Facts! I'm child-free. I learned my lesson in dating men with young and grown children (grown children have kids....so that means grandkids are present...and your partner may have to take on responsibilities as a guardian). Nope. I don't date men with children. I gave up on dating 5 years ago. It's pointless. When I meet child-less men, either they want kids or are undecided. Nope! I'm not dating them, either. I don't want kids. Never. Ever.
When she talked about their conversation about his child/children’s mother, I would have said it was Real! We have to mind who we allow in our realm of energy.
@@Frugal637 what’s the use use if she did not take any precautions and still ended up in the same situation as she was before and even worse now who knows
Listen to the pot call the kettle black. Here is a baby momma telling you not to date a baby daddy. I'm so sick of these women who insist on having babies by men who really don't want them. I'm also sick of these men who keep creating all these broken families.
They just won’t learn . It’s literally been proving over and over that these men do not want children they just want to humble you and mark there territory
They just won’t learn . It’s literally been proving over and over that these men do not want children they just want to humble you and mark there territory
I don’t know lawdddd ! I did it too!! Pray for us! I want all women, younger women especially, to leave these baby daddies/ ex-husbands alone. It’s about conquering you for them. Don’t invite chaos into your life .
@@TheOriginalScorpioBelle Sorry to hear that. That's why you have to test them ahead of time though. I wouldn't normally recommend doing that, but with men you kind of have to because they're naturally manipulative.
This man told you IN YOUR FACE that he CHEATED on his previous baby mom because he could get away with it. I just don’t understand the lack of accountability and judgement on her end. You cannot bash someone who told you who they were from the beginning. It’s not like he was even being sneaky.
I don't understand ppl like that, men or women. Like, why even give a known cheater a chance? Thinking "he or she would never cheat on me" doesn't make them a worthy partner. I would never even take interest in someone I knew cheated on a former partner.
She thought she was special I’m guessing . As they all do . Men literally laugh in our faces because of women like her will always fold to their desire . I l can’t stand her , her mentality is how the world continues to perceive BW .
She thought she was special I’m guessing . As they all do . Men literally laugh in our faces because of women like her will always fold to their desire . I l can’t stand her , her mentality is how the world continues to perceive BW .
Women sometimes compete like “couldn’t be me!” Even in her story, she thinks the former baby mum was jealous that she had a baby by him, as if that’s something to be jealous over or a prize. Just shows a little bit about where her mind was at at the time.
Probably competing to be his “ favorite”. Some women truly do compete, especially once they find out about him dealing with or being in close proximity to another woman.
Competition for whattttttt, to whattttttt, like for him to treat her like how he was treating his ex? Mannnnn, no those are excuses y’all giving her, it would make sense if he was treating his ex person well, speaking highly of her as his child’s mother and telling her or hinting to spoiling the mother of his child. That I can maybe understand but after he told how he been treating this woman what is there to compete for
the D was good simple lol she ignored the signs because the mouth piece was mouthing to get the box...once he got it and she liked it she was willing to be the next in line to carry his child and be mad at the next woman when she could have ran before it got that far. Good D will do things that regular D had you never considering.
In other words, she didn’t see let herself make the same mistake she made the first time. Never imagined having a kid with baby daddy #2 but when you found out you were pregnant, after all the shit he talked before, you just had the kid and now are shocked you’re dealing with nonsense. Girl, bye.
@@The1GeminII He looked her in her eye and explained how little he'd think of her if she let him play her the way he played her and she appreciated his honesty...dear god, help our daughters. This man drew her a diagram of red flags and that didn't deter her.
This must be a syndrome or something. Ignoring red flags. Or the "I ain't the one syndrome". Or the "I'm different, he won't do that with me" syndrome. Or the "I can change him" syndrome.
First red flag for the woman in the video that was ignored: "BECAUSE I KEPT CHEATING ON HER!" That right there tells you his character (or lack thereof)!!!
This is how they avoid karma, they tell you what it is from the beginning. These women choose to be played. I killed 3 people I dated but they were all dumb that's why. Would she then have still dated him? Some women would.
Personally, there wouldn't have been a date 2 for the simple fact that he's a serial cheater who lacks accountability. I'ma need sis to know, she missed bright red flags.
Listen I one e went on a date , where the guy told me he pulled a gun out on his ex at a birthday party because she cheated . He said he wanted to off her and her family , and if it wasnt for his best friend that was there to calm him down he would have done it . He said the incident occurred about 15 years ago . I literally blocked and deleted his number from my phone . I don’t care if it was justifiable , your emotions over powered to the point that you wanted to unalive an entire generation. IM OUT ! I take everything a man say as a threat .
