I had to pause the video and say this. Tony you are telling the absolute truth when you say you are raising other men’s daughters . I’m 27 and have been listening to you since I was 22. Your videos and podcast motivated me when I was 22 to stop worrying about men and focus on me and becoming the best version of myself. I went to nursing school, became an RN, met and married a man that had character and integrity that I was able to identify from your teachings. My own father was there physically but was not an active father. Your teachings have truly blessed my life and many other young women without a real father figure, so your work is not in vain. Thank you!
Wow, that’s awesome sis. Congrats on everything you have going for you. We’re about the same age & this gives me hope for my own life story. I wish I had found Tony a lot sooner than I did. But, either way I’m doing the work to better myself (BBB)!
Wow this is amazing! I’m the same age 22 now and graduated from nursing school this month myself. Now focusing on my BBB thanks to Tony! Really inspiring to know peoples experiences can relate
My now ex boyfriend just called me a B**** in an argument. I blocked him. I choose me. Thank you Tony. You are saving women’s lives. The father I never had
The part on fatherhood is so real. You can see your father everyday of your life and never learn these lessons because nowadays parenting seems to be so focused on raising kids to be successful career wise and nothing else. Growing up I was raised to be studious and hardworking, but never had lessons on how to respect myself, conduct myself with men, and be a good woman.
Very true. My dad taught me the same. He was there financially (for the most part) and pushed me to study, but not there emotionally. I had to learn those lessons the hard way.
I agree 100% to my detriment. If I had known half of what Tony teaches I wouldn’t have made so many mistakes!!! I hate it! But when you know better you do better.😇
This might be off topic but this channel is really making me a better person. it's helped my relationship with God. I still need a lot of work but I'm a more humble person now. Doing the work is hard at times because you might feel like it won't work. But you'll start seeing little changes in yourself. What God has for you is for you. Continue to pray for strength from God.
I've realized that men like nasty movies because it is non relational sex , so the more a man is emotionally unable to connect with others , the more he will prefer porn over a real woman , because a real person requires emotional connection. Alot of grown boys struggle with emotional intimacy . With porn , they dont need to show or express any emotion.
My life without my dad, Molested several times before 7, last grade of completion 8th grade, pregnant at 16 for a 23 year old hustla, abandoned with my son before he was 4 months old, pregnant again at 19 for a childhood friend that was abusing me for breakfast, lunch & dinner. Multiple sexual encounters with different men. Multiple reproductive issues, pregnant again at 26, third child , 3 different dad's. Fast forward to today 45 years old, certified in a trade that feeds me, all 3 children graduates of high school. Oldest son 28 does well for himself, 25 year old daughter, student & wife, youngest son 19 year's old his 1st year in college (scholarship), no grandchildren. Just coming into a space where I can figure me out. I watch, listen, comprehend & apply any & all knowledge that tony feeds the women, I need it, all because daddy was not there to give me identify & guide me.
“Stop letting men get in the way of your dreams...” I wish I watched your videos when I was younger Tony. I lost my 20s on men and got a late start on my career at 30. I hope she takes your advice 🙏🏽 I wish I got this word at her age.
She needs to let him go asap but when you are the one in it, you will be so blinded and so invested that you go straight to desperation and doing anything to keep a man. Have been there. Lady, please let him go! Go through the detox of a breakup but promise yourself to let no one mistreat your soul anymore! You need to be strong! For your own sake! With love ~
Isn’t it funny the things people complain about, some of the comments from viewers I never even noticed. Tony can do these videos on a flip phone, upside down with sketchy service & I’ll still watch em.
Right! I have never had any of those thoughts. I sit back with my pen and paper and get the knowledge. That is all I care about. It trips me out that people complain about something that is free😳.
@@mymakersdaughter6041 sometimes I rewatch the same video ...just rewind... I do my best to control myself in the comments LOL....or not read them at all ..hahahahaha!!!
@@clarkclarke5321 I hear ya! I watch most of his videos twice. And while I comment, I am not disrespectful and never complain about Tony. Now, I do comment however, on how hilarious he is. Sometimes, he just ain’t right😉.
You cannot be friends with an ex especially if you're the one who invested in the relationship the most. She is coming between them and he will continue to use her. She needs to heal and find a new relationship with a man who will see her differently.
