Oh my goodness, I've just turned 40, and I was literally here contemplating some crucial career change decisions. I even began to question my potential, and suddenly, this video appears on my phone. Marie's timing couldn't have been more perfect!
Something I put on another post. This is my weekly topic for my own subscribers. Career. One thing that can really bring a person into depression is 40 hours a week of hating their job. The job is literally almost half of the waking life. The problem many people have is that they have a craving for security. The person will tolerate being unhappy if that is their normality. People would rather have secure bitterness than the fear of stepping off the cliff. The fact is that you can change your career anytime. At 40 or 50. I once knew a car salesman of 30 years who did really well but started to hate his job--so became a nurse at 57. He is now a travel contractor. His friends told him he would be 57 by the time he got licensed as an RN. He told them he would be 57 anyway. So he will now spend the next ten years doing something he likes instead of something he hates. But you have to decide if it is life on the sea you hate or just that ship you're traveling on. In other words--do you hate your trade or just the company you're at? But whatever you aren't happy with you must change and continue to advance yourself. Hope this helps someone---Charles.
I'm 38. Stuck in a dead end job that won't give me something better or a bigger salary because i'm at the top of what I can have in my profession. I believe I can can do more and have more at the same time. This is why i'm going it.
Thank you so much, I'm losing it big time delegating decisions and random and blind pursuit of difficult decisions. This video is so helpful. I look forward to write down my values, give myself a deadline and a statement to easily navigate it betget
@@SteveBierfeldt Thanks for the invite! I'm kind of swamped right now juggling serving clients & the summer. Would be glad to revisit this in the new year. 🙂
Great video, making those vision boards can be rough. Being honest with yourself is key, and know how to tell yourself "xyz" doesn't work for me any more can be huge challenge.
Everything you described is what I'm feeling right now. Went to college for computer science and thought about getting into artificial intelligence... but my dad pulled me into his small book publishing company. Now I've been running this small book publishing company for 10+ years and it's in a bunch of debt and behind on projects. The only way out might be bankruptcy which will totally mess up my life for a while. No wife, no kids... I am not in a good place mentally. So for me to even change careers right now I would basically have to lose everything. Scared and depressed.
Lots of likes but I can only like once. Dr. Jon. You are really funny in this one. I became a technical Recruiter in my late 40's. I was not even looking for a recruiting job but once I got this job, I stayed and built a rewarding career. Good video.
@@MadGeorgeProductions I'm now a digital nomad traveling full-time and working purely online as a life/career coach, RU-vidr and freelancer. How about you?
@@RachelSmets I'm 40 and have no idea what to do. I'm a digital video editor that ended up in a state job to be closer to family and more security, but now I'm worried my position might be under threat when a new elected official comes in, and I don't know if I love what I do anymore to start commuting hours again to where all the video work is. There's kids out there with cooler schools and more energy now. I'm very happy to hear you figured it out though, I hope I can figure out how I can transfer my skills to a happier existence eventually. I've tried two career coaches so far and neither have really been much help. They get you through the door with "it'll be easy, you have so many skills!" and the second you pay for a session it's all "take this personality test, you've got a lot of skills but you may have to go back to school." Made my blood boil. I don't have the money or time with a family to be spending years on a second degree or even an associate's. Anyway, rant over lol.
I got laid off at 40. A month ago. . in mortgage industry.. need 80k to keep my home payments and expenses 3 young kids.. no one will pay well changing career.
I’m a low-functioning 41 year-old, homeless and living in my car because of lifelong depression. Hearing about vision boards and metrics is beyond me. I just want to get started in IT so that I have a career to work on and have a roof over my head.
Sorry to hear that. I heard there’s plenty of resources out there for getting your foot into IT. Have you tried informational interviews to learn more about the options available out there?
@@DrJonTam Hi, thanks for replying. I had never heard of informational interviews, and I see you have some videos about them, so I’ll be watching those. I’m not sure about what resources are available for getting my foot in the door of IT, but I suspect you have videos about that too, and I’ll be looking for such resources. I’m only looking into this so late in life because I’m pretty desperate for a change in life. I just wonder if someone with no experience, this old, and with my personal issues, can get into IT. Anyway, I appreciate your reply.
@@OneSingleCheezIt yep, best way to get into an industry is to speak with folks who are already in it AND do the work they recommend. For IT specifically, I’ve seen communities like 100 days of code on X/Twitter and those seem to go quite well for many.
If you get a CDL you could have a job right away, that’s if you’re interested of course. I’m looking into it myself. I say I’m a high functioning depressed person, the office environment does not help me.
