My brothers responded to my coming out as trans by congratulating me on becoming our parents' new favorite daughter. Our older sister, whom previously had been the lone girl in a household full of boys, took it well.
@@jackmunch6978 Tell that to my parents. They've been if anything annoyingly accepting. They were already on board with my sister's trans husband (happily married for nearly eight years, just welcomed their first daughter about two weeks ago) and my nonbinary cousin, so I knew I'd have a safe landing. In fact just before I posted the comment you're responding to my mom and I were having a laugh over just how nonsensical womens' clothing sizes are together. The people who matter to me see me and accept me for who I really am. You are just some troll on the internet who doesn't know the first thing about me. It's adorable that you think I give half a shit about what comes out of your face hole.
I came out to my mom when I was 14, and it went like this: Me: “Hey, can you drive me to the movies? I’m going on a date!” Mom: “Oooh, what’s his name??” Me: “it’s Sophie.” Mom: “Aw sweet, have fun!”
My family did the “How to React to Your Kids Coming Out” video! We are a real family, yes. And think the last one was probably the closest to our real reaction. Just letting him know he was loved. ❤
My coming out was so funny. I came out as bi to my mom this year, it went really bad but that's not the point. When I came out to my mom i cried with a friend because my mom was mad, this same friend became my boyfriend and he is very good at computer science (which is my dad's passion). So he did a program for me wich print "dad i am bisexual" and we send it to my dad. I was really nervous but my dad literally had the best reaction, he came to my room and asked me how the program worked, i asked "did you run it?" He said "yes" i asked "did you read the message?" He said "yes. How did you created a list with the message in it? I can't do it in my program" i said ".....you write L=[ ] and then L.append("m") for each letter of your messages...." He said "thanks" Months later he helped me with my costume for pride. He never asked anything about it; we don't talk about it. He just knows.
@Stop IGBT I have a question, did you watch the video? how did you come across this video? you watch a lot of LGBT content to have come across this video, it's very gay don't you think?Do you have passions in life? Do you spend your afternoons texting gay people? Sounds very gay right? 😅 Burn everything you want my darling you have to get rid of your negative emotions 💕
My proudest mom moment was when my daughter (then 12) came out. Her: Mom, I think I like girls Me: I don’t care is you’re a lesbian. I do care if you’re a lesbian that fails math. Two years later she’s now in the advanced math class
Well…I guess the math checks out. 🤔 All jokes aside. You sound like the best mother on earth. My parents are against the LGBT community. So I’ve hidden that I’m gay and a trans woman from them. The rest of my siblings know that I’m gay. They don’t know I’m trans because I’m still figuring stuff out. And can’t test anything because of parents.
Maybe she never failed maths on purpose, like maybe it was just her brain not being developed completely in that part. Had that too, sucked in school till I turned 13 and then boom. Now I even study computer science. So keep in mind that it just might her brain still developing, but school doesn't care about it. But you're doing such a great job at parenting!
@@shadowking278 My daughter cried when she told me because she was afraid of what I would say. So I understand the anxiety that you feel. I hope that you get to a place when you can be open with your family.
I remember coming out to my parents It didn't go well. They weren't very supportive of me being trans And now they call and text me constantly threatening me with violence if I don't come home I am so glad I'm not there anymore Edit: For anyone asking, I'm fine, I have might not have a family of blood, but I have a family of friends. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's true. And im thinking of talking to the police about it. Thank you all for your advice
We had this conversation at work today regarding a child with autism and other disabilities who's parents are pretty upset. I always say if you are a parent you need to love and support the child you get, not the one you wanted or envisioned. If you have a child you better be prepared for them to be LGBTQ+, AUTISTIC, DISABLED OR ANYTHING ELSE!!! I love this:)
When I came out to my mom as bi she said all the cheesey stuff 'i love you anyway' and all that. Then she said, and I quote, "You know I married your dad, but if I had found the right girl..." LMAO
A similar thing happened when I told my father. He said he made choices in his life not to be that way. I always wondered why my parents were together. I understood then it was to avoid him admitting his bisexuality.
