Can't Find Your Enneagram Type? Here's What To Do. 

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"You're still going through active trauma" solves the issue usually

0:29 feeling proud to see him here ngl. He's a gem! 🇧🇩

I think unless you’re a hardcore 8, 5, and/or 3, you’re going to struggle and mistype. Even after years… as a newly discovered 6w5, I’ve tested as a 5 up and down the internet, identified as a 9w8, mistyped myself repeatedly, have years of Reddit posts saying I’m a new type every 6 months, it’s extremely difficult to type yourself if you are not a naturally assertive, force to be reckoned with. Everyone is working on their own timeframe, it should be normalized in the personalty community to be wrong, unsure, confused. In fact, it’s my experience that most people I come across struggled in one form (or ten) or another. Thanks for these reminders Abbey that it’s ok to not know and to enjoy the journey. I know from personal experience how stressful/annoying/aggravating how not knowing can be.

Learning about enneagram is opening my eyes to why some people in my life do things that annoy me. My brother's girlfriend does everything for him like doing his laundry, laying out clothes for him in the morning, making food for him, cleaning up after him, etc, he has two working legs and a working brain, but he expects her to do everything for him, and she just does it, she'll complain, but she still does it, which I asked her about, and she said she doesn't want to deal with his complaining, and I told her that he's going to complain anyway so it's better to set boundaries now, and she told me to mind my business. It's annoying though, this stuff effects everyone around them, anyway, after watching this video, I learned that she might be doing this because she desires to feel loved, and that's kind of sad to me, I can't relate, because I don't care if people love me or not, I like people, but I like to keep my friendships short term and surface level. The process of elimination is helpful too, for me it's 1. No 2. No 3. Maybe 4. No 5. Low Maybe 6. No 7. No 8. Maybe 9. No The thing that I'm a bit stuck on is that I react with both anger and shame, it seems to go more of, I impulsively react with anger and then I feel ashamed about it afterwards, and the reason why I feel ashamed is because I make this goal to be seen a certain way, but then I fail at that goal, and it seems no matter how many times I try, I never learn. I'm sure I'll figure it out soon enough, I learned that I'm not a type 5 over the basis of, while I do share a lot of similarities with a type 5, I don't have the same motivations, I like to learn because I like to learn, because I'm an ISTP and have introverted thinking, not because I'm afraid of being deprived, or because I want to prepare myself to face the challenges of life. I can be a bit hoarding sometimes, and I don't like expanding my time to other people, but that's only currently, not my normal state of being. Currently I'm stressed out and annoyed by everyone in my direct life, I heard that type 8s can take on the negative characteristics of a type 5 while they're not at their best, and the positive characteristics of a type 2 when they are, which makes sense to me and puts more weight into type 8.

I used to feel so ashamed that I give myself a new type every 6 months. I've tried on 1, 5 and 8 and now I've finally settled on 4, but with a lot of 1. This after reading about enneagram types for close to 5 years. One problem I face is, I read (and hear) in lots of places that your true enneagram will make you cringe, but honestly I am fine with being any type. I know I have lots of flaws (we all do) so it doesn't really bother me to read about core weaknesses. Only, I identify with the flaws of more than 1 type, so that's very confusing. Oh well, guess I'm rambling 😂

This video came right on time!! My mum’s been trying to find her type but she’s really struggling with it. Thank you Abbey!!!!

I think im a 5w4.

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it's clear that i'm an infj, but i cannot decide on my enneagram type. BUT I am still recovering from an eating disorder and childhood trauma, so i think i won't know for now.

I am 5w4 But i feel like im all of them.