@@billycostigan1247 a woman in that age is past any form of “saving myself.” So that means either she’s not into you or not into sex at all. And that’s a red flag.
@@piperian3962 ah ok. I thought thered some other weird issue. But yeah its most likely shed rather not have sex then sleep with her man, or shes cheating
That’s my ex.. 4 years of abstinence and her constantly looking through my phone to make sure I wasn’t cheating or watching porn. (I never once even came close to cheating). I couldn’t spend the night with her because of course that would be living together and “you shouldn’t do that until you’re married.” Here’s the punchline, before we started dating, she slept with another woman’s man. And the best part is, she kept sleeping with this man for 6 MONTHS even though she knew he was in a relationship with someone else. Fast forward to our last day together after just over 4 years, she says I’m sorry but we need to break up and a week later she’s spending the night at some pilot’s house 200 miles away. Interesting stuff huh?
I mean, not to rain on your parade but relationships are worth pursuing for a lot of reasons. The horror stories are awful but if you’re just honest with what you’re looking for, you will be in a good place to navigate a relationship.
@@Jackaroo. In today's day and age, with women really embracing their nature more than ever and divorce rates higher than even? Yeah I'll stick to one night stands.
@@airraverstaz And then guys like you want to cry about the male suicide rate. You realize humans have evolved to need stable romantic relationships, and denying that is just going to lead to more sad, lonely men? Sounds like you just want to drag everyone down with you.
@@Natharsus because I'm trying to tell the guy he think that he shouldn't get trust issues listening to this because the only people writing in have a problem so you don't learn about all the people without problems. Difficult concept to grasp isnt it
I'm pretty sure it's meant as "if you had a gun to your head forcing you to make a choice between these two hypothetical scenarios that'll never happen, which one would you choose?" Cause you know often people to shitty choices like this, instead of having fun with it, respond with like "I don't wanna choose, they're both shitty, leave me alone"
She’s using him for something, either money, stability or whatever there isn’t any love or sexual attraction on her part. If she bragged about the ex she’s still into him, He just probably wouldn’t marry her and she wanted to be married.
What makes it worse is she expecting financial support even after all of that. It MIGHT be okay if love wasn’t a factor and the agreement was he provides for her financially and she puts out sexually in return. But the man’s getting nothing out of the deal. Instant divorce if it were me
Bro, She had secs for 6 years with her ex and was celibate with OP for a year before the marriage ? What sense does it make ? I wouldn't even had married her.
@@michaelr3583 The thing is that even if they absolutely wanted to be celibate he should have gauged whether she was actually attracted to him, if they had the right chemistry they should have had a couple times where they were close to do it in a year. If everything was flat it was already a bad omen. Attraction does not have an on and off switch, you can't just turn it on on the wedding night.
She "bragged" about her sex life with her ex to make you think she's sexual; when in reality she's not and is lying. Her ex was likely as frustrated as you. Believe actions, not words.
Honestly, I stayed in an awful marriage for 10 years. She was the best girlfriend that I ever had, but she was absolutely useless as a wife.. I thought it would get better, but it just got worse. There were several reasons why I stayed as long as I did (including my religious stigma against Divorce), but eventually, I had to ask myself a simple question: Do I want to stay miserable and married to increase my chances of going to Heaven when I die while staying in Hell during my life, or should I try to pursue finding some happiness by moving on and just roll the dice on the afterlife? My only regret is simple - I should have left years ago.
Regarding the story of the woman who doesn't wanna have sex; it's not that she doesn't want sex, it's that she doesn't want to have sex with you... drop her and move on...
Why would you even want to have sex with a woman who’s just letting you do it to shut you up? That’s more humiliating to me than just not having sex at all.