To those debating whether or not they want to come out: You don't have to. You're allowed to keep it to yourself for as long as you're comfortable with for reasons that are entirely your own, thus, valid.
@@shadowldrago yes my siblings are all super supportive and my friends as well, but my parents are a bit iffy, my dad is more supportive towards me because he had a similar experience being Ace, and being into a marriage, and my mom is still a bit conservetive about the LGBTQ+ stuff
thank you so much for saying this often when i watch videos like this i feel like i must come out sooner or later no matter what and that just... doesn't feel good to think about
I like to watch happy coming out videos, because my family didn't accept me when I came out as trans/enby and bi. I wish every lgbtq+ kid will be accepted and loved!!
I remember when I came out to my parents as gay, my mum went "you're still alive and my son so, nothing else matters to me" and my dad... he literally went "worked that out 10 years ago when you were dancing around the living room to the spice girls and then wanted to go to theatre school and loved musicals. As long as you're happy, that's all that matters". I was really apprehensive to tell them, but it seems like I was anticipating incorrect responses.
This made me laugh when reading your dad's response. I can picture it in my head and him thinking "well ,my son is gay" and then he just goes back to whatever he was doing.
When my daughter came out to me as bi and trans, my response was basically "tell me something I don't know". A mama always knows. So proud of her. 🏳️⚧️🩷💜💙
@Stop Igbt hi there, are you okay? I can't help but wonder if you need a friend or a helping hand when you've decided to enter such a supportive place to show such anger. Nobody was attacking you so I'm concerned about you. Please let me know if you need some resources to help with your mental health. Please take care and be kind to yourself and others.
@@hellokristi how is she hi and trans? In fact, without being homophobic, try to tell me how I know I’m a gay man. Point is trans people are homophobic bigots and you raised a homophobic bigot
Thank you. 🥰 I really needed that. My parents are against the LGBT community. So I haven’t told them about me being a trans female. And being gay. Also the second tic tok made me cry. 🥺
I cried so hard at the end. I wish my mom reacted that way to me coming out as trans, now any time I mention getting a haircut she yells at me for “wanting to look like a boy” 🥲
@RunOut A purple cup?! I don't see how someone could be upset about the color of a cup. It's just something you drink from. Good luck and I hope your family reacts better to your coming out than they did over a cup.
When I came out to my mom as trans, I didn't cry but I think it was because I was in shock LOL I had built it up in my head that it was probably going to be a huge thing. My parents are very religious and have made negative comments about LGBT+ people in the past. But then when I gave her a little note I had written about what transgender was and how I felt that way; she was just like "So you feel like you're a guy and want to go by Evan now?" And I was like "yes..." And she was like "Okay, well I'm not surprised. I always figured you might be gay or something. But this makes since. I'll try to call you Evan from now on." I did not expect her to be so chill with it at all and so I was just like in shock for a bit after LOL
I had one of those quiet dads and it was really nice cuz one night, I didn’t ‘come out’ but I’d been dropping hints for years and they just accepted it. So one night we were having a bbq and before we went to bed he was like, “I don’t care who you love, you’re still my kid.” And I he gave me a hug and we all just went to bed. It was really sweet and I don’t think I’ll ever forget it. My mom said he used to be homophobic when he was younger so it meant a lot more after that.
This is my mom… I’ve been dropping hints for a while and she asked me while I was out at breakfast, would you tell me if you were dating a boy? Would you tell me if you were dating a girl?”(im a girl btw) as well as other things basically saying I don’t care. Yet the only person I have told is my uncles girlfriend. As I struggle to find my gender identity and struggle to erase my Christian upbringing…
Hello lovely people in the comments, as of this monday i´m officially non-binary and named Sasha :) I was so nervous that morning, scared something would go wrong, some paperwork missing or something else not working out - but it did! I´m just so happy and relieved. Just wanted to share ☺
I came out to my parents separately. My dad thanked me for telling him, told me he had kind of figured it out, then told me how proud he was of me for coming out and being my authentic self. My mam simply said, “Do you think I don’t know that?” 😂 Edit to add: This was very close to Christmas, and my sister got mad, not because I’m trans, but because she’d planned on getting me trans flag socks as a little “btw I know and I love you 😉” and I ruined her plans by coming out 😂
I'm really happy that these were a dose of positivity. I came out as trans to my parents a few days ago (on Trans Day of Visibility, which was also the day that my university had a Pride Prom which gave me the opportunity to wear a dress in public for the first time) but so far my parents haven't been taking it well. I've at least gotten them to calm down and start asking questions rather than making assumptions (like my mom assumed just because I went to prom in a dress that I'd be dropping out of college even though I literally only have 3 weeks until I graduate). Thankfully I have the full love and support of my friends who have been doing their best to give me tips on how to handle this situation. Hopefully I'm able to turn this around into a more positive experience. Wish me luck!
