Bride Alysa and groom John are about to head into matrimonial bliss. But what challenges will they face when Alysa's frugal dad, Larry, takes control of the budget and their wedding plans?..
Where I’m from you pay with your own money. I’m from Puerto Rico and parents do help maybe the cake or the hall but the wedding itself it’s paid by the bride and the groom.
That’s exactly what happened to my 2 sisters & I!!! Dad offered the budget, what was left was ours. My baby sister & I had tiny weddings & had honeymoon cash left over. My other sister & husband-to-be went to City Hall with their 2 best friends….then bought their first home!! 👍🏼
That's what I wish we would have done. My dad said he had 5k (almost 30yrs ago) to elope or have a wedding. We should have gotten married on the beach and had a fabulous honeymoon.
To be fair, I turned 18 4days before we got married. So I was too young and dumb. I just had to have a wedding. Now when we renew our vows in 2023 for our 30th. It WILL be on the beach
@@trishharris8806 No regrets- you made a very sensible decision for an 18 year-old and you should be proud of yourself. So glad you and your husband are finally having the wedding you deserve for your 30th Anniversary. How exciting! Make sure you have a phenomenal honeymoon to do with it!
Frugal???? Frugal??? the F_ing wedding was $69000 and he payed half of it. No frugal person does that. The only crazy thing was the episode with the cake. Which I suppose was a stupid thing done for TV....
@@potocatepetl Did not see that 69k so he is a bit of a nutcase and the daughter is still incredibly disrespectful. I am sure that he was not happy to spend that much and was likely hounded by the daughter and wife... The incident with the ring was gold digging behavior and her fiance gave in. I don't give the marriage good odds. I also will guess that she will settle for nothing less than a luxury car when they go shopping.
that's what I'm talking about...everybody is on 70 000 and how much it is, and how they spent 1500$ on their wedding, but I never ever saw 350 guests wedding🙈🙈🙈even the sandiches make it expensive. this poor couple couldn't cut back the number of the guests as those weren't their guests after all...all daddys people🤦♀️🤦♀️
those are her dad's guests I'm betting, given how attached he was to the big venue. I'll pay for the wedding but invite all of my employees/colleagues/relatives and hence my daughter has to do everything else on the cheap. She seemed perfectly fine about going to a small venue and cutting the numbers.
I never understand the cake battle. You order an extra sheet cake, frosted but undecorated. I catered for 30 years . No one knows if they are getting the showy cake or the sheet cake. Save a few hundred dollars easily.
As parents of a daughter , we saved for a wedding since she was born. If she didn't want a wedding, the money is hers anyway. NOT OURS. It's HER dream, not ours. Anything less from a parent is not nice or responsible or respectful. Period. Even putting away $10 a week over 25 years is a lot of money. Shame on the parents that don't pay for their daughter's wedding. No excuse.
That’s what I did. I gave my daughters a budget for their dresses they stayed pretty close to, and a check towards the wedding. Grooms families helped out too. Beyond that? Welcome to the real world.
Karen Wink. Yes good suggestion, bc there were moments that it got ugly & sad. Groom/husband, at the end sorry Larry, to estimate $3800, was ridiculous, classless, including the bride.
The dress was nice, so what if it was borrowed? The cake was outrageous.... but bride was also ridiculous. The way she was arguing for the ring went out the window when *she* was paying. Two peas in a pod. 🙄🤦🏾♀️
@@lolalopez7657 i agree the tone was off, sometimes i put that off to dramatisation for the show. I know i could be wrong. Either way, she looked good in the dress, so at least she was not "forced" into a monstrosity. But overall, groom was obnoxious in so many other ways the dress paled into the background.
Its important to our economy that people can plan a wedding, customize their theme, and not be overcharged by price gouging. Leviticus 19:35 Creating a variety of honest paying jobs so our children can get out of sin.
I can understand whoever is paying should make sure they stick to the budget, although they don't have to micromanage everything. Larry didn't have to pick out the dress he just needs to say this is all you get, anything you go over is on you to pay
That's when the realities of life slap you up side the head ..... when you want, what you want, when and how you want it ..... and have to pay your own way to get it that way. Suddenly your brain shifts into gear and sends the message to your mouth ..."Oh, no. That's too expensive."
