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Yohhh so much truth in that, you would rather have people not talk to you because you said No than to have people make you sad every time you give them money even when you don’t want to.
Eyiii plus this load shedding got us on a time table for cooking 😩. Having boundaries is very important with family cs wow they will take advantage. Yazi I hated this hair cut 😂😂😂
I honestly see ‘black tax’ as taking care of one another too. Like you are saying what is the point of being well off by yourself when everyone else is left behind. We do have to set boundaries and they should be quite thick coz some family members do take advantage.
But what do you when you’re the one who didn’t have the means before and needed help from your siblings(for example)but never got that help, so you learned to work hard for yourself and now are well off , you can take care of yourself , now the same people who never helped you come to you and expect you to just give give give? What do you do in that situation?🥺🥹
My husband used to be a very reckless spender. After 2 weeks being paid, he would b broke and find himself borrowing 💰. He also had a problem of not being able 2 say no when people ask him 4 💰. Thank God I came in2 his life & helped him change his old habits😁
New subscriber here. Binge watching your videos from Windhoek, Namibia since Morning. Please please do a video on your stockvels and how you manage, budget that
Hei! Hei! Welcome to the family, I hope you enjoy it here. Thank you for the video suggestion, thats actually a great video 🥰💐 I will be filming it soon.
I appreciate this video , I love the boundaries you set . I will adopt one or two. Especially the one that a person borrows money at anytime of the month. I also budget so it frustrates me when I have to put my problems on hold and attend to their high priority problems. So everyone must come to me before I budget 😍
And I always feel like my mother is always protecting her and she has put her in this shell 🐚 that if she wants something and I have to jump in no matter what.
You must try and talk to them and draw boundaries. It won’t be nice for her at first or second time, but she will eventually know to be more responsible when planning her things. I tell my sister that I don’t have money sitting around waiting for her, sometimes it does not sit well with her but it is the truth.
I also don't borrow out money, I just give it to you. If you bring it back it's cool, if you don't it's also good because in my heart I know that I have given it to you. Quick question though Jenn: do you have a monthly allowance that you send to family or do you help them here and there?
I love that ❤️. I used to send money home when I started working and my mother was in a different financial state then but her finances have looked so much better that I no longer send money home. But I do send money to my sister to help out at school. Then here and there when needed and if I can I help out.
Eooooooohhh Jen u hit a very sensitive part,my sister likes planning parties and she will come and inform me tell me,this is what I need you to buy for this child's party and iwl be like dude why do u plan a party but don't have all the resources to cover for it. It makes me so mad😡😡😡
Ohhh my goodness I can totally understand why you would feel that way, I don’t like it when family does that. Make plans thinking you will chip in to help as if you don’t have enough problems of your own. I get you Nonku 💐❤️❤️
You have to make it clear with then that you no longer lend out money. Family members don’t pay back the money. When you give them money tell yourself that you are not borrowing them so you don’t wait forever. However, here make sure that you have a limit of money that you are willing to help out with, mine is R500.
It’s really tough hey and our white counterparts don’t have it like u said . In most cases they really plan for children, they have had white privilege that dates back. I personally am affected by it to date and I’ve had to build my life at a very very slow rate