Welcome back, Tony! I hate to say it but, this guy was just using her as a placeholder until he found the woman he really wanted. Guys will do that to us if we allow it and don’t set boundaries. This is why (for me personally) when I go through a break-up, I go 1000% no contact to prevent them from coming back.
Baby girl, get your life right and get into "YOU". Take this time and do what Tony said. Get Primped, Proper, Polished & Positively Poised. You already have the brains and most likely the body so get your brand and a REAL GROWN MAN will show up. You are AMAZING. Don't let a grown boy change that. Be jealous of NO ONE! She is not you and you don't want to be her.
Yes literally, I started having withdrawals like “I haven’t heard a Tony Gaskins video today,” but it’s all good! I sit & watch videos over on his small business Saturday playlist
Dang TONY!!!! Her letter almost brought me to tears too, like I just wanted to hug her & love on her but when you said that we need to write a letter to our fathers & let him know what we went through because of his absence, I lost it like literal tears I’m like omg if I really write what I’ve experienced from the hands of a man & let my dad read it, it’ll be a bomb. But I have a feeling my dad would try to somehow place blame on my mom & still not take accountability smh
Hi Synquette! You can still write a letter to your dad and not give it to him. My dad was never really there for me emotionally when I was growing up and I found that writing to him was very healing for me. He doesn't know about my letters and probably never will, but writing them as if he would read them has been very therapeutic for me.
I got into it really bad with my sorry daddy recently. I sent him an email telling him everything I've gone through, stuff I haven't even told family. He still dismissed me and acted like none of it was his responsibility. I cut him off, and don't plan to communicate with him ever again in my life or his. But to anyone thinking about sending the letter like Tony said, send it. Don't hold anything back. If that man is still alive get it off your chest. I feel like it helped me to release him.
I know it felt like a weight was lifted off of your mind and soul. I haven't gotten to that place to talk to my dad yet. I think I will just send him this video.
I’ve done this same thing a few years ago thru text message. My daddy told me “go on a talk-show with that victim sh*t” ...It hurt for him to say that but I cut him off, blocked him and 3 years later he decides to apologize. I forgive him but I honestly don’t want him in my life anymore 🤷🏽♀️
You know your addicted when you gotta take a quick break at work to listen to Tony's videos. I'm here for it...love the laughs and the knowledge. Thank again.
The letter was so sad, to know that there are ladies be it 24 or 54 dealing with this constant disrespect from a man is ridiculous. You have to love yourself enough to move on. The reality is he has nothing to offer you. Unfortunately, you can’t see that. Take a assessment of your relationship with this person. Do you feel good most of the time or bad? Are you being respected? Is the relationship mutually beneficial in all the positive ways. If, not then that’s not the man for you. Please, do not be jealous of this women. You just dodged a bullet with this man. She’s the one that will pick up where you left off believe me. From, the outside looking in, it always looks like they are happy with someone else and who cares if they are .Most of these type of men have nothing to offer. Ladies, please remember that men are not the be all, end all . We give to much power to men when we have all the power. Love you enough to know, when to walk away.
Use time to love yourself and grow!!! His rejection may be your protection. Build your self confidence! You deserve happiness. Never beg anyone to stay. It won't hurt forever
I check almost everyday for new videos, I’m 19 and I realize how my dad not being present has affected me, I was told as a child not to ask for anything from him because he might come around less.
Tony thank u for speaking so much knowledge to us women I'm 59 years old. U never get too old to learn I've 2 daughters i tell them to watch u and listen because u r a Godly man and love ur family i wish u and ur wife much success Happy Holidays God bless keep speaking the truth
Oh goodness, this woman is being used. She hasn't changed. She lacks the self-awareness to see that she is still having the same issues. She will not be free of them until she goes no-contact and hits therapy.
Wow Tony, this hit home. 😔 my father was there physically but nothing else. He paid the bills but was not involved in my life whatsoever. I’m so thankful for your teachings. I’m learning everything I should’ve been taught from father, from you. God Bless you & I’m so glad you were obedient to the Lord and living in your purpose 🙏🏾
Girl I feel you my daddy was in the home but never there emotionally and mentally, I appreciate him but some stuff I should’ve been taught, now he is trying to teach me stuff I done already learned myself.
@@Angel-ws4qk I hear you sis. Men need to start realizing how important their role is in not just their son’s lives, but especially their daughters. My father honestly doesn’t even try. It wouldn’t matter now anyway... I done went through so much heart break with grown boys & had to learn the hard way. Just working on healing & building myself up now. Thank God for Tony cause I’m learning so much.
