’s the same with me I always forget if I washed that place properly or missed a spot i have to then do it again

Can I have your social media so we can talk more please

haha. Thanks so much!

I am an electrician with ocd and I am always second guessing myself, but I have never made a mistake that was dangerous, it still keeps me awake sometimes, but it is definitely OCD

@davidstearns4624 that would be stressful. For me I try my hardest to put my faith in Christ knowing he will keep me from messing up. And, I have insurance to cover me in case something does happen.

Thank you so much Camello! 😃

I have two videos on POCD I believe.

How are you doing now ?

Chrissie Hodges has some very good pocd videos

Hey, how are you feeling now?

Because it should be a preference to be considerate. Not a rule anxiety may have created. It trains the brain and pushes the anxiety to break the rules. You’re right! A lot of people do it. It drives me crazy 😜

OCD and Anxiety Why shouldn’t it be a “rule” to be considerate? How could not being “considerate” help anyone or anyone around them, especially in a public, crowed setting? The world had become a very inconsiderate place with people only thinking about themselves. I would only think “worrying about being considerate” would only be an issue if you are constantly being walked on because of the fear of being rude...which then leads to anxiety..of being seen as “inconsiderate”, when instead, you should’ve struck up for yourself...I have trouble with that myself.

Finally a sane person in the comment section! I had the same thought. I don’t understand the purpose of this with respect to the seat touching and eating.

This is so me too! I feel so drained and over it and cry why do I have to do this it’s so unfair !!! But everyday it gives me the feeling that well, I got here, I can get better if I persevere

@@beththeswiftie9239how is it going now?

Or just put into these low mental states even tho the results may be positive

yes it is totally normal! that's the exercise about, slowly you won't get it anymore!

I have this struggle too! So painful but we need to be our biggest fan and push ourself to success. We can do it! Remember what life wa slike before and how it will be after recovering ❤️❤️

When agreeing with the thoughts it may be more meaningful to teach the brain that agreeing doesn't mean you've actually accepted the thought but instead have accepted that you have OCD and are accepting that thoughts are thoughts without them being "good" or "bad" thoughts.

Thanks 😊 , it is possible to have a video how to nurture ourselves in order to improve our self esteem after a bad moment with OCD Love the videos I starting to see ocd as a Bullie in my head really helps 😊

Typically we don't want to push thoughts away. That would be the opposite of doing an exposure. It teaches the brain that the thought you had is scary. We want to teach the brain that thoughts are thoughts.

@@ocdandanxiety wow so simply put but so true. I have been obssesed with obssesing over my Girlfriend and creating rituals but now i dont feel the need to

R-OCD (Relationship OCD)

Each person is different. Sometimes it's just starting with writing the word earthquake, and then watch videos of them on youtube, sometimes getting on a bed and having someone shake it, etc. I use Virtual Reality for this as well. 👍🏻

OCD and Anxiety all really great ideas! Thank you so much

Hi Spenser! I do have some tips on my ROCD videos. I believe I have two that should give some ideas with some exposures. 🤪

Is it normal not to feel anxious or disturbed by imaginal exposure ? And thank you very much for your videos. They mean a lot...

That is a really good idea. I'm not sure why I haven't yet but it seems obvious. 🤪 Thanks!

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks!

Great questions! I actually have a video coming out next monday on this very thing. I hope it can help!

OCD and Anxiety thank you so much because I really try to expose myself and some days are good but Most days are bad and I don’t want it to mess up my relationship and I also want to say your accepting method did work for other themes of ocd I had faced (intrusive thoughts) but somehow it’s not working that much for hocd and I don’t know why

OCD and Anxiety is it possible to recover without therapy bc in nyc therapist are way too expensive and I’m a college student who sadly can not afford that

@@tyratunn8457 Each person is different. Sometimes it's tough to know what to do if you don't have all the skills and a plan.