@@ayla9905 But it is his money to withdrawal. There are limits after all. Daddy is not a bottomless ATM. Guess she learned something from this exercise in money management ..... make that "your" money management.
I thought He was splitting that with the grooms parents. In my opinion, they have to big a guest count to try to be cheap. They need to cut the guest count
I reserved a wedding chapel, flowers, cake, invitations and wedding dress all on my own. I believe to this day it was My responsibility to get what I could afford.
I don't know about frugal. But he didn't try and listen to her. Like I thought he should have let her have her dress. I know she wanted all this extra stuff but the way he went about it was ridiculous
65,000 is too much for a wedding. Cut the number of guests. Don’t blame your father young lady or ladies, you are spoiled. You may be the daughter but he has a right to say how much to spend. You work, you pay for the rest. I know people who spent so many thousands for the wedding and then DIVORCED 🤦♀️
One thing that stands out to me is that Larry never cared about what his wife was saying. It's very strange that they are a couple where only he gets to make financial decisions.
The only thing I 110% agree on with this bride is she should of had her OWN wedding dress! That is the MAIN part of a brides wedding and for the dad to force her to BORROW a friends wedding gown was absolutely uncalled for😢
And the reception hall is a package so includes set up, clean up, tables, chairs, a catering kitchen, parking, several important items for your big day. Depending on the reception hall, you have to verify what is included in the package.
Bride is so entitled and ungrateful. I hope they were just playing up the arguments for the camera otherwise I would tell the groom to run away as fast as he could.
It does look like bad acting at times. But they both suck. The father can stick his money where the sun don't shine and the daughter can get a job and pay her own way.
I can understand that dad wanted to stick to a budget. I gave ( my husband died of brain cancer when our children were young, our daughter was in the second grade) my daughter $11, 100.00 dollars and told her that was what I could afford , anything above that she would have to pay for it. She was thankful and everything just fell in place she stuck to the budget with one exception……. she paid for her own gown and it was beautiful. This dad probably has given this child any thing she wanted growing up and was creating a monster in the process. I would have given her the budget and told her that anything above the budget would be paid for by her . I would then stand firm.!!
Yes! I agree 100%. The Parents are TOTALLY to Blame for allowing her to be a Whingeing Brat. She Needs to learn Respect and STOP being RUDE to her Parents.
Her dad is a bit of a jerk though. You don't give a gift and then harp on and on about how much it costs and what strings are attached. He needs to listen to her
@@cdr3986 She had this fantasy in her head about her wedding. She's a bit spoilt but nowhere near as bad as her father. If he'd given her some rope then the wedding band issue may not have escalated. When she really wanted something she paid for it herself. All those extra people will be his guests and she has to compromise because of that. If he offered to pay it is not a green light to invite whoever.
I dont understand why these couples are relying so much on their parents for their wedding. When dream weddings are not affordable, it's time to wake up and make do with what can fit the budget.
I got married at 40 and it was at the courthouse. Going on 20 yrs. Love our home. Thank goodness I was raised by sensible parents. On our 20th Anniversary we plan on renting a gown and tux for a wedding picture. Inexpensive and nice💜
His parents also paid half, so I think Larry just likes to be in control. Borrowed dress, slab cake, and awful centerpieces... what the heck. He never said he couldn't afford the cost, just that he didn't want to pay it. At age 20, I paid for my own and still had minor issues to work out with parents. Good luck you two.
I don't think she is entitled I mean come on this is every like girls dream is her wedding and her decorations and flowers and cake. Of course she is gonna want it to look exactly how she has dreamed of it. Her father is just a cheap skate did you hear him say it's their wedding as his and his daughter now man this is your daughter and financee wedding u just write the checks and pay for what she wants. This ain't about her dad. I think your wedding day is the one day as a woman we can feel that wanted feeling having everything perfect and that is the one day everything is about us
@@heatherquinones5482 , bunch of crap. If you want all those nice things because it's your wedding, then you should pay for it yourself. Don't expect other people to pay for it and still have everything your way. How the fuck is $65,000 budget being cheap?
what did the grooms parent's pay for. They're responsible for some of the expenses. The Bride and Groom could chip in to since it's their wedding. The wedding cake looked awful. I think all the tables should have had the low centerpieces and the Bride and Groom could have cut the guest list down. I hate to see what happens when they have kids. It's always good to stay on budget. Maybe the kids could have paid for the overage out of their own pockets.
