I didn’t want to say to not tip certain races restaurant button to tip their own race is restaurant it’s just a fucking racist sorry not sorry your tip for a restaurant should go fully based off of food, appearance, The way you were treated, and price. I worked in two restaurants as a waiter and I’ll tell you there was tables you would lean over backwards for work and they would still tip you horribly and there was people you barely did anything for it and they would tip you amazingly but it’s was always the same Service. Having that experience when I go to the restaurant I tip 15% if they were good to my guessed if they check in on us and don’t touch plates without asking if they mess up on theses flags I give them only 10% to 8% and if your waiter or waitress comes across as a bitch or asshole pls remember we’re are all people and sometimes are stressed I had a really mouthy and rude waitress and I gave her 5% tip and then before leaving I pulled her to the side a said idk who yours day is going but you were not a great server today I hope you feel better and are better for the next guess. She told me she was sorry and that she had a lot of stuff on her mind with her kids and sick father and that’s why I say just remember we all have bad days and don’t be a ass hole to your waitresses or waiters and then be surprised when they are rude or not as attentive to you. Only thing you should never tolerate is racism, sexism, or any form of judgment your a customer as long as you are nice and not causing a scene or being extremely loud/ bothering other customers. I’ve served all kinds of people straight, Gay, trans the hole 9 yards so
I think or I believe tipping culture there is different then in the us so it’s considered rude to tip in china but am not Chinese and I don’t live there so I wouldn’t know what its like to tip there
Some people just don't act really excited, but on the inside, they are very grateful. That's how I am too, but it often gets misunderstood as me being ungrateful. I'm just bad at accepting help.
SAMEEE! Its really Hard on christmas because my facial reaction is Hard to fake even tho i love all The gifts People give and The company. Many People say that im angry even if im happy on The inside but that litle comment makes me angry because i have heard it so many Times so People dont believe me If i say "im not angry!" sorry i got a bit off topic
@@johnnykiehn1872 no I totally get that! Even as someone who has trouble reacting, I like seeing people smile when I give them a gift too! That's why I feel so bad that i don't give many reactions 😭
As a chinese person, this is the unspoken culture in gift giving we have: if you get offered a gift, refuse it. They will offer again, refuse it again. If they keep on offering after you refuse like 3, 4 times then you can be like 'ahh finee' like if someone offers me a gift and i just take it like 'thanks' my mom will give me one hell of a look
As a fellow Chinese myself, we really appreciate kindness and people going out of their way to help us! If you ever tip at a Chinese restaurant, come back next time! The people there will remember you and will greet you by your name, sometimes even cook larger portions/better food for you! That’s what happened to me, really nice people there! Every cent/penny helps for them!
@@RjBenjamin353 To be fair I go with my British friends and I don’t see any problems happening, but I get your point. Typically, they hate anyone who doesn’t look Chinese because they feel their restaurant is a “Chinese only”, it depends on which restaurant you go to and where your location is. No way to explain their actions, they are 100% in the wrong here and they can’t deny it.
It's not that they don't appreciate it, it's that they have a hard time accepting because of their culture. The way their cute runs is beautiful, and how they treat others upon receiving gifts is just amazing.
@@PhobicMeowz uhhhhh no? Worked at 2 Chinese places before, and trust me, the Chinese servers get just as mad as the white servers when they don’t get tipped, especially if their customer was a ass
Correct! While people expect a tip. Minorities appreciate a tip. Therefore, the kind person deserves more as that’s better service and just a better person
True but you should never tip at a Chinese restaurant I give 20% tip everywhere besides Chinese restaurants where I give 0% tip cause their food is expensive and quality is so bad. It’s basically McDonald’s quality they are all basically the same as a Panda Express. If you want Chinese food google recipes and make them at home cause that’s the only real Chinese food don’t tip these pretenders who got no skills.
Chinese restaurants loves tips but they are being honest as well. Who would normally leave $40 tip for a $5 meal? Obviously they think you dropped your money and trying to bring it back to you. I think that action alone deserves more tips than anything.
I never knew there was a racial difference or even attitude about tipping. I've always tipped well anywhere I go, I even came back to tip my waitress the next day because she had to go get her kids while we were still eating, she was really good and definitely deserved it. Just tip your servers, treat them the same no matter the race, that's just common decency.