Sending you all the luck and hugs if you want them. Im glad that you have friends you can rely on and that are there for you. Also: I hope you had a great prom, i´m sure you looked fabulous! 💜
Pride prom?! Wish I went to your school. My prom was a silent one because of Covid. So it was boring. Also i wish I found out I was a trans female when I was younger. I’m 20 years old. Still living with my parents that grew up in the 50s.
My views on LGBTQIA have changed drastically in the last few years. I've gone from very anti all of it to learning how wrong I was and realizing that I'm demisexual. I'm still growing and learning but one thing I know for sure is that if any of my kids come out to me as anything, I will absolutely accept them. I also have decided that if my niece or nephews come out, I'll be their safe place, because I know my brother won't be.
I am so prozentig you for growing as a person and changing to the positive! Good on you. And good luck on your further journey Thank you for being that open for your family ^^
So glad you were able to grow in your views! I was very similar myself, but I'm so glad in some ways that it was like that for me. Gives a bit of hope that my family might be able to change too. So glad your nephews and nieces will have a safe space! That's amazing
Me too, I began as uneducated, then my (ex but unrelated incident) friend came out to me, began becoming an ally, realizing I was aroace... Going from She/her to she/they, back to she/her, then to any pronouns, they/them to acquaintances and any for closer friends, and he/they for acquaintances and any for closer friends. It was quite a journey. Enough about me, I'm so glad you've decided on what you would do if any of your nieces or nephews come out as you know it may be unsafe or damaging for them to be in a toxic, hateful environment. Thank you for deciding you will be their safe space if any of them come out
I am slowly realizing I’m lesbian(or bisexual, idk yet it’s confusing) and I’m not cis(I don’t feel like a girl or a boy but idk a label yet) but I am having trouble accepting myself as I was raised Christian and although I have never been anti lgbtq+ specifically and would never shame anyone. I am struggling to learn to accept myself(doesn’t help my grandma is really Christian and tells me how important church is to her…)
@@AnnabethOwl You could probably be bi with a preference, and although many Christian people are homophobic/transphobic, the bible says nothing about trans people and says nothing about homosexuality. I understand your grandma is very religious, but you could try to explain to her how you feel, and make sure to teach her that being LGBTQ+ isn't something to feel negatively about.
When I came out to my mom, it was a lot like the last one. She said “You are my *child*. I’ve loved you from the moment I knew you existed.“ I was crying then just like I am now and she hugged me. I wish that was how it went for everybody who comes out to their parents.
"You do not bring country music into this house." This reminds me of when I came out to my immediate family. My (now former) step-father and I used to watch NASCAR, and were Dale Earnhardt, Jr. fans his entire career. My step-father and I had always had our issues (especially since he lost his job, and I became the sole breadwinner), so I wasn't sure if he would be supportive of me coming out- which he turned out to be. Now, I came out around the same time that Earnhardt, Jr. retired from full-time racing, and that left my step-father and I looking for new drivers to root for. He became a Martin Truex, Jr. fan, while I became a Kyle Busch fan. Now, we had both hated Kyle Busch at one point, and I got more grief for being a Kyle Busch fan than for being trans.
This is so nice to watch. I came out to my mom about five years ago, and she just pretends it never happened, so I'm sucking up second hand acceptance.
