Can a man change? 

Simple! If he doesn’t change for you your not his wife... and that’s ok. You’re someone else’s wife. Keep your standards in place and ask God to continue to order your footsteps. Don’t try to change a man, ever.

"A man that did not change, did not want YOU." Such a powerful statement Tony. Be Blessed

He married the girl with standards and did not marry the one who was always his safety net with no standards.......notes tooken and highlighted

So In other words if he don’t change for you he don’t love you. Got it! Hard pill to swallow though but thank you 😊

Tony 😥 you're spitting bullets today. "He did not change because he did not want YOU" those who have ears let them hear. From a man himself. Thank you Tony!

A grown man looks to be a serviced but a grown boy looks to be served.

This is exactly how so many women get caught up with selfish men. They look good on the outside but do not have what it takes to commit to a serious relationship.

Be blessed brotha! I totally agree with your point of view. I wasn’t always the man I am today either! My breakthrough was ME deciding to change, seek counseling and work on myself! The frequent problem is that many of our women are inappropriately partnered with grown males and don’t know about it. These grown males are wearing the “uniform” of a man but stuck in the mental capacity of a boy. Some men are great at wearing a mask which eventually will fall off and reveal their true self. Sisters, a grown BOY can only see as far as your PANTS! But a MAN can see you as part of his purpose! A male cannot “change” but a grown MAN knows he has to!

Nothing on earth will change a man, only finding the Lord!

“A man is wired to do anything to you... that you are willing to ACCEPT!” Whewwwww, Tony you are a true teacher... God bless you brother!

Tony, this is 100. I have learned this in real life when I watched my guy friends find their wife, they changed and stepped up immediately. It was almost like my guy friends went from night to day. They were good guys before but when I saw them in their process after they decided they found their wife, I was like “woah. When a man knows what he wants, he does whatever he needs to do to get her.” Period. I’ve seen this so many times. It has helped me try and filter out if the guy I’m dating sees me as his wife. Your videos have def helped round out good info for me. Be blessed and thank you!!

Speaking as a former toxic man I agree with you 100% brutha. Credit for the man I am today goes to the woman I married. There is truth in the fact that I wanted to make a change in myself but it only came because I wanted to be better for her. Keep spreading your wisdom and knowledge sir I know it’s not the most popular content for men but you speak on our mindset and nature perfectly💯💪🏾

I truly believe this to be true! It only takes one time to address issues with your significant other maybe twice and that’s stretching it. If he’s not changing, then he doesn’t see you as his wife. A man will change only for the woman he’s sees as his wife. Powerful!! Be blessed!

Be blessed! Ladies, ladies, ladies. Did you hear what TG said about a man changing for the woman HE KNEW was to be his future wife from the very beginning, yet his EGO - Edged God Out (not original with me; read it somewhere) made him act up & act out? Little boys in grown up bodies have temper tantrums when they can’t have nor don’t get their way! They get moody, sulk, pout, get angry, play mind games, play the blame game, get bitter, will start smear campaigns against the woman who dared to courageously stands in her standards. Some even becomes vindictive & violent in some instances. TG’s wife DID NOT change her stance. Before marriage he tried to play her, tested her and even after the marriage, he tried to shake her off those standards. NO! She maintained her dignity, her pride, her value, her worth as a quality woman! Above it all, her core identity was secured BEFORE ‘dating’ & not dependent upon having a male’s genitalia, biceps & triceps, thighs, with a firm backside in bed next to her! She desired the higher ground: single - hood over thug - hood! But by God’s Grace & mercy did TG begin transformation from a boy (burden - on - you ladies) into a mature responsible man (meets -,ample - needs, not all). Thank you TG for your transparency, your truthfulness in these messages. Keeping you & family in prayer for protection as we war against principalities & spirits in dark places that would try to keep you from getting this essential word out to those of us who are open & willing to implement transformation!

Wow this is the truth. My husband has been the same for the whole time we've been married which is going on 10 years but together 16. He only decided to change when I told him I wanted a divorce and he knew I was serious. Be blessed

26:45 "We changed for the person, we want to change for." 30:24 "When a woman doesn't have standards, doesn't have requirements. The men doesn't have a reason to change."

Short attention span but will watch hours of other men throwing a ball around 🙄🤔😂😂

Your spirit of "helping people" is so transparent. Thank you and best wishes to you and your wife and children this holiday season.

Pause right there: He did not change because he did not want you! BAM! Bullseye! 💯

Whew Chile....... (Clutches pearls) He didn't change because he didn't want YOU .........as his wife! Chile Tony done snatch our edges😂😂😂 Truth dont always feel good but SIT in that emotion and feel it...learn from it...

