@@zacstephens8106 I don’t think he bashes women…I think he just dumps on shtttty people. Now obviously he makes a lot of jokes, he’s a comedian lol but he does that with literally everything, not just women. I’m just talking about when he’s giving advice(and being serious) I think he’s pretty good at distributing the blame to wherever it belongs. Although, you could definitely say that the whole Bill Burr…kind of being known for bashing on women(even though it’s usually just him goofing around, being funny) is something he certainly plays up at times.
I just had a major breakthrough with this. I recently turned down multiple people who constantly expect me to help them and share with them. Some of them tried throwing a tantrum about it and I just smiled and walked away and was like "You're not automatically entitled." I yesterday said no to 3 people I usually always say yes to and when they were like "why?" I was just like "I don't want to." I'm proud of myself. I'm not going to be greedy and I will still share once in awhile and be helpful once in awhile, but I'm fucking done always saying yes to my friends.
Im so with you on this one, recently i demanded payback from my friend for my "friendly favor" i've been doing for him for a few months.Man it feels good to stand up for yourself,kind of feels like being a dick at first but i then realize its just not bending over backwards to please others.
I empathize with this. The worst thing you can do to a child is raise them to run away and tell a teacher then they get bullied. Standing your ground and fighting if necessary to bullies is one of the best character developers out there and it needs to happen at a young age to help with self esteem and confidence in one’s self. My mother raised me the opposite and it’s ruined me as a person.
I used to be a real people pleaser because I thought it was the only way people would like me. In reality, it just made them see me as a total b**ch. I’ve made progress by working on my anxiety. I’m less anxious in those situations and the “sure whatever you say” disappears with it. There are still moments however. It’s a work in progress
I’m dealing with the same issue right now. Sadly enough, I haven’t always been worried about the way I’m perceived by others. My anxiety/depression increased after college when I found myself working a shit job, living with a girlfriend I knew I was no longer in love with and finding myself isolated from friends for the first time to the point where I stayed way too long in a bad relationship only because of co dependence… Things got better after I finally was enough of a miserable prick that she broke up with me, which forced me to start seeking pussy again for the first time in way too many years. Unfortunately, I have a tendency to catch strong feelings strictly for the most dented of cans and ended up dating this chick who I was crazy about, but ended up leaving me all messed up due to her mental instability. Between feeling like I still have no true career fulfillment or trajectory, being laid off during Covid, having no strong social safety net with close friends either being busy with their own wives and kids, and family living far away, it becomes really difficult to find ways to build meaningful relationships in life whether it be friends or dating. Living in America, especially during a time when people are focused on class inequality for the first time since the red scare, yet not being able to translate those frustrations into making changes in their social lives makes for everyone being super confused and anger in their interpersonal daily interactions. It’s like, a good percentage of people understand now they’ve been subconsciously trained their entire lives into being super focused on hyperindividualism; they hate feeling that way, realizing it leaves them feeling lonely and isolated, yet they can’t shake off the social conditioning and end up basketcases like myself writing into RU-vid comments threads what I should be telling a therapist. No matter how much I hate it, I still walk around and end up where every dude on the street talking with some PAWG in booty shorts is nothing more than competition for pussy and wages, and all that’s felt is hatred that he gets to get blown in their car ride home and I get to pretend I don’t wish she was excited to jump on my dick instead… Things have got so crazy, we’ve actually ended up with a disturbing large legion of fuckin men who’ve just been driven to moonbat insanity levels from pussy deprivation to the point where they voluntarily identify to other people as “hello, my name is ____, I’m an involuntary celebrant”. This is the most confusing class of mentally unwell individuals who I believe deserve universal healthcare more than any other oppressed minorities. I mean Christ all mighty, why? What are you hoping to achieve by engaging with other fucking no pussy getttin dweebs and participating in like weird frenology type studies where you think the variable longitude of your jaw structure subtracted by the square root of your mandible to the power of 2= the scientific reason by you’ll never, ever, eeeever get your dick sucked by any living female on the planet (sex workers cross the street when they see an incel, they are universally loathed). As much as I’m their “target recruit” with being at a low point in my life’s journey, perhaps it’s my ability to retain like 1 ounce of self awareness that keeps me immune from their tempting offer of being forever ridiculed by everyone while remaining desperate for pussy that will never be sent to your rescue. Maybe they have to target guys that are literally Steve Carrell in 40 yr old virgin going on forums talking about sweet sandbag titties, and having had prouder times in my life, I still remember giving up on pussy is not the way to attract females? All this being said, I feel like they accidentally do get some parts correct about what’s fucked up with today’s pursuit of the American single and looking to get laid ladies of the land. However, these forecasts are not correct as a result of their cuckold ancient frenology mathematics of the the jawline, but more of a product of the capitalist market. Chicks all claimto hate being labeled hypergamous (fav term of incel cuckuntiy) and interested only in dating for looks and financial stability, only to then figure out 3 yrs into marriage their ex himbo no longer aesthetically attractive husband has no personality and refuses to learn how to eat pussy the way that makes them cum. They so often unintentionally self meme themselves despite their best efforts in living in pursuit of their own best interests, away from the goals of collectivism. It’s almost as though some of these girls try so desperately to be different, unique and the type of chick that keeps a man loyal, has every friend want to be like her, pretends to hate that all her boyfriends friends tell him how they’d love to get 5 minutes with her because its nice yo pretend sexist comments can’t be flattering simultaneously… Hmmm…it’s almost like they all end up having the same vision for individualistic success just like dudes in this fucked up society. I wonder why it is then that we have ended up with half of marriages ended in difficult divorce proceedings in less than a couple years and these events becoming so commonplace they end up satirized on tv sitcoms to the point where people severely emotionally damaged by the collapse of marriage when being cheated on or having their husband/wife fall out of love or whatever end up feeling like the punch line of a joke with no where to turn to with their grief until they end up drinking coffee at 6am AA meetings somewhere in the desert, having no contact with their kids in 16 years. The American Dream needs to have a sleep pattern adjustment…something…I mean, I literally speak once weekly with a licsence therapist; it’s been over a year of therapy each week and I’ve felt more emotionally unblocked listening to a 11 min Bill Burr segment on mental health than the culmination of all my time with a paid pro. Uhgh..ok, I’m good…goodnight boys and ladies.
