Boyfriend Punches Girlfriend in the Face?!? 

Forget about the pranks, imagine waking up, barely regestering where you are, and having your mouth and nose covered. This seems like an attempted murder. And if that is trauma related, boy, I would have a full blown panic attack

Apple 4: The "girlfriend" is an abuser with all that "joking around" it was bullying and abuse. The covering the nose and mouth was an attack. Punching in the face is self defence.

I hope the 4th story guy is reading this…… GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP! Block her, ghost her, get as far as you can from her! Not only is she using your trauma against you for her own amusement but then she’s using your trauma against you to gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong. None of this is OK. You are by far the Good Apple and deserves so much better and a girlfriend.

I absolutely hate it when people are abusing people they know and then when they’re called out about it or the other does something about it, the abuser starts pulling the victim card.

Service Dog: If that dog had not been well trained, a 2-year-old lunging at it may have provoked a bite. It's not just running in the street, her kid might have gotten horribly hurt and disfigured. No toddler deserves that. In addition, that dog would be put down. So yeah, telling a mom to mind her kids is not a bad ask. And possibly shaming her out of that behavior makes it worth the risk.

This whole episode could be titled "Toxic women behaving irrationally".

OMG that last story made my blood boil. Making fun of a trauma, false accusations of abuse, and gaslighting all rolled in one. Ive never wanted to fight another woman that much before.

OK, prefacing this with I'm Canadian, so I don't know what it's like to be charged insane amounts of money for an ambulance. However, as a Mother, I would never, ever blame a babysitter for calling an ambulance in what is percieved as a medical emergency. That is the sign of a good, caring babysitter, absolute full stop. I am very fussy when it comes to who looks after my children, and that level of attention and care for my children would get her a big old tip and gratefulness from me.

All good apples and MY GUY FROM STORY 4 PLEASE RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN away from that girl. She knows you have trauma and her excuse of being loving to me is BS, she's straight up crossed boundaries and then blamed you for it, it's gaslighting and I've been there; take care of yourself ❤

1: Good apple, but nothing else to say here, you kinda said it all. 2: Again, they were perfectly in their right to defend an innocent animal, but the name calling could have been passed up on that. She needed to be called out on her gross behavior of not paying attention to where her playing children were, but calling her disgusting was too much. 3: Good Apple... The babysitter did exactly what any good caretaker should do when a child turns blue, she called 911. She showed that she takes her responsibility very seriously and cares for those children. The mom is def in the wrong here. 4: 100% good apple: Run... Run fast, Run far. You deserve someone who respects you and your trauma, not someone who thinks trauma response is "cute" and a great way to have some fun. That is disgusting behavior and you need to end that relationship before you end up with other issues or your life completely ruined. Thank you for your amazing content... and I'll say it again, I swear we would be besties.. Cheese? Potatoes? Yes!!! give me all of it!! 💜💜💜

Apple #4: GOOD APPLE. Also, run! Unfortunately sometimes people who experienced abuse at home growing up end up right back in the arms of an abuser when they get in a relationship. It sounds like that’s what’s happened here. Also, PSA from a trauma survivor healing from PTSD: Survivors can joke about it if it helps, but it’s never funny to laugh AT someone’s trauma.

breath holding spells are very common with young children, they are so overwhelmed they have trouble breathing

That poor poor man in that abusive relationship in number 4. I really really hope he has left her. Because what she is doing to him is abuse. The whole situation is so frightening.

At the beginning of the video, when Rebecca said hitting your partner is never okay, the hubby said, "What if she's choking you and won't stop?" It's creepy how close he came to being spot on. Total agreement with all four today. Great episode!

I totally agree with you for all 4. That last one, that girlfriend is very sick, there is something wrong with her. I hope he gets out of that relationship ASAP!

