Black Greek Sororities & Fraternities || Reasons They WON'T Choose You (Opinions ONLY) 

"I pray to Jesus not AKA!"....That's all I needed!

You can do everything right and still not get picked. These organizations pick bad members all the time because of who they were cool with. That's why you see so many inactive members. Really you just have to get cool with the people in that chapter because it's all going to come down to a hand vote and you want as many votes as possible. Start going to the events, get phone numbers, be cordial and get to know the members, but don't bug them. A person with a 2.8 GPA will get picked over a person with a 4.0 just because they plugged themselves in with people who matter in the organization.

This long standing MEMBER of Delta Sigma Theta, Inc. concurs with your presentation - I have nothing to add; I think you hit every point...

Girl, thank you for putting this information out there. I have been a member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. for a very long time. I was introduced to the organization by my older sister; however, she even stated that before I join any sorority that I should do my own research and make sure that their values lined up with my and what I stood for personally. I encourage anyone looking to become apart of the Divine Nine to do your OWN research and watch the organizations on the college campus and attend their events. Learn about the members and the organization itself before joining because this is a lifelong commitment.

At my school, before you even think about joining the NPHC, though have to go to a meeting where one of the advisors gives you a run down of the standards and qualifications of the organization. I think it was really helpful in giving people an idea of what they really wanted to do and if they really wanted to join.

Another great video! I'm an older adult who will be going back to finish my Masters in the Spring. I NEVER developed good studying habits. I would love to see a video on "good study habits" and "time management".

Me and my friend wanted to pledge delta. An Aka came to visit us. She told my friend she "looked like an aka". My friend asked her what does an Aka look like and told her she wanted to pledge delta. She told us that Deltas were ratchet and she couldn't explain to us what an Aka looks like Lol. We were like damn. We didn't pledge either. We didn't pledge at all where we was because no one gave us a reason to.

This is a great video !!! I am a proud member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority Inc. The truth hurts however it need to be said. The reason why you should want to join a organization is to give back to your community and grow as a person. Remember when you become a member you are now representing a organization. God 1st School 2nd membership follows.....

I will never understand why anyone would willingly subject themselves to someone disrespecting and or subjecting them to physical abuse just to be in an organization. that taints things imo.

I will never for the life of me understand why people feel so DESPRATELY they want to be in sorority! I get it's nice, and I think that you have the opportunity to enhance your own life and the lives of other. If you don't get picked, calm tf down. And geez, if you're in it... do something cuz otherwise that's one expensive t shirt. I met this one AKA way back before i even wanted to be greek anything. I swear one day she crossed and lost her damn mind. She would see me in public and expect me to come up and GREET HER. I kid you not. I wasn't playing any games and slick sat right down one day, and that B whacked me with a folder in my arm. Granted it didn't HURT but girl the disrespect... we almost had a REAL, PHYSICAL problem. tl;dr Don't let being in a BGLO get to your head because it can lead to a swift ass kicking. Not everyone wants to be a member of your org, and those people will nut up on your disrespectful ass real quick.

14 years and still financial and active in my Grad Chapter. I'm a proud member of Delta Sigma Theta sorority inc.school was always first for me. Delta allowed me to network and showed me ways to put myself out there. I agree with what you said wholeheartedly and like my Sorors above said you hit it on the head.

I'm a non Greek but I am a PROUD MEMBER of the National Association for Black Accountants. I tell people all the time who are interested or curious about our organization to join forte right reasons not because you want to meat the CEOs and CFOs of KPMG, Deloitt, E&Y, etc. NABA has a great history and an interesting background where 9 Accountants came together because there were not too many people of Color as Accountants. We except dedication and participation and most importantly a lifetime friendship.

lol I love how real you are. You gotta let em know wassup! I needed this. I've myself wanted to join a Sorority one day but I'm still doing my research on all the originations. Actions Speak Louder!

As a member of Delta Sigma Theta, Inc. I completely agree with your assessment. Many don't understand that we make the letters, the letters don't make us. Be a productive member of society and we will seek you out. All of our organizations want greatness.

This video is good just for anybody that wants to join an organization period. Thanks for the video!

