Shoooot. I used to be like that when my ex husband and I first split. Always mad bc he wasn't involved with our kids, him running me from outside of the house. When I got closer to God, God told me "Girl, get a life. Pursue the gifts I placed inside of you." I got me a little work from home business, I started finding studio gigs to do background singing, I started acting in plays again and I took my kids with me. I got them in sports or whatever things they were interested in. I took them on spontaneous trips out of town... we stayed busy! My ex was so mad bc he thought he'd be able to pop in and out like he had been doing. Nope! I used to ask him for money to help with bills. When he didn't help and the lights got turned off (bc I didn't have a job at the time), I vowed to NEVER ask him for anything else. And I haven't. Folk said all kinds of things about me but now they look at me and my kids and marvel. My kids are adults. My daughter is 19 with two businesses. My son, who did not go to college, works for an engineering firm and is married with a family. This is the Lord's doing folk.
Mama is right. It took me time to realize that. And when I did it took a huge burden off my shoulders and I dived into being the best mom I could be. If he comes around ok if he doesn’t that’s fine too. My children want for nothing. To me it’s actually a blessing because I don’t have anyone else’s negative influence in raising them. I don’t have to discuss any life decisions with their father etc. Mothers....we have to stop worry about what the fathers aren’t doing and worry more about what we can do for our children. It makes your life and mental health so much better❤️
yes I had to learn tHiS. And stop expecting their dad to do as much as I was, and had to see it for what it was. And like sis said you avoid disappointments and expectations and gain more peace about it Eventually.
At this point any women continuously watching these videos should no longer be wrapped up mentally or emotionally , especially physically in a grown boy. These videos should have you ready to do the work of falling in love with yourself, that’s when the shenanigans from grown boys won’t have no value in your life whatsoever. This the free(‘est) game we will ever receive, thank you Tony 🙏🏾
This is my babies father and I.... either step down or step out... cause mommy got this... don’t get mad when I’m looking good... saving... and living my life with our child... and we happy without you... that’s what you chose... you’re not my focus no more... my son is...
Feeling 🐸. Let’s go to court 😎. Sometimes you have to take a break from Co- parenting when it becomes draining and emotional 😭. Keep the kids or child and yourself busy , remember they doing them . Look at it like this ... you get to raise your child how you want , with fun memories.
I think she wants the dad in those memories as well smh..some where along the line she made it acceptable for him to conduct himself like that towards her thats why he continues doing it
Bingo when youre focused on yourself u dont entertain foolishness of any sort u move differently your view of others isn't the same so u dont place energy and time into things that will disturb your peace or stunt your growth
I was married 25 years to my ex-husband. I divorced him; due to infidelity, abuse, and his drug habits. I never looked back for anything from him! No sex, no money, no companionship. I was done!! I figured 25 years of my time is enough; and he still didn't get it right. Our 3 children were teenagers and they decided when they wanted to see their father; so there were no custody battles. Women stop exhibiting crying, over emotional behavior due to a break up. Learn to love yourself and those who genuinely love you! Do things that make you happy. Stop trying to make a relationship work. Do the work for your own peace of mind. I've been divorced since 2001. In 2019 I bought my own house being on Social Security! I am still single and fabulous!!
The best advice I've heard from Tony, as a divorced mother with young children, is "your child is 100% yours"! That way of thinking shifted my mindset to focus on the things I can control and not worry if child support comes or not. My plan is to become so financially reliant on my gifts and talents that I can save all the child support for my children when they get older.
Ladies you are not in any competition with these low life men and you do not have to prove anything to them...love yourself, take care of your children and let the rest follow... Some of these men need to be challenged! They need to check their mouths, check their issues with their mother and sister...etc...
she's probably not trying to date so she can show him that she still wants to take them seriously. If he thought she was seriously considering someone else, he might act right.
THIS VIDEO GOT ME ALLLLL THE WAY TOGETHER! I have recently relieved myself of the “soul-tie” relationship I had with my youngest child’s father of 7 years! EVERYTHING you said resonated with me. Him being absent and wanting me to beg him for help, him expecting me to continue to be confused with his mixed signals and question him. “Never allow a man who’s on the outside of your home, control what’s going on in the side of your home/life” Nope,no, nah. I strapped up my work boots and got BUSY. Productively BUSIER than I’ve ever been in life. Gym, work and extracurricular activities have been filling up my day to day schedule for me and my children. I’m showing my children the best version of their mother that they deserve to see. Your advice have been a God’s gift to me. Thank you for all that you do, you’re appreciated. May God bless you and your beautiful family!
