Woman comes to her MIL's Dinner TOPLESS?! 

#4- “yes, this is a family meal, you’re right. The youngest member of the family will be eating with us until further notice.”

For the 4th story I am so glad OP stood up for herself. MIL was overstepping with demanding she drop everything and come to dinner. Especially since the everything in question was the baby she was feeding. If I was the husband in this situation, I would have tried to have stepped in when my mother was being rude to my wife and child. I would have agreed with how she handled it by coming to the table while breastfeeding. "You wanted her at the table. She's at the table. Let's eat. Oh you're uncomfortable? Maybe we could have waited for your grandchild to finish eating instead of snap snap it's time to come to dinner."

1- Good Apple, respectful, setting boundaries regarding her family. 2- Good Apple, just because the bride is a heavier size other women have to be ashamed of their body size? To me that is shaming other people. She had enought time to try to be a smaller size of she truly wanted to. 3- Good Apple, family needs to learn to respect other family members privacy, wishes, and boundaries. The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. 4- Good Apple- her husband Bad Apple, he should have stepped up and had a serious conversation with his mom. He needed to step up for his wife, for his baby, for his FAMILY. The wife stood her ground, and won the war. The husband really needed to be a man, instead he is a Mama's boy.

4 good apples 1. I hope the kid gets help 2. I hope the sister in law hopefully fixing her body image 3. I hate when family thinks you're stuff is theirs. You have to put your foot down 4. Husband and the other men need to talk to the mother in law and have her understand. The new mom is feeding the baby that's it.

4th story, not a bad apple. She made her point very clear after that and got the result she wanted. The husband will get over it!!!

That first story I definitely don't think she's the bad apple

Regarding the Apple #2 story about the soon to be sister-in-law and the dress that she picked for the groom's sister to wear, someone needs to tell her that the late 70s early 80s called, and they want they want their dress back😅

The funny thing about the second story is the sister in law doesn't want her to stand out, but putting her in a dress like that will make her stand out in photos. She will be more noticed because everyone will be glamorous while she will look like a trash bag. So it seems contradictory

Love the photos of the dresses in the second story, really gives perspective OP was not being dramatic at all I loved the dress she picked, that pink dress was atrocious!

Story 4: I feel for OP. Those early days are damn hard even with perfect support. I’m confused by MILs behaviour. NTBA, maybe petty but I’d probably have done the same: I believe we call it malicious compliance and I’m here for it, at times.

My plan when breastfeeding for the first time was to use a nursing cover........I HATED it. It was hard to get the latch successfully, it drew a ton of attention, my baby hated it too. I ended up yanking the thing off and deciding it wasn't worth it. I'm now very vocal about how "just cover up" is not the easy 'solution' many people seem to think it is.

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I think #3 is a good apple. How dare the extended family think that it will also be their place and have the nerve to start making plans. They need a wake up call and serious boundaries. Absolutely no keys to the mother. They need to know why you are setting boundaries and what your plans are for your cabin and then and only then if they can respect your choices and not try to make you feel guilty for working hard to get yourself a special place then if you want invite them for a weekend. But make sure they understand that if they show up uninvited they won't be welcome again. I can't stand entitled jealous people. They should be happy for you and aspire to do the same.

3rd story, I don't think OP is the bad apple. I really think they shouldn't have the family know the address or ever be invited over. OP definitely needs to have a conversation with her husband and hash things out and make sure he understands the situation entirely so they're on the same page

I just love how she goes through the entire story and all the points that’s she had and then at the end says the apple she picks and it for some reason gives so much suspense. Which is so silly to me because I know what’s she is going to pick by her words but still in suspense 😂

I totally agree, shaming anyone for their body/ appearance is always wrong. I also don't get brides purposely making bridesmaids wear ugly dresses. Every bride looks gorgeous on her wedding day and the couple will be the center of attention no matter what. I'm not married/ engaged, but I would go out of my way to ensure my bridesmaids feel comfortable and beautiful in their dresses (and can afford their dress).