Dope video and I'm one of those people that think its so dope to enjoy and watch black greeks from a distance meaning I don't have a strong interest in being in it but I get existed when I see them and I also respect them.

Thank you for posting this video. I have been a member of My Fraternity for over a year now. I find it amazing that people would not give you the time of day but when gaining three letters across your chest, and you're an instant celebrity. I was already involved on campus being a part of various organizations, and I didn't pledge until my senior year. I have experienced the groupies on my campus, but always try to shed light on being a part of an organization. Again thank you for the insight. 06-08!!!

Excellent video! I will share with others, especially my college age family members. I am a proud 40+ year member of a BGLO. My interest was peaked as a high school student when I was positively influenced by Black men of my environment ( neighborhood, schools, church, etc.) My father was my greatest teacher, mentor and hero. However, the other men most of whom did not even have the opportunity to pursue an education still were outstanding leaders in my community. Once I realized that I would have a chance to attend college, some of the men I encountered really impressed me with their intelligence, commitment and yes their swag. I have never regretted my decision to join my BGLO, it has enhanced my life immensely. I have enjoyed the friendships, fellowship, brotherhood, concern, commitment exhibited by not only the men of my organization but by all of the others as well. Everything is not for everybody! However, I for one can say that BGLO enhanced my collegiate and lifetime experiences for the better.

Happy you were willing to talk about this. Some members act "funny" when non members ask questions. Why wear the t shirt if your not comfortable talking about it? Some people are just curious. It is refreshing to see some openness. Thanks.

I am a member of Alpha Nu Omega Sorority, Inc. It's a Christian Fraternity and Sorority. And I totally love this video and I want to show my chapter members this video because we as Greek, even the Christian ones, need to understand this concept as well. And people need to know even though you're in a Greek lettered Christian organization that doesn't mean you automatically have to become a nun and a perfect angel. Doesn't mean people in Christian organizations don't sin. And it definitely don't give you a one way ticket to Heaven! That's Jesus job.........

I love this video. I can't relate cuz I never been in one, but this is motivating in general to be aware of things before getting into them. So thanks miss beautifulbrwnbabydol :) I think one suggestion I have is maybe a video on time management

This is THE BEST vid yet. It may be my reference tool for those who come asking. Kudos

Every single one of these are on point. thank you for posting Soror.

I know two ladies members of both aka and delta and they say they don't feel a real sisterhood and that actually they received hate while pledging and afterwards. it was actually kind of sad to hear you shouldn't have to pay thousands of dollars just to feel connected or wanted esp. if you are a grown established adult.

I loved this video! Very good points. I'm a member of Zeta Phi Beta, pledged a graduate chapter. My mom and grandmother are ZPhiB also

As a proud member of Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Incorporated (14 years), I will admit that your video is on point. The Divine 9 were created to assist the African - American and not for popularity purposes. Unfortunately, some people have joined the D9 just for the name, and many don't care to be active/ financial once they have received the letters. Before anyone joins a D9, they should research the history, and not look at the strolls and stepping styles. A few years ago, a young lady was interested in stepping so much that she wanted to be an SGRHO. Thanks, for another amazing video!

I was so confused on this topic and even tho I am a sophomore in high school I am a person who plans ahead. Thanks so much for those tips😊 I'm definitely going to follow them

My Momma is an AKA and it inspired me to want to try and see what they are about. Thanks for sharing this information and video. It was very encouraging and enlightening.

As a nongreek who eventually wants to join a BGLO, I am glad that I found this video. You cleared up some common misconceptions that have baffled me since my undergraduate days. I chose not to pledge undergrad because of the risk of being psychologically and physically abused and get belittled for three letters. Not happening! If anyone think they can call me out of my name for one second, they have a problem that they won't want brewing. Thanks for posting this video!

Proud Member of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority

Proud Pretty Girl and fellow doctor, here! Great job Soror! On point!

This video was on point! I'm Greek and I've witnessed all of these points.

I agree with you 100 percent. My entire life as a child I was around Alphas and thought I would be one too. As I got older and started to really pay attention to organizations, the Sigmas were the ones who I always saw doing positive things in my area which is how they inspired me to become a Sigma instead. I did my research and what Phi Beta Sigma Stands for fits so much more into who I am as a person. I say all this to say #1 every chapter is different #2 make the letters do not let the letters make you and #3 join something that has ideals similar to your own

grad school info! how to prep for it? conquering fears of being good enough for it. Maybe talk about your experience or any concerns you had.

