I'm finding it hard to change my perspective of my breakup and not blame others My ex who was already conflicted on breaking up with me pulled the trigger when an ex friend of mine told her to do so as she would wound up "getting hurt" because of me and that I was "manipulative, selfish, self centered and egotistical". I constantly have to remind myself that sure her friends/ex friend of mine had an influence but at the end of the day my ex was the one who made the decision and that I shouldn't blame my ex friend for pushing her despite my ex being easily swayed by other people's opinions I accept the breakup, told her to contact me if she changed her mind or when she's ready to exchange our belongings! Things happen for a reason and I trust that the cards will fall into their proper place regardless if we reconcile or not. Keep up the videos craig!
Saying it’s never gonna change is a lie, because a lot of times we haven’t let time do its thing. Unless you turn 65 and they never came back then you can confirm that. Also telling yourself that you’ll never find someone better and that you’ll never improve, that’s a lie. Mainly because you haven’t dated enough, or met enough people. Take it easy. Stop lying to yourself 💯
You guys have done so much for me in this time. I’ve been doing the workbooks and listening to this channel regularly. I’ve been working on myself every day and I’ve come so far in just 3 months to rebuild myself. I’m already starting to question if I even want my ex back. I never thought I would be getting to this point. I’m doing the work and I am healing, and I get to look at myself with a huge sense of pride at what I’ve overcome. Thank you for everything you do.
She reached out after 31 days of no contact! We’ve had two nice, light conversations since. No pressure applied just enjoying the moment and catching up, making jokes. Not pursuing or being the one to reach out. I can see her getting softer and more vulnerable as it goes, it’s beautiful. This stuff works! My only question is when do I suggest meeting in person or so I just let things be and see if she brings that up on her own?
Coach Craig and Coach Victoria, you guys are amazing. You have been like my guardian angels over this difficult time, and I can´t thank you enough. I hope to have a success story for you soon. Hope you´re doing well
I was pretty wrecked at first. But then I realized how many 'tweaks' I've made to my life due to the breakup. Tweaks in mindset, tweaks in perspective, attitude, etc.. And while I still don't like getting my heart stepped on, I realized I should be thanking her. Because it pushed me forward in all other areas of my life. And let's face it, relationships are a gamble, while betting on yourself is a sure thing...
hey, Coach Craig you ar amazing and helped me with your videos. But one word from me. If someone brake up with you because she/he thinks the gras is greener or other stupid things like that. Move on and dont waste your time to be with someone that dont respect you and dont love you
@@GoldenbanjoDJ I don’t think it’s so her being attractive or her being offended once you tell her, but so much the fact that you came on here to comment ONE thing completely unrelated to the video but to comment on a female’s look on a relationship/breakup channel. I knowwww for a fact Victoria and Craig would both look at your comment including your “male feminist” comment and say “Gross.” Oh alsooo, good look finding a date while you use the vocabulary “male feminist”.
@@kita0918 Thanks for the analysis, but spare me. I've watched this channel for years and have put my insights, experiences and questions into the comments sections - none of which have actually referred to any physical characteristics of the creators until now. The channel - along with others - has taught me a lot, so much so that I don't really 'need' it day to day. I like them as people, as presenters and as professionals. But neither you or the white knight above knew that before you started your shite. They are completely free to dislike whatever I say. You can dislike it as well if you want - I'm not that bothered, as I'm not really in the business of caring about a random person who I am never going to meet and am physically unattracted to anyway. You might be surprised by how many feminine women are out there who wouldn't have an issue with what I said, and who actually see white knighting and male feminism as laughable and unattractive. Maybe you don't, but in response to your last 'good luck' comment, I have a date tomorrow with a Polish model who I got the number of literally by walking up to her and saying 'you are stunning', so spare me the 'luck' that you might rely on day-to-day. Maybe you should try my techniques.
Yeah...we broke up 5 months ago after 5 years. She told me quite bluntly - you're weak. Clingy and needy. If you cannot be a positive in my life, I won't allow you to be a negative. I don't need deadweight. That hurt, because while yes, I suffer from anxiety, I had helped her out many times over the years, even when her own daughter abandoned her during a bad period. But still....very shortly afterwards I read about attachment styles and started CBT as well, on top of gym and sport. Dropped 25 kg, starting to tone up. Mindfulness and meditation as well as started studying again in the evening after work. Bought your workbooks and started dedicating 45 mins each in the evening. Will move on to the Creative Healing after them Around two months after the breakup, I reached out to her, told her I realized what she had been speaking about and was working on it. Her reply? Going to lectures won't fix you. Your character is broken. Then a couple of months after I saw a post she had liked (of a friend of mine) on social media which spoke about how not to try to fix broken men. A part of me still cares, in part for all the years we had each other's back. But during the breakup and afterwards, I don't recognize her anymore...or maybe she always had that streak and I wilfully looked away....
@ he reach out after 10 days to tell me he sent my stuff I ignored everything he texted at night that day saying he deserve better and then block me… I ignored and now it’s has been 3 months and still in pain afraid to calll or text @ Craig please help