@@joycepino9749 ad dad didn't complain about the amount of guests, I suspect he wanted that many. My father was Italian and he wanted to invite all the people I didn't even know to my 21st.
I'd tell Larry, "If your money means so much to you, keep your money. All of it. Goodbye." And then pay for the wedding that I could afford with a radically shortened guest list.
Thank you for being one of the few people who understand the parents are filling up the guest list and not the couple. The couple is not the one inviting over 350 guests.
Hilarious Dad..I used to work weddings at a banquet venue that fit up to 2000+ guests. The most expensive weddings were not better than less costly ones ..
I think the dad should’ve given her $25k for the wedding and let her & the groom do what they want with the money then once they spend it, they spent it 🤷🏻♀️
65,000 for a wedding? Super crazy. Take the money and buy a house. It amazes me how much these weddings costs. On the other hand Jewish weddings traditionally give $$$ for gifts. Say average gift is $300.00 per couple that equals $105,000 in gifts. We paid for our own wedding had 125 guests total cost 8,000. 8 piece live band. I rented my dress for $300.00 it was brand new. I was the temple administrator I pulled alot of favors because I refer brides and grooms to these vendors. Used temple hall at n/c. Rented mini trees with twinkle lights at 25.00 per piece We planned everything together. It wS my 2nd marriage and husband's 1st. My inlaws paid for rehearsal dinner in beautiful restaurant. My feeling is weddings are about enjoying your loved ones good food alit of booze and not spending for stupid things that nobody cares about.
they invited too many people. I only want to invite close friends and family that's all. All those other people are not important to me at all. Why would I want to spend all this money on people I don't care about?
@@tinjmail Surely her original choice of venue would have had to refuse to accept a booking for so many guests. They would have been jeopardising their OWN Health & Safety Regulations - besides the LEGAL requirements. If Dad had agreed to HER CHOICE of venue, his problem of cost would have been solved immediately - BY THE VENUE FORCING THE REDUCTION OF THE NUMBER OF GUESTS ;).
@@tinjmailOur plan too. We wanted the wedding to be fun, not some showpiece. We had a DJ and even he got up and started dancing😁 - and no dollar dances!
If my parents blessed me with paying for my wedding I would keep everything below budget. This grown woman was throwing a fit at every step of the way. It was horrible to watch. Respect your parents lady. I bet the father is so happy her husband now has to hear the whining. The wedding was a small price to get rid of those temper tantrums all the time. These women are so rude. Poor guy.
My dad played golf in my wedding and showed up on time and never asked any questions about what I wanted or what my mom made by or anything this is crazy
I thought she was so demanding, not at all grateful to her father who was spending a great deal of money on her wedding. It was all her hysterically claiming "It's MY wedding" every time there was a query about cost. Yes it was her wedding but she wasn't paying for it, so she should have gone along peacefully with her father and been pleasant instead of being so rude. When you have a budget that's it - where was he supposed to find extra thousands of dollars for all the fancy extras she wanted? She doesn't realise that is money that he could have used in his retirement himself, or for hospital bills or a holiday, no, she was just determined and set on getting all she could and not thinking of her father at all.
Spoiled and entitled bride. She is old enough and so is the groom to pay for "what SHE wants". I feel if parents want to help, give the kids the money and say "No more" spend it how you want and if you need more, bride and groom pay for it!.
@@rlast4698 I can't Agree with Your Reply. Because of the Embarassing on TV Situation this Bride was Placed in. Her Father Knows that Every Bride Needs a Wonderful Wedding Dress. Not buying his Daughter a Wedding Dress was more About Control. If I remember correctly the dad spent $65,000. on the Wedding. For what??? To Show Off to the Guests. But too Cheap to Buy a Very Affordable, $1700 Wedding Dress. Go back and See how the dad was Willing to spend $600. Altering the Brides Friends Dress. which Ruined the Custom Made Wedding Dress for the Original Purchaser, now not true to size. Also the Bride had no Wedding Dress of Her Own to Retain the Memory. Or to Show a Future Daughter. The dad is Just Controlling and CHEAP. IT IS WHAT IT IS. THE FACTS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES!!! I Definitely would have Eloped.