😢 I did cry at the last one. It reminded me of coming out to my family, namely my sister. I told her I was trans and without missing a beat ahe said she loves and supports me and will be there on this journey with me. Now I'm crying thinking about it again.
I'm a lesbian and Non-Binary but while my family are supportive of my sexuality (except for my little brother), they're 100% NOT SUPPORTIVE of my gender identity. They never call me by my preferred name and pronouns and have told me countless times that they will never call me my preferred name since they've known me by my birth name and will continue to call it me Oh my big brother is a "super straight". He said that trans women aren't women and he wouldn't dare a trans woman because they're "not real women"
I think this is the only time I can say that drop kicking a child is acceptable. All jokes aside. I hope he comes around. I’m lucky enough that all of my siblings are supportive. It’s my parents that are the problem. But that’s why they don’t know that I’m gay and trans.
I knew ahead of time that my dad would be incapable of respecting my identity or using my name (he won't even use my birth name. He makes stupid nicknames that make no sense for everyone close enough to my immediate family, and basically forces it on me because I hate it, to the point that after a while, I was begging the gods to get him to just use my deadname because that would at least stop his stupid nicknames) Honestly, I refuse to view people who do not respect, accept, and love someone else to be qualified as "family". At that point, they're nothing more than an unfortunate branch of the bloodline. "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is something I honestly obsessively mention in comments like this because the version basically everyone has heard at least once is a manipulative paraphrasing that redacts "of the covenant" and "of the womb".
Don’t mind me asking if you are non-binary how can you be a lesbian how does that work? If you are non-binary does that mean that you are not a woman how does it work?
Also. I kinda read your comment wrong. But still. Why would they be supportive of your sexuality and not be supportive about your gender identity. That’s just being picky. Either you support your child fully and absolutely. Or you leave them alone and allow them to figure stuff out on their own. And I know that if or whenever I have a child I will always choose the former. Parents should always be supportive of most of the things that their children do. Unless it is a danger to the child pr anyone else.
I’m actually going to be coming out this Saturday to my mom who is 100% unsupportive (that’s not bias talking) and my dad who is supportive. I’m extremely nervous, but I know that this is absolutely something I wanna do. This video gives me hope that things might not be as bad as it seems. I’m glad that this showed up in my recommendations 😊
@@wemblyfraggle70 it didn’t go very well whatsoever and I’m still dealing with the ramifications of it, but my friends have been nothing but supportive. I’m incredibly lucky to have such wonderful people in my life, family or otherwise.
I'm not part of the lgbt at all. But I am part of the autism spectrum disorder. And my mom once asked me if I was gay because I barely interact with men. I told her I'm not (which is true btw) and her response was: "I'm going to be happy either way for you!" and I instantly knew why she said that so I replied back with: "Because you'd be surprised I found someone that isn't a cat that wants to be with me and bear my chaotic existance." the look on her face was priceless. Because I was right.
I came out to my mom as transmasculine through an actual panic attack. So maybe not the most ideal situation. She was very accepting and even made me a trans/nonbinary cake. The inside layers were the nonbinary flag and the outside icing was trans flag colored. It was so sweet, literally!
I almost did that. I think I was having a mental breakdown because of all the stress with school and my computer science teacher telling me he wouldn’t help me anymore. I have ADHD and as of now been diagnosed with autism. So I was arguing with her when it escalated. In my mind I was saying “are you asking me if we should go to that mental health place in a mocking way because I’m gay?” But I held my tongue because she grew up in the 50s and is definitely anti LGBTQ. Before that I just yelled that I’m worthless. I just shut down after that. But every now and then I would mutter that I’m useless. I don’t think that now. I just think that stuff piled up too fast. I’m starting to think that I should seek therapy.
"some of you may cry, myself included" hecking wholesome. I love your tangent about not having kids if you can't love them for being LGBTQIA+, unfortunately some of us have parents who simply don't love us because we're not perfect.
Well.. No-one is perfect.. But, if you are a decent human being, with respect toward others and who let people live their lives as themselfs.. Yes, you ARE perfect.. 😊 I just don't understand.. If people don't hurt others.. Who cares how they live their lives and with whom???