Love the video!!! I am not Greek but do know people who want to be Greek. Hit the nail right on the head!!! I am sharing this video.

@melissasmith I agree I'm glad you pointed that out about how it applied to getting involved in any organization or even job. I too also would love to see a video on time management as honestly it is my area for sever growth:-)

Your video helped me in 2019 and I thank you for that Queen ✊🏾.

Hey love just wanted to say I love your vids keep up the good work queen

Your videos are so helpful!!💖💖

You and my sister have helped me so much with the advice that you ladies have been giving. I can say this I was a cheerleader for AKA in high school but something my sister asked me " What are your interest in being a K?" I never really gave her an official answer til this day and it has been 4 years ago. I have started my research since 2012 and I am not as much of a cheerleader as I was then. My first thought in college was to be on top of my classes instead of being in a Greek organization. Because I have been watching you episodes I knew more of what not to do... So I really want to thank you

Wow! New subbie 😊 loved your video!

I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! YOU WERE AMAZEBALLS!!! LOL! And now....ROUND #2!! #REVIEW

BeautyBrwnBabyDol, I first want to say thank you for this video. I have always had that thought in that back of mind to join a sorority. Personally I wanted to join to gain a social life so I can learn and start networking and just spreading the positive aspects and joy that I have in life for my lord and savior. Now I was told that I had to have bachelor’s degree years ago and now that I am in school with a year under my belt heading towards my BA, I am told that with my "choice of schooling" that joining still may not be an option. I would love to be in a sisterhood with women who know their worth and love themselves so there are willing to teach others and help others and not barging of what they have or can do. I feel (personal opinion please don't take offense) But I feel that us women already have a hard time giving or accepting a compliment and evening working with each other so( in some situation not for everyone ) an organizations is needed. It would be nice to have more than one woman who can prove the theory wrong and show that that truly care. To have the experience and the knowledge of developing a relationship within the community, your sisters, and new things about yourself would be a beautiful thing to accomplish and become part of. No matter what age if we are willing, there is always something to learn and gain from another women that is walking on the right and positive path. My apologies if I am all over the place. I was wondering if you can point me in the right direction. Now far as school, I am an art major in Interior Design program at The Art Institute. Have a wonderful and beautiful blessed day love and thank you in advance.

Thank you I needed that and I know whatI need to do.

I forwarded the video to my freshman daughter at Hofstra University...HOFSTRA PRIDE. Thanks for the video.

Thanks for the info because I was def a "this is the popular sorority" rather than do my own research....Busted!! I'll read up on them and prepare to move forward.

I really appreciate that you communicated having your own values and beliefs separate from the organization. I think that is key! And that you said you were not "bowing down" to your org, and that you love Jesus! I had been sort of discouraged because many persons in the Christian community demonize D9 orgs.

great video soror! very informative! :)

A very good video! You kept it real!

Omg! Did she say some of yall can't get alone with yourselves? LOL! 😂😂😂😂😂 Now that was too funny!!!

I'm not a Greek member but first entering college I thought I would be a part of one of the divine nine. However upon researching I realized that as a working, single mom I didn't have the time to devote to the organization. It's important that people understand the time and financial commitment attached to being a part of a Greek organization.

Great editing!

This upcoming school year will be my last undergrad year, I would like tips on funding grad school and any tips on applying to grad school thanks in advance. I really find your videos very helpful and informative.

I was never really interested in Greek life because of the movies and stories I had heard. The majority were negative about the hazing and the making you feel like you have to depend on others. As I got older I met a few people that were apart of organizations and they explained that it is helpful with studying, networking, mentoring, etc. I’ve thought about joining and be apart of a sisterhood that will support and help develop me as an individual. I tried to do research and look into the different organizations, but it’s had to find out about the differences and what they do. How should I go about learning more

Thank you for this video ..very helpful

Greetings professor. I'm glad you came across this video. I'm getting my degree in Human Services as well but im also going to pursue a degree in social work. I'm in the military so I go to an online college. However, once I move going to be going to school on campus. I would like to become an AKA for a few reasons The Original Nine Marie Woolfolk (Taylor) was a Social Worker I live by those values that AKA represent. Educational Enrichment, Health Promotion, Family Strengthening, Environmental Ownership, and Global Impact. I don't know how to go about trying to join being that I'm in the military.