I tried to have a conversation with my Dad and he still don't know how to just tell me, why. He get defensive and tell me, "before you went to College I told you don't lay on your back". I needed you to tell me more than that Dad! How about tell me what qualities to look out for, what type of men I should be entertaining. But I feel like most men don't know how to articulate to their daughters.
I gave my self closure concerning this issue, You cant give what you dont have, most of our parents never got these talks from their own folks as well, many of them just tried to do what they could ,they thought if they were in the household and provided theyve done great. Now that we know better, we will do better with ours.
When a man does not want you he will make it very clear with his actions. It's a unfortunate experience but sis has to be confident in letting go and gain he self worth. I pray and hope that she finds the peace, clarity, understanding, and guidance that she needs to move forward and never look back. She is worthy of having a man that will value, appreciate and love her completely.
Thank you Big Brother for acknowledging that women who grew up without a father (or a strong mother) have issues with men due to daddy issues. I get tired of women critizing, judging and condemning other women who openly admit they have issues with, and make bad decisions with men because their own father was not there when it's a fact that does happen.
I'm 20 and abstinence, born-again: a chain breaker for my family and has healed from my past trauma dealing with my father's side of the family, working on my last of the three B's, & walking in my purpose. I was wondering if you could do a series for Christians if you have not already ( More information on courting, dating, etc under God's will. ) whenever you have the time, I know you're a very busy man.
People can’t give what they don’t have... these males aren’t men!!! Sadly we’ve had children with these males and now we have to be everything to these children, both mom and dad like our mother’s were... it’s generational...it’s sad... thank you Tony for being who you are for us: brother, uncle, father, motivator, and relationship guide!!!
I was just thinking about your videos. Like I haven’t seen Tony post videos in a few days. Then I’m thinking like he’s probably spending time with his family. He’ll be back soon. 😊
Exactly @spending times with his family. I said hey, let me review these old videos while waiting on him to come back. I gotta be ready for the next man that's coming. I have been all these women in some ways over my 40+ years. I'm gone be over ready.
This message touched my spirit. We learn so much from you Tony. Too many selfish Grown boys trying to satisfy their sexual needs and care nothing about the women trying to love them..
YES PLEASE!!! Please make a video to 25 year olds and younger because although we shouldn’t be dating, we need to learn how to heal and prepare for the season God has for us🙌🏾
Tony I got so emotional this time. Your heart is so pure. You already know you helping so many people, but I want to say: You have blessed my life with your videos. I have no male role model but I have your videos (& my brain) Thank you so much. Now I can be a good role model to my little sister and teach her.
I literally just told a woman this about her daughter. I told her she was still a human being child or not, so you can not expect the way you were treating her to not adversely effect her. Respect goes both ways. We show respect to our children by listening to them and talking to them in a respectful manner, not putting them down or telling them to shut up or making them feel as though their thoughts and opinions don’t matter. You have to give things you want in return.
You cannot set yourself on fire to keep anyone warm. I tell myself this daily. I have yet to be in a relationship, but I will continue to tell myself this
Tony said she gave him culture.. took him from anime, not Anna Mae "eat the cake"! 🤣🤣🤦🏾♀️ Once Tony read those key words that she's 24y/o, the relationship was "on & off" for four years, she emasculated him, & he watches the "nasty movies" that was enough said. "Sister, gone about your business, he's not the one!" Focus on self love, & your continued education.
That’s damn right. Tony the daddy I never had and I was thinking that about him just the other day. Sometimes I watch 5-10 videos a day an still don’t get tired of him. I’m trying to catch up on what I missed out
@Kayla Hills - It's comments like yours that bring tears within my spirit because I want every young woman to hear and know the truth and that simply dolling up, i.e., manicures, pedicuries and styling your hair, is not neccesarily in-depth 'self love'. I don't know you, however, I am lifting you up in prayer. Please stay plugged into Mr. Gaskins teaching and visit 'mymentor.life' and 'tonygaskinsacademy.com' I know for a fact, there two courses listed at no charge (that I am still trying to complete). I can assure you I've listened to Mr. Gaskins videos since the 2014's Uncle Reece RU-vid video.
Wow, you are blessed young lady, put your other friends and family up on game, each one, reach one, teach one. These are things we wish we knew, our lives would've taken different turns.