First story, I think Derrick's bio parents need a serious wake up call. If He harmed a small child at his young age, there's definitely something misfiring in his mind. Jealousy, perhaps? Either way, the kid needs some serious help before it escalates into something that will totally ruin his life and the lives of any of his potential victims.

This is for story number 2. As an extremely skinny person, people have always commented on my weight. I also suffered with anorexia for 15 years. It always bothered me that my weight was a constant conversation growing up. I’ve gotten better and I eat more regularly now but I’m still very skinny. If it were my sister telling me I had to wear a hideous dress to her wedding, I wouldn’t go. I don’t think OP is the bad apple. I know how she was feeling in that moment and I think she’s completely validated in not going. Anyone who tries to diminish your light is jealous that they can’t stand in it. Shame on the future sister in law.

For the last story: im not a big baby person, i dont want any of my own and i dont particularly like being around them. But i will absolutely fight for a womans right to breastfeed. I work in a coffee shop. This customer came up and asked if it was ok if she breastfed in here. I told her absolutely. She looked concerned and said 'ive been in other shops, the staff are fine but sometimes i get comments or looks from customers about it, so it makes me nervous' i said 'if anyone so much as looks at you funny, theyll have me to deal with! Dont hesitate to come to me for help'. Because she was doing nothing wrong. We did try and find a quieter spot but sadly the layout of my shop is massive windows and big spaces so theres not really any corners to hide in.

I agree all good apples, and I'm also feeling really triggered by all the toxic family dynamics. 😭 Poor OPs. Side note - the pink bridesmaid dress totally looks like the one Rachel had to wear in FRIENDS to her ex-fiancee's wedding. 🤣

If my mother in law did that I would look at her and say you wanna feed the baby and put it down be my guest, but if you dont back the heck off and put my food where I can heat it up later.

I really love the fact that every time you commented on the pink dress from the dress story you never put down the dress itself. Like you never called the dress ugly, you just specified that it is not your favorite type of dress or something you think that you would look good in or something that would make most people comfortable. I think that really speaks volumes to your understanding that everybody has different style preferences and that they need to be respected at night calling an article of clothing that somebody may wear or like ugly could damage someone's confidence in their own style.

1. Good Apple. So much respect for the difficult decision to set a hard boundary. It must be so sad to see the danger and not have the authority to help ALL the children involved. 2. So not the bad apple!! If going was a serious option, I would wear the first dress, but not going feels like the best option for this OP. We didn’t go to my BIL’s wedding, because they didn’t go to ours. And before we could have a civil talk about it, they blew up our phones. And then we went from LC to NC (to now LC because of obligations). 3. Not the bad apple. Could I have done this? Probably not. But I also have boundary issues, and buying a vacation home and everybody wanting to be there would cost me a whole lot of extra therapy 😉 A good talk with the husband is a thing I would recommand. Stay on the same page, just like you were when you bought the place. 4. Not the bad apple! Is the baby not family? Is the baby not eating? Why is it a problem that the baby eats with his/her family?? And I know, some people can not handle seeing certain bodyparts without feeling shame and other not nice feelings. But don’t bother a mother while feeding her baby. Thake a chill pill (no, not really). And dad… step up!! My foster daughter is in a taste testing fase now and we had pistachio yoghurt last week. I was prepared for a lot of negative reactions, but we all loved it! And the fairy tale of the week is Turning Red (maybe not a real fairy tale, but close enough)

I love your kitty so cute!🥺 and I like your background! I love how you didn’t mention the husband in last story until later. The husband literally SCOLDED HER because of what she did. He did nothing to help his wife at all!

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That third one, ridiculous.. where are the boundaries for your family? You put up with this,this is what happens...

2 - For someone claiming that she doesn’t want OP to attract undue attention, the bride-to-be will be shocked to learn that the travesty she’s asking OP to wear will have the absolute opposite effect. She’s also a fine one to accuse OP of being a drama queen!