Tony you have the 'date night with Sheri' glow & smile on your face. I love seeing the look of pure love on anyone's face. It's the look of joy and peace at its core.
This is so good! Don't be afraid to cut his butt off because you need to protect your child from emotional trauma and mental distress. Children need their mother more. My grandma raised 5 children alone and they are all educated and successful in life. Put God first and he will be your strength!
That woman still want that baby dad..Point Blank Periooood!!!!! When a woman don't want a man she move differently...she will check his nasty mouth..and she want be sitting around waiting for a call!!!!
This what I said. Like if the kid is young he really don't care if his dad call or not. And if he's old enough to talk to his dad why can't he just call his dad. She using that baby to try and stay in that man's life & he don't care about her or that baby tbh. He living his best life creating a life with someone else.
He is so right! If you let them control your energy you’ll be sick with anxiety. I am getting much better at that. But my soon to be ex husband has already moved on, and I was still letting him try and control. He also does the same thing with the little inappropriate comments and trying to touch.
1st shouldnt any One have to schedule for A FATHER to call and talk with his children. Either it comes naturally or it doesn't. And unfortunately this is why we need to choose Better . and be Open and honest with our children. I myself am a living witness. I(Ain't got time for all of that right there.
He really schooling us! I recently cut off the father of my daughter after he was reaching out maybe once or twice a year.... So he answered my question because I was thinking am I right?
Tony... you are the big brother I never had. I thank God for you! You’ve changed my life. I’m so thankful for you! God bless you. You may never see this but I still wanted to get it off of my chest.
That’s some good advice for mature co parenting ... also get him his own phone and let them build their own relationship and talk time if he’s old enough.
This was a good one! Tony isn’t lying! A grown boy that I know would say how he can get a woman pregnant and SHE would be the one stuck with the child. People need to stop questioning Tony. Thank you and be blessed.
Thank you Tony! You’ve given me the strength to leave a toxic, abusive marriage of 10 years. Ex- husband and I have 2 kids together. Great advice. God bless you
@@stephanieperez2381 every state has its resources. Depending on your area some places offer child care services for low- income. Its not easy you just have to keep looking. Try looking online also.
Hi Mr. Tony you are absolutely right. When I was younger I had to do my son father the same way. It works give him the deaf ear. Be Blessed Mr. Tony and Family.🙏🙏🙏 Denise
I left my ex and I'm five months pregnant its been so hard he was a lazy abusive drunk but now he's back with his ex bc she will financially support him shes slept with his whole family its gross
Tony your videos are so good. Thank you for letting the Lord use you! You have so much wisdom.. the titles be giving me anxiety because I be knowing you finna go in!! Coming from a 24 year old.. If I would’ve had your videos years ago, I would’ve avoided so much.
Hell, my child’s father won’t even get my son unless he can knock me down. My son hasn’t seen him in almost 8 years and my son is 7. He’s never seen a birthday, holiday, school events, park day, nothing but he already know if you don’t love my child you don’t love me so you cut off off that period and that’s goes for any man so he know not to even fix his mouth to come at me like that. I am a mother first so all that other shit is for the birds!🤪
I wish I could’ve shown this video to my mom many years ago. Sadly she was/is a grown girl and continued to sleep with a man who chose to actively ignore me, his child. She still did it up to 2021 until she moved out of the state.
Hey Tony, there was a story last night on Lifetime about a famous radio personality. This story hit home on how grown boys manipulate woman and your instructions. I wanted to mention this to because watching this movie made it crystal clear that I will be DAMED if a man is going to use me up and have another woman on the side. This woman was powerful and successful but she let a man control and use her and I believe it took years from her life - hopefully not but the abuse definitely had a physical toll and you can see it physically - she should have went about her business years ago and she would have been fine but she held on to the image of marriage. No harm to her and I wish her the best for the future
Tony you are the best!! This msg. should be taught in school. I really hope and pray this young lady listens to you. I did not learn this till I was in my 50's...Get busy ladies!! And keep listening to Mr. Gaskins !!!! He aint never lied!!!
