Nope..i’m a very confident and secure woman. They are parents and need to communicate, we can’t hold our husbands/partners hostage because of our delusional insecurities.
This is such an important topic. Also, I think when a spouse comes with a child from a previous relationship relations are far better than when a child comes from outside but during a marriage. The step parent does not have resentment or trauma as opposed to when the other parent stepped out. You are not competing with the birth mother because you entered the relationship after theirs was finished. It also helps that the father plays his role and always has and you have no reason to be resentful unlike if he expected you to be the parent and he was not playing that role. Also, may God continue giving you more wisdom and BLESS your family. You are doing a great job, all of you.
Wow that's so beautiful ❤️ 🌹 the other vlog you did, packing their wardrobe I literally thought he's staying full time with you guys. What you doing is beautiful 💯
This sounds like such a healthy relationship,marriage and family.One thing about mature women, they will raise a peaceful and trauma free generation. There seems to be so much respect between you, your husband and big brothers mommy. It takes a village and you have made it all about the child, who didn’t ask to be in this situation but trusts the adults not to fail him. Continue this way, the Lord will continue to bless your family structure and all of you will see the fruits of your labour when Big brother is all grown up. Little brother will also learn from Big brother, as it seems he has a major influence and close relationship with him. So proud and happy to see black families win❤❤❤❤❤❤
Also, lets give credit to your hubby. He set the tone very well and love that you say all this is possible because he is a present father. Women are forced to be “fathers” to children they didnt bare and the fathers fail to lead the “different” family structure well. So kodus to your hubby by taking care of business 😂❤
Honestly speaking... step-parenting shouldn't be as hard as the society painted it. Its all about honesty, respect, openness, maturity, willingness, acceptance, boundaries & clear communication from both parents & from parents to their partners with one objective in mind - the betterment of the child/ children's livelihood. I love your blended family, you're doing so well & may God continue to grant you wisdom raising your sons👐🏿. Ga ona boikgokgomošho, always remain humble ❤ 🕯.
Mogwera you have a heart of gold, big up to you…however I feel like the parenting alone is working. Your husband being super hands on and open gave you the strength and platform to do your best. I’ve noticed the relationship between Ole and abuti is so beautiful they’re inseparable too. And for a woman who’s childfree in this generation I really am grateful to have witnessed the mother you are. The last Christmas photoshoot and all the clothes you used to post for the boys👏. “The boy has a home here he isn’t visiting ” your husband is blessed and so are you because what a woman you are. I love that you just love being a mother apart from looking at your position in the boy’s life. Thank you so much for sharing this with us, I love you so much ❤.
Hi Carol that's so sweet and kind if you. I enjoy your content and Olerato looks exactly like my son when he was young. My son likes to watch with me so that he can see his baby brother Olerato, you will find him blushing when he sees Olerato and say I can't believe this. So cute, love love, Nomusa.
I was touched by ths Topic,,i am not a step Mom to anyone but i woudnt mind being one in future if God give me that opportunity to be one because obviously if God bless me with a Future husband whos got kids. I wish we can have more of ths topic as Basadi so we can learn more nd more about being step parents.
Bores me is when a child visits nd takes all the clothes I bought, then the next visits comes with no clothes to the extent tht u buy new ones, is best the child comes with no bag nd go bag with nothing, il practice th setup of coming with what the child is wearing nd go back with what is wearing
You sound like a strong and confident woman and I love that about you. However, I don’t think it’s ever really easy for the step kids to grow up without the other parent, especially a boy child without their dad. May I ask why the boy child is not staying with you and dad, especially since you did mention that the father is a hands on dad?