I’ve heard many people say a rule they go by when tipping is that they give less or none to an asian person because they know the asian person won’t do any crazy shit to them.
Can 100% confirm! I just ate at a Chinese restaurant 2 days ago and my waitress was overjoyed to receive a 18% (about $8) tip. They always appreciate tips, even more so because lots of people don't think they do! TIP YOUR SERVERS!!! ❤️
@@wibs0n68 No idea where I was going with that when I sent it. Maybe I sent it prematurely? Maybe my concussions have finally caught up with me? I'm even more confused than you are.
people seem to think they don’t appreciate tips because they don’t react when less or no tip is given. it’s just our culture that we don’t expect tips, but they are 100% important and appreciated
I’m white and a dog groomer and share that same mentality. I never expect it, I never ask for it, I never demand it or bring it up. but they are so appreciated and even the ones that tip me every time, “thank you so much I really appreciate it” it always my response, always. I was taught growing up that tips are gifts, like a thank you card for good professional service.
From my experience most Asian people (I'm Thai/Laos) greatly respect and cherish the small things in life. The only problem is that we don't share our emotions unless we are behind closed doors either by ourselves or with friends/family we trust. Trust and respect is greatly important to us, it's ingrained in our culture, traditions, and history. Those of you that tip anything, we greatly appreciate it even if we don't say/do anything to show it.
This is incredibly true. I'm Taiwanese and grew up in an environment where outward expression of "large" emotion was shameful. Being humble is the most important trait a person could have, as the "Boastful sour like citrus." It's awful that people are aware no one is raised the same, yet can't fathom that means everyone expresses differently.
@Doxie Kitten I totally agree, I grew up in America, but my family came from Thailand and Laos. I was taught a lot about our traditions and culture. However, it's not very sustainable in America, so I use a more loud and brave American approach when I deal with Westerners, but when I'm dealing with other Asian people I quite down and talk softly with respect.
I am a Chinese and we don’t really accept tips because we feel that if you can have the chance to eat then is fortunate as ancient Chinese people don’t have food to eat and we feel that we must be grateful for being able to eat . We will alway ask someone have u eaten ?
@@doxiekitten6526 Taiwanese people drive me crazy because I need to talk to them and they WILL NOT show any reaction to ANYTHING............. it's my job to make them happy but they're anti-happy. If I can get people one on one we're usually okay but in groups... oh geez... I've gotten in trouble for asking "are you alive?" when groups just don't reply to me at all... sometimes not even to "hello". I'm supposed to talk to them for 90-120 minutes and they won't even say hi. How do you think I'm supposed to do this when they're THAT afraid of what everyone around them thinks?!?!?!?!!?!??!?!? I'm friendly, and you paid money to come talk to me... DOOO ITTTTTT....
Don't know why some people don't tip at Chinese restaurants. When I was a kid my family used to go to this small restaurant owned by this Chinese family they didn't speak very good English except for the daughter. but we ate there often like once a week, my family didn't have much money but my parents leaved a tip everytime. Anyways one time the mother came up to us as we were leaving and looked very thankful and said “thank you so much you are our best customer and always leave a tip for my family” then she handed us 2 liters of soda. Tipping really makes a difference I guess we were like the only family who left tips for them it was kind of heartbreaking because they were such a nice family.
You really wonder why? Whole white world is pretty much anti Asian/Sinophobic. I bet some of the "reviews" were brigaded by incel pinks to spill their prejudice that didn't even go to any Chinese restaurant
Years ago me and my dad went to a Chinese restaurant so much that the people began to recognize us, they’d give us free stuff and I’d hang out with their kid all the time, good times
Same, but I’m Chinese- American so I was born in America but my ethnicity is that I’m Chinese. And, when I was younger my mom and I always went to this certain Chinese restaurant and my mom became friends with the owner so I hung out with the kid a lot. And another time we went to another Chinese restaurant and came there really often so the owner kind of treated my like her granddaughter.
It's called having manners, we don't generally accept tips that often in Asia. Restaurant and staff don't demand "Tips", you can give one if it's really good. But that's very rare and usually donations are there instead.