Hi chris, let me tell you my ocd story and how I recovered. I can bet you my ocd was one of the worst ocd which totally drained me out of all happiness and energy. It started when I was in college , a thought of suicide just popped up in my mind. I never wanted to do that but the thought was so strong that I attached anxiety with that thought. Somehow I managed to sleep that night and thought it will not come the next day. But to my surprise next morning the very thought which came in my mind was that suicidal thought. My anxiety was so high that I could'nt think rationally. No one was there to tell me what it was. I was so scared , I started doing compulsions like whenever that thought pops in I started praying to God. I never knew it would make problem worse as instead of ignoring that thought I was paying attention to it and to get rid of anxiety I started praying. But you know that is a compulsion and compulsion only fuels up ocd. So my ocd started with self harm ocd after that it moved to harming others. I would have thoughts of killing my friends and parents. That was really horrible and scary . I knew I need to do something before it would turn me insane. Then I came across a term ERP which did miracles in my life. Your attention plays a great role in developing ocd. If you put your attention to any random thought then it will grow bigger in your life. Let's say if you have a sexual thought and you started googling that whether it is normal or not or if you will analyse it then it will become a ocd theme and you will get stuck in that loop. So the best thing is to ignore your thoughts. I know it's hard but believe me you can recover from any kind of ocd if you practise it long enough . Just don't give your attention to your intrusive thoughts. If they are coming just let them come. Keep yourself busy and let thoughts come in your mind. After some time your brain will learn and your thoughts will lose power. Do exercise, talk to friends, do cooking , anything which you want but don't put attention to your thoughts. I can bet you if you will practise it you will surely recover. Secret lies in not putting attention to your intrusive thoughts. Just accept all those thoughts and move on. I am still doing erp and believe me now I am much stronger and powerful than I was before. Now I know what ocd is and what I have to do. Believe me it has worked for everyone and it will work for you also. You will regain your old life where there was no fear and anxiety. Now i am enjoying my life again and you will also. It does'nt matter whether your ocd is 12 years old or 2 months old, it will recover. Believe me just do erp. Let me share a experience which I had few weeks ago and it made me a firm believer of erp. One day I was watching a movie and there I heard a word sex addict. After that thoughts related to sex started coming in my mind. My mind started to question if I am a sex addict . Now I knew how to handle it so instead of reacting with fear I replied to those thoughts that yes I am a sex addict and I moved on with some other work. And that thought completely vanished . So our attention plays a great role just don't give your attention to intrusive thoughts and in few days you will see your anxiety will drop and after few months you will completely recover. I know it is not easy. I also suffered a lot in beginning there were setbacks also but I kept moving . I kept disregarding those thoughts and now I can say that those thoughts don't bother me. I hope you will recover soon and if you need any help , you can message me here. It will be glad to help you ☺😊

@@mindpower421 did you do ERP on your own?

Hi, thank you for your advice. I will save it!

Just be unsure if it asks u a question just blatantly answer maybe,and for groinal responses do the same. But just be sure a spike might attack just do the same thing again.been doing it everyday ehh it kinda helps

I so relate! I feel weird without the anxiety sometimes, like is this true now cause i'm not anxious?

I struggle with this. Constantly rewinding 10 seconds, constantly missing things or worrying about doing it. Good news is, exposing yourself to this really helps! Don't rewind no matter how much you want to. Try deliberately NOT concentrating. Do something else whilst watching it. You'll find you don't need to hear every word or see everything. You'll recover.

@@gertrude_3735 Lately, I have been practicing it, and I have to say that it works. It is challenging, but it is worth it in the long run. You pointed out an important part, and that is not to concentrate on it. Well, as I've noticed, the more you repeat, the less info you get. Thanks for advice!

Thanks for sharing your experience. I can't give advice for your specific case but a lot of the time the exposure tends to be the opposite of what we think we should do. For instance, if my brain says my screen is too bright and will harm my eyes then I'll probably turn it brighter and maybe sit closer to it. 😃

OCD and Anxiety thank you sir - for helping us ❤️

OCD and Anxiety sir for how lond do i have to do this exposure until i get myself rid of this thought???