Listen I one e went on a date , where the guy told me he pulled a gun out on his ex at a birthday party because she cheated . He said he wanted to off her and her family , and if it wasnt for his best friend that was there to calm him down he would have done it . He said the incident occurred about 15 years ago . I literally blocked and deleted his number from my phone . I don’t care if it was justifiable , your emotions over powered to the point that you wanted to unalive an entire generation. IM OUT ! I take everything a man say as a threat .
@@l0111 GIRL! What!? Lol They say these things thinking it’s cool and because we’ve made them comfortable enough to do so. They don’t see it as “telling on themselves.” If I’ve learned anything from my dating life, it’s to LISTEN AND LET A MAN SPEAK. Don’t try to justify anything or make sense of it, just take it for what it is. It’s amazing what you find out and see when you use logic, see them for who they are… versus who we want them to be.
There is no missing the red flags. He served the red flags up on a platter for her. He told her he always goes back to the other woman. This man cheats and yet you have unprotected sex with him. It is very hard to sympathize with someone who does not understand their mistakes and blame others. This is not about him having children, it is the fact that he lacks morals and integrity.
I feel like there is definitely a lack of self respect from the creator in this situation. That man told her how he has treated his child’s mother and she still opened her legs to him…. Also, never trust what a man has to say about another woman that you are actively pursuing. He will not be honest about his true feelings/intentions.
Definitely a lack of self respect. And I feel like men like that will tell the truth just to see where your self respect level is. He saylt there on date #1 and told her straight up that he was a serial cheater that won't stop because he gets away with it, and she still laid down with him and made a baby. He was testing to see if she respected herself or if she was just as foolish as his first baby mama. And she was.
@@verda_renee Yes, 100%! I have a feeling that she may have also felt like she was better than his BM in a way because he was honest with her about his situation upfront. She probably felt like because he gave her honesty upfront, he was going to treat her better. Smh, she fell right into that one unfortunately
This has NOTHING to do with dating a man with a child! This is about ALL parties involved being immature, delusional, with no standards or boundaries! How do you not see yourself having kids with someone that you are having sex with? Procreation is a natural effect of sex!! Why was she impressed with him saying he has commitment and self-discipline issues?! Even if the childs mother kept taking him back. What does that say about him?!! This situation is very sad but it really has nothing to do with the kids but the sad adults!
She’s attempting to take accountability…. Kind of. She may have a healthy relationship with her oldest daughter’s father even though they aren’t together. But I think it’s weird when people bring up broken homes as though there aren’t broken homes where the parents are together.
The BD is trash, yes, but this woman made her own bed. It’s very difficult to feel sympathy for anyone who knows what they’re getting themselves into, yet they think they’ll be the exception to the rule. I do, however, agree with her advice: DO NOT DATE BABY DADDIES!
I don’t think I will ever have kids. Sad, but if this is what is out there I want zero parts. Men cheating and women having kids with men who they know are with other women. Omg. Please pray that this isn’t the life for me yall.
Same! I'm 46 and Child-free. I knew I didn't want kids when I was a teenager. I'm so glad that I don't have kids. I'm retired from the military and living my best life. Single, no one to "anchor" me down...I do whatever I want to do.
58 yo and unapologetically child-free. Got my tubes tied young and never looked back. The single best thing I did for my own life, my sanity. Men with children are radioactive forever.
she thinks that clown "ate" by disrespecting the mother of his child and she created life with that ingrate anyway. although she is absolutely right she is not the ideal person to take advise from.
😂Why co-parent? Just don't ask him to anymore, its clear he doesn't want to help you. Let it go. Its no longer your problem. Chances are he won't come see the baby and let him deal with your kids anger when she's 18. Keep your peace.
Exactly! Why go through the bs? Second he said he wasn’t coming around, I’d have been like “bye. Oh and please sign these parental rights termination forms on your way out.” No time for foolishness. Let that fool go.
It really shows a lack of self respect and a lack of compassion for her own child - having this toxic man around and continuing this toxic situation for nothing but a warm body who is only around when his other bm is busy or angry. She gets what she deserves but the baby (both of her children, actually) shouldn’t.
No morale of the story stop having unprotected sex with these men he was showing signs from the beginning yet we as women keep thinking we can change him now you in drama with his baby momma.
Red flag number one...his baby mama was NOT black. Red flag number two...if he disrespects his baby mama what you think he gonna do to you? Red flag number three...he is not taking accountability and responsibility as a father and instead allowing his baby mama to be the scapegoat in the situation.
I searched for it. They were arguing and she had his bag of weed dangling from her finger saying he's not even a real drug dealer and he snatched it from her so aggressively that her finger was torn off and the doctors said that given how ragged the tear is attempting to put it back on would take a 12 hour surgery and being under that long would likely cause her to lose the baby.
