Can menopause cause emotional detachment? 

I love to be by myself now. I do not need any company. Actually, people get on my nerves. I feel like I can't tolerate stupidity any longer. I'm on HRT but still feel that I want to be left alone.

I feel all of these things. Mostly just want to stay home and do my own thing. So stressful to go out and deal with people. So much stressful events going on in the world. My anxiety has been through the roof for the past week.

Thank you!! You’ve described everything I’ve been feeling. Daily I would think and feel like….This is not my body and I am not this woman. What happened to the other woman? I want her back. Emotional detachment /disassociation 100% with some degree of depression. Weight gain is the additional slap in the face. Menopause is often laughed at and joked about but it’s not a laughing matter. It’s life changing and life altering. Education is a must.

I found I have zero patience with anyone. I hate this, I'm constantly apologizing to people for being mean

This is exactly what has happened to me. I find it difficult being around my friends. My relationship with my husband has changed….we’re the best of friends, but we don’t have an intimate relationship anymore. I’ve often thought it could be hormones. Very interesting. Thank you x

I'm going to send this to my 20 year daughter. I can't say I'm sorry enough. As a single Mom, she has seen what I've been going through. I became emotionally detached and it was painful for us both. I truly couldn't help it Mikayla. It's not an excuse and I hope you never go though it and if you do, you will understand me even more. Thank you for your support Mikayla.

My child said I had a disassociation disorder. I can do that very well. I thought it was because I was just fed up with everyone's drama. But there are times or it seems that I'm just unfazed by anything and everything.

This was just what I needed to hear today, Eileen! I am in the worst throes of the perimenopause mood, cognition and emotional lability symptoms right now. Just hearing that this a "phase" that WILL PASS is a soothing balm! It's been going on for a couple of years for me, surely there must be some light at the end of this dark, seemingly endless tunnel! Great thanks.

I hope feeling this way means I'm nearing the last period! I'm 55 and still having a monthly period. Every month I pray that was the last one. They're coming every 24 days or so now. Cramps and moods for a week leading up to it. Every month when the symptoms return I get so despondent. When will it be over for good, I'm completely fed up with all of it.

Not want to sociolaze ! Yessss !!!

You are basically the only person who talks about the many symptoms of menopause. I have all this and nobody seems to link it with this phase of women’s lives. Thank you! I am under hormonal replacemnet therapy and still feel emotionally dettached 😢

I'm really feeling the detachment!

Thank u for this. This is so me right now. Glad to hear this is normal for menopause ❤️🙏

Romantic emotions I seem not b able to produce anymore. But ... if I see romantic and moving stuff on TV I easily burst into tears. What the heck? I can not have my husband cuddle into me or approaching me in a tender way, but I need to cuddle into him like a little kid. This so all so irritating and disturbing, where is my old me??? I am emotional detached most of the day, in the night when I dream it is about being completely disoriented. I used to be on top of my match, now I seem to lose it ... Im 55 and I feel as if Im 80. But now and then I feel like 17. Which is AS ridiculous ...

Thank you so much! I had seven years of hell after an early menapause at 42 and refusal by three doctors to help. I was suicidal, depressed, had chronic anxiety, debilitating muscle pain and was mentally blank. I began menopace botanicals five weeks ago after visiting a health food store for some valerian. They were recomended by the store assistant. I have recovered 90% which is good enough! I love life now when I thought it was over before. Thsnk you so much! I also bought calcium vit D and magnesium.

Thank you for this video. I'm almost 45 and I am in early perimenopause. I've felt myself feeling like this lately. My husband is wonderful but I feel guilty if I snap at him or don't feel like intimacy and I work hard not to do that. Then there are everyday stressful situations and I have PTSD and anxiety. Top that off with covid and Ukraine and I've felt awful. So I realised I don't want to keep feeling like this so I take the vitamins Eileen suggested and some hormone balance supplements as well as exercise daily with my husband and a walk in nature with our dog.i eat very healthy and practice mindfulness and just taking day by day or even hour by hour some days. If I feel like taking me time to craft or have a nice bath I do because it helps and it helps my relationships too. I'm having some better days now. I still need to work on my sleep but I'm getting there. If I need to cry I do.I hope all the ladies that are seeing this feel better xo

I am so glad that I found your channel. I have just started taking calcium, magnesium, and zinc supplement. I'm looking forward to feeling better. Thank you for your much needed videos.

