Best Tip For Healthy Dating | Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke

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Discover God's better way for sex, dating, marriage, and love in our new book here: amzn.to/2tecrvz
Here's me and Alyssa each giving one piece of advice for a healthy dating relationship.
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Alyssa's new book: www.jeffbethke.com/alyssa
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Hope this video is an encouragement! Not making your boyfriend or girlfriend an idol, and communicating in 3 different ways are two tips we had for a healthy relationship that we've learned in the past (and still are learning today!).
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Email: jeffersonbethke@gmail.com
ALYSSA'S INFO
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Website: www.alyssajoy.me
Twitter: / alyssajoybethke
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Alyssa's Recommended Reading: ow.ly/hqhnr

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25 мар 2014

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@FishRFrenzNotFood 7 лет назад

The way she looks at him

@nathanielriesterer9103 7 лет назад

Your right! She genuine loves/likes him.

@lashondarochell7584 5 лет назад

The way she looks at him you know she loves and adore her husband! Wow How Awesome 💕💕💕

@melmel7011 3 года назад

The way he talks though, its like she isn't even there.... no eye contact

@laura9469 9 лет назад

I really needed to hear this. I am 21 years old and in college. Life is hard and confusing. I was raised a christian but never truly have known God or Jesus so when I went to college I let partying and bad relationships take over my life. You two are very encouraging to me, I have made mistakes in my past, especially with dating the wrong guys and giving my whole self to them but I want to have a Godly relationship like you two. Keep making these videos please because they really do help. I am trying harder to get to know God and I am amazed by how strong you guys' faith is.

@thesingdance101 9 лет назад

lol my pet peeve! When people say " God and Jesus " Jesus is God. Father, Son, Holy Spirit - God head three in one. Lol sorry. God bless you and Shalom! Jesus be with you sister

@judibon8207 8 лет назад

I know this is like almost a whole year later, but I hope things have gotten better for you. It's always so positive to hear of people wanting to draw nearer to God, through His Son, Jesus, because truly, life is meaningless without Him. Know that you are loved by God with an unfailing love and I pray that the peace of Christ and His everlasting love, would just completely fill your heart and embrace you.

@sniperrrish 8 лет назад

you have my support sister

@amymoen4269 9 лет назад

I think the love and admiration written all over her face for The man, Her man, that stands up for Christ and speaks for him says it all. It's nice whrn a woman doesn't have to speak because she can fully trust her man to say and do what is right. It's a relief really. Almost like he speaks straight from her heart and all she has to do is love and support him. Awesome stuff!

@priscillanieto3322 10 лет назад

The first thing you said Jeff really touched me to the core. I was sexually assaulted as a teen & now my boyfriend of over a year has helped me overcome so many things. But sometimes I forget that he's not the one that can calm my anxiety, that he can't always be there to help me feel ok in social situations, etc...you Jeff have helped me learn that God is what's going to ultimately heal me, not just a really awesome guy!

@kirkduran88 8 лет назад

this channel is such a blessing.

@FarAwayDistance 9 лет назад

You guys are both so awesome!! :) I love how much you both love the Lord!

@y-wm 10 лет назад

I just love how Jeff is saying "uhu hmm" after everything that Alyssa said while she was just quiet and listened at what he had to say. haha(:

@watchshortiego 10 лет назад

I LOVE the dating series videos. These are keeping my perspective of dating Christ-driven and focused, which is the best way for any relationship to start. Thank you for sharing!

@JeffersonBethkepage 10 лет назад

NEW VIDEO!!

@21777Alex 10 лет назад

YEA

@Finesomtoe 10 лет назад

Thanks for the video Jeff, are we going to see any spoken word from you soon? Love these, love those as well.

@RomoDosOnce 10 лет назад

Thank you!

@tabithamoody6766 10 лет назад

amazing as always!!!

@jessetrionfo1281 10 лет назад

Hey Jeff it's Jesse from YFC impact

@misssass7886 8 лет назад

My church only just posted your "Why I hate religion but love Jesus" video this morning and it's the first time I've heard of you guys. Three hours later and a lot of putting off errands until tomorrow and I am hooked! You guys are such a beautiful couple in Christ and in the short space of time I've been watching your videos - you have already being enlightening me with your teachings! You guys have a true gift and are a blessing at giving His message. This lesson in particular I think is very important to me, coming from an extremely unhealthy relationship before I accepted Jesus into my heart and now being unwilling to enter another from my experience - this is a hopeful kind of thing to take into account for the future. Absolutely amazing, you guys! Really really enjoying your videos! God Bless!

@TyAngel50 8 лет назад

He is doing the youth ministry at LifeChurch right now.

@purepwnge1 9 лет назад

You guys make a beautiful couple. I think it's by the grace of God that beautiful couples exist.

