Mom DESTROYS her Son's Relationship?! 

When non-pet people get angry about people comparing pets to children, it makes me mad because the fact it’s their lack of respect for animals that is the problem, not your lack of respect for human children, and then they act like you’re being so offensive.

#3 is also sending the message to her girls that she only wants to spend time with them because of a court order.

Suggestion for kitty. When our kitty started barfing (mostly bile) a lot, every day, I started reading EVERYTHING. I came across a RU-vidr who posed the question 'Do you feed canned food only once/day, maybe twice '. We free fed hard food but did give canned only once/day! RU-vidr said to divide that canned food into 3 amounts and feed it 3 times/day, each time mixed with 1/3-1/2 cup of water! Seemed like a huge amount but I was desperate! We tried it. Barfing STOPPED within 3 days! Totally stopped. After six months, I stopped adding water to the mid day meal (sheer laziness) and everything remained good! It's been 3 years now and we still feed her this way. She is 16, healthy, great coat, and very mobile.

Story #3 - This is a classic example of divorced parents weaponizing their kids just to spite the other. OP should have offered to help look after her kids because it's THE DECENT THING TO DO. I guess I was lucky that, even though I had divorced parents who shared custody of me and they had their differences, they were always good at communicating with each other and compromising/being flexible with who'd look after me on which weekends depending on what was convenient or any other personal issues. Yes, there are court orders, but they're not written in stone and good co-parents will work together, including divorced ones.

I agree completely on Apple Number 2. My sister is a cancer survivor and has several scars from the experience. It took her a long time to get comfortable wearing swimsuits again. Apple #2 was told to cover up and when she didn't do that, this person went to complain to others about it. Without more context, it sounds like these people were telling her to take the L and wear the coverup.

Story #4 - I'm surprised how extremely dismissive of the son both the OP and her husband seem to be. Age 20 is way too young to conclude "He's not a good person/is a lost cause/has become a good-for-nothing." He still has time to figure his life out and it feels like both parents have just given up on him.

With apple number 4, it may be that the parents didn't consider therapy or a psychiatrist. When I went to therapy, my mom was horrified because when she was growing up, only really sick people got help like that. She had heard so many horror stories and tried to convince me not to go. Once she saw the help that it gave me, she was much more accepting of it.

As a pet and human mom, I think story one had a good comparison in this specific instance. I'm not normally a fan of comparing child care to pet care on a practical level, however on an emotional level they are equally important.

Story #4 good apple for how she handled LIly. She gave the girl good advice. As for the son, which wasn't her question, IF he's really just being lazy, then mom & dad are enabling that letting him live at home for free & not helping him make a plan for the future. Maybe it's a psychological thing, as mentioned, maybe it's a learning disorder that made college unappealing. Either way, let's figure it out & make a plan. I've already told my teens, if they're still living at home after finishing whatever amount of school they opt for, they'll be paying rent. Maybe not a ton, but enough to give them some responsibility for their lives.

People always say to me he’s just a dog about my dog cause he has a lot of health issues and I spend WAY MORE money on him than I do on myself. I actually go without so he has the best life ever!!! Would I expect a non loving animal person to understand that… no way. And you’re right Rebecca… they will never get it or change their minds.. ain’t worth the fight 🐾🐾🐾

The 3rd story, she’s still the bad apple. However the ex and his new wife should have come up with a plan, for if she went into labor and it was his turn with the kids.

Third story is the bad apple for not wanting to spend time with her kids, not for not wanting to do her ex a favor

Story #1 - Even if the person isn't a pet person, fleas are still a concern regardless. These are vermin getting into your home with likely potential to latch onto you, and in OP's case, it's a terrible case that has run into trouble getting addressed at all because their neighbor is negligent. The boss should at least understand how badly fleas can be a health concern, but clearly can't separate the flea problem from the pet topic. Boss is a bad apple for not being understanding of the problem. Probably the best I could compare this as a suggestion to make the problem a topic they would understand is, "Imagine this were your kid getting sick all the time from catching something at school then spreading it to you."

With Apple #3, in addition to being a bad apple, often times parenting plans (the court order for parenting time) includes a provision that the other parent gets first right of refusal if the parent who has custody at the time of that parent cannot watch the child for any reason. So he would be following the “court order” to call her first* *I am absolutely NOT an attorney, so this is not legal advice. However, I used to be a paralegal in family law and wrote/prepared many parenting plans.

