Bisexuality: 10 surprising things about being bisexual 

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I am 67 years old and have identified as bisexual since I was 17. I have always found Robhn Ochs quote helpful: “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted-romantically and/or sexually-to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree.” I have had girlfriends and boyfriends in my twenties. I have been married and monogomous with the same man for 29 years and I am still bi. I also recommend bi-curious people connect with bi community at a LGBTQ+ center. You don't have to isolate alone.

Nervous around everyone? ... yeah, check that one off for sure... I'm also never sure if I'm flirting. Or if someone is flirting with me. So... confused? Check that one off, too...

I was talking with a friend and we agreed that as bisexuals we both attracted to the androgyn. We love when a girl is boyish or a boy is girlish or it’s hard to decide or they are trans. What we don’t like is the further part of the spectrum: the macho man and the “only pink, only heels” girls. Somehow the mix of both genders in one person sparks our interest and we can both relate, we recognize that playful aspect where you CREATE your own identity and not just fit the norm mindlessly. I would be very interested to here your opinion on this.

This was so unbelievably affirming for me. The points on constant confusion, having days where where my attractions lean different ways or are just non-existent are so relatable and I didn’t know that it was common. Thank you for talking about this ❤

This is so relatable in every way!! I too question my sexuality quite frequently, even though I already know that I am bisexual 100%.😅 I've come to accept at this point that I may NEVER stop questioning altogether. One thing that confuses me a lot is that I do tend to feel much more comfortable and less nervous around girls than I do around guys, generally speaking. I still do get nervous around pretty girls a lot of times, but just not as much so as I do around guys. And this causes me to worry that maybe I might just be straight after all.😕 But then I develop a crush on a girl or think of some cute female celebrity and am immediately like, "Nope! Definitely not straight😄!" Despite this, I still do get confused sometimes about who I am inside. As I mentioned in another comment, whenever I feel attraction to a big strong man or to a woman who is much bigger and stronger than me for example, I feel much more feminine inside, whereas when I'm attracted to a smaller, more feminine woman or man, I feel much more masculine inside. For quite a while, I thought I was the only person who felt this slight shift in gender expression. It's so nice to find other bi people who feel the same way lol!😁 OMG I love the bi flag, too!!😄 The colors are so amazing. I love sneaking the bi pride flag colors into my animations and art, every now and then lol!!😂💗💜💙 By the way, you gave me a great idea!!! :D I'm gonna make my own little pink, purple, and blue wrist band to wear, whenever I go out!! And OMG yes!!! I do have guy days, girl days, everybody days, nobody days, etc.!!! Some days, I wake up in the morning and all I can think about is women. I notice women wherever I go, and the mere sight of them makes my heart go wild. Then the very next day (or sometimes even the very next minute), all I can think about is men! I even experienced this shifting of feelings when I was a kid. Before I knew anything about the LGBTQ Community, there were some days where I'd think to myself, "Wow...girls are so gorgeous and awesome! I wish I were a boy so I could have a wonderful wife someday.😢" Then on other days, I'd be like, "Ahhh...men are so handsome and cool! I can't wait to have a kind husband someday!🥰" Then I also have the days where I feel little to no attraction to anyone at all. And finally, my absolute favorite days are everybody days!! Those are the best days ever, I swear!!! I love feeling rushes of love and excitement upon seeing just ANY cute person at all. Those days remind me of how much I love being bisexual haha!!😊 Thanks ever so much for another amazing, relatable video!! Keep it up, friend!😎

I’m a bi femboy & I felt this so much!. this helped me a lot thank u!.

As a 50-year old straight woman, thank you. I've learned so so so much during this video. Kind of sad that it's taken me so long to learn about what it's like for a bi-sexual person. I'd love to know more about what you said on some days wanting men, other days women and other days no one and some days both. That's really interesting.

Exactly… there are girl days and guy days. You don’t necessarily know when it’s going to happen or when it’s going to change. It’s just so unpredictable.