@bobcat1939 10 лет назад

this series is very inspiring you guys are such a blessing

@Tanjman_ 8 лет назад

I was totally not expecting that voice to come out of that woman

@MegaCadette55 8 лет назад

Lol why?

@nanyummyify 5 лет назад

@@MegaCadette55 Alyssa's voice is super high lol it seems like her voice would be deeper but it's not.

@troymcdivitt7569 5 лет назад

@@nanyummyify her voice is cute

@missmcphee8859 5 лет назад

Haha same

@nunnyabizznizz6281 8 лет назад

I really love that Triangle Example lol soooo goood

@kathrynlis3158 10 лет назад

I want to thank you guys for doing these videos. I don't have a church that I can attend and feel as though I'm growing in my faith, but watching your videos and applying what I learn to my faith and other aspects of my life have been honestly so helpful. Listening to your words and reading through the bible as a story more than anything else has helped me so much on my walk. And I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this. I had so many bad things happen that left me broken that I thought I was to broken to ever be loved and when I was pushed from my old church it made me belive that if church people can't love me who can but you taught me I was looking in the wrong place and now that my faith has grown I have been blessed that now I'm in a healthy relationship with God and with my boyfriend who has been growing with me watching you guys. I honestly can't say thank you enough God bless K

@anay90flores 9 лет назад

I love your videos and how you guys explain everything! God bless your marriage!! You're such a blessing for a lot of people...

@DezerayCherel 10 лет назад

This video is seriously SOOOO encouraging and oddly specific to my relationship right now. So good and I hope you two realize how much of a light your wisdom and encouragement is to us viewers. Keep up the awesome vids(:

@paviapenn 10 лет назад

Great video! I would really like it if you guys did a video on fears and doubts. Alyssa briefly mentioned them but it would be good if she expanded on what to do when they do arise and how to better prepare when you do have a conflict with the person! Also, I want to hear Alyssa speak even more!! She's awesome

@jennifere6192 10 лет назад

Love the triangle analogy.

@Drumwannabe17 10 лет назад

Love these videos by you guys. You definitely provide encouragement for me in looking for a Godly relationship in the future. Keep up the great work guys.

@tatsukisan 10 лет назад

I get so excited when I see a new video on my subscriptions page from youu! Jeff, you and Alyssa are so amazing and so encouraging. :) will be donating to your funds page soon!

@Aisabbff 10 лет назад

Alyssa's voice is so cute 😋

@WXAM10 10 лет назад

The first quote Jeff talked about is from Lecrae's "Free from it All". Love that lyric as it applies to many situations outside of dating as well.

@ShannySteve 10 лет назад

"If you live for someones praise, you die for their rejection." Wow. Pretty powerful.

@mariahconklin3765 9 лет назад

Yep. I agree with this. I'm not going to date someone and then lose myself in them. I'm actually really happy being single. Turning to God for things, finding my hope, peace and love in him. Lovely video. I always learn so much from you so thanks!

@mentusanarih 9 лет назад

Wish I would've remembered Alyssa's advice in this video sooner - my boyfriend and I struggled with a lot of unspoken doubts, and by God's grace we're working them out, but I completely forgot Alyssa had already covered that here! Amazing!

@user-ln6pu7kq9j 10 лет назад

Hey I remember the triangle analogy! It been one that's stuck with me BTW you guys are a beautiful Christian couple :) You're both so real and down to earth, you don't put on a fake perfect front and that's what I love about you both. Thanks for the godly advice you both constantly bring :)

@LuzkLT22 8 лет назад

I love this, this videos! They're amazing and I'm really happy that you two take the time to share this important stuff with us. I needed to know this, and I'll always need to keep it in mind, so thank you.

@brittanygruden7874 9 лет назад

I love this! I am so glad my friend brought me to your videos! I recently broke up with my first serious boyfriend of 4 years...and your videos are so helpful and inspiring. it is eye-opening to hear you say these things, because you don't even realize it when you are the one in the equation. thank you!!!

@ultrajordan07 10 лет назад

always leaving hyped as ever after watching your vids.

@zdestes 10 лет назад

What Jefferson does during Alyssa's talk (hmm, mhmm) is hilarious. Great video. Thank y'all!

@ericamcleod4948 8 лет назад

I would just like to say thank you these videos are so helpful and so informative and you and your wife are an absolute inspiration

@nessa3225 10 лет назад

I'm so glad I saw this video I can't tell you how much this answered my prayers as to why I'm still trying to get over my ex. Love you guys I pray that you guys continue to do what yall do. :)

@chinagrisel15 10 лет назад

Your relationship looks and sounds healthy. I hope the day I get marry I can have the same healthy relationship.

