Confessions Of A Former Cheater! Signs Men Give Before They CHEAT & Women Miss-Laterras R. Whitfield

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I’m sitting down with Laterras R. Whitfield for a candid conversation about cheating, which I’ll admit is going to be a bit triggering for some of you. We delve deep into the reasons behind Laterras’ infidelity and get valuable insights for women dealing with the aftermath of the painful betrayal.
Laterras R. Whitfield, the author of 'Dear Future Wifey', opens up about his personal experiences of cheating multiple times on his ex-wife. He emphasizes that his cheating was never about her, but rather a reflection of his own lack of integrity. Together, they explore the factors that contribute to cheating, such as unmet needs, contention, and the misconception that sex with other women means nothing to a married man.
This conversation touches on angles we rarely think about such as the failure of counseling and the lack of open discussions about what sex truly looks like within a marriage. Laterras R. Whitfield shares a heart-breaking story about a feather that taught him a valuable lesson on intimacy and unmet needs (and ladies there’s a powerful lesson in it for you too).
Ladies, I know this episode may be triggering, but my goal is to provide healing and foster better conversations in the future. I want you to be able to spot the signs of cheating and take action accordingly, with absolutely no judgment if you stay or decide to leave that relationship.
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@lessismore5706 5 месяцев назад

I’m not a fan of when people say men are physical creatures. Woman are too. It’s called integrity, discipline, consideration. I don’t think it has to do with gender. I do think society gives men an excuse to indulge sexually

@blackmadonna6024 5 месяцев назад

So true. I often find that the concept of “biological wiring” is used as a cop-out of responsibility for men

@GHO5tMod3 5 месяцев назад

Yes we are women look for certain features as well it’s just we’re taught to have sexual control of ver ourselves because it’s not praised I don’t want a raggedy looking man

@GHO5tMod3 5 месяцев назад

@@blackmadonna6024right

@shannonsnowwhite2301 5 месяцев назад

Consideration🎉 yep before you go through all the way with someone else how about showing some common human decency by letting me know first before you go there? I’ve remained faithful, committed, loyal….Is what I’ve asked in question….. his response, “Loyalty was not in the contract” silly circus clown.

@Magicisreal66 5 месяцев назад

Look- who's been running the show for a few thousand years now????? They've been allowed to make the rules and indoctrinat and infected the entire society! And they made every f****** one to (THERE FAVOR)! if this world had more DIVINED MASCULINE/ REAL MEN in it, instead of these cowardice giant maggots with appendages, this world would be worthy to live in-

@jessicathompson5362 4 месяца назад

It’s ironic that we can’t talk to our partners but we can tell the internet.😂

@Timewithmabel 4 месяца назад

Exactly 😂

@merleterry7775 4 месяца назад

He's letting other people know that he struggled with his insecurities. Which is good but we have to really believe in God and what God says. The word says that He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing.

@karynmartin2141 3 месяца назад

I know right. 🤔

@dionemubaiwa9017 3 месяца назад

Because he repent

@nerrissarichards 3 месяца назад

That part.

@karynmartin2141 3 месяца назад

He cheated when they dated, so there was no foundation of trust.

@renphi17 3 месяца назад

100 agree

@nikevabrown6614 3 месяца назад

Many relationships involve cheating during the dating phase. Let’s just call a spade a spade.

@alandopowell7623 2 месяца назад

That's a date not wife yet I have dated women who cheated 4x n I for have them

@christbeliever4407 Месяц назад

THAT IS WHY HIS WIFE NEVER GAVE ALL OF HERSELF AND RIGHTFULLY SO!

@UpdatedView 4 месяца назад

As a married man, I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Everyone isn’t cut out for marriage regardless of gender. It takes an exceptional person to get married and remain successfully married. The marriage and divorce rate numbers are accurate and it takes a special person to indefinitely pair-bond with another person. I pray for the best outcome for everyone. Honestly, there are some great people out there, but they are not great for marriage. God bless 🙏🏾

@bee-qc3cd 4 месяца назад

💯 agree!