Just wanted to say your videos are awesome! I am a 29 year old gay guy and recently become involved with a bi guy. He's a bit younger than me, still conflicted about his sexuality and your videos have been a huge help to me in learning more about the struggles bi men go through and how I can help him. Thank you!

OMG this resonates so much. literally everything. this is sooooo liberating to just see someone like you in those most fragile areas. It is most devastating to live without any "rolemodels" whatsoever for the whole life. I kinda feel pride in being a standalone, but sometimes it it just a little bit overwhelming. The only difference for me would be I rather identify as a pansexual, but that is a tiny thing in comparison really.

Omg I’m bisexual and I relate to pretty much everything in this video. I feel so seen. I guess I really am Bi haha 🩷💜💙

Struggling with the fluid nature of my sexual identity ever since I realised it about 3 years ago. I’m in a heterosexual monogamous marriage with 3 kids so navigating this change is really difficult. The struggle is with finding men attractive, how I feel about myself on those days and how I can’t integrate this part of myself fully as I fear the implications. Your videos are really helping me though!! The bi-cycle!! Being nervous around everyone!! Only being attracted to same sex people that I have a platonic relationship to name a few!!

Oh my goodness. I can’t explain how much I am freaking out right now because I finally feel soo seen!! Really, this is one of my biggest internal crises because I DO have those „only boys“, „only girls“, „freakin nobody, because why the heck would people date someone at all?!“ and „just everybody and everyone is cute and how would I ever decide who I‘d prefer“ days. And honestly this always made me shift my thoughts and perspective about my sexuality because it all felt like I was faking it. Nothing seems to fit, because how could I be bi if sometimes I just don‘t like anyone. And how could I even be sure I liked girls if some days everything felt like a great lie to me because I was pretty sure that day that I wanted to have a cute husband and kids one day. And so on with every of these scenarios. It feels so good that it appears to be quite normal in the bi community to feel this way, after watching your video and read some of the comments. Thank you a thousand times for making me feel a little more „normal“, seen and that my feelings are valid 🩷💙💜 How can being bi be the best and worst thing at the same time?😭 I feel like however I will decide to live my future life, there will always be a part of me that is missing something out and that will be ignored. Do you know these thoughts and worries? Maybe that is a reason I am not really able to engage with anyone in a romantic or sexual way because first I am scared to dive too deep into it and to not get the possibility to live out the other part of me🥲 And second because my preferences seem to change on a daily basis😅 Lots of love from another confused bisexual 🫶🏻

Thank you for this amazing channel! Much love to you, I appreciate this. I have been confused by that as well. I once went 2 years with not being attracted to a single man so I can out as gay. This year I have been attracted to multiple men and now I am feeling bisexual again. Some days I am like I don’t want to date anyone. 😊

When I saw the video about how to know if you're bi, I cried. I just cried, as if I've just discovered myself. Thank you ❤

I tend to be attracted to couples and I used to feel really bad about it. I'd never heard of splitting it up into sexual attraction and romantic attraction before today. Thanks for that. I'm sexually attracted to everyone, but the romantic attraction shifts. For years I've considering therapy to try and correct this, but the way you explained it makes me feel better about it. Thank you.

On a good day I'm 100% certain I'm Bi. On a bad day I think I'm straight.

Thank you, Mark. All of this is so relatable. I often thought of sexuality being a fundamental but sort of invisible pillar to your identity. And when you are a bi, you may pretend that default settings apply to you, there's just something extra. But no, it is an altogether different pillar. And once you accept that - bingo, all the non-fitting pieces suddenly make sense and fit into places perfectly. Special thanks for the bit about bi people coming out late. Exactly my case. So late it sometimes feels like too late.