THIS IS INCREDIBLE!!! That’s exactly what happened to me last year and I did exactly what is Bill telling man to do. I left her and now a year later I’m happy and wondering “what in the hell was that? thanks god I got out of that”
@@sandeepmortal thanks! No, She wasn’t my wife. Just a chick I dated. She was a narcissist and tricked my mind through love bombing and then devaluation through weaponizing sex etc. I didn’t know about narcissists at the time and was all confused and addicted to all the love I got in the beginning of the “relationship” but some where along the line I felt I am disrespecting my self way too much here and just got out.
@@sandeepmortal indeed! But learned a lot. 1. Forgiving others without telling them is a form self love. Vindictive thoughts consume you like a motherfucker. 2. Self respect comes before anyone in life. 3. Hurt people hurt people. There are psychos out there. 4. Never allow yourself to become desperate. Desperate people make desperate decisions.
@@TheMohaChannel thank you so much. Your first point about is so strong. I have recently lost the only person I ever loved. She and I cannot be together because of strange acts of destiny. There is no one to be blamed but I am angry all the time. Towards no one. As I said, no one can be blamed. But I am just bitter and angry towards life
Weird. I’d have annulled the marriage right there and then. My husband pulled that nonsense with me 1.5 years into the marriage. He didn’t want anything to do with me for the next 4 years no matter what I did to try to make him interested in me. My husband used to say, “I’m not your boyfriend. Married people don’t have s3x!” to me when I’d quietly ask what was wrong. I finally gave up, called the movers, and left. I paid for the whole divorce and never looked back. It was so horrible for my self esteem because I’d have all of these guys hitting on me at opera rehearsals, the gym, wherever, and my own husband wanted nothing to do with me and had no decent explanation for it. I’m happier alone rather than being alone in a marriage.
@password 12 Depends. If the woman has been a floozie for men in the past and says that she wants you to wait, then gtfo. If she’s a virgin, or has only been with one or two guys in committed relationships, and asks you to wait, then wait. Assuming you really like the chick in both situations of course.
@@xxxSabrinaroxxx Nah it's terrible. Unless you don't care about sex why would you wait till marriage to figure out you're not sexually compatible, it makes backing out so much harder
@@thesmilingvagrants but but but. . .the personality. I think people who argue otherwise have low sex drive or don't value sex. Which is fine in both cases but there are a lot of people who do care. It all comes down to personal preference, if you don't care about sex than more power to you, easier to pick a partner I guess. Unless of course the other person does care lol. Sexually compatibility is a thing and is important what if you love blow jobs but she refuses or she really likes toys but you think that's against god, so many things can go wrong.
Sad… I grew up in the church and got married young and it was a similar situation. We split a couple years ago and it was the best thing that could of ever happened for both of us. I’m now in a healthy relationship and happier than I’ve ever been.
LEEEEEAVE that woman. Personal experience. My first wife was the same way and trust me as time goes on, it goes from sex once a week, to once a month, to once per holiday, to sex on your birthday (maybe), and it’s just worse when you finally do get divorced. Don’t think of divorce as sacrilege, it’s just breaking a government contract. You can get an annulment if the divorce is early enough and protect your assets (hopefully you got a prenup for the marriage). I ended up banging a lot of different women during that marriage and was glad I did when I found out she never wanted to have sex because she was banging dudes every other weekend while I was out for work (I travel a lot for work). We surprisingly divorced mutually and I’m happier than I’ve ever been with my current wife. I had a divorce party and everything. Send it bro
@@deathbringer8307 people do stupid stuff all day bro, just 10 min ago I yelled at my nan for spilling coffee, but just now I went and did it myself, you cant win
She couldn’t get a ring from the other guy so she found a beta simp to wife her up. This is called the dualistic mating strategy that women who aren’t high level enough to attract a man with both (money and Alpha-Ness)
The advice given to the Moroccan bloke who's in love with the doctor is most properly excellent advice. I conquer with Bill's advice & analysis of having been fecked up himself, why, & how it panned out subconsciously, 'cause that was my background too! I lost a brilliant, brilliant, wonderful young woman who put up with me for years & I might not have if I'd understood myself better. I know there's no shortage of similar people. I hope the Moroccan feller takes the advice & lives happily ever after!
