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You're giving yourself a hard time. I don't think you need to take responsibility for all Asian Americans. I know we beat ourselves up a lot when we don't stick up for ourselves/our community in that way. But that chuckle you're talking about is a survival skill. It's a learned behavior to cope with a society that has been cruel to us. I work with a lot of younger Asian American kids, who are growing up in a more accepting environment thanks to people in previous generations like you. They are always calling out microaggressions. I think a lot of times most people in this country know those microaggressions are wrong, and sometimes they just need a reminder not to do that. And most younger Asian kids I see have the confidence to do just that. And that's progress! I would say definitely address it with that person again if you feel called to. But be kind to yourself either way.

@@tobypark2045 I had to take a deep breath when reading ur reply. Ur definitely right that I'm being hard on myself. Over a week later and Im still kicking myself about it. So last Wed, I did finally confront her in text and of course she denied being racist and that she didn't mean anything in a racist way. She was sorry that I took it that way lol. U know those bad versions of apologies the person doesm't actually mean them... After a few times of us both repeating ourselves to no avail, I gave up and called it a sorta peaceful standstill. I told her supervisor (along with other things she had done wrong) so it's out in the world and ppl know it happened. Because I have to depend on her though, I am trying to give her another chance for now and her supervisor said I can report my complaint anytime if I want so that's good. So far, she is not saying anymore racist things at least but it's awkward as hell for me and I almost dunno how to talk to her anymore. Ah well. I had to realize that it's not my job to make someone realize they are being racist and shit, when they're a grownass adult and older than me. But just 1 example of what she said... She said her cat had hurt her so she wanted to bring her cat to a Chinese restaurant (as in the stereotype that Chinese people eat cats and dogs). She didn't deny saying it when I brought it up to her and I explained how I ended up interpreting it, but she denied that she meant it in a racist way. How is it not racist though?! So ridiculous.