You can tell how heavy it weighed on the guy at the end. I was the same way. Admitting it to myself was the hardest part, but actually saying it to someone else, god I was a wreck. I am so glad that people are becoming more open about it now and hopefully there will be a day when no one feels the need to hold it in and then cry it out.
I never was accepted unfortunately. My mother and I aren't on speaking terms and she claims that trans people, gay people and people of the lgbt+ ruined her family and she's always told me she wished trans people were, ahem, un-alived.. and it really hurt that she couldn't support me. But I'm happy for other people when they are accepted because its just really wholesome and I just like seeing other people of the community happy and accepted.
I teared up at the last video. I found out I was pansexual almost a year and a half ago and now non-binary and I always feel like I'm hiding this huge part of myself... but my parents haven't exactly shown that they are okay with lgbtq+ community. I'm trying to wait until I eventually get my own apartment and then come out bc at least then I feel like I'll be in a safer place.
I am a parent. I hope that none of my kids will need to ‘come out’ as such. I hope they have/are being parented authentically so that their gender identity (either trans/cis/nb) and sexuality (whether it is lgb, het, or a) are not issues to be feared or announced. I hope they are able to express any of their identity (unless it’s country music or a desire to be a corporate hedge fund financier, intentional criminal, or religious cult leader- I do have my limits) with joy knowing that their mum will accept them. I trust they will be happy for me to meet any romantic partners knowing I will welcome them as long as they are kind to my child.
😭 it take so much courage. I remember in high-school I sorted out I was bi and I had this supper cool teacher who taught psychology amongst other things. I don't remember exactly how it started but we were talking after class and he asked if I was questioning my sexuality and I denied it reflexively. I felt so shitty for lieing and having to hide who I really was even though I knew he would be supper supportive that I went in at lunch and totally broke down and came out to him. He was the first adult I actually came out to and it was such a relief it still gets me all emotional.
"We wouldn't be parents if we didn't want you to be happy" Louder 👏 for 👏 the 👏 people 👏 in 👏 the 👏 back 👏 You are not a real parent if you don't want your child to be happy.
Seeing other people's coming out stories going well is so wonderful yet also somewhat bittersweet-ish as mine went down pretty badly, but seeing people being so wonderfully accepted makes me so happy for the future, where hopefully every coming out story is a good one
I can’t come out. My parents grew up in the 50s. So they are against the LGBT community. The closest I’ve ever been to coming out was when I was talking a trip with my mom to run some errands. I choked then. But I’m glad I did. Because later on I overheard my parents talking about the LGBT community in a bad way.
@@shadowking278 Something similar happened when I came out, I really came out because I wanted my parents to accept me, and since I did I found out over time how bad my parents could be - which is more devastating because they're so wholesome and nice except about LGBTQ+ things, mental issues, and most things not "christian values", mainly things like sexual "purity" and autonomy - its just such a jarring change in character
It was the opposite for me, where having my step mother and my father hate me worked. I was trying to cut them out of my life for being really abusive, and when I moved away they suddenly acted like they cared about me. I told them to stop contacting me and I even blocked thier numbers, but they would still email me. So one year I decided to send my terribly anti lgbtq, racist father a lovely little f you card on fathers day. At the very end I came out as trans. Worked a treat and I haven't heard from them in years lmao
As someone with very unsupportive parents but accepting friends and other family members this video really hit hard. All I've wanted was for my parents to say that it doesn't change anything, but I'm glad that some people do have this amazing environment and that's the environment I want to create for my future children
Not only did I get the Shrek reference, my father used the exact line earlier today. But he has been using it more-or-less continuously for almost two decades now, so...
I got outed to my homophobic brother on accident and was scared he’d tell the rest of my family- he said he wouldn’t. Months later (a couple weeks ago) I came out bc fucj that tiny closet and that brother said “I TOLD YOU SHE LIKED GIRLS!!” My brother has done a lot of shitty things to me but he really went over the line this time.