I say we bring back the 1950's two bed thing. That means when she's in your bed, your getting some, otherwise you actually get some sleep and no one wakes you or takes your covers. Sleep is supposed to be restful
@@hud86 I jniw its like I can never win. She really pissed now because of what I told her the other day. I said look it's not my job to keep you happy 24 7. You need to get hobbies and friends an do things that don't involve me. It can get smothering at times
How is that advice 🤔 its just an observation and a very questionable one. a happy person can be hoodwinked or change etc and it's just a self fulfilling prophesy to say Good marriages don't end in divorce. So I don't see how this is advice you can follow.
@@JM-bg2ts can you give me an example of a good marriage that ended in divorce? Marriages don’t if both parties are happy and/or healthy. People shouldn’t torture themselves to stay in bad relationship, and people shouldn’t feel ashamed of moving on. The advice comes when people realize that it’s ok to move on from a bad situation.
@@rubenjimenez7287 Have you ever seen two happily married people get divorced? If yes, then you've proven my point wrong. Otherwise, I don't know how else to explain it to you. Good, happy, and healthy marriages don't end in divorce.
There’s something very wrong with her… I can count on one hand (literally) the days that I’ve been around my fiancé the entire time we’ve been together that we haven’t had sex or at least fooled around. We’ve been together for well over a year. Granted the last 10 months have been long distance but still… 4 days out of our entire relationship that we haven’t. And you can count on one hand the number of times she’s wanted it??? In 5 years??? Tf… run buddy. Run.
With that first scenario: That woman is either cheating, using you as a sugar daddy, or married you out of sympathy. Either way, she doesn't love you, dude. She's using you.
For all the praises women sing for sharing your emotions and shit, they seem to be awfully shy when it comes to actually speaking their mind. Maybe they're afraid it will fall out or sth, idk
I'm 25, man. I can totally relate. All my friends are getting married. But I don't even want to be in a serious relationship, let alone get married. I know I will get married at some point in the future but not for another 10 years.
No.1 rule is make sure the person want to be there with you, if you like a person but they dont reciprocate, drop it! You can’t expect women to open up on first day/week, but marriage is you saying “I want to live you every day forever” ! If you don’t intend to do that, don’t marry!
@@samuraijack0876 some words of advice for you: 1) Don’t expect them to change, if your significant other spends money like a drunken sailor then it will continue after being married. If they keep a dirty apartment or don’t do dishes then it will continue after being married. There isn’t a magic switch that flips after you say “I do” that your spouses personality changes. 2) You gotta kick the tires, a lot, before you buy. Do not be celibate during the entire relationship like the first guy and find out after you’ve signed the contract that the spouse isn’t into sex. A lot of the enjoyment from sex comes from the attitude from who you’re banging. You need to pay attention to see if the other person is going through the motions with you or not while you’re doing the deed. You need to make sure you’re compatible from a sex standpoint. 3) If there are things that bug you while you’re dating then they will be way worse after marriage. For example, let’s assume you’re dating someone that just makes bad decisions such as buying a car they can afford, or thinking it’s all good to go off-roading while having hot coffee in their lap, etc. If you’re just dating this other person you might not care that much or be a little annoyed with their bad decisions, once married though you’ll be paying a part of the price on those bad decisions. It’s really going to piss you off when your spouse comes home to tell you they traded the car with someone for some magic beans, or that they just bought a new set of cookware because their favorite influencer used it once. My advice to you is to only get married if you’re planning to have children of that she is the absolute perfect person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Women are expensive, but married women are REALLY EXPENSIVE especially when going through a divorce. Develop a career, earn some money, and by the time you’re in your late twenties you’ll be tripping over women that want to be with you.
