Really appreciate these videos, they're a goldmine for learning organic Chinese conversations and I love how you put the Chinese characters, pinyin, and English as subtitles, it's extremely helpful
Yo you're really good with passing the microphone to two people in one interview, it's a really good talent. You pass it exactly when they stop talking, or when they need time to arrange their thoughts and ask the next person. You're a really good interviewer.
@@kenvinfavo1533 Agreed. Human psychology suggests that we ought to focus on the things we should do as it is difficult/unnatural to think in negatives. eg. Don't think of a pink elephant makes you do it because we struggle with notes. Not trying to defend poor male figures but women do realise that they can pick who they date right? Like, instead of choosing the aggressive, domineering, sexist toxic-masculine male who won't let you out of the house, pick someone else. Again I am not bashing women but letting them know they have the power to decide who they want to date as opposed to relying on natural attraction. The same goes for men.
@@blueicer101 i think the problem is that when women first date men, a lot of them change over time to become the aggressive, domineering, sexist toxic-masculine male you speak of. A lot of the time when they've fully shown their true colours, it's hard for women to escape. Either way, each situation has their own specific details so it's hard to generalise as a whole what women should or shouldn't do in those kind of situations.
@@kenvinfavo1533 I think how you approach complaints is the reason it can be detrimental to mental health. Complaints can be important in order to improve and fix things, even though it doesn't feel great to be criticised. If everyone just avoided complaining because they didn't want to risk bad mental health, nothing in the world would be fixed. However I think they should be done considerately in a way that a complaint becomes more of a "constructive criticism" then just outright bashing, because outright bashing is just pointless and makes you feel bad and yes, damaging to mental health.
Seems like the first girl was waiting a long while for someone to ask her this exact question, she had a lot of good points that I also heard often from Chinese friends. I hope for the best for her!
@@u235u235u235 yeah just like the anglos that are so insecure that they feel the need to insult chinese guys on the internet. I wonder what they are compensating for.
nah, she said she talks about this sort of thing with her friends and they can go all night about it; she's very well practiced in speaking on the subject! XD
21:50, Huge red flags, she contradicted herself saying men think women are more materialistic and worship money.........2 seconds later she says if you don't spend money on your gf your basically not showing love/interest in her.......then another 2 seconds later she says why does she need a guy if she makes her own money. I mean damn are men just ATM machines or something and we got no feelings? She just told on herself basically saying let me finesse you. I have heard but not realize some chinese women were that westernized. Praying for you Chinese men from Canada 🙏
these women scare the shit out of me. imagine thinking you're in love, but she's just in love with your money. they'll never be this honest with you when dating, so you'll never know...
The Redpill channels would have a field day with this video. Take note of how the girls pulled away from the guys at various points in the video. Ouch!
It is incredible how we are all the same regarding male-female relationships. It doesn't matter where you live the complaints are almost identical. Great channel Eileen. I just found you today.
Sometimes I read comments from people saying that one video on the channel is better than the others. I love the diversity of videos and levels, I watch them all and revisit the old ones. Thanks to this material I can keep myself excited to continue studying!
@@smoothbanana Why not? Chinese easily place all foreigners raised anywhere into one stereotype. Actually having stereotypes is very helpful for judging people. It does not always work but it works in 80% of the cases which is not bad.
还有呢，for Chinese-language learners, I HIGHLY recommend Eileen's channel and resources. Her videos are the BEST available. She provides real-life scenarious, introducing learners to 口语 and contemporary Chinese culture. Sign up!
*TOO FAST?* Shift (+) comma, or shift (+) period/dot are handy hotkeys for changing the playback speed on the go. Use "j" to skip 10 seconds back. Also, control the video's playback speed by speeding up or slowing down the video 5% at a time on desktop computers and laptops OR 25% at a time on smartphone! *Access the playback speed controls as follows:* *Desktop Computers and Laptops:* open the video, then go to the *lower right of the video's screen* and click on the *settings* icon (it looks like a GEAR). On the upper right of the options window that comes up, you will see the link "custom". Click on the "custom" link to control the video's playback speed by speeding up or slowing down the video 5% at a time. *Smartphones:* open the video and go to the *upper right of the video's screen.* You will see *3 dots.* Click on them and you will see the link to open the "playback speed" controls. Click on this link and you will be able to control the video's playback speed by speeding up or slowing down the video 25% at a time. Note that viewing the video on desktop computer/laptops gives you greater control over the playback speed (5% vs 25% on smartphones). *Mandarin Corner*
Shift (+) comma, or shift (+) period/dot are also handy hotkeys for changing the playback speed on the go. Use "j" or "k" to skip 10 seconds back or forth.
