Codependency, Heartbreak and a Discipline of Optimism 

0:03 Hello 4:20 Codependents Are Usually Fawn Responders 9:26 Heartbreak Is A Nightmare For Anyone 14:04 Emotional Flashbacking After A Heartbreak 18:50 Why We All Need Humility 21:26 Codependency Is A Bigger Issue Than CPTSD 26:00 Don’t Pathologize Heartache 32:05 What Is Discipline Of Optimism And Why Is It Important? 36:38 “I Want To Introduce A Victim Of Narcissistic Mother To A Pack. Where To Start?” 39:10 Answering A Question About Dealing With Narcissistic Wife Of A Son 42:44 “Do You Have Any Future Plans For Seminars In The Usa?” 45:03 “How Do You Know That You’re Healed From Codependency?” 49:23 “Any Plans On Doing Seminars In Other European Countries?” 52:12 “What Is Your Take On CPTSD and DID When They Coexist? And How Can You Distinguish Them?” 54:15 “When Is The Time To Date If You’ve Got CPTSD and Working Through Codependency?” 59:41 “What Is Your Brain Telling You To Do That You’re Not Doing?” 1:03:16 “Do You Think Freedom Is Rooted In Solitude?” 1:04:59 “Why Do I Keep Having Codependent Relationships With Chinese Women?” Part 1 1:08:05 “Why Do I Keep Having Codependent Relationships With Chinese Women?” Part 2 1:12:00 “How To Increase Dopamine Naturally?” 1:14:19 “Do You Feel Uneasy Or Anxious In The United States?” 1:19:29 The Problems With Boys In America 1:24:35 Goodbye

I was so close to a nervous breakdown, when I googled and found you, thank you, you saved me, keep up the good work, we all appreciate you.

The way you marry humour with hard hitting help is insanely helpful. Thank you again.

*The Urge To Merge* I was in my 30's before I became aware of how desperately I had been trying all my life to CONNECT with someone else. I once said to a therapist, "I can't expect you to understand." He replied, "Of course I do. You may have been born a twin but you grew up alone..." That was a major turning point in my life. When you live each day feeling _trapped in your head_ , the need to feel you've actually made contact with someone else is worse than any thirst or hunger.

Heartbreak: the original pain of being set apart,the isolation felt during childhood abandonment

Richard take care of yourself. We need you well.

I actually suffered from stress induced cariomyopathy (broken heart syndrome) from the cognitive dissonance that occured when I realized my best friend (narcissist) wasn't who I thought I knew who they were. It was worse than mourning somebody who died because this person actually never existed at all. Which meant my past, my present, and my future all changed in an instant and my heart ... broke.

I love that you admit you’re human too. Makes us feel like you’re beside us, not above. Thank you. And I am sorry for the loss that I assume caused your grief. Wishing you well.

Watching these videos, I've realised my biggest fear is that I'll never find another person who I like who likes me back. It never happens. That's why it was so painful this time. I normally don't care about the men that reject me. Or the men that chase me are completely incompatible, so I know it would never work right from the start and don't fall for them. This time actually gave me hope. I thought I'd finally found someone who was a perfect match on every single level and who felt the same way (or at least pretended to). I thought I'd be able to have a husband, home, family, partner finally. It's having that hope and then having it snatched away that's the hardest thing to deal with. I'm nearly 36, so statistically it's unlikely to happen again until I'm an OAP and too old for it to matter. So a piece of me doesn't want to let go, as that could be the closest I will ever get to having the life I wanted.Trusting that you will find someone else is difficult when experience has shown otherwise.

Narc's get a pre groomed victim in a people pleaser.

Every time I listen to Richard, I think my IQ goes up. Incredible insights!

I am about to finish my second course from Lisa Romano. I started watching you before I started her class in March this year. I am ready to go deep, deep with this subject. Left my husband of 22 years in January this year. He is just like my mother a narc/bully/victim/user/parasite/no empathy. I went a week without eating before I left. I almost died. Escaped the swamp and swamp monster. Faced my issues being adopted and dis functional adopted parents who were children in adult bodies. These people are everywhere. Thank God for you and others who are doing this work for us.