Drop kick him. >:3 ……I’m starting to realize that my method of dealing with people who are against the LGBT community is to drop kick them……oh well. :3 All jokes aside. That is really mean. Trying to out your sister just to get them in trouble. Hopefully he comes around……if he doesn’t. There’s always my option. >:3 And remember. We here. In the comments and the community. We will support you. No matter what. You’ve got an army backing you up. Never forget that. 🥰
My dad said a plain: ok, thanks fpr sharing (I was 33 and he nearly died the day before) My mom cried and said: forgive for not being ready earlier to listen to this (I was 28) My brother said: I HAVE A BROTHEEER!!! 😍
My mom criesd like every time i cut my hair, my dad just went like "do i have to do something?, if not, then do whatever you want" Then my mom bought me new clothes and my dad gave me money to do the name changing and stuff... I have 2 younger brothers and they started telling their friends " i don't have a sister, we are just three brothers, i don't know what are you talking about "... I'm 30 and this were in 2019
We love the gender gaslighting XD I also had a friend that gaslighted their family like „oh my bestie? No he’s a boy what do you mean? Always been a boy! Have you not been wearing your glasses when he was over?“ It was so cute! We love supportive families! Sending you love
I cried to the last one. Like actual tears. Coming out was never an issue to me (I'm bi and I have mentioned me also liking girls to my parents, but they are so accepting that it doesn't even feel "coming-out worthy") but just. That kid's worry, and the mom's amazing reaction about being so reassuring and saying it doesn't change anything.. I love them so much, this is an amazing video
As someone who was told i was making my moms cancer worse when i came out to her, it makes me happy cry immediately when i see parents like the last one who seem to think its silly for them to be nervous. Thats how it should be for everyone. That mom is a hero. All these accepting parents are really honestly saving their kids lives by being supportive. Its so important. 🎀
This comment resonated with me because while my mom _is_ accepting and supportive, (when I first told her I was not cis she went a bit overboard and kept suggesting new names, all of which sucked) my dad is a cishet white Catholic man that grew up on a farm, and he is visibly uncomfortable with diversity, and for a long time, I was telling my mom I knew he was uncomfortable with my identity, but she kept giving him the benefit of the doubt, and I did too, for a while. He enjoys turning to Fox News when my mom and I are in the room, especially during the shows of the worst of them. One time when it was just me, I noticed something he did that made me realize a pattern. He flips through channels, and if he sees Tucker Carlson's face and the word "transgender" on the screen, he flips back to FNC and leaves it on.
Was full on blubbering by the second video😂. I remember that scared feeling before coming out and that guilt about keeping it from my parents and particularly my mum and omg the relief and overwhelming emotion that just washes over you if they’re excepting
When I came out to my brother as trans he reacted super sweet. The thing is, I dreamt that night that I also came out as pan and ace so when I woke up I wasn’t sure if I came out at all 😂
My mum has passed on now, but when I told her I was trans, she said "I was wondering when you were going to figure that out!" She wanted me to find my own path but she knew all along 😂
I came out as trans to my parents recently and then 2 weeks later they helped me make signs for a Trans Day of Visibility demonstration, and they stayed at the demonstration with me for 4 hours 😭
My daughter never came out. She just brought her girlfriend, now her wife, home. Just like her brother brought his girlfriend home. And her sister brought her boyfriend, now husband, home. Because in our house love really is love and as long as you love my child and treat them well, I'm going to love and respect you back. If my daughter had felt the need to come out, I would have felt like a failure
I came out to my parents a few months ago, slowly made my way through close family and friends, and then finally announced it on Facebook yesterday. I've been in the closet for 12 years. At some point, I didn't think I'd ever come out, and definitely not make it this far. And I am so relieved and lucky to have had so much love and support around me! I feel like a giant weight has been lifted from my heart. It's like I've been holding my breath my entire life, and am finally able to take a deep breath of fresh air.
Put it in a Microsoft power point presentation. Old folks love that shit. But in all seriousness I'd say you just gotta sit and talk to them about it. Maybe find some videos you think could help.
I cried really hard at the end there hahaha. My parents are pretty homophobic and I'm so scared they'll find out I'm bi at some point. I'm gonna be honest, I wish my parents would react like that but I know they wouldn't. That kinda breaks my heart. But it does worm my heart to know that there are families out there that treat their children LIKE THEIR CHILDREN when they come out to them. That they love them no matter what, that they help them out how they can, that they support them and try to learn from them. I'm really happy to know that there are parents like that out there.
