Not too long ago, people started saying they are "on" self-improvement. But what does that even mean? Break away from binge watching self-improvement videos, and start taking action in my community: cole-hastings....
The “you are too hard on yourself” struck a cord for me and I feel like I have been for years to better myself financially but lately I’ve been taken it easy. Knowing what my limits are and having fun on my days off. I still have financial issues but I’m not letting that be the main focus of my day anymore. Thank you for this video my man!
I never saw your content as "self-improvement," per say, but rather content I watch for inner peace. All these gurus online prey on insecurities and sex drive so they can promote their courses. The more you watch their content, the more they leave your mental health in shambles, and in the end, you turn around and question what the hell you were even watching.
The problem we're facing here is that everyone is now speaking out as if they're a guru in the space and offering their own unique views which is adding more things to the ever expanding list of self improvement. As someone who's been one of the top mods in Hamza's self improvement server, I realised that so many of the young guys who were there weren't even actually improving themselves, they were more focused on just ticking some boxes that aligned with whatever the narrative of the influencer is. It's become the new coping mechanism for a lack of control and direction in life. A lot of the guys I saw there who would make a point of telling the world that they're doing "monk mode" day 4 million of no fap, take 7 cold showers a day and have learned how to eat lightbeams to optimise their health just sounds like another extremist view on the world which ironically, is the complete antithesis of what "self improvement" is about. It's a way of life, not a challenge or a course that you take for a while, it's meant to be a journey where one seeks to develop in the areas of their lives to become a better human. Also thank you Cole, I've also recently stepped into the videography space with cinematic b rolls just like you mentioned, I find that this is a course of expression that people who were tangled in that world of having to be this perfect curated person is breaking out of and looking to become more aligned with who they want to be deep down inside. I believe that's what self improvement is.
Well said. Self improvement often becomes a chase to tick ever more boxes, rather than figuring out what it is you really wanna do, and evolving into each new version of yourself over time
Who told u that self improvement is just checking boxes & that's it??? "Not really living..." - ?!? 🤨🙄 What? 🎉 Self improvement is about working on becoming the best version of yourself. After that u gonna feel more alive than ever before! 😊🎉
@@marie_84 Im referring to if you just do these things mechanically: wake up early, hit the gym, “meditate”, cold shower, etc without ever really thinking, “why?”. As if these absurd, apathetic activities are the secret concoction to “winning” in this blip of existence. As if these clockwork motions hold the juice of life. Obviously the typical self improvement routine can be a conduit to getting fit and starting to think about things in life in a mature way, which is good! But if you just do these bland activities with no actual desire (because you still have no purpose) without ever truly thinking about it they really make you happy, do they let you have fun, do they make you a more empathetic person, do they put you on the heroes journey of becoming and adventure, do they make you creative and look for the beauty of things, do they make you strive to affirm the real people in front of you and connect with others and forgive and love? Then there is no point. Your life will not be anymore lived before. That’s what I mean.
I've been watching your content for a while & am super happy that you've recently made this second channel to give your direct perspective and insights into topics in addition to your main channel content. "Self-Improvement" as a label is incredibly limiting. I consider you a video essayist & a pristine one at that, especially when talking about social issues and phenomena! Best of wishes to you & thanks for positively influencing my life! 💙
The way I see it, when you say you’re on “Self-improvement” you put this incredibly unnecessary burden on yourself to always be “improving”, which prevents you from enjoying the simpler aspects of life or even things that are just for fun such as video games or days out with friends, which ultimately destroys your fulfilment in life because you never give yourself a chance to just relax. I believe taking things slowly, allowing yourself to enjoy life and learn new things as you go along is the key to living a life you can be truly happy with rather than constantly needing to be “better”, which stops you from ever getting a proper chance to stop and smell the flowers, from enjoying the present moment. You end up chasing things like cold showers, nofap, money, women, journaling etc thinking that they will change your life when in reality, it’s the self discovery and reflection you get from living your life and learning from your mistakes is actually what truly helps you to improve. Take life at your own pace and figure out what works for you and who you are. That’s how you grow as a person, in my opinion.
I do sports, reading and all this stuff, before I even knew the word self-improvement. I am just enjoing doing this stuff. I love it this way and wouldnt say, I'm on self-improvement. Really enjoy, watching your content
This is very true ! Nowadays people carry self improvement like a jewel on their head. If you are into self improvement its better for you not for others so usually there is no point in telling it to others.
My takeaway from this is that it's more about becoming myself rather than improving myself. Self improvement for me hasn't helped my identity, and I suppose my quarter life crisis is because I was improving the wrong self idk.
I'm glad you're starting to come to those realizations. My videos aren't usually about telling you the answers, but rather, giving you the tools you need to help you find your own answers.
These days most of the self improvement stuff is BS like Andrew Tate etc either way especially with those overpriced ass courses besides most of it is just misogynistic towards women and trash
💯 great point. Obviously nuance to that (like if someone is being lazy all the time) but for those with a self improvement obsession they love to beat themselves up when they’re not optimizing every single day
Being on a self improvement journey means you are specifically focused on improving internally instead of using your resources to improve the world external to yourself.
I prefer personal development or just, “working on my habits”. Being “on self improvement” kinda makes it just sound like a trend or, like cope for not accepting yourself as a person, just my take before watching the video
In my perception, the label of being “on self improvement” feels ideologically encompassing for just becoming a better person, feeling like a pseudo religion of a sort. It gives direction and a higher power to exist for, being the greater future self, to which you can only know exists with faith. The different practices like meditation and cold showers as different forms of prayer, things like junk food and video games being sin/haram, nonfiction books being a library of different biblical texts, places like gyms as shrines and RU-vid channels as churches with the creators themselves as the priests. Getting baptised will cost you the price of a video call with X RU-vidr though… Take a look at Hamza with his cult. Jeffery vs Adonis as Devil vs God and the buzz cut being a circumcision... Also I think saying you’re “on self improvement” kind of implies in a way that you feel you need to improve and therefore you feel you aren’t good enough of a person, all perceived and judged in a split second from hearing it in a phrase and label. I think that’s why there’s distain for it.
I think if one is actually living as nature intended you are automatically “on self improvement”, it’s just not really mandatory anymore cus of desk jobs and uber eats
I think your thumbnail is going to turn off a lot of your target audience to this video. It contains an accusatory statement, which will make a lot of people feel attacked and put them into fight-or-flight mode, where they are no longer in an open state of mind to listen to a different opinion. It might get people to click on the video, but it won't get people to truly listen to what you have to say. 100% agree with your message, though!
I see "on self-improvement" akin to being _marketable_ , entering into the "self-improvement market". Either being on the _supply side_ by producing content, merch, motivation, validation, etc.; Or the consumer side which has its large demand (especially in young men) in today's society. Because of this, being "on"/"off" is like being in/out of this "market", but the thing is self-improvement is an ongoing thing in each of our personal lifestyle. The demand for self-improvement is always here ever since within each of us, it's just falling victim to capitalism and became _marketable_ nowadays imho.
Very well said, I couldn't agree more. People who create self improvement content and then speak like that all the time are definitely in it to market it to people.
the people who "are on self improvement" are like the ones who are "trying to be sum" but are just capping all the time; idk how else to better describe this lol.
I think i might get what you're saying. It's basically the people who try to appear like they're doing something with their lives, when in reality, they're doing a bunch of unneccesary stuff/movements?
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