I remember when I ran away for a night because the bullying became way too loud and unbearable. When I came back I had to sit down in a chair and be screamed at for hours. I'm 30 now and still can't stand looking at them in the face. Sometimes I feel like my kind personality never helped out in life at all.
I found that therapy really helped me at least move the needle. Family is such a sensitive and sticky topic. It is truly the only thing that gets me rattled up. I can truly resonate with what you went through!
You should take the time to give that kindness to yourself, it's so easy being kind to others we forget to be kind to ourselves, I don't know what you went through but I hope you're happier and safer, don't let the bad times define you or hurt you. 💖
I know how you feel about the personality one because it seems like no matter what you do or how nice you try to be no ones ever happy with what you do or appreciates it
I ran away for a year and a half new years eve was spent with no food. Christmas I cried And prayed. I returned home to get abused again. And again. And again.
I truly wish kids would feel comfortable speaking to a trusted adult so that they weren't only. But that's what CPS is for, they are to protect children and in these moments keep parents accountable!
Thanks for checking up guys and yeah I'm alright. Me and my mom have a good relationship it was always me and my dad that never got along. I love my mom and forgive her for doing some of what she did. But it was mainly my dad.
I wish I had ran away but U was too scared. Growing up, I never knew what a normal childhood was supposed to look like. My father was an alcoholic, and his addiction consumed our entire family. I remember constantly walking on eggshells, never knowing what would set him off. But the worst of it was when he would come home drunk and lock me in my bedroom. It started when I was just a young child, maybe 7 or 8 years old. I would hear him stumble through the front door, the sound of his heavy footsteps getting closer and closer to my room. My heart would race as I heard him fumbling with the lock, and then the click of it being turned. I would try to hide under my covers, hoping that he wouldn't come in and notice me. But he always did. He would barge into my room, reeking of alcohol and anger, and demand that I stay in there until morning. I would cry and beg to be let out, but he would just laugh and slam the door shut, leaving me in complete darkness. Those nights were the longest and most terrifying of my life. I would sit there, trembling with fear, listening to the sounds of my father's drunken rages. I never knew what he was capable of, and the thought of him hurting my family or myself was always at the forefront of my mind:
Oh no i feel really bad pls don't do that i don't know if I'm giving u the correct instructions cuz I'm only ten years old but instead of keeping it in ur mind you should let them out by writing or talking to someone and lol we can talk through the comment section if u want to !
Running away with a 3yo can be really really dangerous, try calling CPS or if it’s starts getting involved in using technical body harm call the police. I’m so so proud of you and I hope ur doing great rn❤️
I never ran away I was only 6 crying in my closet having trauma when other people fight, I was screaming I had anxiety. I never ran away. I was scared that I would never be saved.But my parents are fine with eachother but I still have trauma and breakdowns.
If you have the ability to access counselling, I'd totally recommend it. Typically workplace insurance offers it, if not there should be local government funded programs. Hopefully, this was helpful, given some people don't address their traumas.
I’ve done this, I was 12 and couldn’t deal with the banging yelling and screaming anymore, I ran away to a friends house and begged her mum not to tell them where I was, unfortunately the next day she took me back and it ofcourse somehow caused another big fight
@@alex_60066. I am 28 now so I am fine :) however my parents are still apart (it’s for the best) but have no contact with my dad, but I am an adult now I’m happy with my life and I hope he is happy with his
I ran away for 4 nights when I was 14 because I couldn't deal with the abuse, my family starving me, and screaming at me for everything I did. I ran away 2 day before Christmas and praying that I can just restart and forget this, that when I get home, I will be treated like a human being. When I returned home, they kept going and locked me in my room for 2 weeks with barley any food and no devices so I couldn't text my friends or anyone. I just wanted to end it right then and there but my 19 year old sister burst into the room stopping me. A few days after that we moved into our aunt's house together.
I’m so proud of you and you’re sister, those actions of and adult are very very traumatising to see as an child, I understand. I’m really glad you’re doing okay❤️
I feel your pain . I had a drunk for a father and was abused , I believe God saved us from him. I never thought of taking my life but did run away only to be found and got the hell beat out of me. I hid most of my childhood. He would call for me and I would hide until he passed out drunk. then I would eat and sleep in my room. He developed lung cancer and it was me he called to get him to his doctors appointments . funny how things change .
I have anxiety when parents/people fight. It gives me bad vibes but I don’t run away I just stop them from fight. One time my dad got so sad and banged his head on the wall and the wall broke and he started bleeding I was crying for him to stop and I think children should stop having stress and social anxiety. Please don’t fight in front of them because they’ll cry in fear.