Yay I’ve been looking forward to this all day

1st story: Good Apple!!! We knew a family who found out their oldest boy (12) was sexually abusing the youngest boy (5). They had to place the oldest in a group home for therapy to protect their other children. And get therapy for the 5yo. The 12yo lived there until he was 18. It was safest for all if he had no contact with the family. Very sad and of course the parents were in grief and agony about it. But they did it for the other kids and gave them wonderful childhoods. Story 2: Good Apple. You're absolutely right. Body shaming is so bad. No one's business what someone else's body shape is. Story 3: Good Apple. Story 4: I would have been laughing hysterically when OP came to the table. And laughing even harder at MIL's temper tantrum. Perfect way to take her power back and stand up to Monster in Law.

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Regard the first story, the stepmother isn’t even barring her stepson from the house. She specifically said he can’t “stay overnight” or “live with (them)”. That’s a very reasonable boundary and safeguard if a kid has previously harmed someone, especially a sibling. In fact, if he were getting help, it would still be a reasonable temporary measure until they had some assurance that he was safe.

Story 3 just made me cackle like a gremlin in sheer happy chaos. 😂😂 You go girl. Two real good apples. 🍎🍎👌

If he's hurting children, he should not be in their home.

Family 3. That husband is done in my books. Scolding her?!?! He should have stood up for her. INSANE.

The title is just a little crazy

THANK YOU!!! for pointing out at the end that the MIL was visiting in story #4. It was OP's house!!! New mother factor aside, husband should have stood up to his mother for telling his wife what to do IN THEIR OWN HOME!!! I get that MIL may have been trying to help, making meals and all, but if you are causing additional stress to our for unreasonable expectations of a new mother, YOU ARE NOT HELPING! Good apple 100%

story number 1: 100% good apple. I hope the teenager is able to get the help he needs before he's incarcerated. Although ive never been violent, i still wish I was offered help when I was his age. Story number 2: good apple. As someone who's always had a "fuller figure", my body has always been critiqued, and I agree that the SILs insecurities are not her problem at all. It never does any good when everyone believes they are ugly, that's not how you make yourself feel better. It's always better to protect your peace when someone shows that they want to pick fights. Story number 3: maybe crab apple. I personally would have just told them that it was my house and I understand that they are excited, but that the house was my source of peace to finally get away from the craziness. Story number 4: good apple. Anytime someone shames a woman for how she chooses to feed her baby, they are the bad apple. Especially if it's your house, you should feel free to do as you wish. Dinner could always wait.

Story 1: NTBA. It’s appropriate to set boundaries. I just want to caution against forcing people into therapy - if it isn’t something they want or at least agree they need, it could do more harm.

First story, good apple. I wonder what the step dad had to say about it all, since it was HIS daughter?

PIstachio story! When I was a kid and some sweet went missing, she would line us up and see who had crumbs. 6 kids meant somebody did it but determining who was more difficult. So one time I got really smart and decided to hide the pistachio cookies until after the inspection. I congratulated myself as I stuffed one in my mouth from my hiding spot. And it moved. Turns out that the ants got into my cookies. I have never been able to eat pistachios since. I have also never hidden food since. So I guess it was a cheap lesson to learn. I also had absolutely pristine teeth after brushing them very, very carefully.

For the 3rd story I would say crab apple. I would have said to my family, cause obviously someone asked what happened to the house for them to say it didn't work out, that we got the house but here's the boundaries. Being honest from the gecko would have probably helped avoid the situation because now everyone being angry means they aren't going to listen to those boundaries now and just be more offended by your request.

3rd story: his family needs to mind their own business. They don't owe them access to the home or even knowledge that it exists. NTA

I love how I caught this episode while breastfeeding my son lol 😂 I usually am cooking dinner while watching this, so it's a nice timing ❤

First story: I cannot imagen what this child is going through and how terrified this 8 year old girl became after that tragic event. I would not feel safe and would want to separate myself simply for my own safety because that is traumatizing. I hope everyone gets the support they need.