She said another woman couldn't come in between the 1st child's donor but she's mad that the second guy's baby mother is saying the same thing as her. 🙄😒
It’s sad that she’s a part of it now and it’s also sad how she said she never wanted to be a part of it, but ignored the red flags when he straight up told her pretty much that he would never stop messing with his 1st bm
I’m ngl I really dislike when women with kids say they only date men w/o kids, like girl damn leave us childfree women with somethinggggg it’s already piss in the dating pool, why can’t y’all single moms & dads figure it out 😂😂🤭🤧
Something about giving a trifling guy the time of day... as if, if we manage to have him doing good by us, than that proves our worth as women and how amazing we are. We need to do better for ourselves.
I don't know if a woman who has kids can avoid dating a guy who has kids. A lot of men don't want baby mamas either. But overall, yes, I would never date another baby daddy. They almost always have weird relationships with the mother of the kid(s).
Girl men with kids usually seek out women without kids. And that’s normally because they want the opportunity to be her “ first”. If they can’t have you as a virgin, then they want to be the first baby daddy. It’s about control, entitlement, etc. And the fact that they’re usually part time daddies & don’t even acknowledge all of the kids they do have anyway.
He didn't give you the male perspective, he gamed you. Women and Men fall for this all the time. All someone has to do is get the other person to need to prove something when it isn't even worth it. "Well, I'm not your ex-. I have self-respect." That was his goal. To make you think you can handle him while also raising your self-worth. The word "Cheater" says it all. It doesn't just mean they slept with someone else or betrayed someone else emotionally. It means they significantly tricked you and/or took something signficant from you. Like trust, time, faith, hope, love, lives, mental stability, peace of mind. This particular kind of cheater builds his partner up just to instantly begin tearing/wearing them down, just for their partners to forget all about self-respect because everything they've built, that they alone are invested in stands to crumble before them. Sure, respectability might get lost in there somewhere, but the partner of the cheater is numb to how they come across to other people at that point, and pretty much have lost too many IQ points and self-control to care. They are being cheated and might lose everything. And all because they had to prove they are better than the ex. Frankly, if he felt bold enough to admit that he was a cheater in so much detail, he already had you figured out. And he knows you'll fall for his con. But the real question is what is wrong with you when a complete stranger boldly admits that he regularly cheated on a woman he dated seriously that he stayed with because she has no self-respect, and you think, "I'm going to prove to a Cheater who prays on vulnerable women that I have self-respect"? The mental gymnastics and manipulation are crazy.
Listen, it’s not her sweetheart, it’s him. She’s only acting like that because of what he told her. She’s just feeling dumb for having another baby, and a second baby daddy. She needs to wake up!
@@MinnaMszI think they mean she's focusing too much on the other baby momma. The other baby momma is just as delusional as she is. The 1st person she needs to deal with is herself and come to terms with accepting a man who told her how he treats women before she had a baby by him.
I had to find the explanation because that sounded crazy. They were arguing and she was dangling his bag of weed from her finger saying he wasn't even a real drug dealer and he ripped the bag of weed from her so aggressively her finger got ripped off too. The hospital said the rip was so uneven that they'd have to put her under for 12 hours to ATTEMPT to reconnect it and if they did that she's likely lose the baby. So yeah, that's why he's not in jail, it was an accident and she chose to have this man's baby over possibly keeping her finger.
@@juanasweets1368 Also when she told him he was pregnant he told her he didn't want a kid with her, he wanted his only kids to be with non-black baby mama...
@@MissKashiraA plastic bag is flimsy. It takes a lot of force to use it to hack someone’s finger off. So while I don’t think he did it intentionally, that should have scared her enough to walk away. Because that means he is really strong when he gets mad. Also couldn’t imagine staying with a man that permanently disfigured me.
Let me get this straight: Her question to him: "Why would you continue to cheat on her if you wanted to go back?" His response: "I continue to cheat on her because I knew I could always go back. I don't take her serious in the sense of "she's leaving me" or "she's done with me" because she always takes me back. She does not have self-respect." His CONTINUED response: What type of woman with self-respect and high self-esteem would continuously take back a man that has cheated on them multiple times? Her: "AnD hE kInDa "AtE" wItH tHaT oNe." 🤡 Me: Girl, WTF?! So this man LITERALLY TOLD YOU he ain't NO good! He TOLD YOU he was a walking, talking RED FLAG 🚩🚩 and you STILL procreated with him?! Sorry-not-sorry, I can't feel bad for this woman! Dude told her he was toxic HIMSELF! She didn't even have to find out later because he TOLD HER UP FRONT! And she STILL had a kid with him when she ALREADY had a child by a previous relationship!
