I was desperate and I settled and played myself. Everyday I’m acknowledging my worth. Ladies, pay attention to the red flags. I repeat, pay attention to the red flags.
Sorry you had to go through that. The fact that you were able to get out of that situation shows strength and courage.. Seems like you're in a better place of acknowledging your self-worth and that's beautiful and powerful. Stay blessed 🙏🏾
God is love when we spend time with him we learn to see ourselves through his eyes and will treat ourselves accordingly. It all starts with our relationship with our Heavenly Father.
So that clown actually thought you were sitting around waiting for him to come back? That's why I say these guys are on something serious I don't know what it is but they have lost all their mind.
I'm a dude.... I will never chase anyone in this universe!!!!! Chasing imply lack ,, chasing imply you don't posses it , chasing imply you are not enough , whole complete , worthy and unique.. Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe!!!!!
@@CaramelCuban I'm wating for the right woman to ask me to marry her after that i would say i will think about it .... I have regard for anyone especially when it comes to women i respect them all with all my heart , i admire them as well .......i will never ask anyone to marry unless she ask me to marry her the reason for that i don't wanna attract narcissists, toxic , abusers , malicious, vulgar , vicious , bandit etc in to my life ....iam enough i have been enough i for ever be enough!!!! I love y'all though but i will never chase y'all frankly speaking !!! Attention is cheap love is deep....when someone desires y'all doesn't value y'all the individual will give y'all alot of attention which is irational.......take care of y'all selfves ladies and stop chasing love ......become what y'all seeking for !!!!
@@ChauNguyen-ur9pi you can say that again trillion times ......just to let you know that iam in love with my self biblically speaking .........oam more than enough , whole, complete , worthy and priceless......i respect women and i love them all with all my heart ............iam in love with myself ......
The only love you need to chase is self love and from God nothing else will ever be as satisfying or fulfilling. Everything else will fall into place after that
I agree with you 100% - when you are not feeling good about yourself you settle for crap. Been there. Now its all about taking care of myself and just being the best version of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. I hope love with come but if it doesn't I still want to be happy with me.
Yes Mr Gaskins. I once read a quote that read "desperate hearts eat lies quicker"... Take your time ladies... Urgh and please stop approaching these men ⛔😷🥴 the thought of it literally chews my brain.
Be Blessed!! I realized that I used to settle for situationships with the hope that it would turn into something more but not really speaking up for what I wanted and it was not getting me what my heart truly desired. Because I was not speaking up for myself and settling I was giving off the vibe that I didn’t care about myself. So I can see why someone would take advantage of that. Thank you Tony for another great message! God Bless
His right about that ....Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe bibically speaking...when you love yourself, cherish yourself and nurture yourself love will surrounder frankly speaking .....chasing implies you're not enough !!!!!
@@broco6608 which men? He doesn't see it, good. He's filtered out of your life. If he is a friend, be a friend, don't look for more. If that is hard to do, God will help you when you look at Him. I had to do it, and it took, for me, a long time to see His hand, but God helped me. I was too blind as a nearsighted bat to notice at first....
Yes indeed !!! Frankly speaking as soon as i stated taking good care of myself trust dudes and ladies are hitting on me for real....i love women though with all my heart but i will never chase them because iam more than enough , whole , complete and worthy !!!!!!! Alack of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe!!!!!
Be blessed.”When you become love,you attract love”....After just a few months I have completely changed my entire way of thinking when it comes to relationships.I used to believe that using my body would make a man more interested in me...But I never even invested in myself,I had no idea what I really wanted in a relationship,I had insecurities,I was bitter and when I met a guy that was actually interested in me,he couldn’t even recognize how valuable I was because I was too busy trying to lay him down with the fear that he was going to leave anyways which they did.....I needed to heal and realize that I am so much more.Watching these videos...I have so much peace in my heart and I love myself enough to receive love.
Thank you for your transparency. Most of us can relate. Ignore the holy rollers that will throw scripture at you without throughly reading what you just said. Good luck to you on your path to self discovery.
Yes!!! Just got out of a dating situation and I realized that I need to heal my brokenness and change my perspective in dating because I didn't even realize that I've been chasing love.
MAN! This a A WORD! Please take care of yourselves, ladies and gentlemen! And don't get comfortable and stop when you attract a relationship. oh and be blessed!
I literally just got out of this situation. Thanks for this video. I was chasing this fool and changing who I was, in the end he ended up telling me it’s me it’s him. He cut me off with no explanation.
I am that women now was dealing with a man for 7 months gave my mind, body and soul being desperate for love affection I willingly ignored the red flags!! He would talk about when he meets the right one verbally telling me I wasn't the one! Never wanted to have deep conversations about feelings would say I was impatient but had know problem expressing his love for my body smh I learned that my self esteem is not as high as I would have loved to believe I'm ready to fully love and commit to myself 🙏🏾
Girl I totally feel you! So many woman are in this situation. You are doing great for recognizing this. The best is to come for you. You deserve love, effort, consistency and commitment. Don’t settle, keep learning and be PATIENT.
