Can You Change Your Partner? Alain de Botton on Accepting More and Sulking Less in Relationships 

“...Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for”- Bob Marley

This interviewer is rather bad at letting him complete a thought, usually interrupting to add absolutely nothing to the conversation...he powered trough it though, good for him.

The interviewer best strategy is to allow the person to talk freely - he is witty and quick. The interviewer looks like an obstacle.

It’s called a two way conversation peeps. If you want just Alan then go watch just Alan vid🙄🙄

Super insightful. Thank you for your content creation and platform

love this podcast. thank you so much for helping me a lot.

The interview is not letting the guest speak. Why?

was gonna say that Krista is quite the interrupter but seems like most have noticed already

I want to hear Alain de Botton talk... Not the interviewer!

Too bad she’s trying to impress him with her knowledge, rather than let him talk. 😖 but interviewing people is really hard. So, who knows how we would have handled it? 🙈

Terrible interviewer. Wisest man in the planet is talking and she interrupts to say nothing

when my partner accused me of trying to chang them i explained that ,that was rubbish i was not so much trying to change them as swape them out

Is there a video of him talking about this WITHOUT her interrupting him at all the good bits? What is she going on about anyway?

Are you guys on Apple podcast?

I'm 2:20 into this and already know I'm not going to listen to the whole thing because the interviewer is disrupting him and doesnt let the man finish a sentence

It goes back to the first relationships between child and mother, at first the black and white extremes are seen, (the good and bad qualities), before there can be an understand of the an in between understand (good enough, good and bad qualities mixed)

what's the answer? can you change your partner? HOW?

Why interrupt the witty and knowledgeable person every two seconds?

The lady is like a typical media anchor person, intruding in Mr Bottom's stream of thought.

she is interrupting him all the time

Omg she keeps interrupting him, shut up already

I need the rest of it.

Oh my lord Alan. First date idea would scare most off

At 15:00 Alain said to the interviewer : "you are crazy..." and I concur. She wouldn't shat up! ;(((

I just had this conversation with my husband. “I can’t read your mind.”

My partner gets angry every time i pushed him to go shower. I can't even go somewhere or not shower for a day but my partner is a different story. I push him to shower n now it's get to a point that he got angry about it. 😏

This talk is interesting, but it is strongly based on the fact that one has to have the patience to actually change the person? One has to take the burden of changing the other person for the sake of the relationship health? Where is the option of just accepting that this person in not for oneself, and we should look for something less troubled?

I apologize. The end is pretty decent. I treat people like kids all the time, especially when they are bitchy. Next time, ask your boss if he wants a juice box, snuggle, or nap.

Woman! Let HIM talk for God's sake!!!

Darling I love you but I want to change you in these areas, - Why I love these sides and the rest of the World do that, I dont want to be your angel Alain.

Will she shut up and let the man talk?!?!

There are so many rude comments here about the interviewer. This is a dialog, not a lecture, and Alain de Botton, as adorable as he is, has a tendency to juggernaut on, kind of lecture-style; I've watched many of his lectures and listened to many of his interviews, and he has these sentences very rote. He's said them a million times before, and that comes off when he's talking. He speaks at a frenetic pace. It could be that the interviewer is trying to bring the pace down to the speed at which she and maybe her audience is comfortable with, and/or bring out more original and unique dialogue than exists everywhere else in de Botton's repertoire. I think many could benefit from checking to what degree their triggeredness to the interviewer is due to her gender.

Girl, shut up! Let him talk!

Terrible listen with the silly interviewer constantly interrupting, contributing nothing but fluff and self-aggrandizement.

Really dislike the interviewer, the constant interrupting and cutting off is infuriating to listen to

The way she talks is too distracting

God she's obnoxious! He has so much substance she should feel privileged to interview him. Yet all I hear is a sultry voice and not much substance. Nice conversation, not much of an interview IMO. Alain de Botton as great as ever.

Possibly the least capable interviewer ever to walk the Earth. And yet, she has a Wikipedia entry which specifically highlights her interview "style", and echoes her own solipsism: "The Tippett style", as described by the New York Times, "represents a fusion of all her parts - the child of small-town church comfortable in the pews; the product of Yale Divinity School able to parse text in Greek and theology in German; and, perhaps most of all, the diplomat seeking to resolve social divisions."[12]