For the 1st story I think the mom is a good apple...I will also say that the bride is a Crab apple. She knows this day is a sad one/day or mourning for her family and insists on having her wedding then, and when people tell her that the're not going(understandably so) she pitches a fit!! I understand that as the bride she can chose whatever day she wants...but just because she CAN, doesn't mean she should

That poor man in the 4th story. He has so much trauma and his girlfriend cant be mature and not play pranks on him. He needs someone who wont do that to him. This is a "break up with them." In big flashing lights

Guy in the 4th story……. 🏃🏻‍♂️ RUN RUN RUN!!! VERY FAST!!! Like 5 years ago….. 🏃🏻‍♂️ 🏃🏻‍♂️ 🏃🏻‍♂️

Story 3: NTBA the mom is mad that the babysitter… cared about the childs safety?? like shes blaming her for something that she didnt know and wasn’t appreciative that she was trying to make sure the baby was okay… like you said healthcare is incredibly expensive, but that is just crazy that she can blame the babysitter for something she DIDNT know and refuse to pay her. OP is not the good apple all the way. Story 4: NTBAAA like i joke about my own trauma or wtv its called because its just how i cope, idk what else to do about it. But for SOMEONE ELSE to try to trigger reactions out of someone from their trauma and finds it funny then theres something wrong with them. Like mentally. And when she got what she deserved it was all of a sudden OP’s fault?? OP needs to run fr, good apple all the way

My oldest fell when he was about 7 months old, he was fine, but then he stopped breathing, turned blue, and went limp.... We being new young parents called 911, took an ambulance, and spent 4 hours at the ER to find out he held his breath! He did it consistently for a year or so, and we would just blow in his face, to get him to breath again.

Story 4: RUN AWAY MY GUY! she is keeping you in the cycle of abuse. She literally scared you, you had a trauma response, and then gaslit you into thinking you are an abuser???? Absolutely not! Run away and find a woman that loves you and will care for you! Good apple, girlfriend needs to go

3rd story I have experienced this with the breath holding spells they didn't get that bad, but yeah, she's a good apple that's terrifying and I couldn't imagine my baby sitting days and dealing with this.

For the 4th story: I cried when she said "you're going to turn into your parents. You're an abuser." Anyone with trauma, hearing that, is basically on the verge of a breakdown. Comparing someone in treatment to their abusers is sick and twisted. She is the abuser, based solely on her behaviors. Good apple, I hope that poor man runs for the hills.

For story 3, I at least hope the Dad reached out to the babysitter to apologize and still pay her for doing her job to the best of her ability.

My daughter was born in 1992. She would get so angry that she would hold her breath til she would turn blue. It started around 6 mo old and stopped around 18 mo when she finally passed out a couple times. She was ok every time and being a RN I would double check to make sure she was OK. If I had left her with someone and it happened and I forgot to tell them about it, the ambulance would have been completely on me. It would have been something I could afford but I can't blame them for my mistake. The last story I agree completely. Being someone who was hit and abused I have to say he took great delight in trying to scare me which is really easy to do. I have hit someone who scared me or passed out cold. It is a form of abuse and control when people do that. Unless I chose to go to a scary movie or a haunted house (never) then I gave consent. But scaring me for a laugh is not allowed. He needs to RUN! NOW!!🚩🚩🚩

#4- we accept the love we think we deserve, man. Run, not walk away from her because you deserve WAY better. What she’s doing is abusive, and NOT funny.

The thing with story 3 is if something had been wrong and she didn’t call she could be held legally responsible for that child. Not to mention the trauma.

There’s a term for what the gf does in the last story: reactive abuse is when someone deliberately provokes a certain response from someone so they can gaslight them into thinking they’re the abuser. My heart goes out to the OP-so many people who were abused as kids aren’t able to recognize when they’re with an abusive partner, either because abuse feels normal, or because it is genuinely not as bad as what they went through before.

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Story 3 As a mom, I didnt know about that condition, and that condition sounds terrifying. Even if a doctor told me it was ok, I would be afraid of my child just randomly stop breathing. If my child passed out from it, *I* would call 911.

