Why Space Is So Important In Attraction And Relationships 

Rebound situation?

Me too, very similar. For 7-8 months, I dated a man who was in the process of getting divorced from a 30 year marriage… . a very messy and ugly divorce. Everything was great until one day, suddenly, he didn't want any commitment any more. I said I understood and I accepted the breakup. He thanked me for everything, I thanked him too. I did 3 months in NC, but I recently texted him, just to ask how he was. He took a long time to respond, but he was polite, thanked me for asking, told me things were moving along slowly and he hoped I was well. At that point, I was actually grateful that I didn't know any new details about that ugly divorce of his, because it sounds like he hasn't really solved anything in those 3 months. But I miss him. I don't think it has to be seen simply as "a rebound situation". These people may have actually felt something for us, it doesn't have to be a "lie,", but as Craig says, a person getting a divorce is "all over the place". My emotional needs could have never been met under those circumstances. I already felt I was taking care of his all the time.

@@angelatam6274 maybe. I think it was just moving too fast and scared her away. Looking back and reflecting on it, she just wasn’t ready to jump into a “relationship” yet. Which is why I can I understand what happened. I’ve been there after I went through a divorce and got into something similar a few years back.

Are you holding onto hope? 7 months NC is a long time. I'm two weeks in and miserable.

@@nicolec7496 I could care less if she ever reaches out in the future. Sure it hurt in the moment and still have thoughts of it at times but ive moved on. Just seems hard to find that strong spark, chemistry and connection with someone again. Im hopeful that i will though.

Thank you for the kind words!!

We're not "getting" anything, though :) We keep attracting these guys because we ourselves have work to do, too.

Self love sister, it’s what you need, you should really check Tam Kaur, she helped me so much.

What??? I get that you’re so frustrated because you want a man, but why are you judging this woman? What « type of girl” is she? Not a « good girl » like you? She’s been through a decade long,abusive, unfaithful relationship and I’m sure she’s going through it right now. As Craig and Victoria said (and I agree), she needs time to process and heal. Maybe don’t be mean❤

Wah wah wah

Thank you!

Narcissistic men and Like This Woman's first boyfriend who had two wives do this sort of stuff so you have to be really careful a few months is not enough time to truly get to know someone

Do The Knowledge Workbooks or Creative Healing Course! What you learn in them is exactly what you need to do…

Probably ave hobbies sports travels. but let the other person have also separate hobbies with friends. Community increases knowledge and knowledge increases attarctivity.

This video is the exact opposite of story of Soprano singer Violetta Lazin and conductor Gianmaria Griglio. They have a lot of in-love photos old photos and new photos. But they don't post much. It seems sin the classical music industry are happy marriages because classical music is so classy that the marriages seem classy and also entertaining. Its probably ok to be passionate, and sometimes of course he travelled away because of his job. Soprano wrote in Jan 2023: "9year since my amazing man traveled from Italy be with me in this Tinny Rainy country called The Netherlands. We have had some amazing times and some very rough seas but that’s what the best adventures are made from. Through it all we have always had the most important ingredient: Love! Love which keeps growing bigger and stronger with every passing moment. 2022 will remembered for the official knot we have finally tied in it and for the house we found. The 2023 marks the start of actually buying that house and making it our own! To new amazing adventures and another 40 years together at least! (Yes I will keep resetting that clock for as long as I can! 😇) I love you. I love every part of you, every thought and word...the entire complex, fascinating bundle of all the things you are. I want you with ten different kinds of need at once. I love all the seasons of you, the way you are now, the thought of how much more beautiful you'll be in the decades to come. I love. few months later: One year later and I love you more." It seems its easier to have this type of relationship because he is the type of guy who has a sense of humor, he praises other musicians respectfully, He is a gentleman to women and men. He speaks politely on social media to other colleagues the same way as she does. In the past some conductors were "dictators", he says if you would act like that today the best way is to ignore nasty behavior. His wife speaks about his work nicely on social media. Other men of today seem to be polarized by Tik Tok or other channels.

Another good example is a lady that I saw on tv here in Slovakia Lady Mel Official. ... very funny lady who was second in dancing show in 2005. She shares funny but also interesting videos quotes comments about family, or hapiness life and calls her hubby "my beautiful man" she has very simple minded attitude....saying things with few words and loves her family and life and dancing. :) I think its interesting rare attitude today, not analyzing every nonsense about the other partner or about life. has dancing school for moms and kids, here in Slovakia, and married to DJ. It seems musicians or dancers have happy marriages, they seem happy in all photos. She talks nicely about him, she has very spontaneous personality but her thinkinga bout values seem ver ysimple, she is traditional yet modern. She is dancing with her two kids too and shares simple quotes about happiness, It seems she is not the type of person who changes her opinion 100 times a year but has the same values for years as her parents. ONly thing that bit bothers her is how few ppl called her out for gaining weight, and she makes jokes bout it.

I guess community creates knowledge empathy, and connection.... therefore partners should be allowed the partner to seek also other companies to stay attractive and fresh. Therefore politicians seem so unattractive to us or some of them, because they look like they want to separate people from communities with lockdowns or other stuff. As Bruce Lipton says if you are not part of the loving community you can be easily manipulated by media, politicians, and corporations.

This is exactly what happened to me.😥

@@1991windsor I just ran into him the first time yesterday 🤦‍♀️ wasn't showered, looked totally ratchet 🤦‍♀️ugh...why me 🤣🤦‍♀️

@nicolec7496 that's how it always seems to happen when we feel we look our worst. Did he speak to you? Hang in there, girl! I still have a bunch of stuff at his house. I don't know how I'm going to go about getting it back. I think I'm going to send my friend after it.

@@1991windsor i only smiled, might have said hi, but I just kept walking 😂 it's kind of a blur 😂 and of course I havent heard from him. But to be fair I did block him 😂🤦‍♀️ I kinda regret that but it's too late now.

Sounds like you were dating my girl that just returned to me.

An important indicator of a potential wolf-in-sheep’s-clothing is that it’s too good to be true; too much like a fairytale or romcom. The speed is intentional, to “sweep you off your feet”, and distract you from the red flags.

I agree! My first thought is that she's a narcissist.

I am obviously not Kennith or Victoria, but I think it would be good to say sorry and acknowledge your mistakes (without any expectation of getting back together).

Has it gotten easier?

Hugs

How many years not hearing anything?

@@Muppetshowz bro hit gym and improve your self physically, mentally and financially bro trust me they do come back and then you can decide if you want them back or not

Yep, something doesn't add up. Married couples see each other every day, day after day. I'm not saying many marriages are not destined to crumble, but the vast majority of them lasts more than 2 months. I understand that at the beginning of a relationship it is better to go slow and build confidence in baby but grounded steps, evaluating the little things we do that are not so sweet about us so we can accept them or not (or change them). But then again i do not think that marriages that last more than one year overcomplicate these things. They get along and that's it. I would like that coach Craig adressed this question.

Married couple should have bonded, new couples are beginning to bond.

What if he's avoidant? I wouldn't date an avoidant women, I hate the constant 'I need space' dynamic. Doesn't mean he's cheating. You need to grow up.

She wanted to ride the sausage carousel 😂

Sounds like my ex.

That’s not true. But if you don’t work on your attachment issues, it’s a lot more likely to fall apart! The people who do the work, will become far more confident than those that don’t!