Hey, Mark! I loved the video! It was so fun to watch as someone who isn't bisexual myself. I'm gay but I'm a big bisexual ally! I love hearing about all the different experiences in the LGBT community! I honestly had no clue bisexual people always feel confused about their sexuality. Being confused about it doesn't at all mean you are less legit! Everyone is different! I wanted to point out something at the end of the video. As a very binary trans man, saying that trans people are in the everyone category lumped in with nonbinary people could potentially really upset binary trans women and men. I'm not personally upset myself because I can tell you're a very kind person and I know you're not transphobic! I know you didn't have any bad intentions! The reason it would upset binary trans women and men is because them being trans doesn't make them a third gender. It's the same as being a cis gal or guy! Again, I know you didn't mean anything transphobic but I just wanted to let you know! 😄

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Thank you for these videos, they are helpful in so many ways. I relate to being one who has everyday attractions.

Mark, I am so happy to have found you!! I’m three or four videos in on your channel I can’t believe how much I feel seen. I (42M) just really came to grips with my identity. All ten of these things I 100% feel and thought was unique about me (maybe not the flag, anybody can like a flag). You are able to verbalize my own feelings better than I can. I just told my partner of 25 years how I feel so relate to taking a long time. Feeling more masculine when I’m in to women? Totally. Feeling more feminine when I’m into men? Absolutely. I do feel like the way I feel about myself is very fluid. And yes, I totally agree days were you are into both are the best! I’m probably not on a daily cycle but more weekly/monthly. Thank you so much!! I’m going to share your videos with my partner and I hope she finds them as enlightening as I have. Cheers,

Thank you so much ! I needed this video ❤❤

I don’t question that I’m bisexual. Once I came out. It was all out from there lol. I can say that I’m a 50/50 Bisexual. I am attracted to men and women equally. I don’t have a preference. But, sometimes.. Masculine Women and Feminine Men do look amazing though. I do like the Bi flag. But, I think it needs an update. Where there’s more shades of pink, purple, and blue. Where it’s darker on ends. Then, gets lighter as it goes towards the purple. Then, as it gets very close to purple it turns like a purple blue or a purple pink. Then, different shades of purple in the center.

Omg thank you for this video! Haha I had no idea that what I was experiencing was actually the 100% Bi experience

You are amazing!! Your explanations are so profound and clear, even when the topic is extremely complicated. I'm clearly gay without any sexual attraction to girls, but I understand you and can get great insight in sexuality in general.

OH MY GOD I FEEL SO SEEN

Omg! Yes! 🙌 I totally have those days were I feel more one side than the other! Im glad someone else said it! 😂

love that you also talk about the more "ace" fases, i felt very validated

Yes growing up bi is very confusing. Like you said one day you are extra horny for guys and the next you can't stop thinking about cunnulingas and then the A sexual days hit. This is very hard in middle school and high school and then you find out if you tell someone who you are they dump you. I had a few relationships that the minute l told them it was over. Very confusing. It is good that some people are starting to understand that this is real and not just denial.

Omgggg I feel like it changes like everyday too this video is so relatable and I'm glad I could feel more how someone feels the same thank you so much!!!!

Omg thanks for this!, I recently became bisexual and I wanted to know if there were a few things I should know and you gave some good ones!

Love your videos Mark! And I love your sweet caring energy. I'll say one thing: Whoever ends up as either your boyfriend or girlfriend, he or she will be the luckiest person on the planet! Trust me.

hello admin mark,this is very relatable on my part especially there were times i am totally confuse of my sexuality and that is why i am too afraid to expose myself:( sometimes,i could help myself to cry because why i feel both ways:( then taling my relationship,it is almost a year now since my recent relationship was a real heartbreaker because weve both been in a 3year long distance relationship. she(lesbian) accused me of cheating---that was a real heartbreak on my part. and now,i am totally afraid to start a new relationship because of my past relationship:( it feels that i am experiencing depression both from my sexuality and from a heartbreak. lastly,on the last part of the video,is so true there were times i feel do those fluid/energy flows within me. ps. until now,i am still confuse and struggling about sexuality as well as my recent relationship:( my apology about my short confession:( thank u so much for your educational videos,admin mark:)