Long comment sorry. My gender-fluid teen came out to me when they were in the 3rd grade. The convo literally went = Them "Mom I think I like girls." Me "Cool, and?" A little bit later...them "Mom I think I like both boys and girls." Me "Okay, and?" The following week.. them "I am not sure but I think I was meant to be a boy, not a girl." Me "Okay, what do you want to be called? They kept changing trying to figure themselves out and I gave them the freedom to do so. Now they are gender fluid (even balance of fem and masculine presenting) pansexual and their twin brother came out as bi. I have to say tho that the day I felt like I was doing the right thing by letting them explore was also my proudest moment as a mom. I overheard a snip it of a conversation they were having with their friends when they were asked if I was "OK" that they were dating a girl. They turned to look at me showing me the camera so their friend group could see me and asked "Mom is it ok if I am gender-fluid, pansexual, and have a girlfriend?" I told her the same thing I said each time she asks "I don't care what you are or who you love as long as you are happy and who you are with treats you right." One of the friends asked how all of their parents could be ok with it. I could not help but laugh and respond before they did "I am pansexual, their dad is polyamorous pansexual, married to a nonbinary person, and their stepmom is bi. Why would we be upset?"
When I came out to my parents as bi, they were like "but you've only ever liked guys though?" and it's like "yeah... because I have a preference for men and I hadn't yet realised I also like girls." They also commented that I was acting like I wanted a medal or something and it's nice they didn't see it as such a huge thing, but also... coming out is kind of a big thing. They have made it clear that they accept me since, though. I think they were just a little confused because I didn't fit their expectations of what it might be like to have a bisexual child, what with me only ever expressing liking boys growing up and only realising I like other genders too at the age of 19.
Yeah, kinda the same thing for me. I recently came out as non binary to my parents, and while they're both supportive, they were kinda confused and didn't seem like they wholly understood.
I always love seeing happy coming out stories. Because my own with my family was definetly not positive. So i get so happy for those people who get support
PLEASE do more of these videos! I'm slowly building up the courage to come out to my mum and this video was so comforting to watch!! If you make more I promise I will make a coming out tik Tok that doesn't have copyrighted music so you can use it in a video hahaha
I DID NOT CRY! Yes, my eyes are running and my nose is stuffy, BUT that because of... allergies... allergies to heartfelt and emotional content! 😭 (These were all so beautiful! I was right there too at 2:38 about to cry)
Even though my mom and brother would accept me (dad not so much) I've never come out as bisexual. I didn't realize I was bi until I was around 20 and by then I thought it was too late to have a coming out announcement. I figured I'd just tell them if I happened to start dating a girl. Now I'm in my early 30s and the very next person I dated was a man and we are still together so the chances of us breaking up or otherwise not being together and me dating another woman is very slim, but it'd feel so awkward to just randomly announce it now. I wish ~20 year old me had just done it. But I'm overall a very private person and it just feels so personal to mention it. I think if my mom flat out asked me about my sexuality I'd answer honestly but actually coming out and saying it is hard. The only person who knows is my boyfriend and he is very supportive (although he was a little upset that we had been best friends for 5 years before I told him, and I only ended up telling him because he asked. it was a few months before we started dating).
I totally feel you. I also only realised I'm bisexual in my 20s but since I didn't have a girlfriend it felt weird to come out to my parents, so I didn't. But then at a Christmas dinner my stepsiblings said something that wasn't quite homophobic but definitely very heteronormative, so a few days later I just dropped it in a subordinate sentence completely on the side to that mother and now just sometimes point out when I think somebody is attractive. Not a proper coming out but it did the job 😂 🤔I can't remember whether I actually told my other mother. She's a lesbian trans woman and I've been slightly worried that, if I told her and then still ended up with a man, she would be disappointed 🙈 some of her friends definitely know and I might have mentioned some crushes so maybe she does, maybe she doesn't 😶🙈
@Olivia Wood. I figured out that I was gay when I was 17. I only recently found out I was a trans woman. Which is funny since I turned 20 this year. 🤔 I will never tell my parents because they grew up in the 50s. So they don’t like the LGBT community. The only people that know that I’m gay is my siblings. And the only one that might have a clue about me being a trans woman is my niece.
