Complaints Chinese Girls Have About Foreign Guys - Intermediate Chinese - Chinese Audio Podcast 

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Underrated comment. And all the foreign guys in the comments saying "we're not all like that!"

Exactly!!

That first story pissed me off. That guy was just taking advantage of the situation, or clueless that he may be leading her on.

Which behaviour exactly would not be acceptable in that persons home country?

@@chrisschill9222 Talking about sex in front of colleagues is likely to get you a sexual harassment charge or at least hostile work environment in the US. Repeatedly pursuing a virgin for "no strings attached" sex would be scummy. So would directly asking a colleague if they masturbate.

I agree . I think the woman needs to ask the right questions to sift out what kind of stones are in a man's heart ; could be precious gems or plutonium .. Sometimes a man's mind might be corrupted by bad influences if so then she has to decide whether she can live with that or somehow help him to see what sort of person he really is . If the man is not “斯文” and does not show love in all things to her then she should hide herself from the danger and deceit . If the man has no intention of starting a fire for a purpose but just wants to burn wood then the woman should hide herself from the calamity and save both of themselves from the heart .

Yeah, her friends sounds terrible. I wonder how old these people are? I would never give this kind of advice to anyone.

Agreed. I think the only people in the wrong are the people discouraging communication. Outside of that I don't see any issue with either dating culture.

Agreed with Hocker. Open communication is the key to success in any relationship.

In many western countries there is the concept of having 'the talk' to define the relationship around the time the relationship becomes intimate, so I found that 'don't ask' comment very strange.

Yes, it's very unacceptable behavior in the US.

@@RiDankulous and yet it still happen and a norm behavior in the US.

@@hvuu1628 It's not the norm.

@@RiDankulous It is. You have to live exclusively online to pretend that people are that sterile at the workplace. It would be certainly inappropriate to treat sb without proper acquaintance, but once you know each other, people discuss all sorts of shit, serious or not. Grow the fuck up.

You are right, they are not western girls, so westerners dont care if creep is a western man. Another reason is many of the western men are actually managers, teachers and employers and the girls they abuse are workers, usually migrants. Their family is very far away, also many girls from previous generation dont have brothers to protect them. You will never see a western guy behave like that to an ethnic minority community, example in Yili and Kashi because they know that girls there have many brothers, who dont care about government policy to be nice to disrespectful foreigners and will beat up badly the western guys if they behave the same way as in big cities. Foreign guys know who to target

agree, I will be happy to take my part to contribute to video if she plans to make it. I'm in the similar relationship as well

Great idea! My husband is Chinese and I haven’t seen many channels talk about the husbands or boyfriends perspective. (Although I know a bit of my husbands from what he has told me)

Some people say that Chinese men may not be so attractive to foreign girls😅

Never met a white girl chinese guy couple

@@mariamara999 omg I did, and a lot.

as a chinese, i feel morning shower is ok, and i like it too. but there are people just can't understand it

I shower morning and night, especially in China. Getting into bed after a day of being in pollution is gross.

As a foreigner I find some Chinese things much closer to my style. I can only understand showering at night. I can't actually sleep easily without a shower.

As someone with super curly hair, i have to shower in the morning.. unless you want me looking like i just walked through a tornado in order to find my witch coven. I don't shower at night cause going to bed with wet hair is kind of annoying, although i will. if i feel gross. Curly hair should be air dried which takes hours, applying heat can cause damage.

@@kvcp didn’t know that, thanks for sharing!

It is pretty weird and not just for Chinese. I’m from Eastern Europe and my boyfriend is Chinese, we met in UK and we were always annoyed how we couldn’t find so many ingredients for our dishes which included YES, brains, intestines and other organs. Just felt like people in UK are wasting so many good animal parts and we lived in a small city so finding Slavic/Baltic or Asian shops where they would sell not just bacon and chicken wings was pretty hard.

@@crymeariver7945 it didn’t used to be that way in British cuisine. But over time, these things became less common.

@@happy_camper that’s really unfortunate in my opinion. What was It like before ?