My cousin did what you did, I didn't personally love the color but the style of dress being able to pick that, is the best way to go in my opinion

Girl! I know this is off topic but I love love love your outfit like literally slaaaaaaaaaaaaay!❤️

I agree with all of your calls, but that title was wild lol

Ngl u have a really good story telling voice

That 3rd story almost triggered me. 😂😂 I didn't go through anything quite as bad. But at the end of 2022, my husband and I were able to buy our own home. Everyone was excited for us. We mentioned the address, and my husband's grandma looked it up--spouted out info from the listing during a separate visit with her. It kinda shocked me, like... I wished we could have been the ones to spout information on it. Then before we moved in, she actually stopped by the house and took a look at the back yard. That one took me aback again like... I wanted people to see that space later, after we moved in. Maybe for a party or something when it was warm. Or maybe just after things died down since the holidays were right around the corner, you know? And then the last thing was her letting us know that she wanted to drop by whenever she wanted to see how things were. Mind you, my husbamd and I had already been living in an apartment for 6 years, and not once did she even come see us there. Why was it different for when we got a house? And we're not the picture perfect couple that can have the house in a presentable enough position for company. I personally want guests to come to a decent looking house, so I want to clean up when I know company is coming. Anyway, my husband told her not to come over unannounced and that if she did come and ring the doorbell, we wouldn't answer the doorbell. And so far, she has heeded his warning. Don't know what it is about people feeling that they are entitled to your own space...

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Kind of relevant to story 2: I am constantly seeing comments under people's video that talk about their bodies. I saw a comment that said something like, "You have the ideal body shape for a woman" and under it a reply that said "You shouldn't make comments on others bodies, it can pressure people." And then a bunch of replies to that saying stuff like "if your insecure just say so" and "just let them compliment them". I have simply stopped arguing with these people. I see comments like this ALL THE TIME. You shouldn't comment on others bodies no matter their weight. It hurts everyone else involved. Maybe someone who reads a comment like that starts comparing themselves to the person in the video. Or maybe the person in the video is sick or has an ED. You. Don't. Know. Being skinny doesn't automatically mean healthy. ❤❤❤

the first story made me more emotional than i expected to be. as someone who is always called “too skinny” cuz of high metabolism and developed an ED from it, first story is the goodest of good apples. the audacity of this woman BAFFLES me.

Love how this came out on my birthday 😊

Apple 3: I agree with good Apple, but I disagree with you saying that they shouldn’t have lied. That’s their home and they’re paying for it. They have the right to choose who has access to it and your family is not entitled to know your address or take advantage of your amenities

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For the third story- I agree, we don’t all have to be on the same page of boundaries, or even the same book. Somebody else’s boundaries don’t have to be your own, vice versa. But for humans to cooperate with each other, we MUST respect others boundaries. If you can’t, that’s ok, you are not meant to be in that close of a relationship with that person, or you’re not meant to be in their life at all. A lil side note- Many people often muddle boundaries/respect with morals. While they go hand in hand, they’re not necessarily intertwined. We can respect the boundaries of those with different morals and be friends all the same.

7:45 When i looked through my files (from when i was in fostercare), i found that one of the families i was with was giving my sister and I "calming meds" and that why we were moved to the next home. I was 2 years old at the time (my sister was 3)

That 3rd story, not the bad apple. The family should’ve asked and not assumed and should not have been angry when they knew about the house. They clearly don’t respect boundaries.

Re. Pistachios: Crushed salted pistachios are an amazing addition to most sweet breakfast items. If I'm in a hurry, I'll just sprinkle them over some multigrain toast with butter and jam, but if I'm feeling fancy, I'll throw them on a pancake or waffle with a scoop berry skyr. Adds great nutrition and some gorgeous color.