I like your advice re: how codependents should ask themselves "Is this something I'll feel resentful and bitter about later?" to check in to see if they are over-giving. I recently became upset with a friend I have been co-dependently over-giving to for a while. I had been hurt by her temporarily ghosting me and when she texted me recently, became upset and realized I was about to explain this to her. Then I realized I was about to explain something that was super basic, i.e., something humans should already know is hurtful to others and why. I realized I had done this with so many other people (mostly narcs) and was again--even when sticking up for myself--putting way more energy into the relationship than the other person. I decided to lovingly detach instead and felt all this energy coming back into my body. I still have a ways to go in my recovery, but this felt like a massive win.

Thank you for this video. I’m a survivor of narcissist parent, been no contact for 2 years. I want to make a request if possible. I’m still learning how to build up my ability to go without love. I get overly excited when guys talk to me, projecting my fantasies of being their ideal wife onto them. It’s embarrassing. I’ve gone through life not being good enough for anyone or anything I wanted. I’m trying my best to stop those behaviors because I’m breaking my own heart.

It's the death of a dream. I have had the death of all my relationships with everyone in my life in the past year. My life has been lived in a nest of high spectrum cluster b's and it is amazing I have survived all this craziness. These people have even told me repeatedly told me I should kill myself before they make me wish I were dead. I have had several therapists use that code for aint nothing we can do for you, on me several times. You are a God send Richie. Thank you.

I'm 67 years old. My 30 year old daughter tells me I have a juvenile sense of humour. I think that makes two of us cause you make me laugh out loud constantly. A much needed balance in the midst of painful topics. Thank you.

I found your videos because someone basically said on a forum "if you want real help, go to this guy."

I know you said not to comment on RU-vid but I'm gonna anyways :) . Sorry to hear about what you've been going through. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with codependency, it helps us and I hope it helps you too. My mum got sick last year and my codependency went into overdrive as I wanted to fix her and save her but alas I could not and she died in November. I honestly don't know how I would have dealt with all of it had I not done all the work I've done over the last 4 years. Our relationship was difficult and complicated and a big reason of why I'm here on your channel. Your videos have helped me so much and your book recommendations have been life-changing. I have been able to just observe my grief and not judge it as I cycle through sadness, anger, disappointment. So thankful to be present with my feelings and not running, something I've done all my life. Hoping 2018 is a healing year for you and me both

My mother for years anytime I was upset about any breakup when I was devastated always called it "a little death" meaning an emotional small death.

Richard, you literally saved my life. I thank you for this. You have become a daily STAPLE in my life for over three years now. I never thought I'd get to where I am now. Still a long way to go though. But you helped me. You'll never know how much. Many blessings to you .

It is SUCH a comfort to listen to somebody who talks about experiences that I have experienced also... thank you SO much Richard ⭐️ keep being kind to YOU and please keep sharing 🙏🏻❤️

You were so ON POINT with everything you discussed in this video. I hope people find it and watch it again and again and again...and take your assertions to heart! Thank you!

Men have baby fever and a biological clock as well. It is heart breaking when you are on that path and it doesn’t come to fruition. Heartbreak doesn’t even begin to cover it. A child would be lucky to have you as a father. Don’t lose the faith Richie!