@@crymeariver7945 I'm British too so I'll answer for you. Eating offal was quite common in the past and there are still a lot of traditional recipes. We've got haggis from Scotland which is made of the liver, heart, and lungs of a sheep. Blood pudding is made from pig's blood, it's still quite common with breakfast. I've seen quite a few of the older generation still eat ox tongue or pig tongue too. Brawn is a traditional dish made from pig or sheep head processed into a kind of meat jelly, it was popular in the Victorian time. There'salso crubeens from Ireland which is boiled pig's feet. Tripe (stomach lining of farm animals) was pretty popular until a few decades ago too. Steak and kidney pie is still widely eaten and sold too, but as for the rest they are a bit more uncommon but you can probably find them in butchers or special stores. This generation hasn't got a taste for these things anymore.

To follow up on what you said and what's mentioned in the video, but also as a french canadian man. We test the relationship before proposing. But the girl could have asked if they were in a relationship. I don't see why her foreigners friend told her not to. Unless she wanted to get married after 5 dates.. But asking if you are a couple, there's nothing wrong with it if it's not obvious for you. Be open with your thought and don't be afraid. If the guy get upset about it he's probably not serious about you. Just like Chinese people we don't want to waste our time. Obviously for us dating will also ultimately end in marriage if both party are compatible. But only after living together, and experimenting life together, can we know if we are perfect for each other. We take getting married as a very serious part of our life. Marriage is the decision that we will pass the rest of our lives with you. No one want to get a divorce. Talking openly about sex is also a way for us to know about you're preference. Keep in mind that westerners and European have a pressure of being good in bed. So we are open about it, as we want to make sure you have a satisfieing experience. But also we are not as conservative and we would definitely not force ourselves to be with someone if we were not compatible on that aspect at all. About cleaning the house why would someone get upset if they have nothing to hide. That sound fishy! But obviously it's not her job to do so and they could have done it together. Now if she did rearrange the whole house without asking, like moving object and reorganizing. I would also get upset. For the food complaint that really depends on everyone. It also depend on how open you are to trying new things. But westerners really care about food appearance. I totally disagree with westerners being dirty. Personally I take a shower in the morning and before going to bed or right after sport. But let's say I train at 17pm and I take a shower after. I won't take another shower later on. Cleaning to much is bad for your skin. Those that only take one probably have lived by themselves for to long. It depend on your routine but don't put everyone in the same bag. Also instead of slippers I prefer to walk barefeet or with your sock's on. Those are my personal opinion.

Not really.

@@nagihangot6133 Which part ?

@@pascallaflamme3688 To be fair not everyone wants to get married. Many people don't think they need the government's approval for their relationship to be valid.

@N Y Just about relationships, we're not talking about social security or human rights here.

I'm not sure where this is coming from. Mostly it's just where these plants were indigenous that determined where they were most popular, with the exception of chili peppers, which were exported from the Americas to pretty much everywhere. People have certainly come up with a lot of theories as to why such things became popular, from medicinal affects to preventing or slowing spoilage, but most still concede folks likely just enjoyed the taste. As for covering the taste or smell of spoiled meat though, people actually had a much simpler solution to that: keeping live animals. Chicken, it turns out, does not spoil too quickly when the chicken is still alive.

The spices used to cover rotting taste is definitely a myth. Since spices were expensive it would have been the rich people using them, and rich people definitely didn’t eat rotten meat

@@comitatocentrale2022 In the past, everyone was eating rotten meat, both poor and rich, because in the past there were no refrigerators and the meat couldn't be contained for long. In fact, there are places in the world where people consider rotten meat as the tastiest (Iceland and some parts of Kazakhstan might be a good example). And yes, spices do cover the rotting smell. In fact, in many countries, even in Europe, it is legal to add rotten meat into mincemeat, because most of the pathogens that could cause illness can be killed with high temperatures, and the foul smell can be masked with spices.

The French thing is good to be clear about the relationship. People understanding where they are in a relationship is very important.

I would say it is a scumbag thing... because yes, same here in Germany, usually a kiss seals the deal (though things are changing, so nowadays it often requires you to have to have a talk about it, lol, 'what are we?'). But of course there are some people who think they can just lie to others, claiming to have serious intentions, but once they got what they wanted they vanish... and that is easier to do if you are in a strange country, where no one even knows you and you don't ruin your reputation. I think this is really messed up.

我同意！

So people who choose to not shower at night don’t mind the dirt/bacteria they picked up throughout the day despite not feeling sweaty?

@@karenavocado344 I think its pretty normal to not shower in the evening. Most people I know shower in the morning. If there is a special reason like sport or going on a date than you take an additional shower. If you worry about bacteria that much good luck with showering every 5minutes. We are not made out of paper after all and carying too much will end in hurting your own immun system

@@karenavocado344 Unless you're showering in hand sanitizer I don't see how you're getting rid of all the bacteria. Bacteria is a normal part of life, trying to make your home or body 'bacteria free' will just result in a weakened immune system.