Omg...I need to exercise. Stress has gotten me so distracted that I haven't been thinking of my self. I know I am pretty, smart, educated, classy and blessed in many ways but it's almost as I hide behind not looking my best. I get you. I know this. I pray to God to give me discipline and will to stick to it until I see results. Thank you Tony.
I CANNOT do this with you today Mr. Gaskins 🤣🤣😭😭😱 I'm logging off the ENTIRE internet smh 🤦♀️But in all seriousness I hope your advice today is taken in love and truth. I can testify that when you are busy taking care of yourself, love will find you. The person will literally show up with every healthy thing you needed that YOU became during your own self inventory, intervention, and process. I literally started 2019 single and devoted to just improving myself and ending 2019 ring shopping with the love of my life. Be blessed.
K Reeves - How Sway? No seriously, can we talk? I would like to know what this looked like in your life. I've been doing this but I am still having a hard time meeting a quality Godly man.
@@missadug It truly was effortless to the point of being disturbing actually lol. I started the year with a 6 week weight loss challenge. I began working on my spiritual growth, daily habits, outlook, and started re-evaluating my established relationships. I had been "dating" a sketchy professional guy on and off for over a year and decided to ask God to intervene in the situation. Suddenly in the summer while I was continuing to focus on my personal goals, that man suddenly dropped out of my life and my future husband, a man I dated over 20 years ago showed up, and told me he had been praying for me. He literally had been on the same path all year that I was following without ANY communication between us. It fell into to place seamlessly. Tony is right! There was no gray area, no confusion about his intentions, or mind games. Now we are planning to get married soon.
Tony, I do everything you're saying. I take care of myself very well... I workout 3-5 days a week, get my nails/hair done consistently, I'm a very well presented woman and men usually find me attractive and approach me a lot... But it's the TYPE of men that approach me 😭 I remember watching one of your videos where you spoke of wearing bright colours. I gave it a try and wore bright colours to work all week and it actually worked... The men were approaching but the quality of the men is another story 😢😂
@@DeaconChriss in the context of what I'm speaking of in my initial comment; a man that isn't eating me up with his eyes before approaching me, a man that doesn't approach every pretty face he sees, a gentleman, a man that is respectful in his approaching. I'm speaking on how he presents himself when he approaches me. Of course you have to really get to know a person to know if they're of quality or not. Not being braggadocious but men approach me a lot at work (I work at a hospital) and the unserious ones usually come with the same narrative/presentation.
I am with you sis! Ok?!! I am with you on being approached respectfully but the other I fear is just MEN. they are visual creatures and are approaching because of what they see. As women we have to focus on keeping our legs closed and paying attention to red flags.
@@ebonyflowers7599 I understand what you're saying. And I hope I can explain it in a comment. I understand men will always look but look once and move your eyes. For e.g. I know I'm a curvy woman and I dress modestly on purpose because of this. But I also know that I cannot fully hide it... So when men look I get it... But to look and behave like they've never seen bum/hips in their lives is another thing 😂 they're not discreet at all and I ALWAYS reject men who do this straight away. And of course legs closed and eyes/ears open is a golden given. But first impressions matter a lot to me.
@@DeaconChriss I agree! And this is the type of man I want approaching me. A man who thinks just like this. I'm a believer, a woman who loves Jesus so I will continue to seek God on this matter. I want a man of God! To attract one, I guess I have to dig deeper in my faith... Because I'm tired of these nonsense men!
The Lord is really using you in this hour. Keep 'em on heavy rotation. I am currently trying to break a soul-tie, a TOXIC soul-tie and it has been rough. God knows I need to hear ALL this, as a matter or fact, really those last three videos you put out this week. I am praying that God keep me, protect me. Thank you Tony!Continue to Be Blessed!💯 So proud to be part of the Blessed Tribe! 🙏🏽✝️🧡
Yes Angel! I too am going through the same thing. Tony Gaskin video's has truly been helpful to me. Thank you Angel for your transparency. And thanku Tony Gaskin for your sacrifice and obedience.
Although this video is almost 2 years old Im glad it popped up in my recommended. And no worries you aren’t wasting your breath when you’re dropping golden advice like this! Be blessed❣️
Tony, I enjoy and appreciate your teachings. I'm basically just listening to you. I have NO interest in dating, marriage, and nothing else pertaining to the opposite sex at this current time.
Stephanie Thomson facts!! Very unfulfilling. I was doing it all. It’s just terrible! And when I stopped chasing, the unfulfilled feeling was replaced with peace.