Thank you, I Love this ❤️ I feel like this with my friends and family.

I am 50, and saw my doctor last year to see if I am in perimenopause. He did all of the blood work which showed that while I'm not in it yet, my testosterone levels were low, so I'm now on testosterone cream for it. It has helped with a lot of the symptoms including more of a normal sex drive, but I still feel really detatched emotionally. But I don't believe it's entirely hormonal. I grew up in a very violent home. My dad was an angry drunk, while my mom was an emotionally messed up woman. Neither parent received help for their issues, so my brother and I grew up with our own sets of emotional baggage. Throw in being sexually molested at age 8, and sexually assaulted at ages 13 and 16, and you have a truly emotionally damaged woman. I have seen several counselors and therapists over the years who have diagnosed me as having depression, anxiety, panic disorder, ptsd, even borderline bipolar with some borderline personality disorder traits. I have worked hard over many years to overcome layers of issues, but there are some scars that just can't heal completely. It may not be a problem for many women but I know it plays a huge part in my situation. I have always had problems connecting with people and it has caused problems in my marriage. As I get older I have found that I love being on my own and don't care for the company of others much at all. It takes a lot of intentional work to stay connected to my husband and kids. I have been very open and honest with them about my past and where I'm at today so they know that the issues don't lie with them but me. They know I love them dearly. All of this to say that I believe that emotional trauma and pain can play a big part in hormonal problems as well. It takes a lot of work with counselors and therapists to get through the mess, but healing can come. Just thought I would share this as some food for thought.

Hi I rarely miss your videos they are very much helpful.You spoke my heart out,my internal fellings that nobody could understand.love from India

What does the husband have to do when the wife has emotional detachment ?

As a child I could cry at a moment's notice tears were always just under my eyes I now find it has to be something to do with family or close friends that set me off otherwise yes I feel sad but no tears. Mum and dad are used to my tears and simply ignore me which is usually just what I need.

Well of all the symptoms i have experience thus far on my menopause journey ...this is one i thankful have not experience its quite the opposite for me....as always grateful and appreciate these informative vlogs...Thanks Eileen🌹

Thank you for this information, it’s exactly what I’m going through.

I don't know if you will see this comment, but I am a 60 year old melanated woman. I am menopausal. There are many times when I feel the things that you have mentioned. It doesn't help that I work 7 days a week. I know that it is a job and I am needed, but I could really use a bleep, bleep break!!!! I have cried and tried everything to stay positive. I I want to be a help to all the hats that I wear, (wife, Grandmother etc.) I just have been sucking it up and keeping it going. Again, thank you for your incite and your channel.

Absolutely I wanna run every day!!!!!! It’s horrible?

I was beginning to think I was going crazy. My relationship with my husband has been strained bcuz I can't answer to the reason I am not interested in sex anymore and why I cringe when he touches me. We talk and I hv nothing to say when he sits in front of me w/tears in his eyes and says that he thinks I don't love him anymore and I just feel empty and numb inside that I can't even respond to him. I literally feel void of all feelings, its so strange. I reached menopause this past July but hv realized that I had bn detaching from my husband for the last year. He doesn't believe that menopause is to blame. We will start couples and individual therapy soon. Hopefully a psychologist can help him understand what I am going through bcuz I can't.

It’s very helpful to see and understand this. I feel like my wife has been gone for decades. I would think since her 40s. It’s a struggle. She is struggling. Its erased me and our marriage nearly entirely. I pray she recovers as soon as possible. It has broken me. I am trying to be as mature as I can, but it really makes her entirely emotionally unavailable. My kids see it. I have been working on myself. In fact, I’m ready to start therapy. I am trying to keep perspective. It’s really tough. She used to treat people so well. A monster has taken her. I keep telling myself she’s doing her best. I’m not going anywhere. I’m riding it out.

Thank you ❤ I have been having crying episodes that won’t stop all day then cramps then a small period. The Rage and not wanting to do anything. This information helps ❤

Thank you! I feel all of these,.