Same, me too. Yelling and screaming brings back memories I try to forget. It makes me afraid and I freeze from it. People at school often yell and it sends me into panic. I hide it though, I don’t want to make myself noticeable. Teachers will often clap loud and it triggers that anxiety, as my dad would do that to get our attention, and then punish us. They’d often tell us to look at them in the eyes, but I can’t do that…If I did at home, it wouldn’t end well. Sorry I’ve said this. B it awareness needs to be brought up about this. And that children, teens, adults, elders, shouldn’t fear looking into someone’s eyes, thinking that they’ll get hurt.
@Simone Abrahamsohn thanks. He’s gone now, he got removed from our home because my mom had enough. She got him out once I opened up to her about the constant fear and pain he caused us, but not me alone. My siblings opened up to her as well, and it made her realize how he treated her too. The police came over when we were all gone since my mom didn’t want us there when it happened.
Absolutely NOBODY should go through that. I grew up in a stable loving household but my own mental health was and is pretty bad. So the concept of this happening is so foreign to me. I’m so sorry you cad to go through this and I hope everyone else with similar experiences understand that this is NOT normal. ❤
My father was abusive towards my mother, and although nothing like this happened to me. I remember the vodka bottles, empty by my mom. I remember forfeiting my food to by baby sister, so she had enough to eat. Eventually, i was taken into care. I'm being treated for anxiety, and being tested for autism. No-one should have to go through any of this at all. So, for anyone who needs it. You are loved, and appreciated. It may not seem like it, but you are. Never let anyone tell you different. Time will be hard, but persevere and push through them because, i assure you, it'll get better.
I know exactly how that feels every morning I would wake up to screaming from 3-5 and in the summer of kindergarten my parents got divorced and know I’m 11 almost 12 and they have been divorced for 7 years I want to run away so bad because I couldn’t stand any of this
Those fights is what would have happened if my parents stayed living together, luckily the seperated 6 years ago. I'm sorry if you had to go through this..
I ran away to my best friends house and the police got called. It sucked because it was like 100° outside and it was a good few mile walk I was so hot and sweaty
Ran away when I was 14, tired of the screaming and yelling and just disregard to treat my sisters and I as anything more than punching bags. I asked my little sister to come with me, she refused, so I hugged her and left. They didn't notice for a few hours, by then I had been moved from one friend's house to another. They were all sweet, told me I could stay as long as I needed. I refused. I knew they could get in trouble if they let me stay, so I got dropped off at my hs and just chilled until I felt calm. Someone who I thought was my friend (was police) was messaging me, asking where I was, who I was with, if my fb husband had taken me. I started ignoring them, called my tia and she picked me up. Still went to school. Still kept going as if nothing happened. Went to alt school a few weeks later but that's something else. My parents never changed, I just grew out of living with them.
I did the same thing when I was 14 even tho I came back but when I did leave for a few it was the best I wasn't scared or I didn't feel the way I always did I felt peaceful and happy but now that I went back I'm back to my old self 😪 I can't wait cux in two years I'll will officially be Abel to move out instead of running awag
CPS is there to help kids and keep parents accountable for their actions. Where I work we make best efforts to work with the parents to ensure that they do well for their kids. If not, then we explore other opitions.
some times there is not good opcion and the too do the same, or divide it in one do fisical harm and intimidating , and other psicological and abusing the trust of the child to gain pity from others too specific but think its the most comon in both parts of abuse
I was told to runaway. That if I didn’t like it there I could go, so at 3am with nothing but a school bag and some extra clothes I went to my friend’s house-I stayed there for 2 weeks bc her parents were of town and her older sister didn’t care. The cops eventually came looking for me and showed up-I was yelled at for leaving
No child, no teenager and no human should ever experience this. Sadly people still do and if you do I am very very sorry and inshallah your problems get solved ❤
Those physical actions with body are very very abusing try calling the CPS and if he uses his anger physically call the police or 911, if ur scared just call them once and hang up, they will track ur phone and come to you’re house, or say it to you’re friends mom if you trust her
I remember when I tried to run away. I was 5 years old, and my brother ate my last McDonald’s chicken nugget. It was so traumatizing that I couldn’t stand living in the house. But seriously,all jokes aside, I am very sorry for what happened to you, and hope nobody else goes through that
I ran away for the day because I dislike my step mom and I got blamed for something and my dad lost his temper and almost hit me (he didn’t hit me and didn’t realize he was about to until I started crying and screaming and saying he was about to hit his only child) and about 1 hour in I saw my dad in his car zooming around the neighborhood (I only went to the very back of the neighborhood behind some trees and we lived at the front of the neighborhood) and he saw me eventually and stopped the car and got out and said “I know what I did was not right I should never hit you… I love you, If you wanna break from the house pls tell me and I’ll get it but pls don’t make me worry about my baby” and I felt so comforted and he said “if you still wanna stay here, I get it just know I’m sorry and I love you.” I never ran away again because my dad never threatened me or lost his temper again
I am glad for you! You got a awesome dad! My dad has lost his anger many times and has hit my sister, mom, and brother many times. (Well my bro was only once.) He hasn't hit me or my little sister yet, I think it's because he is trying to change but yk, it's hard. I know he loves us, and we love him but, sometimes I wish I could just end it all.