@SyvilleJosephine 4 месяца назад

I love what you said. However I don't think it takes an exceptional person as much as it takes a willing person. Married people have to be willing to sacrifice, to honor, to submit...etc. When there is no longer a willingness that's when the door opens for just about anything to happen, especially cheating. I whole heartedly agree that marriage isn't for everyone. It especially isn't for people who feel that their perfect and won't make any horrific choices ever. Marriage is making yourself exceptionally vulnerable to 1 person on every level. That's one of the most difficult yet beautiful things that anyone can experience. I by no means condone cheating or any other behaviors that could potentially ruin a marriage.

@keepcreationprocess 4 месяца назад

@@SyvilleJosephineI am afraid you are right....

@lindiasanders3948 4 месяца назад

Amen.You said it.❤❤

@jayneliberty3429 4 месяца назад

I feel really really sorry for your wife.

@chasity9122 4 месяца назад

A person of greed, no discipline, no self control, and no boundaries is a person who cheats

@monsiebabe2817 4 месяца назад

Pereach! Soooo disappointing. He made those promises in the eyes of god and in front of all those people. If he put as much effort into his relationship as he did his lies and cheating she'd have been happy for life!

@debratownsend5495 4 месяца назад

Amen🙏🙏🙏

@judithwalters9104 4 месяца назад

😊

@carolynmurphy3697 4 месяца назад

That's me and I've never cheated

@butterflies8089 4 месяца назад

A person who truly doesn't care for their own self and life cheats.

@marie3161 4 месяца назад

Cheating is selfish, childish and extremely hurtful. The innocent one suffers.

@shannonsnowwhite2301 4 месяца назад

Yes the innocent sure do suffer extremely. The other part in the suffering is that it’s completely unnecessary. Yet, a person conscientiously goes and does it knowingly, and thinks nothing of the consequences and hurt that is caused to the innocent who knows nothing until it becomes known. It’s really bad when he ‘mistakenly sends you the text he meant to send her’ if at the time there even is an actual her in that moment. He sought to get a rise out of me while my son was with me. Boy, did he do a number on me that night to inflict pain unto thee and me.

@daughtersofdeborah9532 4 месяца назад

No one is innocent

@marie3161 4 месяца назад

@@daughtersofdeborah9532 The one who does not cheat. The one who suffers from cheating. The one who gets a STI or STD. That's the innocent one I'm referring too. Who are you talking about?.

@vashtikelly6837 4 месяца назад

NOBODY WOULD SUFFER IF PEOPLE WERE POWERFUL ENUFF TO LEAVE THE CHEATER....

@intuitivetarotbytamsyn510 4 месяца назад

The children suffered the most.

@christinemarie007 4 месяца назад

I was married for 16 years, my ex husband cheated on me for 13 years. He was the one that never wanted sex, I have never refused sex. So the lack of sex is not the reason. He had a lacks of confidence and having other women flirting with him made him feel good about himself. He was very handsom and intelligent but he felt like I was more beautiful and more intelligent than he was. He cheated with women that were not intelligent and not too beautiful so he felt superior and good about himself. It was not because his sexual desire was not met.

@BlessTheLord552 4 месяца назад

All facts

@bettyboop__ 4 месяца назад

Oh Waw. It always boils down to their own internal struggles

@CallieKares 4 месяца назад

I understand. Ditto! But after a few years of incongruency, I realized it was a pattern and I was outta there!!!