The fourth story. She did exactly what she should have done. I have a similar story, a teenage boy told me his grandmother kept barging in his bedroom without knocking. I told him if he wanted it to stop, to try and be nude and playing with himself. The old lady would be so embarrassed that she would never barge in again.

My favorite fairy tale is Brave, from Disney.

Story #1: CrabApple! This is at a time when the child would need his parents the most! Now if OP reintroduced the idea of counseling, and made that a condition in order for him to be at their house, I think that would be reasonable. But I just think it’s horrible to simply cut off a child after the first behavioral incident. Now Rebecca, you made it sound like my suggestion was the case, but I didn’t get that impression. I was originally thinking bad apple, but after your insight I think bad apple might be a little too harsh. Story #2: Good Apple! Seriously, what is SIL’s problem! Is she afraid the groom is going to focus more attention on OP instead of her?? If she is worried about that, being overweight is the least of her problems. And I think OP did the right thing by just not attending the wedding. If SIL was so worried about OP outshining her, then she should be glad OP isn’t going. As a man, it’s hard to put myself in OP’s shoes and say what I would have done. Usually for a wedding, men just wear suits or tuxedos, and most tuxedos are black. I’ve never heard of a groom being worried about a male attendee outshining him at his wedding. Story #3: CrabApple! With a slight lean towards good apple. And the main reason for that is because she lied. This would have been a good apple easily if OP had just said they got their dream house, but would like some time to get settled before having visitors. I think refusing to give the address, and especially a spare key, is completely reasonable. Story #4: Good Apple! MIL brought this on herself. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: women who have been recently pregnant should have her husband’s(hopefully he is a husband and in the picture) full support. He should have told his mother “Stop bothering my wife when she’s feeding our child! She’ll come down and eat when she’s good and ready.” And if that didn’t work he should have scolded his mother. It seems like everyone but OP are bad apples in this story. I got 2 Good Apples and 2 Crabapples. Even then we seem to agree on many viewpoints we just interpreted the stories a little differently. And I don’t know if you planned this or not, but unless I’m mistaken, all the OPs in this episode were female. May I suggest next week choose 4 stories where all the OPs are male? Mine can be one of them 😉.

STORY n.4: I think that she should have told her family and not lie to them and needed to stand her ground talking to them and explaining what was the problem

I agree with you for all of them!

When I got married I told my bridesmaids pick what ever dress you want in Navy Blue. And let them go at to. My choice of color was simply navy blue can be worn to any other event and is very classy. ❤and I loved 🥰 that they were happy in what r hey wore. In OPs case I would definitely not wear that dress.

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In the 3rd story, the people who might say bad apple are the type of people who don't respect boundaries or know how to set boundaries, they are people you don't wanna be around

No bad apples... breastfeeding mom did what she needed to do, husband is responsible as well for not telling his mother to STFU... Baby comes first, I LOVE this mom😂

For my wedding I was stressed out about my brides maid dresses. My maid of f honor said choose the dress you want and I will tell all of them this is the dress she wants and that's the one we're going to get. They all tried on the sample cut. They all looked beautiful in a knee length eggplant color, short sleeved, corset satin dress and their choice of silver shoes.

For the wedding story, if i was the person being told to wear something i wouldnt like id just wear something else. I have SPD (sensory proccessing disorder) and would most likely just wear a suit, if someone was trying to force me to wear a dress (im a girl) or wear an uncomfortable suit, I would either not go or not wear what im told to. I am not an expert because ive never been to a wedding, but if i were to, the person would just have to accept it

That pink dress is so matronly it looks like something the grandmother of the bride would wear.

Can i just say i love that you have no shame about not wanting kids. Especially as most probably see you as a pretty nurting type based on your personality & teaching career. I'm 33 & have no desire to have a baby. I've been saying this since i was 8 & people have told me all my life i will change my mind. I do have a step son (he was 8 when i entered the picture) and i think that was perfect for me. I didn't have to give birth, change diapers or deal with toddler tantrums but still got to experience motherhood (his birth mom isn't in picture). He's 20 now. Maybe you'll decide to do the same or adopt an older kid or maybe you won't. And that's OK. We need to stop shaming women who don't want to have kids.