Kids should pay for their own wedding and then they can make all the decisions. I wonder if Larry is being cheap or maybe he really can’t afford what Princess wants.
Cheap, and Controlling, He wouldn't even buy a Wedding Dress. People will Talk about that for Years. Imagine Spending All that Money 💰 and Not Buying Your Beautiful, Beloved Daughter a $1700 Wedding Dress. Without Consideration for the Woman who Loaned her Dress. Which had to be altered. So His Inconsiderate, Cheap Attitude, Ruined Her Custom Made Wedding Dress.
I don't see why the bride cannot kick in on the budget so her voice can be stronger. I would let the parents spend their part and pay for my own upgrades that way we can all be happy.
I agree that you don't spend a ridiculous amount on 1 day but how do you have a wedding for a 1k? My wedding came out to 13k, my husband and I paid for it ....
How are they shallow and entitled? There where 350 guest! If anything they where frugal calculating everything making sure they didn’t go over budget. Not everyone has to spend 1k to not be shallow.
I’m wondering if this bride has spent her whole life being told no - never getting what she really wanted. On her big day, she wants everything she ever wanted.
if you want all these nice things, then pay for it yourself!!! Stop expecting other people to pay for what you want. $65,000 budget! That is a lot of money for many people.
This definitely is staged! There is no way a grown adult woman would wear a friend's wedding dress. Just go get married at the courts. This is ridiculously cheap.
Maybe...or maybe some cultures think that weddings are more social events than personal events. They could have cut the guest list, it would a lot more budget, however, they didn't. I guess they they really value these 350.
I had a fairly big cake. Keep in mind, the top tier is frozen for your 1st anniversary celebration. Our guests ate a lot of food. We ran out of hors d'oeuvres, but the main meal was close afterwards. We had ordered a lot of tasty food. In the end we only had the top tier of the wedding cake, & some chicken leftover. I was surprised at how much was actually eaten.
I’ve watched three episodes of this show and this is the one and only bride that I’m 100% on her side!!!! I feel so bad for her and having to deal with her father taking all wedding decisions on by himself and never anything like what she wants. I mean she’s actually pretty responsible about what she wants, I hope by her wedding day this all comes together!
@@rojamillerover If she wanted something she should have paid for it herself!! The only thing was the cake and when SHE had to pay, the smaller one was good enough. But, she did only had to put a few hundred for the dress. I would have gotten a cheaper dress that was all mine…
I’m glad she had viewers on her side because I definitely felt she was reprehensible. If either of my daughters had acted like this, I would know with certainty I had failed as a mother.
Ok she’s definitely over the top on certain things but one thing I’ll give her, I don’t agree with borrowing the wedding dress, every bride should have their own dress.
The bride gets her unreasonable stubbornness from her father. I understand that she should pay for why ever she wants extra. But the father OFFERED to pay for the wedding and is using that to try to control her. Why does he care? Just give her the the money you are comfortable with and tell her any extras are on her. Everyone is happy that way.
If want something special for your wedding. Get out your piggy bank. Most parents have budgets. It's life. You'll find out more as you grow. Mine was $500 with dress, suit, cake food, flowers and more. It was perfect!
Larry may be a budget tyrant but but he sort of has to with his demanding daughter, he was right on the venue: it was too small for the number of guests. If the parents are paying they are also having a very large voice in the final decisions. If I were in her shoes I would be acquiescent on those things that weren't all that important: especially the venue because this is the high ticket item. I would focus on what is most important: my own wedding dress [not designer] and I would pay for it myself [not dad or SO]. I think if she had been more agreeable dad would have loosened the purse strings but instead she make a battle 'this is the hill I die on' about everything thus dad is constantly on the defense. I think these two bring out the worst in each other especially since her dad is paying for the wedding he feels entitled to have the final say on everything. The bride is being unreasonable about her wedding rings. The diamond band she wants is often gift the husband gives the wife on the birth of their first child. The other option she had was to buy 2 plain bands to encircle her engagement ring which would have given it a unique look.
I wonder whose guest list it was? I feel like if most of the guests are invited by the parents and not the couple, then the parents should help more. (Although Larry did contribute a large amount. Much larger than my wedding!)