Hello Richard, I know this is probably a super old video so I doubt you’ll see this but I just wanted to say this video has spoken to me on an empirical level. Most of your videos resonate, but this one truly hits. I found out about having CPTSD from your channel, and I feel so overwhelmed in conquering it. Initially, I began watching you after your CIA/Alice in Wonderland technique video, and I’ve been trying to do better for myself since then because I now had the knowledge of what I didn’t before. I think it’s so hard for me right now because I am still experiencing heartbreak, four years after the fact. It’s hindering me in so many ways and is a burden that has convinced me that there is no love, or that it exists for others and for some they serve as a testament to those who have, so they will appreciate it more. I believe I am the latter. I am a 26 year old man now, and I feel that this burden has put such a clutch on my romantic life/self esteem that I may never recover and will simply just be alone in the later years. Forums like r/ForeverAlone have shown me that people go their whole lives without any type of human contact, love or otherwise. I have not had any type of partner/companion anything for the past four years and although I want to be strong on my own I’m now realizing I have extraordinary codependency issues that I also need to work through in order to change the way I view this. I have so much on my plate already, I don’t even know how to begin surmounting this, but I have to. I just wanted to share, thank you for everything you do and I will continue to watch, you’re an inspiration.

The narc I fell hard for a year ago, showed me clearly that even though I had recovered from my CPTSD to a great extent, I was still a major codependent. Good on me that I left him after living with him for less then 2 months and stayed away for 5 months. In a moment of weakness I allowed him to talk me into getting back with him but it has been a good thing. During that 5 months away from him I did much work on myself and when I got back with him things were much different after I got my game on. He can no longer bully me or manipulate me and I don't fall for his gas lighting and I won't allow him to be evasive or to distract me. When I realized how much he needs me, the whole game changed. My feelings for him have completely changed but more importantly, my feelings about myself have changed completely. I truly know now that I deserve better and that I can be happy and be fulfilled on my own and I don't need a relationship with a man but am now ready for a healthy, balanced relationship with a good man who has his shit at least mostly together.

Your honesty is so refreshing, Richie. Feel better!

Dude! I absolutely love your channel! You take take some really heavy relevant shit and somehow present it in a way that has me laughing my ass off! Thank you!

I got shingles it has wiped my whole life I was doing everything looking after parents, running a business , Listening to people when I knew what I had to do. Now I am trying to build who I am. My body has so much pain Now.

I feel more hope I think than I have in years. I feel understood and not so ashamed for being who I am. Thank God for Ritchie and his community. I am deeply, deeply grateful.

I'm a little freaked out right now. . . . I am (right now) recuperating from SHINGLES. In this video you discuss your 'bout with shingles. I had the full 6 weeks of staggering pain. Strange

Richard hope you're doing well. Sending you such a big hug and much love.

Your a perfect mix of educational and funny. I love when the filter falls off and you think out loud. Thank you for being vulnerable, transparent, honest and genuine about you’re own shit. Humankind needs to take a page from this guys book.

I'm rewatching this, 2 years later. Then, it helped me so much in the process of grieving, that is really comforting to remember my process of recovery. Thanks Richard.

Finally a longer video! So happy and thankful that you are back, Richard! All the best to you!

No video this long keeps my ADD attention, my brain understands things better from you, I feel understood when I listen to you, best part of my day, much appreciated

Good to see a longer video again Richard. Ive recently had a wave of Grief since my dad passed away 2 years ago, its hit me recently just as my life and business improved 180 deg then boom. Oh and I had to go no contact with my mother 10 months after my fathers passing. So yes it feels like I lost both parents within 10 months of each other. Then she contacts my son 13 months later after 100% no contact. Wishing you lots of love & Healing. x

It is 2019, and I was just recommended to you by a friend. I don’t know if you’ll even get this comment, but, I cannot even tell you how fucking brilliant this video is! It seriously has touched my core! And I can’t stop laughing about the “dirty dolphin” analogies! Thank you, thank you, thank you, I truly needed this today! And all that in your accent just makes it so much more fucking amazing!

The Urge to Merge! Thank You Richie you just shined a big fat light into my inner insight...seriously, Thank You! A reflection of myself became crystal clear as you were explaining the "fawn". And that's one reason I watch you....you have a gift to help me see and understand all the bullshit in my head so I can clean that crap up, or at least turn it into fertilizer! And you always make me laugh!

6 months is a breeze compared to decades in therapy with less positive results than spending 21/2 yrs listening to your work. Thank you for keepin it so real and so well researched. I know truth when I hear it.