I react similarly to OP #4. My husband noticed how easily I startle early in our marriage. He scared me a couple of times by accident and immediately comforted me. He also cautioned our kids not to scare Mum. This is how a loving person helps you deal with trauma. Op #4 needs to Run!!

First story: good apple. Daughter is a snot though. Second story: good apple. Name calling aside, mom is horrible for doing that to her dog. Third story: good apple . The wife is delusional. I think that babysitter did the right thing, and i hope the dad found a way to pay the babysitter Story four: good apple. But that girlfriend is absolutely a walking red flag. I usually dont go straight to run, but in this case i do. Oh my goodness this poor guy. I hope he leaves.

The first story is so sad!!! Yes, grieve the loss (I've lost 8 ppl in just over 4yrs) but don't stop your lives! The wedding should be a great way to celebrate love and life! I'm sure her Grandmother, Uncle, and cousin would have been thrilled for her!

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#4 Girlfriend seems like a classic narcist... if not a sociopath. Run, run fast, run hard, and don't look back.

There's a chance the mom felt more guilt about not communicating and then lashed out in result.

I’ll say I don’t envy the stuff women have to put up with. But that last story absolutely enraged me since she probably believes he’s wrong because he’s the man in the relationship.

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4. I really feel the pain of story #4. I have PTSD and actually I was in therapy when the incident happened. Like this man, I was easily startled (the therapy scaled back my jumpiness). Anyway, I was a hotel GM. The AGM had already left for the day. We were fully booked and busy at the front desk. A guest called and said that their kid had spilled a pint of chocolate milk on the bed. They also said that they just wanted the linens (sheets/blankets/comforter) and would make the bed themself. We tried paging the night maid, but she wasn't answering. Security said (on the radio) that the night maid had not left the property. I decided to run down to housekeeping and pick up the linens myself. I gathered the linens and was backing out of housekeeping. I felt someone grab my butt. I dropped the linens and spun, not only clocking the offender, but knocking the night maid on her butt. She nearly cried and fished a tooth out of her mouth that I had knocked out of her jaw. I apologized and then told her that she shouldn't grab anybody's butt at work. I finished the task, delivering the linens and then went to the front desk and told the front office manager what had happened. She was actually amused. I went upstairs, typed up a report and faxed it to the management group (they were having email issues). I came downstairs and saw the night maid yukking it up with the FOM about the incident. I asked the night maid if she needed any help, time off, etc. to which she declined. This, basically, was the end of the incident.

Literally waiting all day for this!!

The bride is showing the family how little she thinks of them. She sabotaged her relationship with the family for good! That kind of thing is what people hold grudges for! Bad start to a marriage!

Ambulances are free where I am in Australia. It's so odd to me that an ambulance ride for an EMERGENCY costs money.

For the 4th story that relationship definitely needs to end. He is jumpy because of abuse. The girlfriend scaring him and suffocating him is not a cute prank at all.

Story #4: What a horrible toxic girlfriend. She clearly takes pleasure in gaslighting others.

The last two had so many red flags I'm surprised a bunch of bulls didn't come running. The last one in particular was so tragic His long-term girlfriend is an abuser; this is the person he's chosen to spend his last few years of his life with. He's following a pattern of behavior that I hope that he learns to break. Firstly, by breaking up with his girlfriend and secondly getting therapy so that he realizes that he deserves better.

For the 3rd story, young babies forgetting or stopping breathing is rather common (at least in my limited experience in the UK. Both my niblings and my friends son all had it.) If you don't know about it, Hell even if you do, It can be extremely scary. Yeah you just have to blow air at their face/nose/mouth and it will typically sort it. Someone who doesn't know about this reacting the way the babysitter did is the most logical and caring you could be in that situation. Imagine if it wasn't that and you didn't do anything. Babysitter is NTBA.