@krushervince 10 лет назад

Thank you for this Jeff and Alyssa. Really needed this one after doing a tough decision that I did. Holiness first before happiness. Jesus is our everything.

@vamprisshawna 10 лет назад

I've never thought about dating this way EVER. But it seems so smart and mature and in some ways beyond my understanding. I'd really like to give it a try.

@CalebWoon 7 лет назад

My 3rd video and my views on dating have changed dramatically! Love this Channel! God Bless you both!

@h3ll0g0rg30us423 10 лет назад

I thought your shirt said I'd rather be drinking. Apparently there was more to it. Lol!

@akominarazaki 9 лет назад

I went on a little marathon of your videos tonight, because I've been particularly struggling with a lot, especially regarding a relationship I'm in. I just wanted to say though that you both are such a blessing, and just keep doing what you're doing :) I'm someone who struggles with being stubborn, prideful, and depressed, but your videos are helping to bring me down back to a humble level and to stop running/hiding from God. So thank you :)

@vickac 10 лет назад

You two are amazing. This is exactly what I needed to hear in my situation right now. God bless you two, you're wise beyond your years.

@stephaniemutter31 10 лет назад

Thank you both for you ministry- has been a huge blessing in my life!

@kaylasmith4 10 лет назад

You guys are truly a blessing! Love these videos!!

@equiamatores 8 лет назад

I'd love to hear alyssa singing! I just love her voice! Great video, great people, GREAT GOD ❤️

@bennysmiley 10 лет назад

You always kill it...thanks again for your wisdom. God bless you

@mariejanellemoore8089 7 лет назад

You guys are awesome. I watched these videos when I was single and now I'm in a relationship with a great man of God. Watching these videos now is quite different from when I was single, but I'm so glad you guys made these videos! I look at both of you as my mentors

@beeanca13 10 лет назад

Such amazing words of wisdom! Definitely teaching me something. Love u guys!

@youcancallmedin 10 лет назад

Thank you for sharing! I've been struggling this last week.

@jomedi7 10 лет назад

This could NOT have come at a better time for me. Seriously, thank you so much. Ya'll are great

@jessicaraboin2947 9 лет назад

This video has really convicted me-- thanks Jeff & Alyssa!

@ImFreakenHawtxoxo 9 лет назад

He makes some good points. God first, don't dedicate yourself to something importantly unless it's the Lord himself

@kimberlyestrada14 4 года назад

Watching this years later, thank you! learned a lot!!

@ajbrown641 9 лет назад

Thank you for the inspiration and advice on your perception of a healthy relationship. It helped me to understand a bit more about my very own relationship. Bless.

@veronikachovancova1126 8 лет назад

Alyssa looks like Kate Middleton to me ♥

@kathrynmiller3277 10 лет назад

Just love you guys! thank you for allowing the King to use you all to help others! I love all of you all's videos.

@ethapasaribu 8 лет назад

I wish u both write book about dating. So blessed by ur videos! :D

@sierrawoods 8 лет назад

This video really meant a lot to me, thank both of you so much.

@Lovelyyaly 6 лет назад

i have your books and i have learned so much about relationships!! God bless you guys

@mrslaura6615 10 лет назад

I loved this. My son will be turning 16 this August and will be allowed to start dating, so I want to add this to my fave vids to show to him when that time comes. Thanks for sharing guys :)

@themanwomengirlboy 10 лет назад

ROFL . Highly doubt your son will be getting any

@jazzyalmond 9 лет назад

I too enjoy this video! He is making some good points! I never thought about the triangle! God on the top as we both focus on him it brings the relationship closer wow!

@Itsgorgejess 10 лет назад

Thanks for sharing this! Definitely an eye opener

@nickmartinez1421 3 года назад

That triangle analogy is perfect! Thanks guys

@Ozzie_Gonzalez 10 лет назад

Thanks so much guys I really need to hear this!

@ShowCareMtlQc 8 лет назад

Nice tips. I feel it is really about regularly renewing your intentions, make sure your intentions are set right in order to pull you toward succeeding in your Mariage.

@sarahrooney2786 9 лет назад

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years now & I found this video very helpful, thank-you!!

@rabeccamwila1314 2 года назад

Needed this!!💙

@mayramata66 10 лет назад

This was really good advice im new to this channel and I love it all please keep it up..thanks again

@sjtherage 10 лет назад

Y'all are so sweet! I love this!

@OliviaAshcraft 10 лет назад

Really loving this series! Y'all are such an adorable couple. :) I'd love to hear any advice y'all have for people whom have never dated or are in a time of singleness. Thank you, and God bless!

@hawktower12 10 лет назад

5:53 - Too funny Jeff! lol. Great video by the way.