I ran away for a 3 months to my friends house when I was 12….I’m now 14 and I mostly just spend the nights at my friends or my family members. I can’t do this anymore….
I remember running away from my mom/grandma's home on my 17th birthday because I had done research and found that in the state of Michigan a 17 yr old is not considered a runaway and they won't make you return home. So I runaway to my dad's house thinking it would be better there than getting yelled at by my mom all the time. My dad got me hooked on heroin 3 months later and thus the spiral of my life started. Thank God, I am 9 years sober now with 5 beautiful babies.
Been there. We share a similar story, only difference was that I didn’t go to prison. Did the addiction stuff, had the crappy abusive childhood stuff, the teenage stuff, homelessness stuff, had a kid, SA stuff, etc. I am now 31, clean off street substances but am still on prescribed methadone, have custody, working on repairing life and getting rest of my life together. Been a long road! Recovery & success happens though! 😊💜
I jus wanna say ur amazing & don't give up on ur dreams. U made it thru hell. Now ur time to live. I've lived thru alot of wat u hav but I'm better & stronger for it. U beautiful & deserve wat ur heart wants. Luv u woman. Head up foot forward
I've ran away 7 times. Because a family member is an ex cop they would get the police on me straight away. The most recent time I stayed with a friend and they couldn't find me but I had to go back because I couldn't leave my younger siblings there.
Iwent throu the same thing ran away multiple times while i was 13/14 it just really got to much with the yelling and violence and me already being able to easily get overwhelmed
I will runaway from my family if this ever happens it happened once when I was 8 I woke up and the tv was broken and I never want it to happen again but I want a reason to run away I’m alr depressed enough here I don’t need it getting any worse 😖
Mine is also same when i was young they were fighting with each other i ran away from my house 20 mins later i got so scolded and beated Now i am a 40 year old surgeon but all this trauma has made me a heavy drinker and a smoke addict
I ran away for a year,i spent all the holidays alone so when i came back i had to sit on a painfully uncomfortable chair just to be yelled at and beat,now I'm 19 and I'm free from the abuse
One time my friend, we were calling and then we talked about the family problems we have, she thinks her mom didn’t love her, she had 2 brothers and they cried and blamed everything on her and when she cried the mom didnt care at all, so she said I wanna run away I can’t live this anymore I tried to help her stay but I understood her and she’s better now :) this was in 2022 if ur wondering and were still friends She was 10-12 then which is sm worse cause she was a literal child :(
Everyone please raise awareness. How can I help? I have a daughter and I know she will never go through this but I want to help. How can we help please let me know
Guys can someone tell me if this is toxic : My mym hits be and my sibling We have to ask to eat, drink, go to the toilet, She calls us swears Blames everything on us Causes us to flinch at touch Causes us to s3lf h@rm Threatens to thr0w us out of the window, sk1n us alive, b4rn us alive
I remember that my parents were arguing that much + my father was abusive and toxic (we dont live with him anymore) that i couldn sleep at night being in fear that he (father) could kill my mom when she was sleeping (me + mu mom ans Brother sleep im the same bed while my father sleep in other room)
Aww that really stinks! It seemed like you liked that family more they with your birth mom, did you have to go back with her afterwards? I really hope you’re doing better now! I can’t even begin to imagine how hard and scary that must have been to go through what you went through especially at such a young age. No one should ever have to experience that.
With parents who are addicts I don't know how you ever came out clean the other side! It's so difficult to dol You can kick the drugs you can get rid of your bad parents and run away but you cannot kick all the emotions out of your head come with those situations
Wait. I thought you were adopted at 9?? To a good loving home? This doesn’t make sense. I know your bio parents were awful but you’ve said on multiple videos that you were adopted at 9ish to a good home?? Your adopted dad was in at least one video and you seem to still talk to him? Im confused by this and now this makes me question a lot of what you’re saying. Unless I’m missing something, please correct me.
I'm a little confused. So you was adopted and your adopted parents fought all the time. Because you said you was 9 when you was saved from trying to kill yourself and was adopted.