I am with you 100% with your verdicts. All good apples. I really hope that last guy gets out of that relationship. I'm genuinely terrified for him. Pranks like that can end in tragedy very easily.

I can understand both sides of the wedding thing. For one, I've found that the only way I can deal with my triggers such as grief, anxiety, PTSD triggers... Is by reprogramming them. It's a lot of work but otherwise I feel like I am a prisoner of those triggers. So I completely understand reclaiming that day as a happy one, and I would even consider it in honor of the family. But on the family side, I also understand that the grieving process is different for everyone and can be longer and anniversaries are especially hard. 😢 I'm sorry this is a difficult time for them.

My thought on mom and babysitter (I watch too many dramas lol): 1st thought is mom is jealous if this teenage babysitter for some reason and was just looking for a reason to fire her and 2nd thought is mom is more concerned with money and material things than with people (people she birthed)

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I’ve had “friendships” like the OP in story 4. They’d get a kick out of scaring me because they knew I don’t like jump scares due to my brother loving to jump out and scaring me when I was almost at the top of a flight of stairs when I was little. My best friend of 24 years knows to make sure I’m aware she’s behind me before talking to me because she learned that I startle easily and she’s a flipping ninja with how quiet she is.

The people getting married in the first story are hypocrites. They chose an important day to them to get married then don't understand the importance of that day to everyone else

Years ago I was cast in a male role in a play. The first dress rehearsal I came home in costume and full makeup. My husband and kids were asleep. I went into the bedroom and called his name. He jumped up and was ready to throw a punch. I managed to wake him completely before he hit me. He kept apologizing. He had nothing to apologize for. If he had hit me it would have been totally my fault! We need to think completely about what we are doing to others.

Story 4 is the best apple. Surpasses all other apples. As someone who was abused by a parent and startles very easily, I wouldn't have even apologized. She was given multiple opportunities to change her behavior and she didn't. Serves her right. 🍎

I love this series but some of the stories really get me riled up.

I have PTSD, so I can relate to both the last and the second story. Once, my wife came up and gives me from behind and I hit her. We both apologized profusely, and it hasn't happened again. Since that incident, I have gotten a service dog, and sometimes it seems like it's easier to navigate the world without her because of the absolute entitlement and lack of awareness of the people around me. A service dog is trained to go into high stress in order to help their human, and as a last resort will bite to get their point across. In that particular situation, the name calling was completely warranted, and was a way better outcome than what could have happened

"Am i the bad apple for punching my girlfriend in the face?" Yes/ No. If the girl has never done any kind of violence towards you then yes. I do not condone violence toward women. However, I turned around with my ex-girlfriend in a psychotic break pointing a live gun with an actual round in it. So, yes she got disarmed and the police arrived. As a disabled US veteran, I didn't think. I just seen a live gun and reacted immediately. They have a psychotic break and are going to shoot or kill you, despite you loving them... then no. I ended up leaving the state to get away from this chick.

The story number 3 - I would never let her go. She reacted awesomely to an emergency (even if not real). This babysitter is awesome! I hope she sees this! You are awesome!

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My baby had this same breath-holding… I would NEVER blame the sitter!

Story 1- good apple story 2- good apple story 3- good apple. Story 4- good apple

The last story is the definition of play stupid games win stupid prizes

I heard stories 1 & 3 before. All good apples for me too! Last one made me cry so freaking hard. I hate people who hurt others for amusement especially knowing their background. OP needs to run far, fast and quickly. Edit: Also, calling someone disgusting isn't really name calling. She's speaking a fact that the mother showed. She was being a disgusting human being and was called such.

Story number 4 "I'm not an abuser - it was just a prank." 😂

I agree with you on the first story. You are correct.

For the first story: The anniversary of the family members' deaths is on one day. She could have chosen literally any other day of the year. There's 364 other days. You can't tell me there isn't another date that is important to her and her fiancé. If she really cared about her family and having them there she would have changed the date. She's only thinking of herself and not the people who are mourning that only lost all of those family members two years ago.