Story 2: My mother passed from lymphoma in 2022. I finished my own radiation treatment for thyroid cancer in December, and have a scar on my neck where I had surgery. OP is definitely a good apple here. I did interpret "You should give her a free pass" as "you should have just put on the coverup", so I'm glad you pointed out that might not have been what Anna meant, but from the tone of the story, I think OP is also interpreting it that way.

timestamps: 00:00 intro 01:30 apple 1 🍎🍏 07:20 apple 2 🍎🍏 13:35 apple 3 🍎🍏 17:15 apple 4 🍎🍏 24:37 outro edit: have a good day and i hope everyone enjoys all these national holidays that are happening today!!!

Story 3 makes me ANGRY!!! WHY would you NOT want more time with your kids?!?!?

Story 3: Imagine OP has a death in the family and the funeral lands on a day that dad has them. She set the precedent where he can just say “no it’s my day, it’s a court order! As a child of divorced parents. I’m so grateful that my parents worked together when raising me. I’d probably have a much more strained relationship with them if they were constantly at each others wits when it came to me

Story 3: my god! If I had shared custody I’d jump at the chance for more time with my kids. OP is petty to her own detriment here. Also, be a decent human and help a new family have a peaceful start. Ps, former family lawyer here and the court order doesn’t stop OP and ex making a change by agreement.

Story 1. Good apple!!! No question. Trying to help someone understand with a comparison to something they have experienced makes perfect sense. My very abusive father always referred to my babies as “just cats” and that was always infuriating. They are my children. “Hearing” the boss say that was so triggering. I get that we’re not going to convince people like that with words, but it doesn’t mean we’re wrong for trying.

Rebecca, you’re so eloquent when speaking! I’m so glad I was able to find your channel I was so sad when I stopped seeing you on “that” podcast. Can’t watch it without you

I always get on RU-vid after school to turn on a video while I eat my -late- lunch, and I get so hyped every Tuesday and I see your video at the top of my feed. Usually within an hour of posting too, and I'm incredibly grateful to have your content as a distraction from the struggles of everyday life

I ate all the apples so you have to cancel the video… sorry

Story two: Dana’s situation is a really difficult one. That does not make it other people’s responsibility to shield her from other people’s realities.

Rebecca I’ve been watching for a while and I love this channel. Thank you for teaching me and everyone good morals,lessons and what goes on behind what you normally see.❤

Quick psa: Revolution (with a heart for the o) ACTUALLY works!!! Topical flea drops that start working instantly, for real, all bugs dead in 3 days tops. Any remaining in the house also start dying. It also continues to work for weeks after the treatment. AND it works on other yucky bugs, too. (Rice type worms on cats)

Ok is it’s just me or is Rebeca honesty SO BEAUTIFUL!! Slay girl!

I just wanted to say you are such a role model and an amazing person!

The third story is just insane it's definitely bad apple so you're telling me that you can't watch the kids while your ex-husband's wife is in labor like I get that your ex but you couldn't just do that one thing for him and it's not like she said that she has somewhere to be or she has work or something she just flat out said no she's very selfish and you're right Rebecca it seemed like it was very personal and petty

#3: I don't think she is the bad apple for not taking the kids, as it was not her responsibility but it wasn't the nice thing to do either. I don't know if she had any important appointments or is just a person that has a horrible day or week when plans change on short notice. There could be so many reasons why she didn't want to take the kids and I don't believe the missing info in those means that there weren't any present. I simply don't know so I won't judge her intentions. Her actions say crab apple for me as she technically isn't in the wrong but didn't do the right thing either

For apple number 3; I think that she should have just taken the kids because no matter the acrimony , do you really want the kids sitting around for who knows how long while the ex's wife is in labor? If it is the first child that could be sooo long. As for # 4 I suppose the parents cold not have considered therapy and were just thinking it was typical teen angst. I do agree that it isn't the gf's responsibility to pull the son out of whatever funk and the father/husband shouldn't be annoyed at the op for that reason.

Story #4: I don’t like that the decision was based off of information not given in the story. Also, if he’s an adult, the parents can’t “take him to therapy” if he doesn’t want to go. It’s no longer their choice. We also don’t know what conversations they’ve had in the past. They might not have thought it was relevant. Mom was a good apple based on facts actually present in the story.

Apple picking day. BEGIN!