Amen Sis!!!! Singlessnes is a gift its blessing. I believe when your living a life of purpose in your life of singlesnes. The person that god has for you will come into your life.
Thank you so much, I just found out that a man I was in love with had a girlfriend for two years. Shattered me. Your words have spoken so much life into me. Thank you- so much.
I swear today is the day I let this guy go ... I’m crying rn.. not because of him just because I realised how I treated myself everytime he showed up ...
Be blessed I changed my eating habits I don't eat pork or beef I am getting into the vegan foods I look attractive and I keep myself up I wrote a book it's now on amazon I am a single mother doing my best and I am seeing one guy who is so far a great guy
Be blessed Tony. I'm 63 and have been single and celibate for 10 years. I've used that time to get closer to the Lord and figure out in which direction l wanted the next chapter of my life to head. It has been quite a journey. I'm still learning things about myself that will make this next chapter better than those that have passed. Thank you for your views from a mans perspective. I'm so very grateful that l came across your videos. I've introduced my daughters and granddaughters to them. I wish someone would have done the same for me 45-50 years ago. We have to level the field, and encourage women to love the Lord and themselves, first and foremost before getting into a relationship with a man. I'm encouraged! The joy of the Lord is truly my strength; and I'm at a good place in my life. I'm content "in this state". I'm studying your videos and taking notes! Mentally and literally! I'm going into this next chapter armed and aware. Bless you, young man. Happy to be a new member of your "Tribe".
I've learned to stop chasing love. Ive learned when it comes to chasing love you'll go through many people to find that love to fill in that void. You'll get with a person then you'll love something about them and other things you don't like about them you'll leave and go to the next. You'll get with the next person. You love something about them more than your previous partner but that person is still missing something. So you go on to the next. What a stressful life.
I swear I always get a good laugh every time! WASH YOUR FACE! 😂 But Tony always speak truth! Let's continue to work on being the best versions of ourselves. I am so glad he addressed men who probably look like Rick Ross talking bout they want a coke bottle shape! Men, we value physical appearance too in men. Smh lol be blessed!
I just started watching Mr Gaskins and I've become totally hooked! If I could afford to become apart of the Tribe right now.. I would, but believe me, I do plan on it in the future. I come and watch his videos a lot. He speaks total truth and with humor. I love it! 💕
*Be Blessed* 😊Hey everyone! I began practicing Self-Love some months ago and it has been very beneficial for me💯. One reason why I'm ALWAYS saying something about it when I post a comment. I didn't understand it then, but as time progressed it made sense. I have identified my brand and I've tapped into it. I remember when I tried out to be a Majorette, my band Director stated to become a Majorette you have the 3 B's and that he would know them right off. His were...Brains, Beauty & Body! Some made it....some didn't. I was a Majorette all 4 years of High School. That has always stuck with me! Real Jewels dropped in this video, thanks Tony!!! As always.... Take Care Of You❤️ **The Blessed Tribe**
The problem with attracting men has NEVER been a problem for me. My weight fluctuates so it goes up and down. No matter my size, I can pull em. The problem is the quality of men and the LIES that come with them. They put on a whole different persona of who they actually are and then once they've hooked you, BOOM, here comes the real them. No matter who I've dated, businessmen, bankers, doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs, blue collar, white collar, they seem to all play games. I think I'm done with giving men the time of the day. Nurturers attract people in need of healing. I'm tired of giving my energy away and being depleted. Leave me ALONE. I'm single for life now. Mr. Right can come into my life right now and I'd probably tell him to go to hell. I'm DONE.
I'm a nurturer/empath so I feel u. I can relate, energy mad depleted but somewhere theres that flicker of hope. He makes everything beautiful in his time.
I agree with you. I have lost 90lbs and dated wealthy men that have asked for threesomes, educated men that only wanted sex and blue collar men who attempted to make me lower my standards....When I say "I'm done AND I'm tired", that's what I mean! I've watched hundreds of hours of self help videos by various thought leaders, have been in counseling for 2 years and read numerous books. Mr. Gaskins is great and a gift to many folks that truly need help, but some of us are just fed up and exhausted beyond repair.
Luv Ya Tony Gaskins, you are so Right On, I'm in my early Sixties I lost 2 loves of my life, May they RIP, I miss them Dearly, I never went after a man they chased me, and thank God they were (GOOD MEN) if one is Meant to be God will bring him into your life, as far as keeping yourself healthy & in good shape, & dress nice, I agree, I do all that I always have, and I like to look Nice 1st for myself & if other people compliment me that's nice to hear and I must be doing something Right because I seem to attract Nice Gentlemen, Tony your Advice Should Be Greatly Appreciated, Keep Up The Good Work 👍
I'd listen.. .. I watch most of your RU-vid videos. I got to understand myself and got out of my comfort zone. And I just want to say thank you and God bless.