As someones who has alot of trauma, this would send me into a full ptsd episode. He needs to leaves her NOW

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I had the breathholding until 9yrs. I'm fine. But it was hard on my parents. I had to be resuscitated a number of times

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oh thank goodness i have been waiting for you to see the guy who punched his gf cant wait to see what you think about it

When I was younger I had the same condition that the baby had in that video. I am my parent's first child, and so the first time it happened they, understandably, panicked. I also have babysitting experience and know that I absolutely would have called for help if the child was having any kind of medical episode. So, anyway, while I know that the condition poses no harm to the child, I completely understand where the babysitter was coming from and totally support her decision.

Story #3: I definitely feel like there's information being withheld here. The mom can't be this angry over just a 911 call. It sounds to me like the person telling the story said some other hurtful thing that's been omitted.

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In the third story, Daisy was unaware the little one would be fine. She acted as anyone would in that situation. Who in their right mind would blame her for that?

The last story reminds me of the girlfriend who faked having an emergency.

I live in the UK and it’s currently 00:25. I still stayed up just so I could watch this though 😊

I agree with all of your apples and have two comments. Number 1 is the poor babysitter. I’m flabbergasted the Mom is worried about an ambulance bill no matter what their budget, nor finances when it comes to their baby, never mind they didn’t warn the sitter of the illness. Who would jeopardize their child’s life over an ambulance ride? And on the other hand if she didn’t and poor baby died, then what? Next the poor man in number 4, my heart goes out to him. Life has been cruel enough and this abuser is sick and manipulating him, pulling him back into nightmares. No wonder he needs a meds change and as long as he stays with her, he will continue, most likely to. Alone is better than being with someone that hurts you. Please see this and take care of yourself. Dump her, charge house locks, block her phone number…start living your life without out someone harming you.

I have a roommate with ptsd and i would NEVER EVER do that shit to her. That is so fuck up on so many levels! I hope op leaves her pronto.

I have startled reflex syndrome due to my cerebral palsy. My siblings have always enjoyed scaring me and I never hesitate to fight back. It's never funny and I will never understand why people think it is

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Easy 4 good apples! I have a lot of opinions on the last two. Story 3: WHAT!? I think that is divorce worthy tbh. Your wife is terrible for that imo. Daisy was AMAZING in being instantly prepared to get help, she did everything right. I hope OP apologizes, thanks the babysitter, and pays her and pays her EXTRA. She deserves it. Good apple. Story 4: uhm ya no I agree, you should run. She cant just be messing with your trauma and throwing around such harsh and frankly untrue terms like that. Good apple 100%

In story 4 the girlfriend is the one abusing OP and she has the audacity to call OP the abuser for standing uo for himself? Bad apple girlfriend rotten to the core.

I had a cousin who is like 20 years younger than me who had the same thing as a baby. My and my aunts sons are the same age. I was at a family event when her son was having an episode and I was freaked out about him dying. I thought he was literally going to die. She said "no, it's okay. Let me just blow in his face." And rocked him back and forth and was blowing in his face. I looked at my son and felt so very very lucky that I never had to deal with that stuff or anything with him. So yup, found out about that one the crazy way.

im gonna be so honest, in the “pranking” one the gf sounds abusive, especially how she gaslights op, and ignores him trying to set boundaries multiple times

20:19 The dictionary definition of "Takes one to know one".

I don't get how that mom would NOT want a babysitter who would call 911, in that circumstance? She used the info she had and the fact that the baby was turning blue! I would be terrified if she hadnt!