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15:28 Also, it depends on if the dad has been a jerk to the mom and refused to pick up/drop off early/late as well. My sister has an absolute nightmare for an ex. He expects her to drop everything and accommodate HIS schedule, but refuses to offer her the slightest bit of consideration if she needs to adjust the schedule. And by the way, didn’t the dad keep the new baby a secret until the older kids let it spill? Could he not have mentioned the kids might need to stay with the mom?? Yeah, I disagree, that’s a good apple/crab apple at worse. His poor planning doesn’t constitute an emergency on the mom’s part.

For story 3, I have a question that determines a very huge factor. I heard that disobeying a court order (such as custody between the kids) is like going against the law, you could get fined or maybe even arrested. Is it true? Because if yes, the mom could've just been trying to not mess with the authorities on the off hand something goes wrong. If no, then she's just spiteful.

For the third one, you'd be so surprised how often it happens. I am a 14y/o child of divorce and the amount of arguments my parents get into over this kind of stuff is crazy. They, just like the OP, want to stick exactly to the court order. For some reason, many divorcees struggle to just be flexible (probably due to trying to inconvenience their ex as much as possible when really all who is negatively affected is the kids)

My BIG problem with story one, is comparing having fleas to having special needs. If the boss had been talking about how hard it is to afford multiple surgeries for her childs special needs and OP had said "oh I totally understand, I'm going broke on these flea treatments" she would be the bad apple. Now that's not what happened, but to the parent, it's the same thing and it was wrong. I say crab apple for OP and bad apple for her boss dismissing her pet like that.

Agree 100% across the board.

Story 1&2 Good 🍎 Story 3 🦀 🍎: It’s her right to say no. What is going on in his personal life doesn’t matter to her so long as it’s not negatively impacting her children. And if she had nothing going on that weekend then it may be petty on her part, but ultimately she’s done nothing wrong. If she told us she had plans then I’d say good apple. Story 4: 🦀 🍎: I agree with what you said. The advice was good but why aren’t we going to check on the son? Why aren’t we warning him that he is putting strain on the relationship and that they are concerned that something is going on with him. It’s alarming that she just assumes laziness.

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Story number two: definitely good apple As someone with a lot of scars, I understand how they could potentially being triggering for one reason or another, and the friend's reason isn't one I'd have thought of. But I could understand I Trigger Warning! I have had a very long messy history with SH, so my arms, thighs, belly- they're scarred. Soon I'm actually going to get a tattoo to cover some of them. People i've met that are currently going through self harm addiction get triggered, and I get it, I just cover them up. But it did take me several years to dress comfortably in the summer. I don't cover them up when people are like oh it's so triggering! For no reason other than the fact it's clear I had mental health issues.

I am an animal person, but I’m also a mom. I can’t explain how much I love my 3 dogs and my cat. However I can promise you I love my kids more than it is different.

I knew by the title this was gonna be SO GOOD 😊

im sooooo excited to go apple picking 🍎🍏 i have my snacks, and my fur baby, im ready to go!!

#4- I know we shouldn't make assumptions, but I feel like the mom has heard stories about moms that hate their son's girlfriends, so she tried super hard not to be like that. So hard, in fact, she forgot about her own son. (Kinda making up stories lol but that's the vibe I was getting.)

Story #3 I assume the mom told her ex to keep the kids because the shared custody was court ordered and thus the husband could use her taking the kids earlier to take the kids away from her completely. But that's just if the divorce was ugly

3. Is it possible she's just afraid of going against a court order and afraid that could get her in more trouble in the future?

With story 2, I would have taken ‘give her a free pass’ as u should have covered up which leads me to believe that’s what upset her. It sounds like she hasn’t gotten over the scar as much as she thinks she has.

Anyone else notice that Mrs Rogers is wearing different socks 😂

With the Dana story: she shouldn't have to be covered up. I have several scars (including 3 on my right shoulder) and I wear tank tops in the summer/spring. I'm proud of my scars, they just remind me that I'm a fighter and I've gone through a lot. Scars are scars, they shouldn't have to be covered.

So like the 3rd one she just should have taken them if there were good circumstances but she could pay a fine or other things if the husband had ill intentions with this depending on which state their in. Like some places she literally couldn't go and get them.