Hi Mark. Just found your channel on RU-vid and I have signed up. Your videos are very interesting and I will watch more over the coming days. I myself am gay and am very much attracted to men rather than women. I’m especially attracted to bi and straight guys, I love a man who looks like the guy next door, that’s my daily turn on - high. but I am myself like to dress like a man I don’t have any interest in cross dressing. Keep the videos coming, they cover a lot of areas and are very educational👍😊

OMG THANK YOUU And I already love you I need to subscribe Definitely all of this, so validating!! I still don't know if to call myself bi or pan (tho I always prefer this word more) but for sure in the multise*ual family yay for me!🥳:D

I do have to say I related to a lot of what you said in this video. In particular, the girl days, guy days, everybody days and nobody days and also constantly questioning actually being a strong indication that we are indeed bisexual. I find that so true in myself. Also, I found what you said about femininity and masculinity interesting. I never really knew why I sometimes felt more masculine while leaning into my attraction to women and more feminine when leaning into my attraction to men but the way you explained it makes so much sense. Also, I don't use the non-binary or genderfluid label but I'm very against gender roles and very open about things like gender expression and such, so it doesn't make me uncomfortable to not always feel 100% feminine even though I identify as a cisgender woman because I'm so comfortable with gender identity and expression being spectrums and my sexuality is fluid, so it's easier to be more comfortable with fluidity in other areas of your life when you already have it present somewhere within you as a person. As far as the nervousness and flirting thing goes, it's definitely true for me but I do have anxiety, so it's even worse, haha! I'm glad you talked about the mental health aspect as well because lots of people somehow think it's easier for bi people but it's really not. Also, good point bringing up the romantic and sexual spectrums because lots of people don't realize that they're two separate spectrums. Some people have this idea that they have to be both romantically and sexually attracted for the attraction to be valid but that's obviously not true. It's nice that you gave a shout-out to bi+ poly people. I understand some bi+ people pushing back against stereotypes such as "all bi people are polyamorous" because that's obviously not true for all of us and people like to generalize, which isn't fair but that doesn't mean that bi+ poly people don't exist or don't deserve a place within our community to receive the same respect, love, tolerance and representation that the rest of us get. Yes, the bi flag is so cool, lol! I love it so much too! The combination of colors is lovely to look at and I love wearing the colors as well! Great video as usual! Looking forward to many more! 🙂💖💜💙

Completely with you on (1) the constant questioning of one's sexuality (am with you on everything actually 😂). But, after looking at other comments, wondering if people end up getting confused here with introvertism, nervousness, social anxiety, and other insecurities that affect non-bi persons equally?

Very informative video. You perfectly explained the less discussed facets of bi+/mspec. Fluidity/Flexibility being the important one and being nervous around people also. Us bisexuals/multisexuals can't deny it, PEOPLE ARE HOT! The overlap of Aro/Ace spectrum with bi+ spectrum is indeed so accurate.

Gawd what a fantastic and relatable video. I'm a woman in my 30s and I have known myself to be attracted to different genders forever, and been relatively open about it, but I didn't label myself as bi before this last year? I've literally had years of being more straight, or more gay, and all of the content in this video is SO relatable. Also, the part with not relaxing around *anybody*? It's so true, I feel like a wolf in the fold everywhere I go.

I really appreciate the differentiation between biromantic and bisexual; as a panromantic demisexual person, I often have challenges explaining to people what I'm looking for in relationships and life.

I'd have to say that most days I'm not interested in anyone. But I have also come to realize that I'm not only Bi but also Demi. So this helped me understand why most days I'm not really interested in either. Yes, I'll find guys and girls I come across throughout the day I think are cute, but that's it. But until that person expresses interest in me and we've somehow connected, then I'm all twitterpatted regardless of their sex.

“Just marry me” never related more 😭😭😭😂

I realized I was bi maybe within the past three years, and I'm only recently leaning into it more. Thanks for helping me feel... seen? More normal? I don't know.

That first one was so relatable I laughed!

Also the fem vs masc: I have this too, although I tend to be more attracted to femininity regardless of how masc or femme I feel that day.