Excellent advice, but I think it's important to add one more rule of thumb: hold your partner accountable. They'll probably make excuses or, even worse, gaslight you into thinking it's all your fault. Hold them accountable anyway, especially if you know that you're right. If your partner continually fails to live up to mutually-agreed expectations, then be prepared to leave. If they do so for longer than a month, then LEAVE IMMEDIATELY! If she wants to work it out at that point, only consider it IF she takes accountability for her mistakes (and that's a big IF)... If you're not holding up your end of the bargain, then the same logic applies as well - don't be surprised if you get dumped.
I just got out of a 7 year relationship and the girl I was with stopped wanting to have sex with me after she got that birth control shot, so for the next like 5 years she hardly ever wanted to have sex. We started dating freshman year of high school. Both each others first for everything, then nothing. I couldn’t wrap my head around it. We just broke up last year and she’d already moved on within 2 months. I’m still not sure what I’m gunna do haha
Dude spend that time taking care of yourself. Work out, eat right, spend time with family and friends, laugh a lot. Get in a great frame of mind and you will meet that perfect girl on no time
Heard a story where a guy just got married and on the honeymoon night, his wife just wanted to text her friends and play on Twitter....the guy divorced her the very next day....so if you are reading this this is the answer to your question
Listening to this at 26. Got married at 22. We used to be intimate all of the time but leading into our wedding, things stopped. I'm hearing this guy complain about being intimate once a week when we haven't been intimate in over six months at the time of writing this. Every time this get brought up, she always makes me feel like some sex hungry maniac. She's never willing to talk through our problems. At the moment, we're a double income and no kids kind of situation and we still can't afford anything. I'm financially bound and my heart is torn. I love her so much but she doesn't show it back in that way. I know what I must do. Divorce. But the conversations, the paperwork, the emotional and financial uncertainty are what's holding me back.
Just make sure you dont trap yourself with child... all else can be resolved, you can 100% get over any type of heart break (with time), but a child that you get to see every two weeks will rip your heart apart, leave while youre still young buddy. Good luck.
Get out while you can, if a woman can't find you attractive enough to have sex on a regular base your wasting your time. Because in six months she hasn't touched you, she has at the very least, touching herself, or worst cheating on you.
Don't have kids. Get out immediately. I can almost guarantee she is probably having sex, just not with you. Sexless marriages aren't marriages. She's not your roommate. If you really want to salvage the marriage, see a councilor and find out what's going wrong. Give it as a ultimatum. Twenty six is beyond young. Both of you should be having a lot of sex. Even if you have to restart your life financially, it's still early. Worse for you if you coast on this and do nothing; you are just wasting time in your life. Things won't get better, they'll only get worse.
Covert Narcissist.. it's all a power play. She did not have great sex with him, it's a way of having control.Turning it around so the guys feels insecure and that's it's his fault somehow and make him not asking for it.
Bill bobby fuck Burr actually has sage advice. New favorite comedian for sure. Why do people hate on this guy? He is more real than 95% of other celebs.
I choose Shark. Just go for the nose and eyes and with one good boop, they'll leave you alone. Lion....sure you could go for the eyes, or attempt to choke it out, but to even get on a position where you have the chance to, would be...wishful.
she really needs to talk to someone about this without you in the room. there's something about getting psychological advice from a professional that helps people see things clearly. my ex went to a counsellor after I left her and it was only then that she started to understand about her codependency. she got the free counselling from her workplace and she got a lot out of the first one hour session. you need to understand that what you're feeling is normal and okay and you can't change how she feels. you may need to leave her and rebuild.
@@freezoneproject567 actually allot of people come from shitty homes and end up with fucked up ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be. My parents just got divorced, I am 26 and I've never had a girlfriend because all I ever saw them do was fight mostly about money.
I'm waiting till marriage and these stories truly terrify me lol I can only hope and pray that my future wife will be as dedicated to being a good spouse as I know I will be.
Many guys in the comments said they had sex before marriege and things stopped after. Waiting is fine, there is nothing wrong with it. Unfortunetly, not all relationships workout.
This would've been me with my ex fiancée... Jesus, I'm glad I got out of that. I would date her, and break up with her, just to feel that euphoria of getting out all over again