Dixie could sense the 1st story was about a cat 😂 Also, for anyone who's curious, sadly, Domino is no longer with me. I did have to remove him from my apartment, since I couldn't afford to break my lease, and he was already a senior cat. I couldn't bear to make him suffer with those fleas in his last days. Once my lease was up and I was able to confirm the new place was safe, it was sadly to late. It took a while, but he does have a brother now. Leo's the picture of health, and an absolute cuddle bug. My little Monkey Butt will never replace Domino, but he is happy, safe, and loved all the same.

Story #2 What she needed to give her was not a free pass but a link to a meditation video that teaches you how to ignore your surroundings, spot triggers and help yourself heal from them. She can not control the world around her, but she can control her thoughts and feelings

Hi rebbeca so exited to watch😂😂

I have a fur baby, a pitty mix named UPS (yes just like the company.) My nephews know he is my baby and call him their cousin. Good apple for OP. Heard the second one before, Good apple! No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't wear on YOUR own body. Crab apple for number 3. We dont have all the info but from MY personally understanding of it, he seems like the type of person that would cause an issue when it's her actual time with her children. Like he would cuss her out or cause more of an issue with the courts if she tells him no. "Oh you had time with them when I was with my new baby so now I get them during your legal time." Idk how divorced parents do it. Story 4 good apple but I do think they should talk to him or encourage him to go see a therapist. There are people who still don't believe in therapy to this day, so it could be the cause of it not crossing their mind. Also yea he's an adult, how are you gonna force him to go? They could suggest it but it's no guarantee he would go.

For story 3 the only thing I disagree with is the we don't know the stipulations of the court order. She could lose 50/50 custody to make her ex the primary guardian. It could be some sort of other penalty implemented by the court. There should be exceptions for emergencies like his new wife going into labor but there may not be in this case.

Apple #3 is just petty. She is using her daughters to get back at their dad. One of the most important times in a parent/child relationship is when the baby is first born. She was actively keeping that from happening. She was also keeping him from doing what good husbands do by being there during her most vulnerable time. For apple #4 mom might’ve overstepped her boundaries but sometimes that happens to be what is needed. If he’s not going to start taking care of himself, then he may need a bit of tough love.

Story 2, I had skin cancer in my arm and have a 4 CM scar on my arm where it was cut out. I felt embarrassed by it for the longest time, but have come to accept it. I had a similar situation with a co-worker who said I should cover it up so it can be triggering to other people. I just ignored her, it is my body and I am not ashamed of what I went through. Definetly good apple!

I have a lot of scars. Most aren’t in visible places but you would be able to see some of them if I was in a swimsuit. An adult would be able to guess where they’re. If someone told me to “cover up” I would be mortified and beyond upset. It took years of work both emotional and surgical to be able to feel comfortable with them. I’m now in a place where I can wear cloths that do let some of them be visible and I can handle the occasional question -normally from kids who don’t really know what a scar is. To me, being told to cover them up would be something triggering.

Not an opinion, just a story. I had an ex that while we were dating, my cat had to be euthanized. It was really hard for me cause I raised her from birth (she was 15 years old at her passing) and I couldn’t be there cause of military service. My Mom video chatted me while she passed and I cried for WEEKS. And my ex YELLED at me for it and refused to comfort me because she was “just a cat.” So glad I got out of that…

Story #1: The cat having fleas is the least of her problems because newsflash: fleas get on humans too. She should have gone straight to the landlord when she noticed the fleas because the last thing good landlords want is a pest invasion in their complex. She's the good apple, but never talk to your boss on non-work related things. It'll end badly. Story #2: Already seen this one. There's no way to know that's from a biopsy scar, and this is another in a long line of "Things that happen to millions of people and you can't demand someone do something to make you feel better over them." There probably were a few other biopsy scars on that beach. I get the grief the woman is going through, but that's ridiculous to demand. Good apple Story #3: This story strikes me as either the custody battle was overly harsh with either her wanting full custody and him winning visitation or he wanted full and lost, or she's still very jealous that he's getting remarried. But easily Bad Apple regardless because that's an absolute emergency that you couldn't necessarily plan out ahead of time. Plus, she doesn't say that she was going anywhere or doing anything she'd dropped a ton of money on. Story #4: LOL, I was laughing during your intro because I thought it was going to be this story (blind reading these leaves you open to that, and don't change a thing). She didn't tell him to break up with her. Hinted at it, but this is all on him being a useless bum while she's highly motivated in college. She's outgrown him and was too young to know to pull the plug on one of the few relationships she's ever had. The dad is terrible because he was clearly depending on the girlfriend to do all the work fixing their son. I'm going Good Apple based on the actual question, but I do agree that both of them should be trying to get the kid some help.