I don't know if you still read these comments but listening to you for over an hour is like having the friend I've always wanted. You're a breath of fresh air

@46:30 Saving lost children calls to mind Catcher in the Rye: “Anyway, I keep picturing all these little kids playing some game in this big field of rye and all. Thousands of little kids, and nobody's around - nobody big, I mean - except me. And I'm standing on the edge of some crazy cliff. What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff - I mean if they're running and they don't look where they're going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. That's all I do all day. I'd just be the catcher in the rye and all. I know it's crazy, but that's the only thing I'd really like to be.” ― J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye

Were standing with you mate. You Are and indeed have helped s o many souls

Richard what you're doing in videos like this actually saves lives. In many cases quite literally. Like you, I had multiple stressful events last year: Death of a close family member, loss of job and horrendously painful break up with a man who has (or at least appears to have) pronounced narcissistic traits. All these things happened within a week of each other! (Nice ay?) But the universe owes us nothing. It's up to us to prepare ourselves for what may come. Your videos have greatly helped me to recognise my responsibility of care to myself and to take on that responsibility. So Thank You for that. To the person who said most men are misogynists... I can see where you're coming from. From my experience I'm sad to say that most of the men I have been in contact with seem to have a problem (to varying degrees) with me and other women self championing and putting forward a convincing argument that opposes their point of view, while the same men support and show respect to other men doing so. I'm not sure why this is. It's possible that I could be subconsciously seeking these personality types out or perhaps because of the reasons Richard gave, a number of men are increasingly feeling the need to aggressively over-assert themselves with women in an attempt to compensate for being told by society that they're worthless pieces of shit. It doesn't help to generalise about men or women but I can sympathise with you for feeling this way. And, as a woman, if someone said most women were misandrists I would personally rather focus my attention on finding out why this person feels this way than taking any personal offence from this statement or telling them they shouldn't say this as that just shuts down the dialogue.

Hey Richard, thanks so much for this. It is precious on many levels (I've even asked my therapist to watch it so that we can talk of a few topics you touched on the video). I've sent you a private message regarding ideas I have around the "what can be done next?" topic; hopefully it gets through and maybe something can come out if it. Regardless, thanks so much for your work and for your authenticity. Somehow seeing you embrace grief and vulnerability helped in allowing myself to do the same and it was very much needed... so thanks again and wish you all the best!

Thank you for this video; I've been following you for some time and have bought some of your stuff, bought C-ptsd and The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker and I'm getting more successful living my life. I'm in my 60's and loving solitude, some volunteer work and working on my co-dependency. Love listening to you...you are a great help!!xoxo

Heartbreak is no small thing. If you are sort of broken already from the past, another rejection feels like it solidifies and ultimately confirms your own hopeless, unacceptable brokenness. It can, and does kill people. It makes people sick, too. It's so worth it to just do the emotional work. Connect with yourself. It has helped me a lot.

I can't stop listening to all your videos I must say I am feeling stronger and I'm learning to say nope ! Thank you for your wisdom

What if the urge to merge is gone! It seems safer to be alone than to merge, per se! It really affects my job also. I just want to do the job eight hours and go back to me. I do not get lonely and I don't know if that's normal! Love your light heartedness. Maybe I'm isolating, but I can take care of me. I myself have never been loved, ever. Would not know what it looks like or feels like! Is this bad?

Please Do not get upset, Richard💛 We need you.

I believe underlying my codependency is a belief that if I am true to myself I will lose all love (what happened in my childhood). I am working at changing that belief and hope that will shift the codependency.

Ricky, your work is amazing, and we are all privileged to be able to hear this information. Thank you really much ! Cheers

Thank you, I appreciate your intellectual and philosophical dialogue and your authentic lived experience

Your videos are terrific. So glad you are back. Take good care of yourself. Still listening to your power walks etc on your Discipline course and your older videos. Your voice is so uplifting. 😊😂😂

being that you curse some, alternative new age and down to earth with a twist of silliness and compassion. You rock!!