OCD and Anxiety lol that reads so masochistic and dark especially with the smiley face

Anoush Ibrahimi I think you have to just keep doing it until it goes away, however long it takes

Bro i am also from india. Let me tell you my ocd story and how I recovered. I can bet you my ocd was one of the worst ocd which totally drained me out of all happiness and energy. It started when I was in college , a thought of suicide just popped up in my mind. I never wanted to do that but the thought was so strong that I attached anxiety with that thought. Somehow I managed to sleep that night and thought it will not come the next day. But to my surprise next morning the very thought which came in my mind was that suicidal thought. My anxiety was so high that I could'nt think rationally. No one was there to tell me what it was. I was so scared , I started doing compulsions like whenever that thought pops in I started praying to God. I never knew it would make problem worse as instead of ignoring that thought I was paying attention to it and to get rid of anxiety I started praying. But you know that is a compulsion and compulsion only fuels up ocd. So my ocd started with self harm ocd after that it moved to harming others. I would have thoughts of killing my friends and parents. That was really horrible and scary . I knew I need to do something before it would turn me insane. Then I came across a term ERP which did miracles in my life. Your attention plays a great role in developing ocd. If you put your attention to any random thought then it will grow bigger in your life. Let's say if you have a sexual thought and you started googling that whether it is normal or not or if you will analyse it then it will become a ocd theme and you will get stuck in that loop. So the best thing is to ignore your thoughts. I know it's hard but believe me you can recover from any kind of ocd if you practise it long enough . Just don't give your attention to your intrusive thoughts. If they are coming just let them come. Keep yourself busy and let thoughts come in your mind. After some time your brain will learn and your thoughts will lose power. Do exercise, talk to friends, do cooking , anything which you want but don't put attention to your thoughts. I can bet you if you will practise it you will surely recover. Secret lies in not putting attention to your intrusive thoughts. Just accept all those thoughts and move on. I am still doing erp and believe me now I am much stronger and powerful than I was before. Now I know what ocd is and what I have to do. Believe me it has worked for everyone and it will work for you also. You will regain your old life where there was no fear and anxiety. Now i am enjoying my life again and you will also. It does'nt matter whether your ocd is 12 years old or 2 months old, it will recover. Believe me just do erp. Let me share a experience which I had few weeks ago and it made me a firm believer of erp. One day I was watching a movie and there I heard a word sex addict. After that thoughts related to sex started coming in my mind. My mind started to question if I am a sex addict . Now I knew how to handle it so instead of reacting with fear I replied to those thoughts that yes I am a sex addict and I moved on with some other work. And that thought completely vanished . So our attention plays a great role just don't give your attention to intrusive thoughts and in few days you will see your anxiety will drop and after few months you will completely recover. I know it is not easy. I also suffered a lot in beginning there were setbacks also but I kept moving . I kept disregarding those thoughts and now I can say that those thoughts don't bother me. I hope you will recover soon and if you need any help , you can message me here. It will be glad to help you ☺😊

@@mindpower421 Hi, i am glad you recovered from suicidal OCD. One of my compulsions is checking gas regulators to see if it's on or off. But after i turn off, and move just a meter away, i feel anxiety and again go to check the gas regulator. This goes on and on. My question is, what is erp for this? 1) after i close the regulator, move on and don't think about it. 2) turn on the gas regulator.

Yep. Here is my video using exposures with my child. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-axO7iveC9c0.html

Yes I do. I can practice in Texas and Utah. 😃

OCD and Anxiety I live in México. Would you be able to provide online therapy?

@@ocdandanxiety do you do online therapy I live in Poland 🙂

@@webtraveler0774 I can only provide therapy to those who live in the state I live in. You can check out my online course if you'd like. www.OCDandAnxietyOnline.com

@@ocdandanxiety thank you, I will check it out. Your videos are a God send, really refreshing to know new ways of tackling OCD.