At my local Chinese restaurant the waitress acts like our mom. She will play cards with my son and she makes sure we eat all our food and tells us to eat slower so we can stay longer. Literally the best lady ever! ❤ we tip her well
@@heyitseyevan i dont think dats true, i just think tipping isn't particularly a thing in their culture. Like with America some people live off of these tips pretty much which still shocking to me like you really have to rely on a customer friendly enough and capable to tip
@@FemboyKaiSaku yeah that's my point it's not in their culture to tip I heard it's also offensive because it's like saying they aren't being payed or something to them
Tipped $13 for a $45 dollar meal once and I nearly cried at how grateful our server was. He brought us out really fancy candies and shook my hand. I didn't know this was why 😭😭😭
They 100% do, my father works at a Chinese restaurant and hes been at it since he was a teen after his father died. He works for most of the day from 9am to 11pm at night. He comes home on some days for dinner together around 4 pm but around midnight when he doesn’t come home for a break he eats alone. It makes me sad sometimes, his anger issues and presence in my life is lacking, but I still love and appreciate what he does for us.
My dad was exactly like this! He's Chinese too, anger issues, was absent for 5 years (charity abroad). He died when I was about 12, so I'm glad you appreciate your father :)
as a half chinese person, and someone in a family which owns a restaurant, it really means so much. we appreciate this, and it really changes our life a lot.
@@giraffewhiskers2045 u can familiarise youself with the language with chinese songs or dramas and find yourself a reliable teacher online/irl. u need to practise writing in mandarin too as u need to know around 2000 chinese characters to be fluent and these characters can be quite complicated!!
@@giraffewhiskers2045 it might be different but for a way I’m learning German is that there are these songs with poor animation but they repeat the words a lot which makes it easy to learn so try finding something like that
@@probablyhuman9947 I also wanna learn German! For me it’s not as hard with other languages like English can be hard.. and it’s my native language well sort of, I was deaf so when I got my medal rods and could hear more I began to speak Spanish
As a Chinese person, we definitely really appreciate gratuities but it's our natural instinct to be hesitant about accepting because we know the importance of money and how, no matter how little, can go a long way
I've been going to a chinese restaurant on my lunch breaks sometimes. The girl at the cashier desk was always so nice. One time I tipped 10$. She was so thankful. The next time I came, I tipped 7$ and she made me take free boba. The third time, she gave me some free eggdrop soup, which I had never tried before that and fell in love with it. The fourth time I tipped only 5$ and she still gave me a free soda.
One time when me and my family went to a local Chinese restaurant around Christmas time, we tip them $100. And the waiter came out crying and gave us a huge hug.
@@Shahin2003 Someone at our church that we used to go to anonymously gave us $100. We decided to pay it forward because we knew other people could use it more than us. Our waitress did come out and try to give it back to us, and we told her, no, keep it and split it with everyone that was working. Then she started crying and gave us all hugs.
I’m Chinese and I want to say we do appreciate tips 10000000% and when we see tips we thanks the customers (if they are still there) but if they aren’t and it’s a large amount (we will come find you even if it take 400 years).
Actually...they deserve the tips FAR more than any of the restaurants over here. They're so kind...they either try to give it back...or think that you shouldn't have left it. Kudos to them.
kind??? i only had one good experience at a chinese restaurant, the rest where all the same my plate is finished for one second and you at my table, my drink is not finished and ur at my table askin rude are you done.
@@jirenoboyi guess it varies depending on where you go and who you get. At my local Chinese restaurant, all of the waiters/waitresses are very, very nice to my family and I.
I worked at a Chinese restaurant for 5 years. Tipping is very much appreciated but they don’t look forward to it because it comes as a surprise. They just do the work and don’t expect much in return but good business.
Yes, that is true! Work and don't expect anything in return! A lot of people should grab onto that concept! Maybe the world just might be a better place! Just maybe!!!!!! 🤷
In the east, waiters actually get paid an amount that can sustain themselves without having to rely on tips. That's why tipping is considered uncommon among us Asians. Unlike in America where waiters are basically treated as slaves who depend on the kindness and mood of their customers that day. And even then there are still some greedy restauranteurs who keep the tips for themselves and threaten to fire the waiters if they keep any for themselves.
