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I am a 6w5. These things you describe are so spot on for me. I think my favorite was the reminder that it is ok to be anxious. It can be so hard to be ok with all of these hard, strong feelings and thoughts that constantly swirl around. No one wants to be the debbie downer all the time... or even just the voice of reason. It can be exhausting to be "that" person. So being reminded that feelings are ok and that what we see/feel/think is valuable is huge. And so spot on about how much actions matter over words.
I'm so happy to hear that it was helpful for you. I know it can be so difficult to support a loved one through depression. You just want to take it away from them, but all you can do is love them. I hope that this gave you some tools to do that. 💜
My type 6 best friend lost their job unexpectedly about 3 weeks ago and has been in a tailspin since. Not only have they lost their financial stability, they also identified strongly with the mission of their former employer (non-profit) and they were the workhorse of their team. I hope they find something else soon, and their former employer made a HUGE mistake.
that's so upsetting!!!! ugh, I'm so sorry for them. Not only is losing a job stressful for everyone, but for a 6 who has committed to something like that... absolutely devastating. thank you for loving them and supporting them in the way that you are. 💜
Holly molly... No joke, this video is a synchronicity to me. My partner is an enneagram type 6 . I am a 4, and lately, I had some troubles with managing my emotions and insecurities which led to a major conflict. I reflected all day and thought of something to show him my support despite my struggle to not be overwhelmed by my emotions. And then your video came to me. The universe works in mysterious ways. 🙏 Thanks Abby
So cool!! It makes me feel so happy that this was helpful to you. And I’m planning on making one of these for all 9 types so you’ll have a 4 one to show your partner 😊
So abbey at one time you said one of your parents was a 6 ,did it ever feel to you like they were constantly thinking to themselves “what’s something abbey might do that I don’t want her doing “& then without you saying anything “abbey don’t do this”& it was something you would probably do?
Yes! So I thought my Dad was a 6, but now we are thinking he’s actually a 3. However, he definitely has a worst-case scenario brain!! But to be honest, I was the oldest child- responsible and introverted. So it was probably more my siblings he worried about 😂
I’m a 6w5 married to a 7w8 and I love & appreciate him so much 💕 I try to be mindful of when I know I’m spiraling & he’s a constant joker who just loves me 🥰
So so accurate😅 my #1 criteria when dating was the person had to be funny😅😂😂. Now I know why lol😮. Being a 6 can be mentally exhausting so humor helps immensely-as does therapy!!!
Counter Phobic 6 here. Great video and highly accurate. As 6s, we overthink any and every scenario to death. So if we bring up a scenario, it’s not to be the wet blanket, it’s to be the voice of reason. Comedy obsessed as well. You definitely study 6s well, Abbey. 👏🏼
Im definitely a type 4 & 8. I was melancholic even tho I planned and want my baby😂 my bf told me my reaction was okay. I think later on in my pregnancy ill def turn into mama bear 8
Congrats, Abbey! 6w5: "Google says there's no such thing as a false positive" 🤣 "I am not taking this test until I know how it works" And all the Type 3 stuff. Type 6 is a Type 3 in stress 💁♀️ Type 5 already having an Emily Oster book is the most Type 5 thing.
I'm a Six. I had a relationship with a 7 who happened to be very sneaky and a liar mixed with the 7 traits. I had to end it. I recently met a One. This person makes me feel very secure and safe, without the person having ulterior motives. I don't feel paranoia or anything. Yay for ONES!
I'm AuDHD and I've got a resting b*tch face and a low monotone voice. Growing up, I was always told to speak up and smile more. I tried that but felt so unnatural and fake. I just don't care what people think anymore because when someone gets to know me they think I'm the nicest person ever despite the way my face looks and how my voice sounds.
What confuses me is the reputation that 8s are all super mean or something. We are confrontational and stick up for ourselves and others, and we're more assertive than the other types. None of that is mean or cruel. I've honestly talked to someone mean from all 9 types! (Even the 9s and 2s, i know, they exist, and they're not saints. People pleasing doesn’t mean you're kind, it means you know what to say to get people to like you and leave you alone.) The biggest reason im confrontational, is that unresolved conflict creates this horrible pit in my stomach and i literally wont sleep until the conflict is fixed, and the relationship is repaired. That is not a selfish, mean, i hate everyone standpoint. But because we address things first, we have a reputation of starting fights. Like no, it just stresses me out to be mad at you, and i cant feel better until we talk it out and both say we're sorry. That seems a lot kinder than the type 2 silent treatment, or the convenient memory loss of the 9s, or the denial and blame game of the 1s, or the "you're stupid so I'm right about everything" of the 5s, or the "you're mad so you're a bad person" of the 4s. Really the only type that can actually handle the assertiveness of the 8s is type 3.
Maybe 8w7 😂 my style is just "I like you, we should go on a date" and then see if they respond well to that 😂 i don't really like teasing people unless i know them better.
It's so freeing when you realize doing what other people want gets you nothing except the honor of being their personal doormat. I will do what's right and what i want. If what you want falls into that somewhere, then hooray! But if not, so sorry, make it happen by yourself :)
I feel great until they inevitably guilt me into doing something i dont want to do, and then feel duty bound to them because i owe them now. Sometimes it's just better to not accept anything if you know it'll be held against you.
@phantomized187 Omg watch the video 😂 it's literally about how 8s get misunderstood when they're making a point. It's a non emotional description - deadlines need to be met, it's non negotiable. It's not about whether or not you have a reason for missing the deadline. That's a different conversation, and not what the video is describing. Special circumstances don't get to alter the rule.
Whoa...nine types...nine months. The Illuminati were right! We're through the looking glass here, people... And congrats, Abbey! You're gonna be the BEST mom! Do they had out awards for motherhood?