Theres so many people with low self image. Shoooot! I'm one of them. But everyday you teach me slowly how to love myself. I really like this "soul ties" and "self care" kinda topics that are beyond their labels. They are very open to discussion and thought. Love it. Stay blessed! ❤
Wowww this really hit home. I need to really work on all my 3 B's. I've been committed more to my job than my own life. Definitely gonna look into your courses Tony. Thank u!
Yessss!! I agree, and I told my mother this about nyself actually during a heart to heart expressing some concerns about my life. She says the Man God has for you will not worry about that. True, but I also told her its fair to him for me not to come at my best. Well, I used to have that look of self love when I was smaller, had more of a social and before I survived some health battles. I also once had a life balance...always high confidence. I love myself, however I know it doesnt always show. I have gained weight but still put myself together decent. .y tone and attitude is strong, especially having suffered some PTSD and depression I've been praying on. Then my credit and job and business life has not been in the best place. I am now working on the weight, business and PTSD..and some sleep! I know it makes a difference. Somethings are changing
This is good! I'm a 58 y/o woman whose binge watching your videos after just coming out of yet another toxic/abusive relationship. I'm getting a Lot out of the information you're sharing, so THANK YOU, and Be Blessed. 💓
Thank you for this truth, everyone always says to "love yourself", but no one ever really breaks down what that looks like. Thanks for using your gift. BE BLESSED TO TONY AND EVERYONE!!!
Amen! I was just saying this. And recently I have enter a new relationship and been getting myself together and everyone has noticed my glow aka my happiness and joyful glow 😍🥰 so yes self love is the best way to go!!!!!! 😊
Thank you. I came across your channel completely by accident it just started playing LOL. I'm a laboratory Tech I work for a great Hospital worldwide I raised three boys on my own. Amen to that I've been apart of the covid-19 and other things there's nothing more than I love is my job and my family but you're absolutely right and what you said sometimes we do things without noticing and sometimes we need to hear things unexpected ways to get it thank you
Asking for affection or begging is chasing. Like having to ask for kisses or hugs or else they'll be a problem. Touching period is a problem. Except for when he want me too.
You are speaking the truth I felt a spArk in myself to keep going and staying motivated you and your wife is a great example of love I’ll continue to watch you I hear everything your saying and I appreciate the feedback from the male perspective.
Be Blessed! I love your channel, the content, and the fact that you're a married man, (not a single man talking about how great love & commitment is, but for some reason you're still single) giving truthful, Christ-Centered, Real World advice. Keep doing it. This information needs to be shared at middle-scholl/high school level, as a preventative measure.
Tony you are so right, I stopped listening to people who would tell me why do I spend so much time looking presentable when I decided to step outside, And for a while I thought that I had to look ugly to please others and make them feel comfortable,, but now I don’t care I put on my eye liner everyday I take time to tend to my hair and always try to look decent,, And realized it was never me it was them that didn’t love there self and they wanted me to feel the same but I got all of the toxic people out my life and I spend all my time on loving myself, And I don’t let anyone make me feel like I’m wrong for taking time to look nice before I leave the house,,
You need to look your best for yourself! You need to have joy for yourself! You should be mindful of your body because your health is important! The goal shouldn’t be to get a man or woman. When you are you living your best life then in time you will attract a quality partner. And I’ve seen plenty of women who didn’t look all that attractive who have a man. So 🤷🏾♀️. As a Christian you should focus on what God has for you to do in this season.
I'm soooooo glad someone finally said this. I was listening to some parts of this cringing. This video was speaking 100% FACTS, but for so many women that have very real and very deadly body dysmorphia issues....this video will send them into a life threatening downward spiral fast. I hope they have a support system of love around them because this will literally kill them.
Dope message bro! I typically don't comment on videos like this but I had to this time. These are basic reminders about what we should be doing to take care of the gift we have been given in life. I appreciate the reminder. **** be blessed****
God Bless you! This really helped me at a time where I am struggling to figure out my stance on relationships. It gave me reassurance that I need to pull my focus back on me and not give it to men that would lower my standards if I settle.
Be blessed! I just love your videos! I stumbled across them 2 weeks ago and man, I tell you, every video I've watched has been a blessing! Many blessings to you and your family!
I haven't even looked at the video yet and I already feel like this one is for me. I had one crying and whining to me on the phone last night about another woman that broke his heart 🙄😳😣
Be Blessed! Thank you Tony for sharing your wisdom. You are truly an inspiration to me as I prepare to go through my divorce. May God Bless You and Your Family today, tomorrow & always!
Ladies, he is correct. I took my health and looks more serious. Made it a habit, stopped with the dating apps. I started finding events in and near my city. Now I dress up and always have somewhere to go. Create the life you want, now I get hit on everywhere I go.