I agree!! Most woman doesn’t hold men accountable or Expect to treat them with love & respect!! I do also believe that a person’s relationship with the Lord will transform them as well.

Uncle Tony, please keep the long videos. Forget what that lady was talking bout, she clearly doesn’t know any better. You can’t sit through a 15-45 minute video but I bet you she will sit through a 15-45 year toxic relationship with a no good man 🥴 shooooo satan ‼️

Every man can change, every man will change. Only one woman he will change for.

“She left me, she did not reach out to explain, to express” woooooooooo Mrs.Gaskins teach new ‼️😫 I exit, but with explanation, I need to stop that, 2020 my exit game will be solid lol. Well hopefully I meet my husband & he doesn’t give me a reason to exit. 🤞🏾

So true what u are saying...a man i use to mess with told me this he said "if a man really wants u he will do what he needs to do to have u" and he was a grown boy...so i know what u is saying is a 100% ☺

My recent ex is 58 years old, scamming women out of money over and over, I figured it out and booted him out. He's still doing it to new woman he's meeting up with. Pathetic and sad. So age doesn't mean they are a grown man, nope. He's evidently done it all his life. I found out more after he left.

You hear real men who are successful always state if it wasn't for my wife I wouldn't know where I'll be.

I love when Tony says...LISTEN TO MEEEE! 😆. Be Blessed 🕊

100% true, a man will only change for his wife/woman that they know is their wife.. this is why i,m changing me and if he chooses to change for me then fine.. otherwise i,m not settling

We should also praise the Lord for every man who didn't change for as because there were not our husband to begin with. Rejection is Gd's protection!!!

I’ve been married for 23 years and I agree with what you are saying. Me and my husband have had similar conversations over the years and he has mentioned many of the same things you speak of. We both came into our marriage with childhood dysfunction which ultimately led us to both change. Although we’ve had our issues in the past, today I can see how my husband has transformed into this amazing man that shows me love on a daily. So yes, men can change and so can we ladies. Blessings.

This video was extremely helpful! It’s important to hold your spouse accountable no matter what... My heart is heavy because I have to stay true to my self-respect, morals, and values even if it requires me to let go!!

I believe people can change. I have seen people go from loving and kind to an aggressive, bitter person because of a extremely bad patch in life. It can take years for them to recover if ever. So it can go both ways.

Tony I'm so ready for you and your wife book. Shout out to your wife for making you a better man!!

Be blessed! It's true, I had to tell the dudes I was dealing with if you saw me as a wife, you'd change. I don't tolerate mess. The last dude said I'd be alone, but he still reaches out after I laid out my standards. I had to remind myself that I was about to deal with a man with 3 kids by 3 different women, but he won't keep his word. I have no kids, so I kept him cut off. All the msgs he wants me.....I don't want to lower my standards.

Fact - NO growth in your comfort zone

Thank you for spelling this out for the women to understand a man’s perspective.

⚠️ *TONY This was 1 of the best videos I’ve ever watched of yours. It was so CLEAR. All your videos have been, but the SPECIFIC STORIES in this took it to another level of CLARITY! Thank you so much!! And DEFINITELY keep the videos LONG if that’s what God put on your heart to say a lot, don’t hold back from us* ⚠️

If he want too, he will change. Its up to him!!

This is wisdom straight from God! It’s 100% true and makes so much sense and answers so many of my questions

A man will change when you change yourself.

My EX claimed he changes only for himself and didn't like to give credit... It took me too long, but I finally left once I realized I had begun to tolerate my dealbreakers. Lesson learned.

Be blessed! Shots fired!!! Tony is telling the T-R-U-T-H. I was with my husband for 22 years. I shut stuff down, and he still would not change for me because his mother and family enabled him. When I finally left him, he let me leave. He didn't fight or anything. I realized that he never wanted to be with me for life. He stayed to please his family, and because we have 5 children. Right today, he is still the same sitting in mediocrity doing less than when we were together. I felt he was my husband, but I was not his wife.

A true teacher can't teach under the anointing and give out what God gave him/her to give in a rushed manner. Thank God for your decision to move in the power of God on the time issues. He that has an ear will hear. There's no time wasted in the Holy Ghost. Father, I plead the Blood of Jesus over this man's life & I plead a hedge of protection over these videos and all that he loves. I rebuke every troll and I speak destruction on their assignment. Make every crooked place straight for Tony & his family in Jesus name...Amen...Be blessed brother Tony!!!!

The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. Period.

See this is exactly why I’m done. He don’t have to feel that way about me. And he don’t have to change! Cool 😎

Tony, please don't worry about people who don't have ears to HEAR what exatcly you are saying💜 there are some of us who do so if nothing, you are doing it for us. Some don't have ears inside their head yet to get the real message ! Without judging them, it is what it is!