I've been married 12 years and with him 18 years but we still struggle with parenting. We have two kids 15 and 11 years old. He's the fun parent and I'm the authoritarian. And when I try and talk and bring us on the same page he gets angry. We work everything else out except parenting and I don't know what that is or how to handle it. Things will be great until we talk about parenting but our kids are also playing the system. They are old enough to know what they can get away with dad vs mom. I have tried all levels of parenting conversations but he gets angry. I don't know how to reach him on that level. And he gets angry because the kids come to me and talk with me about their issues even though I'm the rule maker and disciplinarian.
Hello,Mr. Tony!! Hope all is well! I so love all ur "Tony-Talk's"....Alwyay's watch all ur video's,video's really makes me wiser,and open's my eyes up,Alway's!! Im a mother of 6 and have all 6 by one individual! But he is everything you speak about,lol!! Toxic individual-so I had to dip,met him when I was 20,and now Im 39,but dont look like it!! I so luv tuning into all ur videos!! Love ur positivity,and good vibes alway's! Take care and Farewell!!
Mr. Gaskins went completely in on this one. This is the most thorough counsel I have heard in a single video. Part II. May this sister be taking notes. Much respect. Eternal blessings.
It is unfortunate that women have to do this ...fathers. should want to be in their children's life ....he most likely does not want to be ...men are missing out ..this child will be a child for a short while and trust that they will remember ....when these children are successful guess who never gets mentioned....no father in the picture .....the mom is the one in the picture ....always the mom..that's why the women need to focus on raising their children 100 percent ...
2 years later & my oh my! THANK YOU Tony for doing these because you give so many other people other than the email composer some insight. I appreciate you for giving me an honest and different pov. It was really much needed guidance. Whew. God bless you Brother!
Tony! Thank you!! This is my current situation, thank you for giving me a mans view on all of it!!! I hope you realize the work you are doing is saving women’s hearts and lives!!!! Thank you!!! God bless you and your family ❤
Scenario 2: She trying to flip it and lock him down on date nights. If he gotta date she trying to interfere. She really hasn’t let him go all the way. If she has the sexual comments from him wouldn’t even be on her radar.
Damn right. That is what I told my baby daddy you want to be a part of our kids life then work show me put in the effort be there talk to him get to know him. Because I'm the one that's here I'm the one that's taking care of him I'm the one that stays up late with him when he cries all night I'm the one that has to take him to the hospitals when he's sick. I'm here for him when he freaks out when he gets scared when he starts crying or when he's mad and monkey stomping things. Do not hurt him emotionally mentally spiritually and you better not hurt him physically because the moment that I do find out that you're doing this to him that's it you're gone you're out for good you will never see us again ever after that I went so many years without you before and I thought I wouldn't be able to make it those two years without you but I did and I will continue to live without you if it comes down to it. Yes at one point in time I truly loved you I would have done anything for you I would have ran into a burning building for you I would have moved a dead body for you I wouldn't even busted you out of jail, but now that I have him it changed I changed for him you do not know how much that little man means to me. Do not hurt him. So many emotions. Thank you for your word of wisdom and your advice, I'm so glad I look these up because I'm just going through a lot right now and I just want to figure things out and I just want my son to be okay. I do not want him growing up hating his dad were resenting Us in some way because I know what he can do to you it's not good to hold on to that. I hope one day I'll find someone who would treat me as an equal, and I hope that person loves my son as much as I do.
Ahh sigh of relief obviously someone hears me crying as a mom and I'm not alone siting here like an idiot after being in this abusive relationship with my childfather he dipped b4 the baby was 1 month smh came back same shit with him its so tuff a 1 year old that might have a mental problem and a now 3 month old soon b 4 month on 16 I have yet to speak to a judge still tackling because my son
Tony Gaskins spoke life into this young lady! He spoke nothing but facts! He putting the game out here all we have to do is act on it and execute! Blessings TG to you and the Queen! 🙏🏾
I love my nieces/nephews/I try to call them often. Even they, after 10minutes or so will find some reason 2 give the phone back 2my sister. I couldnt imagine an hour wit them... theyd have me on hold while they playing shopkins
yoooo i am cracking upp at your video… This my first time watching you ever.. cause my child’s father & I are i guess going through it but we were just good last month… but i just needed sum advice & didn’t want to get friends or family involved… So thanks for this video ❤️
I tell my boys "dads at nans looking after her because shes ill (she has cancer but they too young to know)" or " you know daddy is always at work hes got to pay for that new sports car you like getting in when he picks you up" They dont even ask after him but are happy when they see him. He may be a twat but I never badmouth him to them.