“I won’t [get upset], because this is up to him” Having dated my gf (Hunan local) for almost 2 years, this phrase still scares me 😂 whenever she tells me “it’s up to you”, that’s a hint that I should do something like get her a gift or send her 红包. I guarantee everyone that her boyfriend reacts the same way
Very good, thanks for your effort in producing this video. When you enjoy watching and listening to something, you are learning better than if it is just a dry and dull textbook lesson.
I love the street interviews, Eileen! The repeated vocabulary (in different contexts) and everyday expressions are so helpful. What do you use to make your subtitles, by the way? I'm always amazed by how clear they are.
Wow, these are super interesting Interviews and I must say this interviewer has a very good way with follow up questions. It's nice to see. I feel sorry for the women with their male problems which sound pretty typical but also very specific. However, I am looking forward to the male version where the men are complaining about women interview. I think that will be super interesting. Well done keep it up, this is really truly international and of deep social value.
普信 ； 普通且自信. Literal translation ：ordinary but/yet confident. That word seems to be lost-in-context/translation maybe. Depend on how "confident" is interpreted. Confident often related to positive trait. I suggest "overconfident" or "overproud" can be a good way to describe "ordinary but confident" word.
My complaint about my now husband is that he is the kindest and most caring, did I mention oh so handsome! Wow my other complaint is I traveled to the most beautiful country, China, to meet him and we will be married 2 years this week. Of course if anyone has my "complaints " they should consider themselves the luckiest girl in the world! My husband makes my heart race and my eyes fill with stars just to be with him everyday!
@@g718ny I've watched a channel about refused men or women, interviews with some Chinese men and women. in China, there are more men than women, so there are more single men than single women. young poor guys from villages can't have partners, because pretty girls tend to find rich guys in cities nearby.. He lives single, and he admits that sometimes he goes to prostitutes for s3x... on the other hand, women of 35 or more with stable career also have difficulties to have partners, because they'd rather be single than marrying a poor guy. the government arrange matching between stable women in towns with poor guys from villages, but the women are reluctant. That's what I have watched in a channel some time ago. Txs..
Well, a general rule of thumb: If you are looking for a 10/10 guy, you have to be a 10/10 girl, vice versa. Otherwise, manage and adjust your expectations accordingly.
Exactly, well said. Their expectations are out of the roof. This is bad.. that is bad.. I prefer this… over this. This way they will never find a suitable guy. No guy wants to date a picky combative woman. Plus it seems like traditional roles are being looked down upon. Little did they know traditional mothers are the happiest. Their woman “independent, financially strong mindset” will bring them nowhere.
On top of that I’ve noticed they always mention the “worst case scenario”. I can hardly believe every guy intentionally want to brag about money, when they offer to pay the bill. It’s shocking to me. I never knew feminism got into their heads. Men and women are not equal. They are different thus complementary. Seems like masculine men intimidate these women….
Fun video! I don't know why it showed up in my recommended since I have 0 interest in the topic but it was good! The interviewer (Eileen?) was very professional about following up with questions and clarifications. Excellent work. It's funny how people are so alike everywhere. As a guy watching this I felt like, "Guys can't win! If we don't buy dinner or nice things, we're 'stingy', and if we insist on paying, then we're accused of disrespecting women's independence or being possessive." Boys and girls are the same in China as everywhere else it seems :D
After watching this street interviews, sincerity is important in romantic relationship especially. If you aren't sincere and taking that person for granted, then you don't deserve to have this kind of relationship.
She sounds very bitter and is very down on anything romantic or happy. I doubt she has ever had a boyfriend, or if she did, she got dumped. Horrible attitude, like the worst of the girls in Shanghai.
She thought of herself as a product that male should buy over for a female. She don't understand love where both sides contribute....i think she might be deeply hurt by guys which makes her hate male
My biggest takeaways 1. Mom will always come first. You're #2, even if he says you're #1. 2. Be cunning and independant but don't let him know because it may hurt his ego. 3. Oily has nothing to do with cooking. 4. Straight men can still be gay 5. No woman in the world likes a common man with an inflated ego. This video made me curious to know what Chinese men think of Chinese women?!
So, I watched it and ummmmm...wow! That video made the women's complaints seem juvenile. My takeaways from that video: 1. Don't be like the women described... it's scary. 2. I actually feel bad for the men 😔. I'm really shocked. 3. I learned many new words. Too many to type.