EXCEPT FOR NARCISSIST LETS BE CLEAR... THIS VIDEO WAS ON POINT THOUGH!!! 🙌🙌

The person you’re talking about sounds like narcissistic. They don’t change no matter what .

Be blessed!!! Longer videos means more wisdom 👐👐👐

Tony..I watch ALL your videos to the end! Don't worry about the people complaining about the length and content. They not ready for you and that's okay. They shouldn't be staying around trolling!

The Devil is Busy, They don’t know the best is yet to come. Keep up the good work. Let God use you🙏🏽📖🙏🏽

I was told by a grown boy who hasnt change that he wont change unless he wants to change

Deep! So many people judge Steve Harvey's wife for whatever they heard about her BUT when he speaks of his wife, he credits ALL of his success to her. He also said, he did not change for himself but he changed because she left him and that moment made him realize that he HAD to get his stuff together! Love this video

Thinking about the One to whom we will all give account to will cause change too.

Bro you 100% right when me and my ex wife met I change for her. immediately I knew she was the one.Even though we divorce. I understand exactly where you coming from. And I was worst type man before met her

I love this tony a man only changes for the women who is the one and holds him accountable and having kids with someone ladies don’t mean he gonna change if your not the one ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

OMG, Tony's story is what i am going through i left my husband 10months ago , he promised me that if i come back he will do anything to make me happy , he learned his lesson and he had found out that he needs me in his life , i couldn't believe him because of the RU-vid videos i have been watching of narcissist and i thought he might be the one even if he wasn't diagnosed, but Tony's old behaviors are exactly the reason why i left my ex.

I really enjoy your video's my father died last year and he would come over every Sunday until he got sick and we would talk about life but long story short you sound just like him I sure miss our talks.

You broke it down and I received it. Be Blessed!!

A man can change ONLY if he wants to change.

Talk as long as you want. I appreciate you!

A man changes when he's good and ready but I definitely refuse to settle for less or wait on anyone to become the man I need and want in my life. Im near 40... 🙃 He better come with it or get Ghost!! Time is to be valued not wasted....🙃🏌️‍♀️

Your videos have helped me a lot in understanding myself and husband. They are not long at all. I appreciate you taking 20 min or more out of your day to make these videos. May the Lord continue to bless you and your family.

This right here is something that has changed my perspective forever! When I think of my ex this jere opened my eyes and now makes sense why we continued to have the same issues. The part that resonates with me most is the fact that he was a good man in some areas. However, it makes sense why he kept doing the same things because I was allowing it. This wisdom is life changing !

Take as much time as you need taping these videos. Don't lose any sleep over the naysayers. You explain things very thoroughly & the messages are easy to understand, but just like you said not everyone is ready to recieve so we just have to be prayerful that the scales will be removed from their eyes like Apostle Paul. Thank you. Be blessed.

Only God can change people if a person dose not allow the spirit of God to come in and make those changes they will never change all they do is moderate they behavior for a while ,but then they go back to being the same old person only God can change people,so who ever is out there trying to change big boys good luck to you

You realllllly went in with this Tony... May The Most High continue to bless you!! Sending prayers to you and your family!!

Wow you are right I’m 57 bf just broke it off my dad said the same thing A man will change for the woman he love Get this I asked the bf the same question and he said yes a man will change for the one he loves...... I accept that Moving forward after 3 years

Talk Tony Talk Tony! Great video! I am a witness, my ex- finance changed whenever I had a concern. I have never been with a man whom was so open to communicate and change.

Knowledge is power and I appreciate your knowledge. Be blessed.

I’ve watched 90% of your videos and this by far was the most impactful especially for my current situation. Tony, I love your longer videos! Say what you need to say, the message will reach whoever it’s meant for.

Tony.... as far as how long you need to talk....TALK....this is good stuff. GOD is protesting you and what you’re giving to some of us who wants to hear the truth...this is not being heard in some churches. Be Safe Be Blessed.

I'm sitting here yelling at the tv "shut up" because the truth hurts.

Make the videos as long as you need. We can always stop listening of it's too long and those silly folks who complained know this. Be blessed.

Standards should be taught EARLY in girls. My dad wasn't around much BUT my mom TAUGHT us standards EARLY! I feel bad for women who mother was on drugs or just not involved to TEACH them. That's why we need to embrace each other and not judge because we all have a different story. I get soooooooo frustrated with women who I attempt to help and the keep allowing bums in their life..molesting their daughters etc. After HEARING them, many of them truly were not taught standards so their our here in their later years settling because they dont know! Ladies, you dont have to stay stuck! Stop going against the grain of everything this man says. Watch is videos and invest in his program to INVEST in your life! I'm signing up for several of his program in January and truly would love to help someone else who needs a session but can not afford it. Truly I do....

