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I love that she is very honest and chooses not to define her children by appearance or society's standards.. Truth is we all need such spaces in our homes. Seems to me like it is all about love. Loving our children for who they truly are and therefore celebrating their uniqueness... I hope that we can hear some more on how she has identified her children's callings and dreams and how she stirs them to it mostly spiritually & psycologically.
Top tier content. Relevant to all generations. A safe space for Vulnerability must be cultivated by parents for transparency and effective communication to children = relationship.
Hardest thing to do is raise a child...really. Like how do you mould a person for almost 25 years and present the product to the world...like, that's my child standing right there...the emotions that go between both entities, how you tame them, etc...looking at what all our parents have done for all of us, maaannn, how do you even pay them...how much they've forgiven us for our ignorant decisions, how they've put their backs as shields for us, simanyi nakumanya, bikaabya n'amaziga...
This was so good, you are really doing Gods work bridging the gap between generations. Something i have personally been unpacking is how much abuse specifically child sexual abuse is happening so secretly imbedded in a lot of family cultures and yet sometimes it feels like that behavior is so normalized and i dont think its a natural part of our culture. Grateful for this space and for you all who are stepping up to make our cultures better and more loving. Also boys are so neglected but put on such a pedestal and adultified Girls too in their own ways but Boys be carrying so much in some of our cultures. Also I am so curious what that generation thought post colonialism was going to be like
I really appreciate this podcast. Thanks guys for tackling the hard topics that people always want to shy away from yer they are very important and essential to both families and society. Thanks Mum for doing a great job of raising very individualistic children yet so respectful. Kudos to you. Keep it going.
I think this is a Lovely conversation, especially in the Ugandan / African context. I enjoyed the "vybes" haha. There is a lot that I agree with, and some that I don't. I find that there are two common parenting styles; the first parenting style, I would call 'the Commander' who must be obeyed otherwise kiboko. The Commander is common in Uganda [and perhaps Africa]. The second parenting style, I would call 'the Colleague' who befriends the child and grants independence. The Commander hopes to protect you from mistakes. The Colleague hopes to be with you when you make the mistakes. The Bible is the best place to learn how parents ought to raise their children, since children are a gift from the God of the Bible. Using the two earlier examples, I believe the Bible paints parenting as a combination of both parenting styles - a parent who clearly shows the boundaries, warns when you're walking toward danger, trains you in godliness - AND - weeps with you over mistakes, helps you repent, rejoices with you over God's direction for your life even when it's different from what they expected. One more thing the Bible offers in wisdom is that if the parent is / becomes a Christian, they can pray to the Lord for the salvation of their children - something that no person can do for/to another.
This has really been timely. I am raising a 6year old and yooooo this young lady runs to the door as I leave the house and she says Mummy today am going to listen....I laugh knowing that she means the reverse and as I pray and mother her..I surely know that there is a strong beautiful person behind her. I need to play my role and not compare her to the society standards.. Thanks alot Mum for sharing. I really admire you and the grace that is reflected on the outside of you. To these gentlemen Thanks for being open and selfless 🙏
As i watch this video i observe elements of sharing independent opinions,shaping advices in a flexible way and a degree of maturity.Thank you for this video.
Parenting is not a one day event but a life time. Each child has unique traits and many parents don't know that kids are in a path of self discovery and parents have own expectations. The era our kids are living in is also being influenced by digital er resultin to be very sharp and smart. The best is to make them your best friends and relate with them. I remember my friend was struggling with her son with a bushy beard which didn't reflect in their family. I told her let him be as he studied in one of the very traditional conservative School's so he was in discovery one day he shaved it off.
We need to educate our children more than "force " them. Like persuading or training them in right principles such that they see the benefits and don't depart from them.
Mr. JR, with all due respect to you, kindly try giving enough time to your guests and we hear more from them, am not trying to re-empty your views and values.
"Haza abantu nkimwe nibo baba nibagambaho." The world is moving forward and traditional values that hold us back need to be left behind. Take the knowledge or leave it the world will still move.