@KoreaMojo 3 месяца назад

I've been there but not married. Just 6 years wasted. I don't think he thought I was better looking than him because he was bodybuilding when we met and I was losing weight but still chubby. However it was like everyone I found out about has less interest in him than me and less of something else I have without having more "things". It always would be they made him feel desired with novelty, they made him feel needed with objective power disparity, they didn't pay him attention so they couldn't catch he wasn't the man he wanted to be know as. Crazy thing, he could have been happier and everything he was pretending to be but he would rather lie, cheat, stress, underachieve based on his goals not mine, etc. He used sex as a control mechanism and a litmus test for what type of woman they will be: a safe tool or a risky plaything. Neither are valuable positions but both are needed to plaster over issues he will not handle and that will continue to undermine him. Anyone like that needs therapy and alone romantically. Although my ex lied to everyone even his family but again if they paid him mind they could catch inconsistencies and also cries for help because that's what he's looking for: love and attention from them beyond the surface.

@stepp-uppwithnecol4381 3 месяца назад

He sounds like a narcissist too, I hate you dealt with someone like that 😒

@rashida7777 4 месяца назад

This is so messed up. Women need to protect themselves.

@MK-wb1vu 4 месяца назад

Makes me not even want to be married. As women we go through so much as it is… it’s just safer to stay single unfortunately!

@user-yup-you-are-human2 4 месяца назад

Exactly

@vkngwmn6636 4 месяца назад

Women don't even want to be involved w men now unless their lives are better for it, they're satisfied being alone and not having their peace disturbed by men who haven't had one thought about their emotional needs

@rashida7777 4 месяца назад

@MK-wb1vu There are other men out there who aren't cads. Maybe, not what you are used to. But that could be a good thing. First, have common sense. Speak about your boundaries and what you are expecting. Going over to your exes home alone is never a good idea. Billy Graham wouldn't get in an elevator alone with a woman. These guys are so pampered by the women themselves and think they're prettier than the woman. They can get a great girl and still have no morals or boundaries and sleep with someone else. Then, gaslight you as if it's your fault. There are men around the world who just want a good wife. I would start educating yourself about them post haste... because the pickings are few.

@hunnyb1308 3 месяца назад

I'm starting to believe that men are just " EVIL" point BLANK!!!! We as women, really need to protect our hearts💯💯💯💯💯❤️🙏❤️🙏❤️

@belle5287 4 месяца назад

I think his wife didn’t desire him sexually because of his poor character and lack of intimacy i.e ignoring her needs and prioritizing his own, but he got offended and resentful instead of trying to find out why she didn’t desire him and fix it so that they could have a great sex life. Seems like she gave up on him because of something he’s not telling. He wanted to hurt his wife because he felt neglected and he knew the other woman would tell her again. He knew what he was doing. It was calculated. If he wanted to divorce with grace, he should have divorced without cheating. He sounds very dependent on women for fulfillment and purpose. He speaks a lot about his needs his needs his needs

@TheAllison3331 4 месяца назад

Well stated

@optimisticgirl07 4 месяца назад

She told him before marriage it wasn't gonna be very Seggsual

@user-tg7xq5et1g 4 месяца назад

Character respect morals dignity trustworthiness, strength, integrity communication self worth !!!!

@XTIENNA 4 месяца назад

All cheaters speak of.. THIER NEEDS...

@Scorpio12348 4 месяца назад

All cheaters care only about their own selfish needs, they don’t care about you

@LonjeMarie7 4 месяца назад

SOME men cheat because they LACK integrity, and character. It’s also selfish. PERIOD! absolutely. No one is supposed to supply all of our needs that’s draining on a person and it’s not fair to them. Somethings we need to learn to do for ourselves while maintaining integrity if we really care about the person, we’re in the relationship with ladies take notes men can do it 1 billion times and want grace and forgiveness, if we do it once they can’t handle it, we’re the worlds, worst person, etc. quit taking back these cheating ass men, especially men who cheat over and over again

@Lolas_World1 4 месяца назад

Well said.

@Isuck784 4 месяца назад

My ex-husband cheated on me for 8 years, he was one woman at least a week and in the end I cheated on him once and he almost killed me and to this day he continues trying to get revenge on me, he can't get over it. But I believe he is a Narcissist because he has all the characteristics.