Right at the right time. I'm about to end studying "Common complaints Chinese girls have about foreign guys" haha Maybe this one is the next one I should study
I have access to the website. I downloaded the PDF and the audio file. Then I write the words I don't know and I study the text and listen to the audio
China has a pretty interesting culture. I'm so intrigued by the 普信男 comment. I clearly understand the few ladies who were interviewed do not represent all the chinese ladies. However, the comment kinda makes me wonder why it even exist in the first place. I believe every man and lady deserves a healthy dose of self-esteem. And no matter how you look, there's something about your look that you can be proud of. No one deserves to be beaten down by negativity. The world is already harsh. Why can't people around help each other to make the world a better place? 普信男 clearly has a negative connotation to it. Ridiculing someone who thinks good of himself is really uncalled for. Has the person affected you in anyway when he/she thinks good about own appearance? Most probably not. So why belittle that person? And that is why the western culture does alot better than the eastern culture in this area. The parents brought up the children with encouragement and support- taking a more soft approach than to bring the child down. I am a Singaporean and I was brought up by my parents in a typical Asian manner. Throughout my lives, all my parents do is to criticize and always compare with others. Thus now as a parent, I make sure I give my daughter positive talk and facilitate self-esteem building with her. 中国有一个非常有趣的文化。我对普信男的评论很感兴趣。我很清楚接受采访的几位女士并不能代表所有的中国女士。然而，评论有点让我想知道为什么它首先存在。我相信每个男人和女人都应该得到健康的自尊。不管你看起来如何，你的外表总有一些值得你引以为豪的地方。没有人应该被消极情绪打败。世界已经很严酷了。为什么周围的人不能互相帮助，让世界变得更美好？ 普信男显然带有负面含义。嘲笑一个自认为不错的人是没有必要的。当他/她认为自己的外表好时，他/她是否以任何方式影响了你？很可能不是。那为什么要贬低那个人呢？ 这就是为什么西方文化在这方面做得比东方文化好很多的原因。父母以鼓励和支持的方式抚养孩子--采取比贬低孩子更温和的方式。我是新加坡人，父母以典型的亚洲人的方式抚养我长大。在我的一生中，我的父母所做的只是批评和比较。因此，现在作为父母，我确保我给我的女儿积极的谈话并促进与她的自尊建立.
Couple of things I’d like to explain from my perspectives. So called “普信男” isn’t really about self esteem but more leaning towards narcissism. Original term came from a female comedian roasting men. This is not Chinese culture. It’s rather a modern online “culture” which I hesitate to call it culture. There’re many aspects we can dive in to dissect why this became popular. 1) Douyin short videos exploding in modern times. Commonly it provoke emotions and different countries tend to have different points went virus. In this case, 普信男 is. 2) censorship on media in China. People tend to label things over quick as information and knowledges are not as accessible for most ppl. To sum it up. It’s merely a temporary online terms generated in modern times due to lack of education (non-academic) or poisoned by social media like TikTok (douyin)
Love the Dongbei accent, but I can hardly make out what speakers are saying. They seem to omit a lot of sounds. Do they do this even when reading hanzi syllable by syllable, i.e. depending on the word, they may modify of omit one or more of the hanzi? I suspect it is similar to how all English speakers pronounce "her" as "her", but in some parts "herb" becomes "erb". Hope someone can enlighten this curious person!
He has a very typical and thick Dongbei accent. They tend to drop a lot of sounds, add "er" at the end of some words, and pronounce "zh" as "z", but "z" and "zh". For example: "kuzao", he pronounced it as "kuzhao" in the video.
Fck me this language seems impossible to learn😭😭😭 and I thought Japanese was difficult. Hats off to you guys who've actually come close to mastering Mandarin or Cantonese
ngl i think most complaints are accurate, well the paying parts still have much to debate, personally i would pay because i am the one with the semi-sable job at the time being
if every girl doesn't like 渣男，then where do 渣男find girls to date？ also that girl who said herself is "ugly" is actually pretty cute. some girls think so highly of themselves and expect high bar for guys, only to be played by those high value guys, yet still not appreciate nice guys.
So no toxic masculinity, no stingy, no rude, no trying to act "cool", no trying to reach for high level girls while having little to none self worth, especially no control freak.