On story 2: I think one way to put it would be something like "you shouldn't try to control what other people do to themselves but you should have boundaries around what they do to you"

Hey I’ve had issues with my cat not digesting food properly, and throwing it up consistently. It wasn’t quite everyday but it would be about twice a week. I researched the heck out of how cats digest food and what could cause them to puke it up, because I knew he wasn’t necessarily ill. Turns out, cats should be eating from raised bowls because it’s harder to digest food when they’re haunched over the food bowl, I’d say their food and water should be a little lower than their shoulder height when they stand. I’ve also discovered that even though he didn’t gorge himself on food, he wasn’t chewing it all properly. This was caused by free feeding him(leaving food in his bowl at all times). So we started doing scheduled feedings so that we could ensure he had enough time in between food to digest it little by little. To avoid him stressing over not having unlimited access to food, we would weigh out the appropriate amount of food for him to eat daily, then add a little bit to his bowl throughout the day when it became empty. He eventually learned that even with no food in his bowl, he would still be fed adequately. I see you have a chonka chonka cat and I’m sure you understand the detriments that could have on a cats health so I won’t even delve into that topic with you, I know you care. Having said that, weighing the food and slowly changing how you feed your fur babies can improve their quality of life and overall health by miles. Another thing, using distilled water to hydrate their food and letting it soak can also make it more easily digestible. I’m not precisely sure on how you can entirely avoid specifically acid reflux, but I do know that a lot of cats digestive issues come from the way they eat, not necessarily just what they’re eating. Anyway I feel like I’ve rambled too long but I hope you see this and it strikes up the inspiration to go do your own research on how cats function on a basic level, so that you can at the very least, lessen their discomfort even if it doesn’t necessarily fix it entirely. Good luck my love🖤

Story 4- Sounds like undiagnosed ADHD. I was labeled lazy for so long but it's because I have an interest based nervous system so having the same job or pursuing an the same degree can become soooo hard after the initial newness wares off. So happy to know why 😊

I tried to explain to an ex - that when my baby girl Cotton passes I’d be as torn, lost, and depressed as I would be with my dad and my ex then said it’s not a reason to miss work because it’s just a dog - he’s an ex for a reason - cotton is a happy spoiled girl

For Apple number three speaking as a mother who has gone through divorce you cannot mess with court-ordered parenting time picking the kids up early dropping them off late anything like that is going against court order and can cause a whole lot of problems the mom was literally just doing what a judge ordered her to do which was to give him that time with the kids

For the third story the fact that ahe BROUGHT UP the court order set off something in my head. (Im a child of divorce and in the court order we had thr opposite parent WASNT ALLOWED to get the kids on that parents time or their custody could be taken away) with my own experience in mind it kinda makes me not know what to give because i dont know exactly the past relationship she has with her husband nor do i know the extent of the court order.

Something about the parent in story 4 just rubs me the wrong way. She calls her own son not a good person because he is unmotivated. I just don't see those as the same thing. And the way she describes the conversation between her and Lily just seems... off. Like oh wow here she is validating everything I've been observing up to this point verbatim. To me she just really seems super unconcerned about her own kid in a way that's just disturbing. To me this really does seem to be the case of a self fulfilling prophesy. I'm not saying she should lie about her son, but I definitely think she should be putting a lot more effort into trying to get help for her son before she blasts him for being lazy and unmotivated. If my parents wrote something like this about me I can tell you it certainly wouldn't be great for my mental health. I just get the feeling that she doesn't want her son to succeed, or at the very least is way too comfortable seeing him crash and burn.

On story#4 i would say good apple. Because just because the mom didnt say it, doesnt mean the mom hasnt tried talking to her son. Therapy will only work if that person wanta to get help. You can force them to improve themselves.

Story 4- These parents need to help their son! I am the parent of a 25-year-old daughter whose mental illness developed when she was 19-20 years old. This is the time in a person’s life that the pre-frontal cortex develops, and things can show up that weren’t there previously. Particularly with the effects that COVID lockdowns had on teens. Please have your son get evaluated.