@caitlins4114 9 лет назад

I think Jefferson needs to chill with the coffee

@nirinasoarahaingoniaina4843 7 лет назад

Amen,thank you guys for sharing.May God bless your relationship and may it keep glorifying Him

@frederiklikesgames6481 9 лет назад

Thank you, watched all your videos, your one of my main life inspirations

@chaidet19 10 лет назад

How to deal with conflict in the relationship and maintain a healthy relationship. And tips on dealing with arguments or disagreements in a healthy manner while putting God first. Even along the lines of controlling your temper and holding back words that will only hurt the other person. You both are an amazing inspiration thank you! :)

@Kenziepuff 10 лет назад

I appreciate your channel so much. I love that you and Alyssa are so confident in each other and the Lord also, and that you admit your faults and use them to give advice we can all learn from instead of acting "holier than thou". Keep up the amazing work you two and congratulations on baby Bethke :)

@chibaby0306 10 лет назад

soo true!!! Love it! God bless you guys!!

@briannabrown2778 10 лет назад

Thank you guys for being real:) God bless you

@beccaann6866 9 лет назад

such great people! we need more people like this on RU-vid.

@DustinHarms 10 лет назад

Such great stuff to hear right now. So thankful for their videos and wisdom! Timing is also pretty great. =)

@faith9644 6 лет назад

Thank you, needed to hear this!

@joemessmer5037 10 лет назад

awesome guys thanks! I like the triangle example a lot very cool. appreciate y'all :)

@pripankratzfantin5397 10 лет назад

God bless you guys! Love your videos. With love from Brazil!

@jordanyschmidt3348 6 лет назад

This video helped so much, thank you guys!

@JohnyBaldman 8 лет назад

Wow else words are exactly what my girlfriend and I need to hear. Thank you so much.

@skip4joy 10 лет назад

Love y'all! These videos help a lot

@austinburke6035 10 лет назад

hahaha you cant see the "coffee" underneath drinking on his shirt. Funny stuff.

@connersteensma3051 7 лет назад

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!!!!! Great work

@natecrews1172 8 лет назад

Awesome! Although your shirt tripped me out for a minute 😂

@faiscamutiara 9 лет назад

love this video!!! thanks for sharing this one....so blessed :)

@mrmookase93 10 лет назад

Love the relationship videos, keep it up!

@carlychitwood4135 10 лет назад

Thank you, these help so much

@yolavisthictaylor1706 10 лет назад

I was just sharing this same wisdom in a group discussion the other day. Glad to listen to like minded individuals. #itsnotjustme

@mfgunit 7 лет назад

I love your metaphor of cultivating plants after they sprouted as very similar to relationships. I had a revelation about sin recently when I was pulling the weeds off my brick sidewalk (where as weeds recently sin in one's life) - its so easy to pluck little weeds(sin) when they didn't take deep root, but once the weeds(sin) matures, it the roots sink into the soil and it takes a lot more force to remove mature weeds(sin).

@rachkilgore2013 8 лет назад

I have been going back and forth in a very hard and emotional relationship, and letting go of something that you've tied yourself to is so hard. Hearing the tips, the love of God, and encouragement you guys have really helps me to feel at ease as I'm attempting to get over a broken relationship and seek God. Thank you so much. God bless your family. I hope I find someone that can give me the love and strength you guys give each other and has the desire to run towards God.

@judibon8207 8 лет назад

Thank you so much for sharing your struggles, which so many of us can relate to. I pray that you would experience the incomparable love and peace of Christ, and that you would learn each day to become more and more satisfied in God, in His goodness and in His everlasting love for you. I pray that You would delight in Him above all else, prize Him above all else and treasure Him more than anything because, there is actually nothing worth more than Jesus. This is so not easy to do. There will be so many difficult days. But as God's children, we're all in this together, and above all, the Holy Spirit lives and He will strengthen us, help us, encourage us and comfort us.

@BeforeTheShipSank 8 лет назад

I love you guys! This was really helpful.

@tomelliott7793 3 года назад

Grateful for your content. Thank you

@thresiacasanova1573 10 лет назад

Was that a Walk In Love. sweatshirt? Yay for Lancaster County! Great video once again.

@PinkPearledGirl 10 лет назад

Wonderful video! I am a Christian, but I feel as though pieces of this video could even pertain to an atheist in the dating realm concerning communication not only between the two people in the relationship, but also communicating with trusted people around them. Thanks again for another wonderful video! And congratulations on the beautiful new baby girl Kinsley! One last thing, I just wanted to say Alyssa has beautiful eyes!! Thanks again!

@outdoorsman090 9 лет назад

awesome advice i see a lot of my self in those mistakes :) hahah thanks a ton!

@nathanherbert8889 10 лет назад

Hey! First thing I love your videos! Second thing I was curious if you could do a video about like how to make sure your relationship is healthy and if it's not what should you do to make it healthy or should you break up? :)