When I tip a larger amount I never stay for their reaction because then it feels like I'm doing it for a personal satisfaction rather than a genuine appreciation.
That might be fair, but sometimes they just want to be sure that it was not unintentionally left because some people simply forget things, including money. And they will feel guilty if those who receive a generous tip was not able to express their gratitude.
Man. It’s sad because they think all the aunties working there are trying to be rude, when in reality - there’s simply just a language/culture barrier. Whenever we raise our voices, I stg we aren’t trying to yell at you 😅 we just speak louder than normally
As a German i understand that very well. Because you know we sound often angry or unfriendly in our language but we just speak our words a little more pronounced😂
@@bunnydimples1283 Fr I tried speaking to a lady and she thought I was threatening 💀. People on RU-vid despise when black people talk about our issues on here, it’s fine when everyone else does it though.
@@zibn5459 idiot. Your assuming someone’s race doesn’t appreciate tips just because of the race, that’s 1 extremely racist and people like you are the problem with the world and 2 why would someone not appreciate a tip? That’s the most idiotic thing I’ve ever heard anyone say
@@zibn5459 facts. That's a one sided narrative. Not only did I stop tipping, I just avoid Asian restaurants in general because you can observer how they treat some races completely different than others, stingier and grumpier towards them as well. And it's not just once or twice, at least in California, you see it all the time and everywhere. Why would I reward you with more of my money for that?
I once gave a tip that was equal to my bill at my favorite small local Japanese sushi restaurant. Our meal was $74 and some changed and I tipped the waitress that much. When I handed her the check with the tip I showed it to her and told her that it was for her and not a mistake. Even after that she still ran to my car just as we were leaving because she didn’t think it was real. I had to make her take the tip 😅
Some info for you btw: don’t tip if you go to a true Japanese restaurant, they take offense for that. Here in the US you can since their likely staffed with Americans but if you ever go to Japan, dont
I tipped 99% at a white restaurant (machine wouldn't let me tip 100%) and the next time I went, they wouldn't serve me my drink cause (a different) waitress said it took long to make and "would make the bartender mad"...
@Mao LeBron people get their information online, you can't blame him in this case. Personally, i believe they're not used to tips so they feel weird about it because i would feel the same. I have a job that pays me, why would a client give me money? Imagine doing any other job where you get paid by your employer but clients pay, wouldn't it feel weird?
My family used to go to a Chinese restaurant near our house before we moved. I don't remember the exact amount or percentage, but around Christmas time my mom usually tips a lot. It was about mid-December when we were going to the Chinese place for dinner and my mom left a big tip, as we were leaving the waitress ran out and tried to give it back, thinking it was an accident. My mom explained that it was her's and the waitress was very appreciative :)
Coming from a Chinese family, there’s an entire culture surrounding who pays the check after eating. I’ve seen my relatives fight not to get out of paying, but to ultimately be the one who does it. My dad actually stole my uncle’s wallet once just to stop him from paying; it’s insane. But ultimately, I think it says a lot about the value of money to us. They may appear ungrateful or confused, and that’s really because they almost want to refuse something that seems so generous out of pure gratitude.
i gotta be honest that’s a pretty universal things in families that love each other and have a lighthearted relationship with one another!! merry christmas!!
My mom works our small family Chinese restaurant and can't stress more about how she barely scrapes by each month because she gets paid under minimum wage. She enthusiastically tells me how people leave 20 dollars with a smile on her face and it gives me such relief i dont know why, so thank you all who tip. She means the world to me and hopefully my career takes off, so I can take care of her just as she did for me.
Bullshit. Every Chinese restaurant makes a shitload of money. Id doubt shes "scraping" by. Why would the family that owns it pay her minimum wage? Thats absurd. 😆 Her issue is with her shitty family not the customers.
@@RalphieMaysGhostChinese restaurants these days are making money in the millions. Especially in big cities. They don’t have good service and make so much money from Togo orders as well. I know multiple restaurant owners who say the business is the best it’s ever been
Look you guys, I didn't comment this to argue, just wanted to say some stuff that I have trouble saying in person. Yes it is a small restraunt and in a very small city, I don't know what city you have in mind but it's not LA or San Fran, I don't know about booming because covid really hit us hard since it's a small family business, anyways happy new years everyone!