@vivdoolan6846 4 месяца назад

I'd love to see the research you did to draw this conclusion. If there's no research....its a massive assumption.

@Lolas_World1 4 месяца назад

@@vivdoolan6846 Some call it experience. Some call it common sense. Your comment wasn't needed. You wasted your time typing it and gaslighting those who have had to deal with infidelity. That's the WHOLE POINT OF THE VIDEO. A man who cheated tells why he cheated. Duh!

@AKay-nu5xh 4 месяца назад

@@Lolas_World1It’s definitely experience and common sense.

@terrifields3014 4 месяца назад

Why do men cheat!! Because of poor character!! Part to have a good character is having loyalty and honesty!!

@HolisticManifesting 4 месяца назад

Yep, all the rest is just excuses. We all do what we do because we want to.

@vashtikelly6837 4 месяца назад

FOR A PERSON TO CHEAT THEY HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE TO CHEAT ON....MEN CHEAT BECUZ THEY WOMEN LET THEM AND STAY...

@zeeonlineworld 4 месяца назад

You said it!

@aproverbs31woman59 4 месяца назад

@@vashtikelly6837are you in this space out of guilt or to protect your industry?

@vashtikelly6837 4 месяца назад

@@aproverbs31woman59 I don't have a reason to feel guilty about performing..... but guess what....I also perform for women as well as couples, so I don't have a reason to feel guilty about what another WOMAN is taking off her man...

@tee_aj 4 месяца назад

I was with him until I heard his contradiction about his wife not fighting for the marriage because she never fully opened herself to him. Earlier on, he mentioned how being a husband is the head of the home so isn’t he to blame for the wife never fully opening up? How do you expect your wife to fully open up to you when you cheated on her prior to your marriage? As the husband and the head, how did he lead with vulnerability and trust that made it easier for his wife to truly be vulnerable with him? His wife was smart to never have fully open up to him. Men like him can destroy women.

@FindingNeli 4 месяца назад

True. Women are incubators we make an experience of what you give us. He gave her trust issues and deception she decided to keep her heart guarded as far as she could and keep her body. Why do we stay?😔

@Blessed19191 4 месяца назад

Exactly

@Mingchan 4 месяца назад

100%! In my opinion, I believe he's actually continuing to harm women with this interview. The amount of people who have said thank you for his perspective is beyond crazy to me! I can understand some of his perspectives but (to me) the amount of shift blaming he does is not okay. It's like another way to manipulate women into thinking they're the problem when their man cheats. Also, it seems like another form of trying to get women to sympathize with a broken male perspective. Which, to me, may keep women stuck in a compassion-harm cycle.

@Heyu7her3 4 месяца назад

@@Mingchan YUP

@Rossi.K 4 месяца назад

But then the question is.. Why did she marry him if she wasn't comfortable? Accountability needs to be taken on both sides. She sounds like she wasn't really interested in him and he was seeking validation from other women to feel better. Not a good match

@MindfulSimpleSolutions 5 месяцев назад

Cheating is a lack of self-love and self-respect. We must do the inner work and continuously walk the path of self-development and spiritual growth to live a harmonious life with one another ✨🙏

@lainit.mcneal1666 5 месяцев назад

Not always.......sometimes it's about a lack of trust, communication and intimacy. Not everyone feels guilty for cheating. The path of spiritual growth is wider than simply not cheating.

