Bisexual grief: how it happens, how to heal and how to move on.

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Do you feel a sense of loss for the time you could have enjoyed as a queer or bisexual person when you were younger? Did it take you a long time to come out and now you look back and wonder how life could have been?
In this video, specialist sexuality coach Mark Cusack explains the psychology behind queer grief / bisexual grief and offers guidance as to how to overcome it. How can we move past our queer grief / bisexual grief and live the life we always dreamed of? This video will tell you just that.
If you are struggling with bisexual grief / LGBT grief / gay grief, don't worry. You are not alone. This video will hopefully give you the tools and understanding to help you to recover and live a confident and joyful life.
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@notdefining 4 дня назад

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@elisegray6962 7 дней назад

I feel for all the bisexuals who are in a monogamous heterosexual relationship and discover just now their bi-attraction. They might never get to explore their other side. I came out as bisexual at 34. I do not feel I come late, I have zero regret about the guys I dated. I feel I come ready, ready for something bigger, ready for love. It's so funny how I feel so romantic for women! I don't really feel stressed about the day I become intimate with a woman because I know my body, I am rather confident in my sexuality, in my body. So I know I will select a woman I actually like and I will feel free with her. Maybe more than with straight men.

@notdefining 7 дней назад

Hey thank you so much for sharing. I appreciate it so much.

@aronyro 2 дня назад

I am not bi (but aroace), but it was still shivering my back when you asked what does my body want to do right now, I thought also where do I want to be right now, and as you said in combination with I am allowed to feel joy, so simple and powerful.

@notdefining День назад

Hey thank you for sharing I’m so glad you could connect with this.

@EG220 4 дня назад

This video has helped me a lot in dealing with unprocessed traumatic situations and everyday stress, I genuinely can’t remember the last time I just sat with no distractions to see and feel what I really wanted at the moment. It’s so easy to get lost on the daily routine of endless tasks and falling back on autopiloting through social media; consuming content that we won’t remember and wasting hours that we’ll never get back. Im really glad that through that endless cycle, I was able to find your content, it never fails to make me feel safer about opening up with myself and enjoying the little things. All that to say, thank you for giving me and so many others a new perspective on so many things and a comforting space for introspection.

@adamparrott797 6 дней назад

I came out as Bi at 30 I was late, only had relationships with women until 29 when I met someone , I missed a lot not really acknowledging that side of myself fully. I sort of thought about it from time to time but nothing major happened. I was 29 when it did, my grief is coming out for that one person (I learnt its not a thing to do), that person then breaking up with me after I did it..... then you are left with this ache and a lot of pain and repercussions to face lone while hurting because of coming out and knowing that not everyone is accepting, I know its better out. Thankfully Covid happened in that respect. I am in a better place now. but am I even ready to date a guy again I don't know?. am I even thinking about dating again. I prefer now to surround myself with friends who are accepting and who are queer too. I can't say how important that also is! This video hits home in a lot of points thank you.

@zklmeitew8555 День назад

Absolutely; thanks for covering this; I like to call it nostalgic attraction. I was deep in the closet in middle school and high school, and for many years now I've wished I could wake up in my 11-13 year old body again and experience all the exciting, ecstatic firsts of puberty again, but this time really appreciate it and also have the balls to maybe initiate some things with the cute boys I was crushing on at the time. The experience of those first crushes was so powerful and precious, memories I'll never lose, but I never got to act on any of them, and by later high school all my original cute boy crushes were getting buffer and hairier and explicitly straighter... basically more manly, and I had no interest in adult men. I'm sure some other teens did, but I didn't. And so the boys that I still found beautiful and endearing were younger than me, and so I had to go doubly into the closet, because being into anyone younger than you is "cringe" and "creepy". Your advice to live in the present is great for those queer folk who were always primarily attracted to adults (and so can actually go and be with their 'type' like they always desired), but there are a LOT of people who's age of attraction has always extended into or focused on adolescence, who due to society can never enjoy now what they wished they would have done when they were younger. In the case of all those people, their grief is insurmountable, and fantasy is all they have. Just some food for thought.

@notdefining День назад

Hey thank you so much for sharing these beautiful experiences and thoughts.

@TheTorturedRaven 6 дней назад

thank you, I've been in these situations too, I think I could've realized I'm a bisexual sooner, but then again, I live with a mother that puts heteronormativity on me, that's why it's always hard for me to be and be aware of myself.

@GrievousSpino 5 дней назад

Thank you. Your videos have been a big help in the past 12 months for me.

@tjzambonischwartz 5 дней назад

I really needed this today. Experience a lot of this grief. Didn't realize I was bi/pan until 40 because of trauma. There's a lot of grieving that comes with figuring yourself out that late in life.

@jeffreyerickson6766 7 дней назад

Thanks for all you do Mark.

@notdefining 7 дней назад

Thanks for listening. I’m so blessed to share this with you.

@DrayseSchneider 5 дней назад

Yeah, I feel that. I only started exploring my bisexuality recently, the past few years or so. It's complicated because of my gender identity, and it makes me question my authenticity as a bi person. I had one bi experience in my twenties, and I sometimes wonder if it was even real.

@panthersworld5587 7 дней назад

Despite hardly met any bisexual individuals interesting topic overall

@notdefining 7 дней назад

You have met bi people but you may not have known as many of us aren’t out. Thanks so much for learning and listening. You are helping us to feel safer and it is appreciated.

@dr.LuisFelipe-Nuno1311 7 дней назад

Remarkable Video ! Wow thank you so much dear Mark for sharing with us the resonance of this very interesting topic ! your comments are a beautiful light on the path. 🤩💫🙏🙌

@notdefining 7 дней назад

My pleasure! Thank you for this lovely comment. It made my day.

@dr.LuisFelipe-Nuno1311 7 дней назад

@@notdefining 🙏🙌❤

@PokhrajRoy. 7 дней назад

Hearing you speak about what one hearing themselves tending to their needs was so affirming. Thank you!

@ezelldaniels6064 7 дней назад

This was so captivating brother. How can I reach out to you for some personal advice?

@notdefining 7 дней назад

Hey thank you so much for tuning in and for reaching out. I’m so glad this resonated with you. I would be so happy to connect with you. To write to me 24/7 and receive personal replies the same day you can join us at Patreon.com/notdefining. For 1:1 coaching via zoom call you can book at www.notdefining.com. To discuss anything further with me or ask questions you can email me on marknotdefining@gmail.com. Sending all my very best wishes, Mark ❤️

@ezelldaniels6064 7 дней назад

@@notdefining No problem man. And thanks for dropping all your contacts and info man. I most definitely will reach out for sure bro. 🙏🏻

@KnowledgeLender 7 дней назад

Closets are for homes. People are human. People are not in closets.

@notdefining 7 дней назад

Facts

@carlorizzo827 6 дней назад

ThankU Mark sensitive treatment of painful topic. I would add...hmm. My experience is grief tapers off gradually. Grief lingers if we suppress it or condemn it. Grieve in a whole hearted creative way. I use art. Candles. Ritual. When I visit a cemetery, I get the feeling the dead are okay, at peace. I guess it's a kind of meditation, my grieve-atation.