Hello Mark. . oh wow. . That's all I can say. . So much that I never thought about. . I didn't know about bi women being discriminated against. I never thought about a bi person being nervous with everyone, as they can be potentially be a sexual partner. I guess we all are different, so there isn't a box that we all fit into. . And yes! I have guy days often. Then there are girl days. I am glad you too feel the "no one day" I have those too. Where I just want to hang out with a dog, and no people. . Thanks for giving me lots to think about - Steven

Oh-my-god the girls, boys, none days! 😂 I've just discovered the bi cycle, and I'm shocked! I've suffered so much with all of this, and hearing you is making me feel...euphoric, it's weird 😂😂😂

Being bisexual is so confusing 😢😢😢😢

So glad to find you .I am a 60ish black autistic gender fluid male .When I was born it was against th law to be anything but straight. Amazing how far we have come.

This is so true. I was like nodding and smiling so much. To the last point: I can relate to this so much. Usually it’s a girl day (like holy crap! women are so beautiful! etc) a lot of days lately have been all genders and some days it’s a guy day. It’s frustrating though because then if someone I’ve been flirting and touchy with senses that I’m different with my enthusiasm and drive I feel guilty. Especially when it comes to what happens in private. I just want every day to be like the all genders day. Because I feel so happy and free and in love with the world. Please keep up the good work. Love your content.

You described my whole life in one vid. I don't know how to feel about that :')

I relate so much to the different day attractions thing.

I can say nature and nurture is real. As a kid I was infatuated with both guys and girls. Fell in love so quick with girls. Noticed the cutest guy and girl in class. As the years went on the love for girls left and solidified with liking men. It’s weird to think about what that was all these years later.

As an aroace bisexual I so appreciate aroaceness being brought up in the video, we love to see it and the entanglements being discussed

Yes!!! I relate to the thing about the energies even though I'm not bisexual. This topic is SO interesting especially as someone who's a very spiritual person! I'm a very binary guy, my gender expression is masculine, and my energy is both masculine and feminine! The types of guys I'm attracted to are not super masculine. I've never ever ever been attracted to the stereotypical "hot dude" look. Haha! I do definitely have feminine energy but my energy is mainly masculine so when I see a super masculine guy I'm not attracted to him because he's more of a competition and we would butt-heads with eachother. I also don't like the feeling of feeling feminine, it makes me feel icky inside and feels like I'm not being seen. I've found it's crucial for me to be affirmed in my masculinity in order for me to be attracted to a guy. I've always found myself attracted to guys who are both masculine and feminine in their gender expression and their energies! I'm still attracted to guys who are masculine, but since my energy is mainly masculine and a little feminine, I've found I'm attracted to guys who's energies are mainly feminine and a little masculine! They still need to have some masculine energy because I have some feminine energy! It's like we all need that perfect balance in a relationship! Isn't it super interesting, Mark? Since you're bisexual I'm curious what energies you're attracted to when it comes to different genders

I love being a bisexual man great video.

I feel so related to all the points, nowadays my biggest confusion isn’t if I like men and women, I already accepted that I do, but if I’m assexual/demissexual or bisexual, because 90% of the time I don’t feel attracted to anyone in anyway...and 10% of the time I feel attracted to very specific people, always someone I’m close somehow, but not my friend friend...and than I get very confused Another thing is that I never came out, I accepted that I am after years of thought and doubts, and in some moments I tell my friends that I think a girl is hot, and also a boy is hot...and as my friends are almost all LGBT they don’t even make questions, and love my friends for it

I’ve felt this for a long time...ive felt like i was bi but i love women WAYY more than men and its really invalidating when ppl say ohh you just gay or i never talk about men

Hopeless biromantic woman here... Thank you so much for the first half of the video, you explained my feelings better then I could. (untill you started on asexuality, cause it is DEFINITELY not my experiance XD) I do have 'girl days' and 'guy days', but never intertwined. Thank you so much 💖💜💙

I loved this! As a recently out person it was very assuring to know all the feels are normal! And yeah my guy days and girl days are more guy weeks and girl weeks!