@jasmina5566 5 месяцев назад

I wholeheartedly agree with you. This man is proof that some times good men fall prey to cheating. Personal development should be lifelong ❤

@calista1280 4 месяца назад

Open heartfelt Communication, listening: really hearing and keeping the CONNECTION with one another is the key to longevity... So grateful to have spent 50 years so far, with the Love of my Life! ❤

@PeaceforLisa 4 месяца назад

It’s simply human nature. It’s actually impossible for one person to “stop” temptation to exist for another person. Many gorgeous and successful women and women have been cheated on. Many spiritually minded folks have cheated. It’s because sex and emotional attachments are extremely tempting. When you are in a relationship there will inevitably become times when you become vulnerable to temptation. Any other belief on this subject is pure fairytale fantasy. Then there are some people who just enjoy a variety of sexual partners but due to social pressures (family, religion, economic necessity) get married. I’m an older woman who wants you young women to face the realities of relationships.

@719kai719 4 месяца назад

@PeaceforLisa I understand what you're saying but that's not everyone's reality. Every man/ woman doesn't cheat. Some do.

@Toikag 5 месяцев назад

I do love that he said he wont give her the same level of grace if she had cheated. It is important for women to know this when they are deciding to give men a million chances. If we live by the golden rule of do unto others as you would like them to do unto you the world would be a better place.

@ingrid5944 5 месяцев назад

EXACTLY!!!! Thy have high standards when they pretty much are shit, and we, woman of value, accept their mistakes! We should respect ourselves the way they do!

@krystalgardiner5591 5 месяцев назад

Right! Also If every woman stopped putting up with it, men wouldn’t have a choice but to stop cheating, period.

@Emptytopfloor 5 месяцев назад

I don’t get women like that at all. Ladies who take back cheaters, have you got no self respect? At least respect and protect your own body.

@ingrid5944 5 месяцев назад

@@Emptytopfloor a lot of woman are so afraid of not "being loved the way they were loved by their partner" that they refuse to accept and understand that their partner actually doesn't love them, because they cheated in the first place. Woman want to be loved so much that they forget what is REAL love. I know cause I'm a woman and I have accepted a lot of shit just to keep that man by my side. It's actually really sad

@camisnyder3460 4 месяца назад

@@Emptytopfloorlol, I use to say the SAME THING. Guess what?! My husband cheated on me. You do not understand because you’ve never walked in their shoes and hopefully you never will. It’s hard to build a life and a family with someone else only to see it shattered. Cheating hurts everyone involved, especially children.

@Lolas_World1 4 месяца назад

You can still do whatever the guy wants, and he'll still cheat. How long does it take for a man to mature!? It boils down to selfishness. I feel like he's still not taking full accountability. He still seems shady to me. He filed for divorce, but he cheated BEFORE, they even got married!

@aileenkrauchi6553 4 месяца назад

It’s not about maturity. It’s about….me me me. That is a character flaw. Not a intellectual development flaw. Immature people don’t deserve to be held in this category. I am sorry this always bugged me when say this.

@Lolas_World1 4 месяца назад

@aileenkrauchi6553 Its all about maturity. You just contradicted yourself. If you are old enough to work, pay bills, and vote they you are expected to behave with a certain level of maturity. It's called an "arrested development" for a reason. A person fails to behave in an appropriate manner, becoming of their age. That has a lot to do with cheating. The act of cheating is selfish ergo the (me me me mentality).

@zek280 4 месяца назад

@@Lolas_World1 I've been cheated on I've cheated in return 💔 😭 def me me me

@dr.christinaND 3 месяца назад

yes indeed.

@Pebbles5064 3 месяца назад

Exactly 💯

@Rose-nw9mg 4 месяца назад

The minute a man tells me I need this or I’m going to cheat. It sounds like black mail and regardless he’s most likely a cheater anyway. That type of man is not to be trusted. I had two men tell me this and they both cheated anyway. That just tells me he’s a selfish individual and manipulative. Now I always test a man by asking questions and won’t get into a relationship with him if he has this mentality. I won’t even let him know I’m judging him, I’ll just let him know we’re not compatible for these reasons, A, B, C & D. There’s no compromise after that.

@samco6884 4 месяца назад

Exactly. Thing is, when they’re single, they wouldn’t be having sex all that much necessarily anyway. Plus, those definitions change and the goal posts move, to justify their actions.

