Blindsided by the avoidant 

I just been through something like that about 2 months ago.... Was the most fck painful experience I ever went through in my life! Absolutely awful!!! But yes, there is life at the other end of the tunnel

Being dumped is a painful experience.

Thanks Coach! This is exactly what he did to me, proposed to me 💍 and all. Then suddenly dumped me, saying “he’s done.” He doesn’t want the ring back. Now I’m stuck in the healing process recovering from him. I want nothing to ever do with him again.😢😢 Thank you so much.💔

I feel bad for not being able to help her, I thought I would be the man she opens up to and trusts. I loved her with everything I had and treated her with nothing but love and respect. A few tiny speed bumps in the relationship and she completely blew everything out of proportion and would verbally attack me and my insecurities... She broke up with me like it was nothing even though I was the only person in her life she spoke to at all. She gave no explanation but just left me in the dark like I meant nothing to her. Yet I'm the one who's feeling guilty and bad for not being there for her more or being able to make it work.

I am from Berlin...Germany. I wanna thank u from my heart for ur explaination. I felt a lot what u said. Now, i have my answers to his behavior! I felt really bad. We had such a wonderful time...i cared a lot about him and all of the sudden after a really wonderful evening and night ( really special with so many feelings) he discarded me with no reason. I am a real strong person, but it took my power for some time. I read a lot about fearful Avoidants...but how u discribe all that with ur examples helps so so much more to understand and to let go the pain! THANK U SO MUCH FOR THAT RYAN. Many greetings from Berlin...Peace for all of us!!❤

Yes this is quite hard to recover from. There is a small part of me that still feels sorry for him but the lack of self reflection and being so disconnected from your emotions and quite frankly your own soul is quite shocking. I am older and I knew nothing about this and unfortunately many older single people have personality disorders, that’s why they are single ! I did draw the line in the sand and he did run and I did hear all those excuses that made no sense.

You described my situation very perfectly precisely

Thank you for your videos. Understanding all this brings me so much peace after an awful experience with an avoidant person recently.

Many folks have bad childhoods and don’t become avoidant. Do the inner work!!!

It does not only affect romantic relationships but platonic ones too. I have a female friend that bolted when our friendship started feeling too close. She was like a daughter to me and the emotional pain has been brutal. I'm currently no contact.

COACH … you are spot on!thank you. I’m sorry to everyone that is experiencing this pain I’ve been through multiple critical incidents and have PTSD . Mine GHOSTED after 8 years … no “just/reasonable cause”. Either she monkey branched , as a lot of people do…. Or she is a true dismissive avoidant and was fearful because she told me ahead of time was unworthy of my love about a month before she vanished. This is in the top 5 of most painful incidents I’ve experienced. I’ve been in NC do 9 months and deleted all my social media . I’m pummeled

You're a Top bloke Ryan, I've learn so much watching your videos....and also healed alot. I still miss her and think of her as she was so much fun. If she ever reached out, I'd wanna keep thing strictly on a friendship level. I feel sorry for her....As you say, You didn't lose them. THEY LOST YOU!...

Thank you!

It took a year for me to recover from being monkey branched. Never again!!!

If they were treated bad as a kid, then why did my ex run back to her family after the discard/breakup and started posting more pictures of them together? Comfort, familiarity?

I was blindsided

👍💯THANK YOU!!🥺😔💔😢😫

Or they'll just do a slow fade

Or you just get blocked across all venues with zero warning or explanation

Not my person, not a match, not compatible, lost romantic feelings, don’t love you….anymore

Cheers Ryan to a tee buddy great weekend away totally in love inseparable bang text lately I've been thinking it's not working keep your chin up two days later totally in shock after 7 years funnily enough I suggested she was an avoidant on our break she totally denied it Ryan your videos are all spot on

Question: Do avoidants try to make you jealous on purpose? Even if you are just acquaintances or friends? Idk why but I sensed something off when he two times mentioned how he cares a lot about another female. Idk but why mentioning this to me?

😢😢😢😢😭😭😭

Lost

How do you fix this?????