2:02 I laughed out loud 😂😂🤣 that was so funny

I have never heard of demi sexual..but it seems like a good description.

Everything is SO relatable

How do you know when you get together with another man if he is interested in just romance or sex? Asking because there is this store employee who has this attraction for me (Various signals) and I wonder to myself if it's just for sex or maybe something more in- depth.

LOVE YOUR EXPLINATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This explains so well why some of my best friends are gay because those are literally the only people where im not sexually confused

I can relate to some but not others. I know a lot of bi guys who like to be the bottom for other guys, but I physically and mentally have never prefered it. I also don't feel like a girl when I'm with guys, but no ill feelings towards those who do. Peace and love my friend.

Just trying to understand more. I always have identified as a heterosexual woman. Recently I have realized, although I am not sexually attracted to women, I can be romantically attracted to women. Interesting. 61 and still learning about myself. My husband recently passed after 30 years of marriage. I realize touch and intimacy and closeness is so important to me (I do not want a life without it), that if I don't find a man that things work out with in the next few years, I'd seriously consider a change of team. For me, I'd rather have that closeness with a woman (despite it not being my first choice) than not having intimacy with another human being. Touch is touch, and good people are good people; I am sure I could find my way to the sexuality part and find it fulfilling. ((Weird too, I have found myself really feeling fond of drag men sometimes. I think it's their humanity; they have usually been through a lot, so I admire, respect them finally being who they have fought hard to be. I find I have a rather protective softness for that = I want to cheer them on = "You go being the authentic you!"). I often find them soooooo refreshing.)) Back to me = the heterosexual woman. Was just an interesting thought for a straight woman. Yes, I'd first, definitely, prefer it with a man, but, again, should that not happen, I'll open myself to other options. Thank you for doing what you do! It's important.

3:23 I love you too!!! ❤️

Interesting video! Where did you get the wristband from?

I stopped questioning if I am really gay or bisexual a long time ago. My problem was that I used to convince myself and even others that my same sex attraction was merely a physical sexual fetish when it wasn't. I had a very sweet and adorable bf in my 20s who was gay and never been with a girl (I've had many at that point) and yet I was the more submissive one of us. It felt good to let go and be soft and more feminine around him and let him have me and give myself over to him in a more submissive way than I was used to with my dominant side with women. Yet I still enjoy a dominant sexual role with women. There are no rules to this stuff and the more I learned to be open minded and try to search my heart and feelings and embrace them, the happier I felt. I used to think I was less macho because of my submissive side with male partners/lovers, but I was not. I'm very macho and masculine in many facets of life and once I started embracing all of this I realized that in doing so, it makes me even more "macho" because I was able to love myself more and not be afraid of what anyone else was thinking. What he says about having "straight" days, "gay" days, and having pure bisexual days is spot on, and the more you open your heart and feelings to all of it, it can flow thru you more organically where you STOP questioning all your feelings and trying to rationalize with yourself or others and just enjoy this beautiful gift. 😊 💜 😘 ✌️

Shared on twitter. I have the same. Times where I am attracted to men, times women, times not swxually attracted. Times when biromantic. I actually think I am more biromantic than bisexual. Ah the beautiful bisexual mind thanks very good exploration, things that I hadn't considered before

Yeah, the bi flag is cool af. I didn't know it existed until just now. Your content is amazing. I'm a Gen-X dude, so I have seen queerness go from totally taboo to trendy. I wink of wish I was gay, but I'm not. It would be easier. Oh well, who ever said life is supposed to easy?

The bi crisis is such a struggle 😂

Love is a battlefield lol

Is there a social media to meet bisexual guys?