Bought tears to my eyes also was her to some degree and I was older until I had come to Jesus moment now I talk to women to have a come to Jesus moment by getting to the root cause which most of it is Daddy issue
Tony you don’t even know how just one video of yours changed my life. My relationship started with God started in Julyish and I’ve gotten so far with God to today just from your videos and I’m only 15. Thanks to God and you and your wife 🤎🤎 You’re like a dad to me, I never meet mine lol.
You are soooooo True, I'm not ashamed To posted this about myself. I heard my cries in the words That u spoke about raising another Man's daughter I'm 55 year's old and Feel the pain from how I lived thur bad relationships!!! I can only smh to keep From crying because my daddy was never In my life, I didn't meet my daddy until I was 13 year's old. Please keep doing what You are doing!!!
What you said about the name being “proper” is so true. I can personally say that a couple managers made a mistake and told me that I wasn’t what they were expecting when they first met me for the interview. All I simply said was “Who were you expecting?”
We must learn to focus on ourselves! I started watching Tony this year and with his encouraging words and truth, I got out of my comfort zone and just started my own business. We have to take heed because it’s so much truth and love coming from this man.
not sure if this is a good thing or bad thing but i’m 17 and have been watching tony for about a year and my mindset on guys has completely changed. it’s so difficult for me to date in high school because my standards are so different now. Thank you tony for saving me from heart break.
I’m so glad that this young lady asked you this question because you just gave so much information and knowledge and Godly wisdom that a lot of young ladies needs to hear! To any young lady reading this never let a man be your downfall in life, you gotta love first God and yourself more than you want love and want to be loved!
Tony helping raise me and I'm 33. Lol. I learned years of Information in watching these videos, looking back I see everything I ever did wrong. Clearest 2020 vision ever. I'm fortunate I know, bcuz some women have permanent, tangible reminders of their mistakes. I really needed this practical, direct, even harsh, common sense words from a man living life just like me, bcuz I never ever had that. I am so much more prepared and equipped to deal with men then ever before. to bad were still stuck in Corona. And now there's a blizzard happening to. Lol. 😂
It’s amazing how the lord works. I’m literally 24 and watching this. Since I came across your videos, you’re literally the father I needed even though mine is still alive. God bless you and your family 🙏🏾♥️
I am thankful whenever Tony is able to send or make a video. Nevertheless, I always repeat old videos too!! There is always so much to learn from all his videos.
I have an idea Tony, could you do some videos for young boys? Talks with boys? It's a lot of single moms on here and their sons don't have exposure to good men. Maybe make some short 5 or 10 min videos speaking to them or atleast giving advice to single moms on things we should be talking to or saying to our sons and also, how to talk to them when we're upset, or how to discipline them.
He has a great course on his website for teen boys. I got it for my son and made him take a couple hours and watch it. It's a series of short videos addressing all the things young boys go through/what they may go through and how to combat it. It was a great course and brought tears to my eyes, because though it was directed at boys I saw my own childhood struggles/exposures.
My God, this message is for this 24 year old, but this is a message for women of ALL ages and races. We’ve GOT TO love on ourselves and especially fight for US! You and I! We deserve better! Thank you for this Tony, your time is highly valued.💕
Thank you for being there for other Men’s daughters God saw something in you that would help millions across America and I thought I knew men but I truly did not know what I thought I knew frankly I’m scared and waiting on God no rush on my part and I will not settle Blessings to you and your lovely wife and family 🙏♥️
Lord knows I needed this video! Yep...I'm writing my daddy a letter. There is so much I need to say to him. And here's the kicker, Tony....You look just like him when he was younger. Uggghhh!!!
Tony Gaskins, this was such a thought provoking message. And It's important to be respectful to all people. If not, therapy is needed for the individual. To ensure she becomes a whole, healed and healthy person.
Wow… I just said this today how upset and angry I am with my dad physically being there for me and not actually being there for me and being involved in my life 🥺
"Qualifineishia" I'm driving and I almost crashed. On a serious note, the nasty movie addiction is no joke. Look up Grant Amato. After he robbed his family to feed his habit he shot them all to death after they tried an intervention.
Hi Tony, 20 year old here 👋🏼 I been watching your videos since the beginning of this year. I agree that it’s because I lack my father in my life. I realized I don’t know much about how men work, so I want to make sure I get the knowledge. I wish I would’ve found you when I was 16 but it’s better now then never. I appreciate it.