I have always heard that when planning a budget wedding you pick three things that you want well done. For this bride, it would be dress, venue, and probably cake.
No the dad and husband are ridiculously stingy and a couple of Scrooge's it's the one day she gets for her special day and they won't even let her have that it's HER day not her Dads
This is the closest to on budget I've seen. Father is a tough negotiator but kept them pretty close to budget and still spent a lot of money! Can't get over what people spend but it's all relative I guess. Wish this couple joy and a new washing machine!
Our daughter and her fiancé were both finishing up their medical residencies a few months before their wedding. We know how hard they had been working on their careers for the last 12 years and we wanted to celebrate that. We gave them a check, it was a substantial amount, and they were grateful for every penny. It was up to them to make it work. We did offer to add to the amount towards the end, but they refused it. They were determined to figure it out. It was an amazing wedding, so magical. We are so proud of them.
So glad we paid $150 and paid an officiant to marry us! Took my kids and they were happy to take pictures, granted it was our 2nd wedding but it was oh so wonderful!!!
Okay, my take SO far... I agree 100% on Dad arguing about the venue, for that many guests, I did the math and that's $60,000!! Even with both sets of parent's splitting, that's still $30,000! Does that INCLUDE FOOD & drinks or JUST the venue?? Now with the wedding dress, he really needs to buy her HER WEDDING DRESS, NOT A HAND ME DOWN! The cake, as long as its hgood quality, I don't see an issue with store bought. I had a cake from Walmart for mine & it was beautiful & delicious
I think the dad is a pain. I understand there’s a budget but he argues with her the whole way. He’s driving me 😜 crazy. Now on the other side, she needs to compromise on some things to. She didn’t need a $1400.00 ring right now. Mercy! P.S. The 🍎 apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree.
the bride does not understand that you can not fit 350 people plus is a space for 150 that is suppose to be for a sit down dinner. Just because she likes it.
This is where the parents if willing to contribute to the wedding hand the bride and groom whatever amount that is and let the bride and groom spend it, if they run out of money, oh well! Force them to work it on a budget, give them X amount and that's it
My inlaws gave us a budget of $2500 18 years ago when I got married. (Left him 11 years ago) - when all added up - we got it done with nearly $500 change. So it really only cost us $2k Australian. It was a brilliant day - one thing I will NEVER regret about that relationship. It can be done on a shoestring budget, and you can still have a blast!
Totally agree....just elope. Plus put a lot of distance between your Dad and yourself. Can you imagine when a child comes along. Larry will be loads of fun.
I am in the process of planning my wedding. Me and my fiance have paid for 100% of the cost of everything. Getting my parents to pay was never a consideration.
If she was so concerned about having a Jewish wedding, the traditional requirements are 1. a contract, or ketubah, 2. a ring or something of a certain value, 3. a canopy, and 4. witnesses to sign the document. All the rest is window dressing for a party, and this Bridezilla is an embarrassment. Oh yes: I borrowed my first wedding dress, had it in an elegant venue which had sentimental meaning for both of us, and we had various entertainers perform (I had been a ballet teacher for years, and a ballet pas de deux from Romeo & Juliet was a dream come true.) But the priority for us was to have a celebration, which was paid for by both of us, and the only thing we accepted from my parents was to pay for a photographer. We enjoyed the big party, and I am positive my ring was a plain gold band, which thrilled me. I also bought my groom a plain gold band. We were told the wedding was unique, represented us as well as included the traditional religious elements, and most were surprised by the uniqueness of all our personal elements.
This was so so awkward watching this episode. I have a headache and need to de-stress after watching this wedding. The Bride was so so unappreciative. She was so so lucky to receive this wedding. Lucky girl. Her Dad was a bit rude. The Bride should of paid more and she would of got her own dress. That jacket was hideous. How nice was her friend to give it to her and let her do alterations.
There are certain things we do not know. They have 350 people. That seems a lot. Maybe 250 are the parents guests, not the couples. In that case the parents ahould definitely pay for the people they want to be invited.
That 295 dress actually looked so cute on her, I think dad had a good eye with that one! it draws more attention to her beauty rather then the dress itself, I like the other dresses too though!!
We’re getting exactly nothing off other people for our upcoming wedding. Up to us to budget and get the best we can for our budget. Also we don’t know 300 people 😂
