Good morning John good morning Dan, it's a great day to be alive, I'm old and I don't date, but I recently quit smoking, today I have 56 days without smoking cigarettes praise God hallelujah
I listen to APJ while working out. That last bit about the Piper dating app almost made me drop a 20lb plate on my foot 😂 I'm not an aspiring pastor, but rather a musician seeking to glorify God with my art. Still, I'm very glad I stuck around. Thank you for espousing your wisdom, as it's given peace to this awkward, shy, and generally reserved 26 year old single man. I've recently been convicted for my inaction in my singleness, noting how I need to take advantage of this time in my life instead of wallowing in loneliness. I have a hard time reaching out to elders, and really just in general, due to my autism. Still, while I'm waiting on God's appointed time for a wife, I will do all I can for the kingdom. Again, thank you for setting my mind straight because I know I would've never reached out to my own pastor for this insight and wisdom.
I always hope to be a pastor's wife 😊 Not because I love the seat of honor. I would love to dedicate my life to supporting him in his ministry. I always loved the church because Christ loves the church. I love the LORD and it's His glory, His honor that matters the most to me. He is my portion and my greatest delight. I would love to carry any burdens with him along the way.... if ever...by God's grace. I am not sure whom I will marry someday, and If I will really marry someday. If the Lord wills, I will live and do this or that.
Divorced empty nester here who doesn't want to be a pastor's wife, yet I still found this video helpful. Please create a playlist on dating. Thank you so much!
“Am I not free? Am I not an apostle? Have I not seen Jesus our Lord? Are not you my workmanship in the Lord? Do we not have the right to take along a believing wife, as do the other apostles and the brothers of the Lord and Cephas?” 1 Corinthians 9:1, 5 ESV
Assuming that all the dating we're talking about is appropriate and godly behaviour, and we're not Catholics forbidding to marry (1 Tim 4) and avoid the unequal yoke (2 Cor 6) then I think you have to accept it makes sense to date in your church and pastors won't be an exception (even if it does raise minor additional issues).
Don't ignore God's very explicit and specific instructions for qualifications. He must be married and have children and know how to manage them well: 1Ti 3:2,4-5 Husband of one wife... He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church?
I attended a church with a single pastor and it had been a matter of contention for several years because many believed he wasn’t qualified since he wasn’t married to one wife as scripture seems to say. The pastor had traits of autism and seemed to struggle with face to face conversations, most especially with women. I think this situation wasn’t ideal but he was the only one who could pastor that small church at that time, so I guess it was God’s will. By the same token, we might consider how many pastors of one wife have fallen from their positions because they had affairs or were caught up in addictions or other serious sins. On a similar topic, I think it’s now essential for churches to help young people meet, and establish lifelong marriages with the emphasis on the individual believer’s relationship with Christ first.
Tony you played too much on this one 😂. God bless for this wonderful episode though...I know a friend I'll definitely share it with. He's also looking to date a devoted Christian woman here in Kenya, who will not be turned off by our ministry life.
Is removing the potential of creating a new soul while having sex a sin? For me yes. I haven't found an answer. It's only close in the old testament, the story with Onan and his brother's wife.
The Bible teaches to delight in your wife, and to ‘fulfill your conjugal’ rights. “a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” Proverbs 5:19 ESV “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:3 ESV Sex is a gift to married Husbands and Wives. It should be enjoyed freely in ONLY that context.
Is there even a Biblical mandate for single pastors? Doesn't the Bible say that an overseer should be a man of one wife....? I've always interpreted this to be that they must be married. I could be wrong though.
I think that's a modern reading of the passage. It's talking about polygamy. If marriage was one of the conditions to be met before getting into pastoring, it would discredit Paul's ministry. (Might also contradict 1 Cor 7)
Yes. Firstly, in 1 Cor 7:7 Paul wishes that all Christians could be single as he is (although he then goes on to say that he knows it isn't realistic for all to be single). It would look very strange for Paul to say this and also think that a single Christian couldn't be a pastor. Secondly, there were key figures in leadership positions in the early church who were single: Paul, Barnabas, Timothy (very probably) and Titus (probably). It makes no sense to think that God was happy for these leaders to be single but that for a pastor, being single was such a big problem that it should rule them out from this role. Thirdly, the standard New Testament pattern is for each local church to have multiple pastors/elders. Because most Christians do get married, you would then almost always get at least one pastor/elder in a church who was married. When there are married pastors/elders in a church, it is even more reasonable to think that there could be single pastors/elders to complement the married ones.
@@maxaplin4204 Water is wet, I understand. The logic follows: A single pastor cannot be a pastor because a single cannot be at the same time, a husband of one wife.
The only thing I can recall for that is Timothy 3:12, but even then it doesn't seem to be a requirement but a recommendation. It may also have been a rebuke against polygamy, but I'm not 100% sure about that.
@@aocnetwork Paul, and more importantly, God said they must be married with children and know how to manage them well. 1 Timothy 3:5 And "worthy" is a nonsense reply. None are worthy but Christ. Therefore anyone in Christ is equally worthy. But are they qualified Biblically? A single man is not.
If you are a preacher, STAY, single ! Paul was right. To not be single, cuts WAY, into your time, your attention, Eros love is WAY, over rated. The other types are fulfilling. Funny, after decades, I have yet to see a single preacher. NONE, of them follow Paul's advice ? None, at all ? How is that ? Have all men become that weak, as to not be able to live without erotic love ? That few minutes is worth a life time of catering to needs of a woman ? Na, I'd rather be about the Lord's business.
Hi, I’m not sure if you’re trolling or if this is how you think about this topic but assuming you’re serious… I’m sure your perspective indicates you have that mysterious “gift of singleness” that most of us don’t want. You can embrace it and for you it’s better. You can’t even imagine why others aren’t living the same way. But it’s because God creates the majority of us to desire marriage. He blesses many with families, though not all of us will have this desire fulfilled. It depends on how God wants to sanctify us. Just be careful not to impose your particular inclination onto everyone else because God gives each of us a different personality and heart. Also, I hope this doesn’t come across as rude because it’s not meant this way but I wondered if you’re on the autistic spectrum?