I do really think for apple #3 it should be crab apple, I personally think they should have been upfront with their expectations before they knew if they got the house, if the family was still acting entitled then I think they should do as they choose, I think that the lying just made the situation worse in the future. No matter how much you want something to stay secret, it’s almost impossible to keep it secret forever, but I can’t say bad apple because they didn’t want a confrontation. Feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, I’ve never bought a house and my family typically has boundaries that we understand.

So I agree with you on all of these! The fact you don't have kids but can sympathize is incredible! Thank you! Btw my MIL lived with us & did the same as #4! And I did the same as the o.p.! It worked perfectly! 😂 Never had another issue! Nursing is best if you can!

#1 - not only is she not crossing the boundaries you're mentioning - she did not say he can't come over - she said he can't spend the night.

Story 2: I'm obviously not a woman, so maybe my perspective is different, but I feel like those comments would give me the message: We don't want you here because you're important to us, we want you here because we think it will make us look good. I absolutely would not go.

For story three, I would personally go crabapple. Her family and his family were way out of line, and yeah what they own does not belong to their family. What I didn’t see was them saying something like "Yes this is our house, but we really want to keep it a place for our family" then tell their family about other homes in the area for vacationing. I just think that it was such a big secret that it was a little naïve to think the family would never find out.

Last one should have been titled 'aitba for disappointing my MIL by doing exactly as she asked of me?'

Glad new mom got her point across.

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The guest dress at the wedding thing- Yeah, I don't get it either. We did a black, white & red wedding. I asked my bridesmaids to wear "a black dress you're comfortable wearing in front of my grandmother" and I supplied matching accessories. All but one of my bridesmaids was travelling a long distance to be there, including one international, so I couldn't even let them loose in a bridal shop with a colour/fabric selection. It worked out and my ladies looked gorgeous!

O holy moly, 2nd story is crazy. She shouldn’t go to the wedding and that girl needs therapy about her insecurities.

Apple #3 (before I watched Rebecca's thoughts on the story) crab apple I think the oc didn't want to break the fantasies of their loved ones and didn't want to ruin their relationship but I don't necessarily think that what they did is the best way of going about that. what I would've done is I would've probably just said it to their face because I'm very blunt and I would tell them that I want the house for myself without people constantly hanging out there. My grandparents constantly have people over at their house so when i visit there are always my cousins and aunts and great grandparents.

4th story. The only reason the mom should be nursing her child in another room is if it is more comfortable for her. Otherwise, she should feed her child while having conversations. I can't tell you how many restaurants I nursed my kids in because we were traveling or just out and the baby needed to eat. I was more comfortable with a blanket over me and the baby, but often my baby would reach up and pull it down. If someone tried to chastise me, I would flip the bird and tell them to go to hell. Nobody puts Baby in a corner, or another room, or forces them to sit on the floor of a public bathroom or dressing room to feed their child. The reality is very few places have Private mother rooms.

I just realized you don’t have the sparkly laptop anymore…… I miss it. But thanks for a video on this every week Becca! I look forward to it after a long Tuesday.

#4: I love it. Very shiny, polished good apple. Lol

Story 3: I certainly don’t think I’d do that. We have an open door house and welcome guests any time but that’s us! It’s absolutely fine for OP and hubby to set whatever boundary works for them and their desired lifestyle. NTBA, absolutely their business and up to them to manage boundaries in a way that works. I have issues with the lying but it seems like it was a trade off between honesty and their boundaries.

1st story- don't assume it's ok to have him there during the day. As part of his probation, he should have a safety plan in place for him to be around any younger children. It is also strange that there is no court mandated therapy involved. This is very common and the therapy is all about teaching them about boundaries, consent, and exploring what led to the offense and developing healthy behaviors and mindsets to prevent future problems. Maybe the child hasn't been tried yet.