I would love to have a therapist who randomly but an entirely sarcastically yells aggressive remarks to his wife in the background based on what we're talking about.
I was the same way when I was younger. I got older and became more bold and vocal, standing up for myself. What I learned is that now that I speak up, it comes out wrong, and I sound like a asshole instead. Guess I just don’t know how to do it properly. Can’t win.
I would advice the guy who is being treated like a doormat to read "Boundaries". It has a lot of Christian verses since the writers are Licensed Christian psychologists. You can disregard the verses if you are not a believer, the content is still incredibly helpful. I grew up in a Christian household and I know how manipulative family members and the Christian church can be by using bible verses to instill fear. So the book debunks a lot of harmful bible verses interpretations the church has been using for decades to manipulate people. Anyway, it order to place boundaries, you first have to understand how you got there. You have to understand the psychology of it. Fear or rejection, anger and abandonment is what keeps people from placing boundaries. Fear of making people mad or losing relationships. Fear or guilt, shame, embarrassment. However once you understand you can't control how people react and that at the end you are gonna be the one dealing with the consequences of not placing boundaries, then it's easier to start placing them, little by little. It takes time, patience and effort.
There have been many cases where cops jumped a fence then killed the dog for attacking. They had no business being on the property. It can be done yes,a decent hacker can do it
If you can be charged with a felony for shooting a police dog, you should potentially be charged with murder for shooting someone’s dog. EQUAL justice.
I found easiest way was to snap one day and become irritable with everyone. I still genuinely want to help people who need help, but now the second someone tries to take advantage by being a c*nt. I let my inner C*nt go free and let them have it.
I'm not a large or even a particularly tough guy. But if I'm 160 pounds that's like 50 pounds heavier than the largest dog you'll ever encounter. So I'm pretty confident I could ragdoll that sucker off me. Sure, he might take a chunk out of my arm but we both live.
It never ends. You learn to stand up for yourself then feel guilty for doing so since everyone's expected be the living embodiment of a Bruce Lee quote.
How about the ability of the Plane Manufacturers to manipulate the plane mid flight. Like the ability to interfere and steer Cars (and yes Tesla and other manufacturers are able to do it).
I have a room full of spitting cobras. Police enter my house unannounced or unwelcome my snakes will introduce their nature. My dogs are for the outside perimeter, mostly. I don't break the law but if I did it would be a bitch trying to get at me.
Talking to a professional helps you identify why you do it, and you’ll both work on a strategy to overcome it when it happens. There’s a misconception that talking to a professional involved sitting around moping about your problems, and it’s simply not true. Do it and get it out of your way when you’re young. If you tell the person “I think I’m a pushover, and I want to stop” then they can work with that. Understanding WHY is a necessary step in forgiving yourself, then you can focus on the HOW without beating yourself up. Then you’ll feel unstoppable like there’s nothing you can’t handle, and you’re able to set stricter boundaries with people
Along with robots advice. Remember therapists are ppl to. Some suck if one doesn't help you find another. As a kid I had issues and it took five till I found one I respected. Just work on it.(I had the opposite problem bullying caused me to try and murder the other kids... Not a good response to bullying either. Thankfully a TA or a teacher or custodian was always near enough to save the other kids. So can't say I didn't hurt anyone but no one died heh.
@@alexklein455 people smell weakness. You’re body language could be something they’re picking up on. Work on your posture, walk and especially eye contact to show you’re comfortable in your own skin.
Comedians with podcast should workout a little bit of their material on the show. It wouldn't ruin your specials and it would make fans feel like they are a part of it. Plus I can imagine a few ways to make some money from it along the way. Win win
There was a time when I was somewhat of a pushover but then the movie 'Me, myself and Irene came out and I had an epiphany and I became a new man. 🤔😬😬😬😬
For me, I worked at youth correction faculty for 5 years. Where you can't afford to be nice. Eventually after getting roasted time and time again. I learn to shit talk better than any of them. And understood in my personal life. that if standing up for myself hurts people that much. Then its a parasitic relationship and need to cut ties or at least set strict boundaries.