Eloquently spoken. I thought I had educated myself and healed and bang! Co-dep hits once again. Sending you healing thoughts

Great answer to the question on solitude. I have been forced in a huge way to face myself and now I see how important it can be to finding one's true self. I need a balance personally. You are such a beautiful person! Much Love and gratitude. Finding you and your work is such a turning point, it's like I get more long missing puzzle pieces nearly every time I watch one. I can't wait to start a coaching program with Spartan. I feel so much more hope. I never thought I would find the right help. Thank you for your massive gifts.

Ironically, I just opened up to my therapist about how in the past I held on to so much hate for my ex (possible narc/BPD) I currently feel that I am grieving for the dream of what we could have had and of course all the good times we had because it we had a lot fun, and we connected on a lot of levels I'm not sure I can fully feel with my current 2 year boyfriend who tries to understand my past and my disorders which sometimes I have trouble fully understanding. I've loved your videos since I started watching them over 2 years ago. And I have endured and grown. Thank you. Tbere isn't a time limit for my grievance. I may have thought that I moved past it but that was just a small part... This person effected me in such a way. I am allowing myself as much time as I want to grieve and if other people I am close to such as my significant other do not understand which is frequent, I'm still going to do what is best for me and my healing process.

Your videos have helped me SO much. It wasn't until five months ago when I suffered a pretty severe panic attack, that I found myself sitting in front of a random Psychiatrist, who just so happened to be non-conventional, and at a free/by donation Clinic, no less. Funny thing is the only other time I ever visited a Psychiatrist was right near the beginning of the four year relationship between me and my ex narcissist. The first one did nothing for me but charge a lot of money. It was by the grace of god that the second one pulled me out of the depths of destruction, just in time. My health had been declining rapidly. I am 42 years of age. 5' 5", and it is a real challenge to stay over 100lbs. if that. I really hate it. I used to be strong and athletic. The panic attack was the tip of the iceberg and a real jolt to the core, which I have been recovering from since. Totally frightening. I believe I will survive it and come out stronger than ever. Seeing everything as clearly as I do now - my mental patterns, and why they have caused such a destructive cycle all my life, and how they have led to where I am now - is some days totally debilitating, and I fear actually losing my mind. Blessings to you for being here for so many who really need it.

Taking care of yourself is a great example for the rest of us.

I can actually feel a lot of sympathy because of your recent bad experiences.... I have noticed, that when I have had a reason to grieve about something in my life (like when my loving grandmother passed away, which was a bad heartache), I always take the opportunity to grieve my lost childhood and the normal mother I never had, while I'm at it. It kind of makes the grieving feel good, and I also feel like I have taken a step forward when I come out of it.

"Dirty Dolphin Anus" so true so funny!! i laugh my ass off everytime I listen which has been since 2016 - my life experiences led me to you. You have a gift of expression and humor, your depth blows my mind - I sincerely love u for all that you are and all that you give us clogged dolphin bung-holes!" 🥰💃 💙

Good to hear from you with a longer video. Sending you good vibes

thanks for the uploads, It helped me understand and navigate a situation at work that I saw coming a mile off because of your videos. I still had to leave because when they are out to get ya, they get ya through others if not directly ,if you dont react to their nonsense,they smear you, but I stayed calm, didnt take any bait and just watched the bizarre behaviour as I was being messed with. Narcs are like clockwork. Predictable. I had watched most of the other videos and was going to ask for another longer type upload last week but I know you are super busy and hoped you would get around to it. Keep up the good work.

Most informative and entertaining life coach ever!

You're a true gift!