I'm 41 now and I was a structural drafter for reputable companies and was into it computers and my late wife got cancer long story shorts after she passed I needed to get recertified but I had to make money too so I just did delivery jobs and two years later I end up meeting somebody I'm with her 5 years today well almost 5 years and I'm working at DHL now I'm just not making the money I want to my checks for about $3,000 a month not what I used to make though and I'm on this cross road right now I don't know what to do as far as how do I do what I really want to do at age 40 and I don't want to work as a delivery driver the rest of my life I think about it all the time now like what is my meaning in life what is going to be my legacy when I die so I saw your video on RU-vid going to check it out thanks bud
I'm in my late 30s and currently working in a call-centre job that pays $1,500 a fortnight, which is like minimum wage. I feel stuck in a rut because I have arthritic condition known as AS where my joints fused up. So, I am limited to the types of jobs I can apply for. I'm thankful that I still have a full-time job to go to even though my highest qualification was high school certificate. I really want to get out of the rut by investing in studying online part-time either IT or Accounting, but I'm worried that my investment would be wasted. I already have an existing student loan debt of $25,000+ which is deducting a tiny portion from my salary. When I was young, I had high level of social anxiety, which is one of the reasons why I didnt do too well at university and was a dropout. But then I think, I have grown out from my social anxiety. I'm not sure if I should be like the older generation to work and save extra hard, or to invest in education?
IT requires non stop upgrading, accounting does not change. If I didn't hate deck work and boring liner math I would do accounting. I am too creative to do the same things over and over.
Lots of ways you can do it. Main thing is to focus on a goal, conduct informational interviews to learn how to transition, build the skills necessary it, and get the experience (volunteer at first if you have to), and eventually you can do it if you don't give up.
You are hilarious, Dr Tam. I would have guessed you were 30. My friend's son got his PHd around the age of 25. Do family members and co-workers, address you by your title, Doctor? A topic to consider is long term financial planning (not professional, but personal) for unpredictable contingencies, such as job layoffs, pandemics, career changes. You might need Powerpoint slides for the demonstration.
I have a video on my channel on Career Financial Freedom and you can compare both perspectives . I became a millionnare just working my career with steady compounding and building my runway. You can check it out
Honestly, most people just go by Jon and only in professional settings do I use Dr. Tam. Thanks for the idea, I have a video coming up about career transitioning during unemployment (but it's over a month away since I film my stuff way ahead of time 😅)
@@DrJonTam Have you watched K-dramas? I read subs, but the wife might address the husband as Chairman. They love job titles. it always looks odd, since Westerners call each other by name. LOL
I m 41 with jobless, I lost job at 40 and Now stuck, I tried to change the career into devops but for me decision got wrong, as some company are not hiring more the six months gap. It made me loss of hope. I am stuck and helpless, what career should i choose now i m confuse and scared. I need a job
@@DrJonTam True. I just made a career advancement to move into a Director Role at a Big 4 firm and will be leaving my Enterprise Architecture role at a Fortune 13 company. Biggest advice, I picked up is that I own my career, delegating this to your employer is not a long term strategy. Will start my new role in April :)
@@DrJonTam RU-vid suggestions. You showed up as I had a history of looking at videos like this. Was curious what you had to say as you weren’t 40 yet, but giving advice. 40’s are mid-career folks and a lot different than beginning career audience.
@@JohnTube2K I mean you don’t need to have had a tumour to be a surgeon right? As for the advice, a lot of it is actually evident in life stage research and from my clients’ experience.
I have no decent skills, I got divorced in University and missed my degree of a Human Environment Specialist by one 3 credits. I ened up depress and lost my support and just done odd jobs that amount to nothing, basically working for nothing. Have no car can't even afford a driver's license at $600 plus for it here in Quebec. I live in a place where they HATE anglophones and the laws prevent us from working. What I have done is learned some new skills like bike machines but they only hire 14 year olds or people with 25 years experience. The most stuck up industry of all. I was a cookm but have no passion for it, it physically ills me. I am a service person but my back isn't the best, same with yardcare and gardening, I do it but it takes my down after a long day that I can not keep that up. Plus I have no passions for any of those things really, bikes a bit but no one hires my even for that. What does a person do?
@@DrJonTam I have no dreams anymore. I just want my own place and a career that I can do. Fact is Montreal is a very bad city and the people here do not get along with me. Anglophones are proper second class citizens here. Not one job I can do here except physical labour and maybe cooking. I can not even get people to rent a cheep room to me. I just want a normal life, nothing special.
Hahah! I learnt a new thing today. “Asian don’t raisin.” Did I hear this right. Change is the only constant in this world. I’m in my 40’s and starting all over again can be daunting yet exciting. It depends on where you put your focus on. Aligning your values and goals makes it easier to make conscious decisions. Shoutout from Montreal! 🇨🇦