They are selfish and arrogant. If you know China, you will know that most of them are only children. Girls are usually taken special care of, and parents usually do not teach them any information about equality, gratitude, sharing, or love. They simply give them all their wishes, so their attitude towards Chinese men is not strange. Feminism from the West has also been modified into Egoism, as the woman in the video said: "I have money, why do I need a man?" If men don't give me money, what else do I need them to do? It can be seen that there is no love in their eyes, and they do not understand love. Western women are much better at this point, while Chinese men just keep working without receiving any rewards
House husband if that's the case. It's okay as long you both agreed to switch roles or her career and financial quite stable to support the whole family.
@@richelgeorge2844 Or how about calling it Houseband? Or Housecarl? You know, the Scandinavian bodyguards; as I'm guarding the children and all? Much cooler name.
Lol its funny how their 'worst' types of guys cover the entire spectrum of guys. Eg too charming is 'oily' and untrustworthy - no charm is 'straight' and boring. Loves his family is 'mama's boy'. Too much confidence is overconfident. Too focused on himself/career is bad - but not paying for her all the time is bad!
Saw a similar video made back in the sixties in Ireland, asking girls what they like in a man, and the answers basically covered the spectrum of male existence ... lol ...
As someone who has met Chinese men (not dating but casual meetings), I agree with some of the things women mentioned such as poor hygiene and the immaturity. In addition, they are also very quick to assume that I liked them as they have held my hands or touch me while acting cool as if we made an agreement to have a relationship when in fact, I didn't show any traces of attraction but politeness to them. This happened not once but several times and it was an instant turn off so 90% of the men I met, there's no second meeting. Some of the foreign friends of mine have the same thoughts about Chinese guys. But again and again, I tell people that Chinese people are nice, kind and friendly but in my personal opinion, men show lack of good life partnership material.✌🏼
Thanks for all this. I was never attracted to Chinese ladies. Really never spent time with any, except for the gorgeous hot older sister of a high school friend. She was kind, but somehow I always felt inferior around her. And I traveled in the PRC so had a chance to meet people. Other than congregating around us and our backpacks, to practice English, never found them too engaging. But several things about this video helped me change these sheltered views. The girls were so, so natural in their laughter, talking, facial expressions, and interactions with the males present. Were the choices random? It had great charm for me. Often western ladies seem too guarded in these reguards. You might do such a video with Yank, EU and down under girls to help me check this out. The men in the piece were also engaging. I was struck by the focus on materiality in some. The houses, cars, and stories of cheap scates with date bills!. And the concern about mamas boys. Really struck, too, by how sensitive to male chauvinism many were. I was in China and other parts of Asia over thirty years ago, so perhaps we now see female behavioral evolution. But they all had their beauty. Nice to be able to learn at my age. Shi Shi. Vierkaesehoch-Fartvergnuegen.
Hi, thank you for this very entertaining and educational video! I’ve learned many new words. By the way, I’d like to point out one English spelling. At 13:54, the word should be spelled crush (with a U, not an A).
I thought I was doing better at listening comprehension. And then the guy with the thick northern dialect comes on the screen and I don't get a flipping word of it. Is that normal Beijing dialect or like Harbin dialect or something? Or Jin dialect? I was immediately lost, I thought it was Si Chuan dialect that was the hardest of actual 'Mandarin' to understand.
That's a typical north-eastern accent in China, not Beijing dialect. Beijing dialect sounds like standard mandarin most of the time plus some special word usage (那->那儿，你->您，etc)
“Ordinary but confident” being considered a negative trait says everything you need to know about how men are viewed by women, in every society. A man who doesn’t have any **extraordinary** features, deserves no confidence. Women are born with their value, men must create it.
I think some Guys when find type of girl he loves he gives her crisis and makes her down ... and then he wants to make up wrong ways but it's late because hardships ... change everything they just waste their time and don't have eternity love!
Bruh the second girl had these expectations not this not that, I would like to point out it’s fair that it’s aa. I understand gifts r a given. But daam so if he’s done college you expect him to pay for you? While you earn ur music degree....yea idk bout that. It’s double standards. Like if roles were switched would be it be okay? Def not...
As a young lad, I want a traditional housewife one day. You can have stuff like a small side income and control where finances go or where you wanna invest. That’s fine. Just come clean about what you’re doing. You just can’t go partying with low tier “friends”, drink yourself to death every weekend, have casual sex or a body count, and post thirst traps on social media cus you’re still young. I don’t do that goofy stuff. Partying, drinking yourself to death, and casual, premarital sex is for losers. You don’t have to be perfect. We just have to have common values and know our common endgame, which is marriage and starting a family. I think this is fair.