Thank you sis! My auntie is a Delta and my cousin is a Kappa. I'd love to join Kappa since I would be consider a "legacy" however, I don't know if I could dedicate myself to the community service aspect. I have a lot of thinking to do.

Like my Soror below said, as a collegiate member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. you hit these points on the head.

I love the Vedic it really helped me because I am applying to go to Rutgers Newark and hopefully join a sorority, I know that I don't have much for college but God has the way I wanted to know what to expect on becoming a doctor :-)

Thank you for posting this video, Soror. I never know what to tell people who are interested other than "oooh, don't tell everybody the way I did." That was my Mom's advice when I went to college: "Slow it down and I will never have my letters on when I come to visit. Some people don't view it as a good thing if they don't know you and I will beat my little sister bald for hurting your feelings! So just hush and survey your surroundings."

You absolutely hit the nail on the head.

I've been doing my research on the divine 9 and still continuing my research. After watching this video it has given me a boost of confidence to express myself in joining an organization. Can I ask for wisdom and advice from the alum Greeks thanks and God bless

great tips!

You speaking facts 👏🏾

"Nevermind. Some people can't." Ahhhh😂

Please, you ask questions respectfully and you'll get a stare and an answer of, "do your research...." How?!

Great informative video, Soror . Thank you for sharing.

Girl I love your personality haha "bragging on DeDe you used to chill with" lmao

I know I am SO late to this video but hopefully you may still see this comment. So I’m interested in crossing in my undergrad year into a D9 Sorority. I’m currently in the very early process of doing my research and just trying to go to events and really see what each sorority has to bring to the table in beliefs and philanthropy as well as how it’s members conduct themselves online. So my first question is, is there anywhere besides those organizations websites that you would suggest going to do more research. And two, the only thing that’s holding me back from fully committing to this process are the specific chapters at my school and just some things that I’ve heard on campus. That have made me a little unsure about crossing into any of the sororities on my campus. How would I go about talking to some chapter members to really just have honest dialogue and hear about the good, the bad, the ugly and everything in between. Would that be rude to ask? Is that something that they’re even allowed to tell me? I’m mostly worried that I could cross over into and organization that I really like and believe in but also into a specific chapter that I may not.

Hey I loved your video! I'm currently a freshman at FSU & I would like to eventually join a sorority. But I'm not sure how to go about it. We have this thing every Wednesday where all the Greek organizations have tables set up & they stroll. Would it be a good idea to walk up to the table and show my interest, or is there a better way to go about it ?

i definitely agree with this I am not greek but i have witnessed people be bitter/salty towards greeks behind their back talking about greek this greek that but turn around and be in an formal rush and yet still wonder why they are chosen. I have never understood nor will i ever why people don't just realize that hey i tried joining i wasnt picked i'll either try again undergrad if i can or i'll try grad chapter because i want to join this organization and it's not the people that were picked fault i wasnt picked and theres a limit of how many people they can accept so just like with a job interview not everyone is going to get the position

I am a member of Kappa Alpha Psi and this was a great video!

I would like to know why it is that when you start to consider joining a Greek organization, people who are not interested in or didn't make it into an organization seem to try and find something negative to focus on or they try to dissuade you from joining. What's wrong with just supporting the decision?

I’m Greek and this was a great awesome video

One thing you said, RESEARCH! RESEARCH! RESEARCH! Great advice...

What would your advice be for someone who has been doing their research, but are torn between two organizations?

Attended a probrate. I left there trying to buy a ticket to Wakanda. Saw some on RU-vid, but in person, it's one of the most honorable and exciting events I've ever been to. Left there going AKA forever.

