Thank you this video. Almost 12 years for me now but like you said..I didn't work on me. I pushed it down and cried at night. I miss me and my hobbies. So I will work on me now and put that horrible memory in the grave where it belongs. I appreciate the push in the right direction!
I'll never recover. The amount of Christians I was surrounded by who were lying and deceiving me over decades is unbelievable. The person I could/should have been will never exist. The way the Bible was weaponized against me is unbelievable and inexcusable. That being said, this a great video. I'm glad you are able to help others survive and even overcome life's damages.
I'm sorry to hear that you have been betrayed in such a way. Your pain and trauma from this is real. Despite what has happened, you can still get healing and support for yourself. If you're interested, you can contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center to get scheduled with one of our therapists to help you process what happened and move forward in healing and life. Call 719-278-3708 to get started.
wow as a Christian, i would like to apologize in behalf of those Christians who betrayed you. they bear Christianity by name but live in a way that totally violates their self-proclaimed beliefs.
I have been married for 23 years to a man who is an intimacy Anorexic. The videos I have watched explaining my feelings have made me cry tears of pain and relief. The fact that you understand exactly what I’m going through and have described everything in detail is both upsetting and relieving. Recently, I suffered a huge betrayal due to my husband hitting what for him can be described as rock bottom. He is now on board for work and change. I’m not sure if it’s real or not. I feel I have been playing tug of war with a demon for 23 years fighting to pull my husband from the coldness and darkness. I would succeed only for him to slowly sink back into it and my battle would start over again. I am depleted. He says he believes me now that a demon had it’s talons in him. What if I’m too tired and depleted to do the hard work required to save myself? I saved him so many times. And, then when I do, I feel like garbage. Why am I not valuable enough for him to fight for me. Why was I the one to beg and plead when it was him doing everything he could to cause me pain? Why isn’t my strong manly man ever able to save me. Why did I have to be the fierce warrior who fought such difficult battles to save our marriage? I’m depressed, full of anxiety, full of deep pain and emptiness, etc etc. For once I need to be saved. I need to rest. How can I possibly start another battle for myself??? I’m shattered. I’m broken.
I'm sorry that you have had to struggle with this all of these years. Your strength and patience is commendable. Your pain and trauma from this is valid. One thing to remember though, is that he has to be willing to change and get better. If he doesn't choose to do so, things will stay the same. I don't know if you have already, but if you haven't, you may want to consider counseling and getting with a support group. It is important for you to get healing for yourself and to have a good community of encouragement. They can help you process this and help guide you on where to go from here. You can do this locally or you can call us at 719-278-3708 and we can help get you started. Here's also our Married & Alone support groups: www.drdougweiss.com/married-and-alone-group/ facebook.com/groups/MarriedandAlone/
@@DrDougWeiss thank you so much. It seems he has truly opened his eyes and taken full responsibility. He has been watching your videos. We ordered the video downloads for Intimacy Anorexia, completed them, and he is currently working on the workbook. I am going to order the Married and Alone books/dvds. I also called to get info on the intensives. You have already helped so much. I’m hopeful that our marriage will be better than ever. I am grateful to have my husband back.
@@brandyglenn5999 how long did this take? I has been a month ago you were feeling bad and then you have responded in this comment stating everything is wonderful, I’m so happy for you ! I really am but it very hard to believe ! 🙏🏼💕
thank u so much Doc for the efforts u’ve put into this service helping ppl heal. Just want u to know that this world needs these messages soooo much. Please never stop sharing. 🙏🏻
I came here because I wanted to learn more about betrayal trauma, but in my case, infidelity has nothing to do with it. It was other people I thought I could count on that betrayed me.
Yeah, I've been through that too. Grew up with a crowd of girlfriends in school who all stabbed me in the back. Cut them out of my life after realising that I couldn't take it anymore. Now I'm here because my husband had an affair. I hope you can recover and go forward. Betrayal in any mean or form is horrendous. The trauma is longlasting sometimes and really painful. Hugs from Sweden 🌹
@@Bumbledora Thank you so much! People don't realize it when they're young, the effects of such behavior. Now as an adult, I've come to realize, some people never grow up. As for me, it's my siblings. Sorry to hear about your ex. We just have to take things one day at a time, meditate, and take good care of ourselves. Liebe Grüße aus Wien
I have an autoimmune disease and that made me withdraw from my husband physically and I that's my guilt. However, I didn't really notice it since we were intimate every now and then ans he didn't say anything. Instead of communicating to me that he felt our marriage was turning to only friendship, he had an affair for over 3 yrs. Of course, after really talking since I caught him (them) he told me all about that and put the whole blame on me. It has taken until pretty much now for him to acknowledge that what he did was wrong. For me, well, it still hurts but I'm taking one day at the time. Thanks for sharing 🌹
I was in a four-year mostly good relationship with a fearful avoidant. On expressing deep feelings for me, he began to pull away, eventually monkey branching to another. He even tried to gaslight me by minimizing the relationship. He wanted me to remain as a friend. I declined and let him go without tears or drama. I am a mostly secure person with minor avoidant tendencies myself. I have spent the year healing and moving on with my life. I am emotionally and mentally tough so I didn't believe a word of his bs. Never again. (Besides, I worked as a therapist before retirement).
The first thing is to know where to go. When I first learned of the betrayal, I had nowhere to go. You are just barely really addressing this head on, so far as any other means I've seen. My question now is how do people like me go about getting help when they're been financially destroyed as well?
I'm sorry to hear that you have been hurt deeply by this and it is indeed frustrating. Even with a lack of finances, there is still help and resources available. You can check to see if there are any local church or community support groups that you can connect with. We do have several free Facebook groups that you can join, depending on your situation: www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/ We also have free YouVersion Bible Studies to check out: www.bible.com/reading-plans/19776 www.bible.com/reading-plans/21707 On our channel, you get a lot of encouragement and guidance on the path towards healing from our RU-vid playlists: on the path towards healing. Partners of Sex Addicts: ru-vid.com/group/PLoQAJVqvxAfhsJ4ZjRG2r_RifMsTfQOrd Partner Betrayal Trauma: ru-vid.com/group/PLoQAJVqvxAfjgl9SSfc4M6JBr97Nfx8yV Prayers and Encouragement For Betrayed Wives: ru-vid.com/group/PLoQAJVqvxAfib9_spNIPeADZJQ1Xx1awi You might find the Partner Betrayal Trauma book useful as it was written to validate your experience: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ You can also have your library order our Partner Betrayal Trauma books for you.
I have a playlist of videos where I interview the creator of the neuromodulation, going more into detail on how it more and its overall benefits: ru-vid.com/group/PLoQAJVqvxAfhVriFmNzyJFuI09_jPF3Qj My staff would also be happy to answer any questions about the neuromodulation program by contacting our office at 719-278-3708.
Your feelings are valid. You don't have to continue to live this way though. By getting encouragement and support for yourself, you can start to heal and move forward in life. If you're interested in connecting with a therapist who specializes in partner betrayal trauma, you can call Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708. You can also check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook, which might be helpful for you. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/ We have a Partners support group you can join as well. You are not alone in this. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
Partner betrayal trauma is an issue that both men and women suffer with. If you're interested, we have several RU-vid videos, along with a playlist that addresses how men can experience these issues. You can check them out here: ru-vid.com/group/PLoQAJVqvxAfhtNr1iU_Ce4EXYpp-ylC-l If you need support or help on these matters, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 to book an appointment with one of our certified therapists.