For the last story his parents may have not even thought about or considered therapy. There are some bad stereotypes about therapy and older generations just dont even consider it an option. So it may not be simply due to neglect. I think two unproductive years isnt enough to write up the son like that especially since hes young. He could just be a little confused about what he wants in life and is going through a phase. I dont think the mom said anything wrong to the gf though. The gf shouldnt have even brought the mom up. Way to throw her under the bus.

I literally just bought some thin mints and samoas from some girlscouts who were set up at my local supermarket this past week lmao.

7:17 you'd need to have kids to understand. This isn't a "you should have kids" comment. I just don't think anyone without kids will understand.

For story 2: I don’t like it when people use their previous/current emotional stresses as reason to keep someone from enjoying something. Yes it can be challenging but if it really bothers you that much walk away or ignore it. Like I used to not be able to listen to a specific song because it’s related to my trauma but the other day a friend of mine was playing it. Was it hard to hear the song in a different light three years later for the first time since the event. Oh heck yes. Did I ask him to change it? No because other people were enjoying it. I just ignored the next three minutes and moved on

I love the apple picking day videos

OK, if you don't like animals, that's fine! You do you! But don't tell people who DO like animals that they have to get rid of them or that they're not family just because YOU don't like them! That's rude! OP is good apple!

Agreed 1000 percent ❤

Concerning 🍎#2, I lost the entire family I grew up with to cancer between 1999 and 2012 (except one to congestive heart failure in 2015) and I lost my dad to cancer (I didn't grow up with him in the picture) in 2020. My mom's passing is the one I took the hardest...probably because then I had to take care of my grandma who had dementia and I didn't have the tools to take care of her and it took me down a psychological and illegal path. Anyway, long story short, even I think it was wrong for the one person ask O.P. to cover up her scar.

Dude is lucky his ex is his ex if she didn’t know she was wrong

To the bad apple mom/ex wife. I am also a mom/ex wife and my ex cheated on me and left me for my "best friend" at the time. He got remarried (not to the same woman he left me for) a couple years after out divorce. No matter the reason, I would, (if at all possible) keep my girls if he couldn't. Even if it had to do with his new wife and her kids. I wish him/them the best, I don't hold any anger towards him but even if I did, once your are divorced, it is ALL about the kids. It doesn't matter how you feel about the other parent, you always do what is best for the kids to make it easier for them, they didn't ask to be here and had no choice in the divorce. Don't be petty, be a parent. It's about the kids, period. Easier said than done sometimes, I know.

“It’s just a cat” Humans are social animals. We form deep symbiotic bonds. It’s not just a cat. It’s someone’s symbiont.

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this year national apple day (oct 21) lands on a monday, but next year it will be a tuesday!!! 🍏🍎

OH NO WE ARE CURSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the scar story hit hard 😣 i have a sh scar on my arm that’s about 6 inches long and it looks absolutely brutal 2 years later. i am better mentally but seeing my scar triggers me sometimes and it is so hard to wear shirts/ tank tops in public. i have had people ask what happened and i never know what to say because i hate lying but don’t want to tell people the truth :( i agree that op in this story is so far from bad apple and even though our scars are from different causes i understand her insecurities and im so proud of her for living her life and not letting it consume her 🫶🏼

2. Feels like a "You have to pretent that you never went through this horrible thing and must hide all evidence that you have went through it because somebody else is going through it and I refuse to be happy that you survived it and let the fact you had it and are okay now give me some hope for this person that has it now might be okay in the future because I don't know if this person will and I refuse to be happy for anyone to survived this terrible thing until if and when my special person recovers" kinda attitude and I'm not trying to be insensitive or cruel or say that it's wrong that she's hurting or that she should be ashamed of something reminding her of that pain, but her saying what she did and responsing the way she did gives off the vibe, "I don't care that you survived or suffered and I can't be happy for you or try to be because somebody else is going through it now. I don't care that somebody that went through something similar is alive because my loved one is going through it right now." And that kind of message hurts. I'm grateful the woman telling the story didn't take it that way. I feel bad that she's being guilted for the fact she didn't hide the evidence that she was a survivor.