My experiences are going to tie into the 4th story. I'm explaining what happened to me to relate to what OP is going through. I was abused by my birth mother just like OP was abused by his parents. The abuse that OP experienced may have been different than what I've experienced (and still experience on occasion) but, judging by what OP said, he may have experienced his mother or father trying to suffocate him. When I was a teenager, my birth mother twisted my face and I couldn't breathe for a moment but, my reaction was to push my birth mother away from me. She told me that I was abusing her when it wasn't true, and I was just defending myself. So, I got away from her. The same situation happened when I was 22 years old when my birth mother choked me to the point where I couldn't breathe, I was blue in the face and nobody was able to pull her off of me. My birth mother reported herself and I got a restraining order against her for a year. It's the same situation with OP in that story. OP was only defending himself when the "girlfriend" was trying to suffocate him. It's extremely disgusting that she would pretend to be the victim when he was defending himself. He has the right to defend himself just like everyone else does when they get abused. That girl can't put her hands on him and say that he's supposedly "abusing her" when he chooses to fight back. She chose to use his trauma as her sick and terrible version of "entertainment." There's nothing funny about throwing someone else's trauma in their face, and traumatizing them again by putting them through the same or similar abuse that OP had to endure from his parents. I hope that OP leaves that girl and never talks to her again, and I hope that he can press charges against that girl because it's obstruction of breathing and (in my eyes) assault. If that girl keeps "joking" around with OP in that way, she's going to potentially kill him. He needs to get a restraining order against her and let everyone know about what she does so that way, nobody else can become her victim

4. My great aunt once screamed me awake where I was sleeping on her living room couch. I nearly punched her in the face before I realized it was her. I sympathize with the OP

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For story one - the family did say they felt the date chosen was done with disrespect of the family grieving so I could see how the daughter felt that they were slighted against her because they were feeling that way regardless of her explanation but her mom was a good apple and did the parent thing of I did try to warn you that this would happen and it’s natural to happen.

The last story is scary no matter if you have trauma or not. That's so scary. Who thinks smothering a person in their sleep is a joke? How awful. Hope that the guy leaves.

The first one I feel like the daughter is a crab apple. Yes, she can do whatever she wants… but she knows that day is very triggering for every family member in her life. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

Baby holding breath: imagine the Baby passed out and turned blue and Daisy DIDN'T call for help? I'd be MUCH more concerned about that because that would show very poor judgment on Daisy's part. She absolutely did the right thing to call 911!

I have a medical condition that causes me to have tachycardia (elevated heart rate) and I run the risk of passing out if it goes too high. I’m grateful I haven’t had a situation where I’ve completely passed out, but I have had instances where I got all the symptoms and thankfully was able to lay down first. I also get adrenaline dumps from a spike in my adrenaline and it’s like an overreaction to the fight or flight response. I hate the feeling it causes and it usually takes me out for a day to recover because it causes a bunch of symptoms. My ex and his son liked to hide in a little cubby we had under the stairs at our house and jump out to scare each other. My ex did it to me one evening and scared the bejesus out of me. Cue my heart rate spiking, dizziness, shortness of breath, nausea, and almost passing out 😅 To his credit, I don’t think he realized how significant the reaction would be, he never did it again and he warned his son that they could scare each other, but not me 😂 Clearly he’s my ex, so he had many faults, thankfully this wasn’t one of them. To the OP in the last story. You are not responsible for your body’s natural reaction to a perceived threat, ESPECIALLY when you have underlying trauma that exacerbates things. Your girlfriend is the abusive person. She knows your history, you’ve asked her many times to stop, etc. and she continues to do it. Besides those issues (relating to lack of trust and respect) therapy, trauma work, medications, medical appointments, etc. are so freaking expensive. Not just in the financial sense but also in the mental, emotional, physical sense and the amount of time and effort that you spend doing all of those things to work on yourself. She is disrespecting all of that and setting you back in your progress! Someone who loves and cares about you should be encouraging you and supporting you to be happy, healthy, and safe.

I agree with you 💯. On everything.

As someone who has been severely abused by a significant other, you are correct NO one should ever punch someone you love. I was dragged around by my hair. I I left 3 years ago and I don't regret it

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