The country music one made me soooo much remember: when growing up (like 6 or 8 yo), my mum always told me "when you'll be older, and mate with a boy, or a girl, I'll always love you, I'll always love you no matter what people say. Unless. Unless you're becoming a PSG fan." And she was dead serious, I'm from the south of France, so OM is very important 😆 (for not french people, it's like Barça/Madrid type of antagonism, or Manchester/Liverpool I guess (?))
Hey, Andrew. You are 100% valid. I hope circumstances are currently or soon become ideal for you to live as your true self. You’re beautiful. We love you, and hope you live a long and happy life!
My mother would be afraid that supporting me and "letting" me be LGBT would condemn me to hell. I'm 32 by the way she doesn't get to "let" me be anything. Her rejection of who I am is out love, but expressed through a deep abiding fear. It's toxic to both of us and it breaks my heart that she can't see that. (I'm not out to her but I'm pretty sure she suspects.)
oml jamie ur so relatable! i love seeing transpeople showing their transitioning progress aswell i am not trans but it warms my heart whenever i see a trans peep happy with them selfs and who they really are i am demigirl and i just got my haircut to make me more comfortable with my gender and it feels AMAZING even the small things can make you feel better to my trans peeps out there, transitioning can be hard, or even worrying (worring about ur families opinions) BUT in the end it will give you the most happiness you have felt ever before
I had my coming out stolen from me because of my parents checking my Twitter. My dad reacted poorly and believed I was corrupted by the internet into being bisexual. My mom reacted fine but has since said some things that have made me uncomfortable about ever discussing anything involving being lgbtqia+. I've always been sad I had a happy coming out stolen from my in multiple ways
I cried at the last one, I was holding the tears like a champ up to that point but the "what're you getting upset for?" from the mom was the last straw it's been 14 years now since I've known I'm bisexual, I still haven't come out to my parents because I know my mom wouldn't take it well, she's hated ever subtle hints I've let out to test the waters. She said to my face that she wouldn't mind if my brother was gay or bi or whatever, but she draws the line at me being lesbian or bi or whatever because she thinks when it comes from a girl it's a perversion.. turns out my brother is straight and I'm not, and only my brother and my friends know that about me what's worse is that she has gay friends, and she works in a medical lab so she also spends a lot of time with trans people who come in to have their hormone levels checked etc, and she is so proud to talk about her patients and how grateful she is for being allowed to witness their transition and glow up, she says it breaks her heart when she spends time talking with them and they tell her they lost touch with their family because they have unaccepting families, and yet she isn't half as accepting or supportive when it comes to her own daughter. Sometimes I wonder if she's telling me this kind of things about her job because she senses I'm not straight and is trying to show me she changed her mind and would accept it now, but it's extremely contradicting to what she's said before and to her reaction when I say that an actress is so beautiful or whatever
I am in no place to analyse, but it sounds to me like she is projecting. She sees too much of herself in your potential situation to be rational about what is acceptable or not. Also, talking about her trabs patient might be à way to tell you that loving girls is fine IF YOU ARE A BOY. IDK this os the only way that she doesn't sound contradictory. I hope you're doing vetter since this comment, have a nice day
I have been trying to come out to my parents as trans for over 2 years, but speaking was way too hard even though I knew they would be okay with it. I saw the coming out cake reveal and decided to try it. Not only did it go well it really helped relieved most of the anxiety around the experience. Thanks for posting!
I got the Shrek reference, but didn't know you were actually making a Shrek reference until you said it, and I thought it was just me, but then you clarified so it was extra great! 😄
i agree coming out with cakes is the best way. about a year and a half ago i put a cake in front of my dad and brother that said 'im a guy; deal with it' and that was defo one of my best decisions (other then the 30 seconds when my dad thought my sister was the one who made it lol)