Let me get this straight, on the first date, this man told you that *he's been cheating his baby mama for seven years* and not only did you think this man was worth seeing again, you thought he was worth risking your health and your life to bring his child into this world? This guy? This guy? Why are you not embarrassed?
@@TheOriginalScorpioBellehonestly, a lot of men can repeatedly have sex with women they’re not attracted to. Men even marry women they’re not attracted to all the time. It may not always be the case. But it definitely happens a lot.
He knew as soon as she still continued to still fuck with him AFTER telling her that he was a serial cheater, that she too has low self esteem. A lesson she didn’t even have to learn
While she was giving him “props” for “putting her on game” she failed to acknowledge how she felt better than the mother of his children. She looked down on her (like him) for sticking around. She felt special because he’s being honest and she would most definitely leave.
This has nothing to do with dating a baby daddy, and everything to do with her blatantly ignoring all the red flags. She even said she feel sorry for "that dumb*ss woman", and the irony almost killed me. I don't want to be harsh, and I wish her the best, but I really hope she learns to be more self aware, because she clearly has not learn anything yet.
You know what? Watching stories like this make me realise how different/ strong some women are. Because bayybe.. if that happened to me, I’m pretty sure I’d spiral into depression and possibly become su*cidal 😞😳 No joke
Umm many of us have faced gut wrenching heartache, I mean to the point wr it almost ruined us but we dug deep, thought long & hard about what matters & simply choose that. I've been hurt but I'm not taking myself from my children, mom & other ppl that love me bc some XY chose not to see my worth. Hell if I do that, I don't see my OWN DAMN WORTH 😂 im not crying over nobody that don't want me💅🏾🫖🍵 Girl remember the best revenge is succes🌟
She is attracted to disfunction, people that grew up in disfunction tend to seek it out wherever they go, that's why is always good to see a women relationship with their family and screen the nature of their childhood, usually gives you a good baseline map of a person
This situation was not created because the man had a child. The situation was created because she didn’t listen to him and proceeded to have a relationship with a man who told you he was trash from the beginning. She didn’t take responsibility for her part in the situation.
I don't feel sorry for women who still decide to move forward with a man when he's upfront about his character. The man is telling you he aint shit and, somehow, you make up this alternate reality in your head. Smfh!
Already knew that and first red flag was he had a kid …. A guy tried to take me out but found out he had 2 kids while not making the relationship work with neither woman. Never date a man with kids.
He told her he always goes back to his baby mama and she still had a baby with him? The baby mama isn't the problem. If someone tells you they can't be faithful, believe them. She set herself up for this. SMH
Years ago I met this man that had 4 children in elementary school and he was a single parent. He wanted to date me, but I didn't do it. I just went on my way. I dated a man with young children before and I just didn't want to do it again. I don't have any children.4-26-2024(Fri)
The moral of this story should be - don't ignore red flags! We women cannot control the behaviour of others (men). But we can most definitely control our own behaviour and who we choose to entertain. Does this take away the fact that the man is no good? No. But it definitely put as at fault if we know he is no good and still entertain him.
She's a whole red flag. She chose to be a part of that trauma triangle...lol like she said. She didn't care. Now sit down and enjoy your new trauma bonding family.
When you are so desperate for life that you continue seeing a man who said to your face that he was a repeated cheater to the mother of his child… even if you don’t plan to have children with him you are putting your body in danger with a person that is seeing multiple people, and probably not even tested. Smh
Jealousy. The Other girl did research not correct but research anything to cause a rift. He seems mean spirited. The young lady is better off without the headache get child support and move on.
This man was already telling her that he is a liar and a cheat, but she continued to fool with him. When he told her that he breaks up with his Baby Mama and gets back with her, that was her que to leave him alone. Now, she is in some unnecessary drama with this lame ass man and his other Baby Mama. All of them are immature and need to grow up. I feel for these children. 4-26-2024(Fri)
Girl abortions exist, adoptions exist and the most important thing is that birth control is an effective method to prevent pregnancy!!! You do not need to have a kid with every single man 😓
How do women end up in situations like this?! I just don’t understand how women let men play in their face like this. Were they even in a relationship when she got pregnant?
She chose the baby mama lifestyle so she shouldn’t be complaining about being in that lifestyle. She’s slow she thought she would be different to the baby mama he was cheating on. She sounds hypocritical.
😂😂😂😂😂 the tittle have me weak 🤣🤣🤣🤣 my baby father got another baby mother and a girlfriend every time I see her I just be 🤦🏾♀️ but all I could do is mind my business cause I know it not going to last he is a big time cheater
If she didn't have access to birth control or abobo, okay I guess. But If she did.....idk what to say. Best of luck to her, hope she makes better choices in the future