There's one part of me that considers my closeted bisexuality to be indicative an initiatory group think mentality where trauma is transferred culturally through means of the natural selection of ideas and behavioral patterns. Then there's another part of me that considers the potential for my root chakra and throat chakra to have been polarized into a disparity of masculine and feminine charges. Then there's another part of me that understands the trauma bonding that is created from being raped by a man. Then there's another part of me that understands the feminine role of caregiving displayed by my father and my desire to recreate my family dynamic. Even in the clear understanding that much of this is potentially a sociocultural phenomenon, I still can't hide from the fact that the desire to be with men is still there. While I don't identify with the tribal affiliation known as LGBT, nor do I necessarily feel the need to broadcast my personal life to the public, I must make it clear that I don't know what is alien to me and I don't know what is natural. Can someone give me some feedback?

is it possible to be bi and feel comfortable around your girlfriends?

I have a question... I was always wondering why is it important to Identify as Bisexual (i mean with pronunciation), I mean myself I am kinda kinky in bed, should I have to let everybody know? Lesbians and Gay people might feel alienated because they desire the same sex and is hard to find/or avoid a partner if people don't know... (and for other social reasons too) But identifying as Bisexual sounds more like a description of your bed life at least most of my bisexual friends when I was a teenager were referring to their bisexuality only when they liked somebody or whenever they wanted to just say it. I never thought that they needed to express their bisexuality in any other way, to be so tight with their identity to want to be called bisexual every time anyone is calling their name...

Where do you get the information, you profess here? I'm curious..

I have been interested in a closed triad in the future. I think that will suit me better but it's a hard relationship.

Okay, I came here because I just feel odd about myself, and I didn't expect to check so many boxes... Still, I'm not saying I'm bi for sure, but some questions inside me have been implanted, and I think I will continue to explore them.

Pure days are cool i feel it

I am bisexual or at least bi curious myself and I do not get how people attribute certain characteristics (best the way I can describe it) to being bisexual? Like cuffed jeans or a septum piercing, why does that show off that there is a good chance the person is bisexual? Also when someone have behaved in certain way or made a decision unrelated to their sexuality, saying 'sorry, just me being bisexual' or something like that. Like with a gay guy for example, I can see it for the most the most part if they said something to the effect of 'sorry, just me being gay' not that I have ever heard a gay say that personally. I originally thought when first exploring what it is to be bisexual that is a little bit more up to the individual like some may seem a little more androgynous or whatever and some may not. No defining characteristics or anything in that way.

I identified as a lesbian for about 6 years... now I'm dating a man and I constantly question myself if I actually like men/other genders. ☹️💙💜

Definately have girl and guy days lol

all of these are true I swear to god!! I know I'm bi for sure and my friend keeps calling me gay now so uhh yeah😅

hi i have a question. what if you're gay but you're marrying a women. can u still have kids with that women? bc you're not attracted idk if this is a dumb question

I am 💯 gay unless ive had a couple drinks... its very confusing.

Any good book recommendations?

bisexuality tends to fluctuate!

Yes I have days! For me I'm struggling to figure out if I'm bi or a lesbian, but I do have my girl days and my days where I'll see a guy and think "wow your pretty" and I have my, people are so gross I'm not attracted to anyone days. I'm glad to know it's not just me. lmao!

Literally on this channel bc I’m confused about identifying as Bi. How ironic that the first thing on the video is that Bi people are confused about being Bisexual. Soooo am I Bi or still confused 😐😂

Thank you

I'm a bisexual woman and OH MY GOD am I #5! Even with the romantic partner bit! Its crazy! Edit: I'm also polyamorous lol omg 🤣

Ugh why do I watch these videos I just envy seeing guys able to be so confident with themselves I have this complicated double life I’ve built that’s a nightmare to maintain So ready to just burn it all to the ground (Not literally... settle down)

To me date is hard as a bi sexual man because everyone want you to be straight yet some guys are attractive and it easy to date guys vs woman in my experiences. Heck I got two phone numbers in less then a few hours for each other.

I relate with a lot of this. I feel confident in my bisexuality. The only hang up I really have is that I kind of appreciate masulinity more than femininity, I tend to be attracted to more masucline women.