It’s awful. I’ve lost both of my parents in the past two years. My narcissistic boyfriend had discarded me and hoovered me back up a few times over this time too. I’ve had to make a deal with myself to keep away from him. But yes it feels like death. It affects everything in your life and makes it very difficult to live life. Flashbacking non stop. I also emigrated so I’m far away from all of my family and my ex husband is now with a woman 20 years younger. Trying to hang in there for my son. He’s been with me alone for 5 years since he was 8. So I’ve been a stay at home mum. Now o need to find a job and I feel like I’m not able much as I want to be. My life used to be good. I can’t find my old self. I don’t have anyone. Friends are few and far between because I’ve hidden myself away.

Richie, I love the vid. Thanks so much for coming back! I've been in a depressive state lately as well and your encouragement gives me the courage to feel the feels! Love you! Take care of yourself. P.S. I wish the US wasn't so violent. I grew up in poor areas and it's like living amongst animals, once the pack singles you out your vulnerable meat. Makes me ashamed to be an American, especially now with the current state of political affairs...head in the sand for now, otherwise I'm constantly outraged ugh.

Periods of Solitude brings Freedom through introspection.

I was once in a codependent relationship until I realized how damaging it was for both of us I thought we would both be better off if I ended it but at the time I think it was safe to say she disagreed, I hope she realizes now I did it for our mental health but that day still haunts me sometimes...

Our friend Richy is back. Yay!

I one read A Grief Obseved by CS Lewis....about his feelings of grief when his partner died...I related to it on the level of the death of a relatioship....alot of the same feelings

I have been reading codependancy for dummies and this pain this morning I can take no more of.people n my job stomp all over me!I am such an isolated girl w no real friends.my family n ex r ugly and I can no longer take it!I'm crying this morning.heartbreak is the essential part I'm feeling n I'm just crying right now as I begin to heal n stand up to everything!the ego starts dying n inner self emerges,ugly,yet the fight is needed for inner n outer peace.

You so nailed it. I am struggling with the grief of only having one child when I always wanted more. Another aspect is the grief over losing my most attractive years to the narc.

Richard. You are a welcome relief from my living hell. Thank you!

This was absolutely wicked LIVE! Some seminars in cold & wet Lancashire - pretty please. Awesome teaching style with plenty of humour! Brilliant.

This is so very strange.. I had just recently realized that although I have understanding of my childhood issues and the trauma bonding of my relationship with someone I think is a narcissist, I was not moving forward.. and I had come to the point where I had to stop watching the videos .. it was then that I realized that what I hadn't done was get over my heartbreak... Please talk more about how we can get over this.

I do agree with your position on CPTSD and PTSD vs Co-Dependency. The way I look at it is, CPTSD/PTSD is "acute" and can be dealt with and overcome, but Co-Dependency is more chronic and, therefore, needs longer "working on", if you will.

Thank you so much for this Richard , I need to stop looking back to figure out my future. I definitely need tools so that I can begin to make progress . I learn something every time I watch one of your videos and I'm truly grateful for all that you share , we survivors have much in common . So much of what you say resonates deeply within me. Thank you for guiding me to a better path of forgiveness and healing.

Laugh out loud and bloody impressive Richard. Thanks

IMHO Every individual needs a time to be alone with self to reflect, introspect, observe one's thoughts and be centred and feel grounded even before outside stimulation. Yes as you said very correctly we don't realise that outside people are affecting, influencing and this disturbs connecting with our inner self for the purpose of healing.🙏

Hi Richie Thank you for your guidance plus you are easy on the eyes an extra bonus. Lastly your sense of humor is the best. You help make this journey doable in spite of living the narcissistic nightmare

glad to see a long video by you...it's been a while

What a great description of the codependent and when you know/feel that you are better. It is an everyday struggle for me to learn to set boundaries and balance giving and taking. I have to really think about it......Thank you for your time and vids. They are helping me understand me!!!

Hi Richie - in SA and the States in some parts the tank top for men is called a wife-beater vest. Go figure! This was an awesome talk. Thank you for the wisdom delivered with your brand of humour!🙏🏽💛🌈🇿🇦

I moved to France 2010. I had to learn French and went through a lot of things as an operation+breaking up+being without a job and never had time to really stop and Then I found myself alone 2014 in France still.. and that's when it all came flooding. I have always thought I was strong and here I was with tears running down my face, for no reason.. just going to the store. That was the beginning of the journey of my inner development. Today I'm leaps from where I was and since then I keep on working on myself, peeling off one layer and finding another level... but just to say that me being and feeling utterly alone started the depression for me.