1- Good Apple, she's just keeping her family safe and also trying to keep Derek safe at the same time but suggesting therapy 2- Good Apple, there is no argument OP was wearing an appropriate dress and that's the end of discussion. 3- Good Apple, its your property and you need you peace and its gonna be your decision in the end 4- Good Apple, she's just feeding her baby and there is *nothing* wrong with it

Third story: I’m leaning more towards bad apple. The couple lied about their house(for reasons that I would frankly agree with) but they’re reaping the repercussions of said lies because of some social media pictures that the sister(or sister in-law?) saw and she ratted them out. If I were the sister I would have at least confronted them about the house, see why they hadn’t told the family. I don’t know if that would change my decision though.🤔

100% she’s the Good Apple! She has to have boundaries to keep her children safe.

Favorite fairy tale is The Princess Bride. It’s not even close.❤ I have to disagree with the pistachio flavored take. Pistachio gelato is proof the world isn’t always cruel. I love apple picking day. You’re doing a great job and should hear that more.😊

It was not an “involuntary power move” MIL was 100000% in the wrong & the OP was a rockstar!

i am so sorry for the loss of your mother in law

Regarding the Apple #2 story about the soon to be sister-in-law and the dress that she picked for the groom's sister to wear, someone needs to tell her that the late 70s early 80s called, and they want they want their dress back

The thing is, there are these "garments" that are made ESPECIALLY FOR BREAST FEEDING that are VERY APPROPRIATE for breast feeding a baby ANYWHERE (in my opinion). They are similar to a shawl or a hair cutting cape, but they're round and very light weight, so that the baby can easily breathe through them, yet they're translucent, so they can't be seen through. They COMPLETELY COVER EVERYTHING. Baby AND Mom can, BOTH, sit at the family dinner table or restaurant, park, front porch or ANYWHERE and be TOTALLY COVERED. Secondly, Rebecca, as a mother of four and a retired daycare owner/operator of 25 years, may I suggest if you'd like to help out your friends who are new moms, rather than grabbing them and telling them, "Get the kids and let's go somewhere - You've been cooped up too long" (which is a VERY SWEET THOUGHT, no doubt), how about telling them, "You need to do something for YOURSELF, whether it's to go buy groceries without kids distracting you, go shopping for a new outfit or swimsuit for yourself, go get a pedicure, go visit a friend or meet a friend for lunch, or just SLEEP ALL DAY LONG if you want - you can do WHATEVER YOU WANT to do - and I will watch your baby (kids) for you for the entire day. It's my gift to you because I love you and I know how much you need and deserve it and even though I'm not a mom, YET, I can, TOTALLY, understand how hard it is. ❤ I can PROMISE you she'll love you more than she loves her husband. 😂

I think the BIGGEST issue in #4 is that there is a family full of people who think women should Breastfeed in private... EVER... much less in their own home!!! People who think women should EVER cover up while feeding their baby infuriate me!!

#3 - I had a sister that would sneak into my vegetable garden and take every green tomato- leaving none for me. She would pick almost every near ripe thing we had.. She had used our BBQ grill for their own personal use when we were going to be gone most of the afternoon/ evening. If the parents and siblings had already made plans to use the house-- then they feel they too own it- and they will all get a copy of the keys and will make plans without clearing it with them. They will start inviting their friends and claiming it as their own. I would suggest to them to invest in a security system-- that needs a code to enter that changes every time they use it..... ---- They need to make it clear that they (the couple) is RESPONSIBLE for--- MORTGAGE, LIABILIY, MAINTAINENCE, and mire likely cleaning- so therefore it's their home, their rules, and that heavy responsibility means they must limit access to the home when they are not there. t.. period. Then MAYBE offer to open the house to special events and not without them being on the premises.

My favorite fairytale is Hansel and Gretel, my grandma use to tell it to me from memory.