@@rickyyang8963 I’m talking about a big city, but I guess your experience might be different then. Happy New Years to you as well! May 2023 bring us good fortune
OMG THIS IS SO TURE BC MY MOM WORK AT A CHINESE WHICH SHE OWNS AND WHEN SOMEONE TIPS SHE TELLS ARE YOU FR? BUT SOMETIMES WHEN 1DOLLAR SHE STILL HAPPY ABOUT IT :)
I feel this is oddly an incredibly honest display of gratitude haha. Instead of taking it and saying thanks they are confused as to why they deserve so much? They deserve just as much
That's not it, people who work hard know they dont deserve much more than what they're owed. 10% tip is more than enough for some ppl and for other ppl like yourself, think they're entitled to more than they're worth.
@@Jamsessionroom1337 why so hostile to someone who sees joy in this cute video bro? Sydney's comment wasn't an attack on you or anyone. "People such as yourself" as if a 1 sentence comment gives you perspective on someones life. You, however, seem like just the type to think you "deserve more". Go be bitter somewhere else.
@@Jamsessionroom1337or crazy idea people make $2/hour for serving and people like you assume 10% is enough you pay your bills with that oh wait you live at home with your parents 😅
My family owned a Chinese restaurant and I always show my gratitude to those who tip regardless of how much it was. We didn’t ask for percentage, customers just tipped if they wished.
@@mohdasif391 it is the stupid culture because they pay too little in salary so the clients have to pay a tip, if you do not they will sometimes curse you out. why should a customer tip??? BS if the service is good sure I can tip , in some countries you are not even allowed to tip and still provide good service
Those people who said that chinese resto don't deserve tips because they don't appreciate it have no idea that Asians don't get treated as nicely most of the time by numerous people, so when they're treated well, it's strange but it's still much appreciated!
I think it's mainly because they don't just scream with happiness. I react the same honestly, I get a 50$ gift and just say thanks ;--; I'm really happy but idk how to reacts without feeling super awkward
Yeah, Americans are used to effusive and over the top emotions. They don’t understand that people can feel things deeply on the inside without showing it.
At least in my country people don’t like tips, people get paid a decent amount and so don’t rely on tips. Me and everyone I know has never tipped in our lives. Only tourists tip and even then the restaurant usually thinks it’s a scam or something of the sort
@@aiko9393 yeah much more normal way of tipping it made the other think rh hr just dont want to carry the small money or it doesn't even change anything. Atleast that's the way i view it
Usually Asian restaurants deserve more tips because they show more care and respect from my experience. They serve you well even if you don't tip them, unlike other people.
@J Raff This sounds rude but it's their job. With tip or not you should treat your customer with care and respect (except when their rude or a Karen, they don't deserve it). Pardon my rudeness but I really hate it when Western people demand a tip (It's not the tip I'm mad about), why does the restaurants doesn't pay them enough and they give customers little food when it's so expensive. Now the waiters depend on tips
The Subway near me inside a Walmart, but it is still a fast food restaurant, even if you are eating inside. The East Asian mgr. came to us with a machine and asked for a tip. I told him that BK and McDonald's do not ask for tips nor does the KFC (drive-thru or eat-in) and said "no" He charged us a tip anyway. Earlier, he said he won't let people sit in his restaurant while waiting for someone. Due to Covid having no benches inside, there was no place to wait for me to finish my shopping. I had this asnine behaviour at Gorin's, and Quizno's and you know where most of those restaurants are now. I will pay a tip at my favourite Asian and Indian eat-in restaurant because I get excellent service.
Whenever we’ve gone out to eat we always end up having friendly conversations with Chinese waiters/waitresses. When it’s time to for us to go/leave a tip Chinese are always the most grateful and show us much appreciation even remembering us on our next visit it’s so wholesome!
My friends and I went to dinner at a hotpot restaurant and before we left we gave our waitress a $15 tip. $5 from each of us, she was pretty hardworking, nice, and her smile was so wholesome which reminds me of my mom. When she came back with the $15 confused; we told her that’s for her and the way she was surprised and smiled so big and kept saying thank you while bowing to us😭