People should shover before going to bed . You bringing all the accumulated nasty stuff to bed with you . Nasty . No need to shower in the morning if you didn't do anything dirty in the bed lol

@@velkylev4217 People should shower when they like.

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Shut up.

@@nagihangot6133 here little insecure troll, here's the attention you wanted. Happy? Now go be miserable and negative somewhere else

Their perception of the word "dating" is also very different to reality I find. They assume that in Western dating culture people will date multiple people at the same time to find "the one". From my own experiences and basically everyone I know this isn't the case. People will date one person for a while and if there isn't a feeling between them only then will they start dating someone else.

@@stijnhs People in the West will date multiple people sometimes and one person sometimes. I've dated people who have seen other people in-between dates and I've gone on dates with different people and repeated as well. I don't think there's any issue with dating multiple people, you're trying to find someone you're compatible with and will spend the rest of your life with. It's probably not gonna be the first person you go out on a date with.

It's only a generalization because it's true. Not one of your fantasizing innuendos.

@@nagihangot6133 Ah, yes - ALL "Western" men are the same. Just like all Chinese people are guaranteed to break every contract they ever sign. Any other pearls of wisdom you'd like to share, cretin?

Yes. It is personal opinion. Let’s get over it and just focus on learning Chinese.

Even in America right? Exactly. Those foreigners just have no manners whatsoever.

She met a bunch of rude foreigners and made a general judgement that she now thinks means “how foreign men are”

Yeah, who talks about the details of their sex life with an acquaintance from work, especially a man to a woman?

@@thebrokenmystic879 You're talking about her as if she lied and her experiences are not valid. Why don't you take a walk?

That's because your people are prideful and secretive. The rest of the world is mostly totally unlike you in this regard.

嗨，你认识的汉字很多，但是看过你的这段文字后，我感觉您的汉语水平离“还可以”还有一定的距离。因为有些表达很生涩，中国人更倾向于会说资料，而不是材料。但是请继续加油！

Hahaha! Exactly!

They are actually some Chinese guys who are also like that. But for some reason, it causes more attention when the perpetrator is a foreigner, even worse if he is a black guy.

Yeah, some men talk about women like dishes they wanna try. Hope these sexpats get a proper kick in the butt, lol

It might be about the fact, that Chinese washing machines usually use cold water, which in the end might not kill all the bacteria altogether. In this case, in my opinion it makes sense to divide these two kinds of clothing. But also seemed like they didn't consider it when laughing about "foreigners" doing the opposite haha

Chineese washing machines operate with cold water so it does not kill germs, and I think a lot of Chinese cannot imagine we can use 60+degree celsius hot water, or even hotter to wash and also, to disinfect.

@@Bluegreen197 1. A lot of machines use warm-hot anymore at least in the apartments I've rented in major cities. 2. what does that have to do with not separating them.

@@snakers716 Then you've used more expensive and newer washing machines. Most people do use cold-water machines which means that bacteria won't be killed by the water temperature. However, detergent is super effective so it really shouldn't matter, but as you can see, that's just how people feel about it.

@@snakers716 Often we have to pay for our own hot water, so washing clothes in cold water is an economical decision, hence if only using cold water with soap it just seems “cleaner” to separate underwear and other clothing.

I hate them, many of them come from countries that hate China, especially India and Muslim

@@manfunny917 No, most of them are Westerners.

no，we would like to say: Jin tian tian Qi hen hao, rather than Jin tian tian Qi he piao liang

I think the pink jacket with white T-shirt should come back some day, or the lighter colors in general, at least for temperate areas.

We separate based on the effect hot or cold water will have on the material of the cloth, itself, or on whether some clothing (colorful) will damage other clothing (whites).

It is borderline racist, if I was a white dude that made a video about Asian girls (just group all Asians as the same race) then continue to say how money driven and controlling Asian women can be, do you think that's a good look? Scumbags exists in all races by the way and sadly expats or people who are travelling and still experiencing the world would not want to settle. (majority) It's the environment not necessarily a cultural thing... I am Chinese Australian, when I was dating I had no trouble with directness and being upfront when I was on date or before a date.

The reason people complain is because the word foreigner here means whole world except for China. That's kind of ridiculous You just can't put everyone into one basket