Listening no matter how long it takes or what I'm doing... Thank you, Tony. You're as honest and straight up as it gets. That's why this makes so much sense! Be blessed!!

Nothing but TRUTH u speaking Tony!!! A man is a hunter & goes after what he wants ❤

I’m 20 and this was very interesting to listen to because I used to think ik it all but I’m always learning because of you! BE BLESSED🙏🏾

Be blessed Tony! Talk as long as you need to get your point across! I’d rather hear your full point and be in full understanding than be in halfway understanding and constantly be confused. I’m a communicator and I know sometimes it takes different avenues to get your point across so people can understand bc they might not understand it the way I do, so in fully addressing your point hopefully somebody’s questions have already been answered. I watched your video all the way thru and I don’t have any confusion. I was willing to listen. That’s what it’s about too. People gotta be willing to listen. God bless you Tony.

When I tell you God sent. You are God sent! Thank you for your wisdom. You have help me tremendously through these past couple of weeks. And I thank God for leading me to your videos. May God continue to bless you and your family!

It’s so crazy. It’s like the things I wonder or need answers to, you address the very next day. Thank you Tony for your insight. I truly needed this video. Be blessed to you and all those who follow you.

Thank you for sharing this brother, Going thru therapy and a process of changing myself now. I lost a lot because of my ego and I wasted a beautiful thing that God gave me because I gave in to my demons. Ive committed to end the cycle of mediocrity and cowardness now. God bless you brother and keep doing the Lords work!

Mr.Gaskins! I hear ya! I Have NO problem with the fact that a man solely changes for a woman. None at all. In fact, I find it quite awesome actually. If I could be the type of lady who would inspire a man (a grown man) to change, I would count it as a blessing. 🙏🏼❤️

Ladies He's not saying force a man to change SMH . He's saying raise your standards and the man that really wants you will change . If he doesn't change for you you are not the woman he wants to be with . Example if eve had not bitten the forbidden fruit Adam wouldn't have . A woman is a man's influence period. You have to listen and comprehend

I am so glad you spoke everything because I was ready to cry listening to the first half. The second half rounded it out and brought my hope back up.

All are the best videos of your wisdom but this one THIS ONE IS LIKE ...... the one video that explains ALL in one that helps ALL. ♥️💯🔥🌹

Thank you, for sharing your life experiences with others. God is definitely using you as a vessel to help reach women and men be true to themselves, and know their true worth. May you continue to be in alignment with doing God's will. Be Blessed!

BE BLESSED....again the key word for me is accountability. EVERYTHING stated here today is the TRUTH. DON'T you listen to what others relay to you regarding the time you are taking to teach/coach. DO NOT change a single thing. It is so needed. Amen!!!

Great message! Record for as long as you want! It can be 3 hours long, best believe I’m listening! Be blessed!

You tickle me- Yes!!!! One woman. I enjoy watching.

Your absolutely right I had to part ways with him...be blessed

Tony....A MAN THAT WANT YOU...A DEALBREAKERS....OH MY GOD.... PREACH🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 this is sooooo true. Keep it coming Tony. Be Bless, Be Safe.

Be Blessed, this was so encouraging for me because I has been questioning my worth after a failed marriage. I learned something about myself and men because it is not one sided.

So true stubborn and set in his ways..man you hit it on the head! I experienced it. I was engaged to one..He works full-time, goes to church faithfully, pays all his bills on time.but don't know how to treat a woman, cherish her. I'm not with him unless he does change.

OMG, Tony when you said, "He did not change because he didn't want you"... I FELT A BACK HANDED SLAP!!! And I've never been slapped. Thanks for the Light!!!

Every young lady should listen to this. It is about time for parents to teach our boys and girls about these things and standards. Keep up with the Excellent work Tony. Stay blessed🙏🏾

Be blessed! Keep them coming! I wish I knew then what I know now. Regardless, this helps to continue my healing process because I have two daughters who need to know these beautiful truths nobody is talking about. 🙏🏼

Talking longer drills it in deeper. I love your videos. Thankyou for giving your time and knowledge. It is much needed. Im so lost!

Be Blessed Tony! Thank you for all that you do! This very subject is how I knew that my ex was NOT my husband! He refused to change for me, or him, or ANYBODY ELSE! He continues to try and come back (he gets no response!) but refuses to change! I told him one good time that I am NOT his wife, but the soul tie is real! He has had several marriages and relationships that all end the same, and yet he thinks "we" are the problem!