@mamo812 4 месяца назад

Can you kindly share the questions you test men with.

@delphinathomas8262 4 месяца назад

Different desires when GOD'S IN YOU.

@ojala5555 4 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏! Yet people are afraid to ask questions because they are are afraid to get disappointed. - Some prefer to live with illusions rather than the harsh truth.

@Mingchan 4 месяца назад

"This type of man is not to be trusted." Exactly. Even now. Manipulation does not just cease to exist in an individual. It is a part of personality which can be managed but it takes a constant sense of self awareness. So, it's crazy to me that people on here are trusting his words NOW. Especially since, to me, he isn't being accountable for his side of the road.

@lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663 5 месяцев назад

This is what happens to Men who don't have proper father's raising them. So weak and sad in their Manhood. Glad that he finally figured out his problems.

@steph.1111 5 месяцев назад

Good to see the other side.

@bnb0510 5 месяцев назад

Or a proper mother that doesn’t accept cheating from her spouse.

@lesareid9432 4 месяца назад

Cheating is the lack of self worth, self respect, inadequacy and being selfish. The person who has to cheat is broken and has a lack of integrity. One who lies can’t be honest; one who betrays can’t be loyal and last but not least, one who is experiencing an inner battle cannot give you peace.

@sandras2479 4 месяца назад

I was married for 17 years to a very difficult man. I kept my vows to God. It never occurred to me to be unfaithful.

@joyricherson4570 4 месяца назад

I definitely considered cheating when I was married. My ex husband thought I didn't cheat because he was so great. He wasn't great at all. The reason I didn't cheat is because my vows to God were more important than my vows to God

@Igniteyourownpotential 4 месяца назад

God isn’t real 😂😂😂 you weren’t keeping vows to an imaginary person my dear. The church made you believe that!

@realestatecoach8626 4 месяца назад

Good for you!

@rezpuppy9 3 месяца назад

Amen!

@RoycesRant 3 месяца назад

Were you happy? Why get married to a difficult man?

@Mila-Believer-wife-mamaof3-RN 4 месяца назад

He has been cheating on his ex wife even before they were married. And for him to not fight for his marriage whole heartedly after breaking her heart multiple times says a lot! Especially when he expected her to fight for him after everything he put her through. Make it make sense please! Lots of minupulatiom on his end! He has the balls to go in front of millions of people to simply show that he contradicts himself. Oh Lord please have mercy on his soul. Lisa you are an incredible woman for biting your tongue during the times he was trying to make crazy make sense.

@Mingchan 4 месяца назад

This 100%. It doesn't make sense why he left after everything, to me, it was another SELFISH act. This guy seems to be manipulating his audience in selfish forwarding thinking. A wayward should heal themselves but not at the cost of another person. To me, its like he didn't even really try to save his marriage. I think anyone who has been through betrayal can literally smell this out him. I can't believe how many people are following his awful justifications & shift blaming tactics!

@Mila-Believer-wife-mamaof3-RN 4 месяца назад

@@Mingchan right?! Most of those people willing to follow him are more like the people who cheated or trying to find good reasons to cheat, they are trying to justify their cheating. 🫣

@married2purpose 4 месяца назад

Yep. It's crazy that his response to her saying she is glad she never gave her whole self to him or she would have been destroyed... he replied, "and that's why I'm divorcing you." I was mortified. No conscience. No true remorse or humility. He has a vindictive, self centered spirit.

@Arun71150 4 месяца назад

THIS transparency is about cleaning his public image and making money off his shame 11:53

@tee_aj 4 месяца назад

This! I wrote a similar comment how this contradicts his claim of being the head in the relationship. How are you the head but you never led in the way of trust and integrity so that his wife can fully become open to him. He somehow expects the wife to completely give her all when he has never led in showing himself as a safe space. The wife was smart. He sounds so full of it. I actually don’t think he has learned his lessons

@bnb0510 5 месяцев назад

I’m in my mid 40’s and the amount of people I know that have or are currently cheating on their spouse’s is insane!