Trust me, as husbands or partners of our women, we are quite aware of what the problems are and what our ladies are going through which also affects us. We are searching for solutions and it seems like every female whether a doctor or an expert just talks about the problems and offers no solutions

Thank you ma'am 😊

Thank You from the USA 🇺🇸♥️ This is how I’ve been feeling for quite a while. I’m in my mid 40’s.

Thank you so much am going through this right now am just feeling detached from everyone but I try my best to deal with it thank again l will get those vitamins.

Thank you Eileen....just listening to you is therapy for me. You are always so spot on....it seems like you know exactly what I am going through. When is the best time of day to take magnesium?

So true. Thank you Aileen! 😊

Ive always liked being home. So that's not new. Im post menopausal and still have no desire to be intimate with my husband. We had wonderful loving years prior to menopause. Hes changed alot as well. Gets down right ornery, snaps at me, for no reason...im not irritable anymore. Im pretty easy going and considerate. But he is grumpy all day, then wants sex at bedtime. Sorry...i need to feel loved all day to get my brain thinking intamacy. Im fine with never having sex again! Nothing turns me on...not other men, not seeing any nude man. I do like hugs and kisses. But not like i used too!

I need help 😫. My emotions are all over the place. I don't know what to do. I can't go to the doctor because I don't have insurance.

I would say yes - going on almost 7 years of no physical intimacy, she won't even kiss me. Simply doesn't know why, she just won't. Trying my best to be supportive, but the medical community is SH*T for not providing the proper support for Women during this phase of their life. Too busy making money off the effects rather than help manage the transition that every Woman experiences.

The last year I had my period and for about a year, I could not stand to be around people, especially at home. I was so exhausted from work. I would get home. I moved into the spare bedroom (husband had no clue what was going on with me, I didn't talk about it.) just wanted to be alone. I even thought about moving out. I still loved my husband, but felt like he didn't want me anymore. Stuff my head came up with. Not anything he did. Well one day about a year or so later, something clicked and the nightmare was over. I came clean with husband, he set me straight. And we went back to be happily married. Sex stopped due to me having to many physical issues caused by menopause. I still do not like being around people, (Introvert my whole life) but I have never been a people person. They stress me out to much.

Hi can the menopause cause numbness in hands and feet & sometimes pins and needles and increased ❤️ heart rate . Pl cover this topic as well . At 51 with 1 year of no periods I am facing this issue . The GP has diagnosed it as Anxiety …am on Etizolla and Proponal

I am nearly 37 and i am emotionless the last 2 weeks. I have all the symptoms of menopause for 2 years. Will the emotionless ever go away? 😢 Can high estrogen cause it? It began with feelings of high estrogen.

My life's been full of trauma so I've never recognised the symptoms but I'm 60 now and still got trauma with my family. How much magnesium and b vits do I need to take daily? Thanks lucinda my periods stopped at 45 and never came back.

It is normal for periminaupose.somtimes i wake up in the mid.of the night couz its very hot and i can sleep in the night

I forgot to mention that I am a caregiver. My last day off was in June, of last year.

This is me described to a T unfortunateky the DRs in my area dont believe in menopause.

Im going to 43 yrs.old lah

I think my wife is going through perimenopause. Seems to have gradually detaching for couple years. First noticed pms was getting really bad 2 yrs ago. Then 10 mths ago said she wasn't in love anymore. Since then I've suggested she go if she has no feelings for me as I want her to be happy. Then she says she wants to see if feelings come back. I love her so much and our marriage was good before. Her parents went through identical scenario 20 years ago and her dad left. Does anyone relate? Are there any success stories after something like this? What is timeline I can expect? Am I deluding myself and has she simply fallen out of love?

Your videos are very helpful thank you….I’m in the peri menopause and I have lost a lot of weight over a stone I can’t seem to find any information as everyone talks about weight gain. Is weight loss normal?

Hi dear I don't want to be close to ppl. Its like they can smell me .....please help .

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I know a girl going through pre menopause and she laugh too much and eat too much , why is she the opposite ? Thanks

Halfway through, and all you're talking about are the problems. Not once have you offered a solution. As a man, this is a waste of time I was expecting some solutions to help my wife.