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story #3: i'm sorry, what? she wouldn't taker her kids so her ex could focus on his new wife and the birth of their child?? my mom's mom, who lived nearly 12 hours away at the time (driving), came to take care of my sisters when i was born and continued to stay until a few days after even though i was a full WEEK late! and OP can't take HER kids for a day or two even though they presumably live in the same town??? don't get me wrong, i can also be petty sometimes, so i can respect a petty queen (or king) under the right circumstances, but not this one. usually when petty has a purpose i can agree with it, but this? it just seems like OP is being petty for the sake of spiting her ex and that's not cool. we don't know how things ended with them but she DIDN'T say he cheated on her, with his new wife or anyone else. i imagine that would be a pretty easy way to sway people to her side of this if it had happened, but we have no proof it did, so right now her pettiness seems pointless and unjustified. it's a bad apple from me.

I think with Lily’s story, it was a mix of bad communication. I think the mom gave great advice, but Lily should have talked with the son instead of just texting and saying “we need to break up.” I don’t know if they’re trying or help him in the background, but to me it sounds like neither of them are emotionally mature for a relationship. Sure Lily has an actual life goal she’s working towards, but breaking up with someone via text is a very bad way to handle a situation. So…I think that was a good idea in hindsight for both of them….and I think the mom should at least comfort him in that, and help him to learn from the experience. Not like “well, if you were a better kid, this wouldn’t have happened.” But more like, “I think you guys had issues, and I did talk to her because she asked for my advice, and all I said was that she can’t just be the only one giving in a relationship. Now I think how she handled it wasn’t entirely thoughtful and I’m surprised and she should have done that in person so you could really talk and I’m sorry. I know you’re mad at me, but if you need to talk this out, I’m here to be honest. That’s my job. I’m old. I know things.”

Here’s the thing with story number one. I had the EXACT same thing happen to my poor kitty who never had to deal with fleas since she was a kitten. I was in my first apt and a small paycheck so flea meds were hard for me to get. The fleas were definitely from my neighbors. You discuss it with the landlord and the whole place has to get fumigated. Also I would just had smiled at that coworker and walked away. Rude comments are rude but if something truly upsets you just go to HR.

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Story #4: IMO the mom should've soft-balled the conversation with Lily and then had a hard-ball conversation with her son, give him a wake-up call, "Hey this awesome girl you're dating wants a man with more ambition, get your shit together or she's gonna leave", and see if he makes an effort. The way the conversation is described she essentially told the girl to break up with her son, she didn't use those exact words but anyone with common sense would read that in what she did say (like Mr. Incredible: "I'd like to tell you to go talk to Mrs. Smith on the 4th floor, but I can't..."), she should've given her son a fair warning instead of throwing him under the bus.

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Cancer story- so if that girl saw someone in a store that had clearly lost hair from chemo, or was wearing any sort of shirt that indicated cancer recovery, is she going to tell them to leave? You can support others that also have this horrible disease, or you can bury your head and try to pretend it doesn’t exist because your parents having it is something you are struggling to process

2:37 We had fleas. It doesn't affect its health. It effects our house. It infested the house so badly and it started biting us in our sleep. We had to live there for 3 years. And it did not get any better. They kept coming back if it's so bad we had to move.

The neighbor is a horrible pet owner for not giving their dog a monthly flea and tick preventative. Not only can it cause issues with their dog, but other people's animals. If you can't afford the prevention treatments to maintain your animal's health then you shouldn't own an animal.

I'm a parent of human and fur babies... both are equally important to me. With regards to the mother (Because she is NOT a MOM in my opinion), she is a total bad apple. My ex was abusive in every area he could be, and continued the abuse in every way he could after the divorce. When his new wife went into labor, I went and got my son. When my son asked to go to the hospital to visit his new sister and then his new brother, I took him, and I waited outside the hospital. (His father came to the door to get him to take him to the room cause we all get lost in hospitals, let's be honest...lol) Your child did not ask to be born, and does NOT deserve to be hurt is petty BS squabbles between the parents. That is gross behavior. I am a boy mom and I would’ve have given the same advice, and also would’ve been on my son’s case about getting off his butt and getting his act together. The parents are letting him act like this and not taking parenting responsibilities. My son knew he wasn’t going to be allowed to sit around playing video games while I supported him for the rest of his life. When he needed help, he would come talk to me and we would find a solution. She gave very valid advice that I’m sure she would’ve given HER SON had the situation had been reversed.

For the son you can lead the horse to the water but you can't make them drink. He is an adult he is the only person who can setup appointments for himself

Story 1: good apple Story 2: good apple Story 3: bad apple Story 4: good apple