@christopherjameswright9614 4 месяца назад

Dammmmm

@IAMJEWEL7 4 месяца назад

Wow

@sarahhelmer7902 4 месяца назад

I’m happy I’m not married lol

@Pheneria-dv6zw 4 месяца назад

My ex cheated on both wife's but it was red flags and he was divorced twice

@christopherjameswright9614 4 месяца назад

@@sarahhelmer7902 same here I'm staying my ass single. Yes I'll have a women I talk to or kick it with from time to time but marriage isn't worth it nowadays

@SonarLegend-gj1yo 4 месяца назад

Laterras is fighting sexual perversion. He needs deliverance before ever thinking about getting married again. He believes his sex drive is just high but it's really perversion that entered through insecurities. I hope the women he claims are interested in him proceed with caution.

@enmodelife 5 месяцев назад

This man is clearly dealing with another struggle (most serial cheating males like this are). You can tell. The woman's mistake was deciding to still marry a cheater. So glad she divorced him, and removed herself from this DL trainwreck waiting to happen.

@eesynopsis7393 4 месяца назад

He divorced **her** ...

@mycharieamor 4 месяца назад

@@eesynopsis7393oh, okay…but she never should have married him in the first place. Please don’t stick up for a dog like this. He was a dog from the beginning!

@PamelaSofia444 4 месяца назад

@@eesynopsis7393so he says !!

@enmodelife 4 месяца назад

@@eesynopsis7393Ok, thanks for clarifying that. I have edited my post accordingly: "This man is clearly dealing with another struggle (most serial cheating males like this are). You can tell. The woman's mistake was deciding to still marry a cheater. So glad he at least had enough empathy/decency to divorced her, and set her free from this DL trainwreck waiting to happen."

@ThingsILike12 4 месяца назад

@@enmodelifeHe only divorced her to run from his own shame. A very immature thing to do. He divorced her to avoid having to face her pain and flipped it around to him being in pain. He sounds very much like the hot topic word out there today. That other n-word. The DARVO is strong with this one.

@ND-or5so 5 месяцев назад

Does anyone see how important communication is? You should be talking about everything with your spouse. My husband was too secretive and that's bad because I was willing to talk about everything under the sun. There is only so much I can talk about myself while he's collecting my data. Being secretive is not Ok in a marriage. I said, no more of this and I left.

@reneebrown9451 4 месяца назад

Right I was 7 years with a secretive narcissist. I’m being strong because I’m not sure if he sleeps with men & women

@zek280 4 месяца назад

Me 3 but hubby wanted me to be open

@polly8844 3 месяца назад

My husband was also very secretive. He would listen to me but wouldn't comment. I also left the relationship .

@polly8844 3 месяца назад

@reneebrown9451 if you wonder whether or not he slept with men, he did. I went through the same thing. Your gut always knows!!!

@reneebrown9451 3 месяца назад

@@polly8844 it’s so sad I’m not sure where these men come from but it’s so many of them.

@JUSTME-se4nm 5 месяцев назад

He wanted her to say that she did not want to lose him? Coming from a woman who has been cheated on and betrayed, she probably felt she had lost him a while ago. 😮

@ydnassukyaj9131 4 месяца назад

She never really had him to begin with.

@polly8844 3 месяца назад

Very well put. She protected herself by not continuing to give 100%, smart girl. Hopefully, we will do the same if we find ourselves in this position prior to ending the relationship.