Great video Soror.

what if someone was to ask a member of a particular organization about certain things pertaining to Greek life (I.e pledging) but that someone didn't necessarily say that they were interested? In other words say if somebody asks a sigma a question about pledging but they lowkey wanna be an alpha but didn't just up and say "I wanna be an alpha" to that sigma, they're just asking questions about the process. Would that become a problem when it's time for their own process??? I hope I didn't confuse you lol

I want to do this sorority, but I know that every college is different I go to ODU in Virginia and I was wondering what questions can I ask the AKA because I live in a dorm and we have 6 floors I'm on the second floor and a member is on the third who is also a resident assistant? I did make a mistake awhile ago saying I wanted to be one on Facebook I posted it on facebook and my cousin told me never to do that I never knew you weren't supposed to say what you wanna be I'm a freshman so that's why I looked at videos online about how they step I went to the interest meeting to see what it was about. I went to this thing the college had and all the sororities and fraternities were there but what stood out to me was the AKA's even the other sororities performed too I just wanna know how can I stand out? We haven't had "rush week" yet but how can I impress them I do act myself around a lot of people but besides that.

And there it is!

Deep 💯💯💯 Thanks 😊

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I know I'm late. However, I agree wholeheartedly with your presentation as a relatively new member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. (ΦΒΣ) (Spring18) There are a lot of common misconceptions about black greek lettered organizations. The sad thing is, most of the time these misconceptions are started and spread by people who are not members of any org and haven't done any research on them.

Wow, I'm nothing, per say IAW any such group, etc, etc, ... but I just wanted to tell you that I LOVE, yes LOVE this video and that you nailed it oh so well. Thank you very much. I applaud you, I do.

I am Greek and I don't get why there are Greek organizations/ sororities and why do they have Greek letters? please someone explain this to me

Becoming members is not the hard part because nowadays they accept almost anyone. Whether or not their MADE is the real question.

Very Good Information Sis!!! APhiA 1906!!!

I have had some friends almost pressure me because they want me to join their sorority, I've had several of my friends from several different sororities over the years do this to me, but I have no interest because I know for a fact on my campus they haze and beat the girls and tell them they are nothing before they will call them a "sister" that is a concept I will never understand. How you can belittle and beat someone but but then say that you're sisters. Idk If that's everyone's experience in the divine 9 system but I could never.

Hey ma'am. . I need some help with getting my nephew to understand that he needa to be concerned with more than basketball. . He's in hs and I feel like this should have been engrained in him before now. . suggestions please!!

What advice do you have for women trying to join Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc., at the graduate level? How do you get to know the women? I read on the website it was invitation only

Soror you did a very good job at explain this but there's one thing you left off. Please do not message up on FB or approach us asking us about when our next line is and how the process goes. We cannot tell you this information and once again Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. is a nonhazing Greek organization do not ask us if we haze. Nobody is going to put your life in danger and please do not agree to anything you feel is not safe. If you are trying to be my soror my job is to love you and take care of you and help you become the best person you can be, not hurt you! And I'll speak on the swollen heads some Greeks get its normal but that's were you see how some will live up to stereotypes instead of expectations. Every organization has it it's not just sororities.

I have been trying to get in to AKA in the New Jersey Philadelphia area for the past ten years! I have even emailed the presidents of the local chapters recently to their presidents and received 1. Downright attitude and the other didn't even respond to my sincere email. I have always water to be involved in the community as well as the mentoring aspects. Makes me very wary these days of late. Any ideas

I have a disability would I still be able to participate in Greek life can someone let me know.

Your accent ? I'm from STL are you as well? Cause I heard you say "You Hurr me" LO"

Im a new mother, I plan on going to a 4 year college, and I have done my research on the Black Greek organization that I want to join. However, I figured since I had a baby I wont be considered, Is this true? Will me being a mother hinder my opportunity of pledging? Thank you for your response

She said that. These rules are so applicable across the NPHC.

Hi! What is your advice on someone interested in being Greek, but also has a child?

GUUUUURRRRRLLLLL HA LAY LU YUH TO #12!!!! SCHOLARSHIP IS AAAALLLLWWWAAAYYYSSS FIRST!!!!!! Great video!!!

Preach! I dislike shirt wearing Greeks. The ones who come in just to get booty or say their in the org. I enjoy doing community service and the brotherhood of my fraternity. Omega Psi Phi Inc....