Feel like I’ll be alone forever now.

I wish we were best friends and we could just go grab a beer and talk about life. I think I would actually be happy with life.

- in cyberspace, no one can hear you scream - JORDAN PETERSON? Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!! (headdesk) Now that I got that out of my systerm (it was interfering with listening), back to the episode. You're still awesome, Mr. Grannon

I’ve been watching your videos for 6 months and it’s helped me tremendously!

Oh God thank you so much for covering this topic right now! Just when I needed it 😥 I was in the middle of a panic attack due to a breakup 2 days ago (and that after a lot of shit in my life, like my life is total shit), I was literally out of breath, chocking, and the only thing I thought is to watch one of your videos in order to ding something that could soothe me, cause yeah, that's what they do to me (I healed from my divorce -a narc- with you, you don't know this but we've spent many nights together 😉 Me listening to you throughout the night..). Sorry for your last challenges, hope you feel better. WE LOVE YOU 💙

“ Soprano’s of DNA “.. 😂 - yeah, I was devastated for years after my narc husband left me. I wasted years trying to figure out where I went wrong. ~ So I had to repeat the drama Rama with another man.. and yes .. this time I have clarity .. 😄🤣🙃😅

My overreaction to a certain situation recently cued me in to my still needing to work on my CPTSD. Bring on the hand mnemonic!!

@26:00 pathologizing heartbreak - worst idea ever! I tried that trying to get answers and went into a spiral!

God I loved your intro talking about the elves ! Your humor is so great ! Ty for this video !!! Love your transparency and humble approach! ❤️👏😜🙌

Richard, I can't understand how any woman could break your heart - you are so awesome in every way! I'm going through heartbreak and wasn't even in a relationship with the guy. Thought he was interested then bam, no contact. It sucks 😕 Wish I could sit with the feeling like you recommend but am abusing THC in the evenings because I'm fed up with feeling raw and empty and it's the most effective way to numb out.

I was "insane", sleeping with strangers because I was abused. I was being abused, and was abused as a child. This I knew kept me safe somehow...sleeping with random people. I am the one attracted to very dangerous men. I am still alive at 51. The for the grace of the Gods go I. I have been celibate for two years, so I wasn't dragging other humans into my dirty dolphin water.

You are very good at your trainings...Just from watching your videos I feel better, and I am thriving...People who want be healed instantly is because they are not ready to change and work for it.

Urge to Merge! 1:16:15 - When were you in Portland (“the hipster place” ha ha!)? I live outside of Portland and can completely understand getting depressed by being there. I hope you come again - there are great places in and out of Portland that are much less depressing. Nice, even.

I've only just found your channel this week and really love your sense of humour. I didn't realise I had some co-dependency issues until recently. Finding ways to create healthy boundaries and remembering to put myself first continue to be challenging.

Heartache and grief. I try to understand as much as you telling in this video. Yes my relations where all codependend relations, i now know. I am what you call the Fawn type person. I am grieving now ( 3 months) about the loss of this woman (NPD?) who i love/loved? very much, although she did some serious damage to my by lying her socks off future faked the hell out of me and left me from one day to another, I still take her back any minute. Thats not oke, but my mind is in constant scream for being with this person. I have no clue what to do. Did two intakes by a therapist now and he told me that i have a lot of signs related to borderline. Thanks for making things a bit more clear.. I dont know what scares me more, going on like this or end it all.. Looking for closure, looking for answers is what drives me crazy, i can not let go of this constant voice inside my head. To be left aloneby somebody who said she was my best friend, lover etc.. is a unbearable dark feeling. ps, i will never see Flipper in the same way i did before this video.. Stay save and much Love from The Netherlands..