@EmpressQueenB 2 месяца назад

She sure didn't@@ydnassukyaj9131

@yatal.1501 5 месяцев назад

Men are running with the excuse of “I can have sex with her and not feel anything/not mean anything”. THAT IS A LIE, you need to feel something, he liked her, lust her, desire her… and you call all these feelings “NOTHING?!” He was pleasuring himself thinking about this other woman. In order for you to like and want someone else is because you are not as in love with your spouse/partner. When someone is truly in love NO ONE CALLS YOUR ATTENTION. I’ve been in love before the HOTTEST men would try to call my attention and I didn’t even pay attention ( because LOVE BLINDs YOU). Until he became too toxic and I walked away. I decided to get into a calculated relationship aka I settled and I’m not IN LOVE, but do have love for my person and guess what all this could be possible, I see how easy it is to flirt this time, how easy it is to entertain other people. HUMANS HAVE BEEN SETTLING FOR YEARS NOT BEING TRULLY IN LOVE….love yourself, too many crazy people and too many liars out here.

@lp9716 4 месяца назад

Sadly this line “I can have sex with her and not feel anything/not mean anything” does not apply to all cheaters. That's painting all cheating situations with a broad brush. He's fooling himself. He did not want to feel anything because of the guilt but he kept going back so therefore she absolutely meant something but definitely "not nothing". Heck, he said he cheated with this same woman before he was even married!! 🙄🙄

@yatal.1501 4 месяца назад

@@lp9716 Exactly!… The only difference between “YOU ARE THE ONE THAT I WANT” (main lady) & “She doesn’t mean anything to me”(side chick). Is that THEY KNOW that the main lady gives back, build, care, invest in that men. The side chick only Takes, TAKES,TAKES. Men also want someone who cares for them and makes them a priority, reason why they keep coming back home. They know if they were to get sick their main lady will clean the soiled diaper If necessary and never leave if they go broke . The side chick would never do such a thing.

@christinejones4785 4 месяца назад

Totally agree far too many liars and cheaters now for the first time in 40 years I’m going without to learn how to have self care, self respect and learning how to love ❤️ myself first and foremost

@tripleleotarot2416 4 месяца назад

They cheat because they don’t feel anything for anyone but themselves… if even that lmaooo.

@mzphilpot7943 3 месяца назад

He felt something for her. Unfortunately, I went through a phase where my spouse cheated on me but it was before we became spouses. And he said it meant nothing but I know different. Something was there.

@fifilafleur5555 4 месяца назад

I’m so grateful to be out of my marriage and 2 relationships since as a divorcé. I don’t miss any of this. Same old $hit…

@staciacrick3373 4 месяца назад

He probably deluded himself thinking since he was the provider, he was entitled to other cheating with other women . He “chased” the attention..narcissistic . Yes, like any drug receiving instant gratification. Lack of integrity, moral compass, entitlement, lack of emotional empathy toward his partner. It’s really not complicated

@kimhawkes2570 2 месяца назад

And he isn't going to be any different in his next marriage.

@staciacrick3373 2 месяца назад

@@kimhawkes2570 Serial cheaters don’t stop cheating

@luciasantos3512 5 месяцев назад

I would have no respect for a man who cheats and so love would be difficult to be had with a man like that. A man like that would be showing me he is not worthy of me, I would thank him for showing me who he is and move on. I find it baffling that some women stay with men that cheat. They are in fact teaching these men that they will settle for so little, that it makes no difference how they are treated. And as he admitted that if his wife cheated on him, he wouldn't be as understanding and yet he expected the wife to be forgiving towards him. How amazingly selfish. Great conversation Lisa. I enjoyed Laterras' honesty and transparency, but less so the double standards which he seemed to own up to to a certain extent.

@sherriflemming3218 11 дней назад

Indeed. No respect or trust for infidelity.

@myththelegend1036 4 месяца назад

I can say that as a man and married, that I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on.

@EMuro-wu7uy 4 месяца назад

My husband was my best friend, we could talk about all things. We were honest and loved each other,. As someone who is single due to his death. If I ever move forward with someone else, I need to lead with what I want. I want someone trustworthy who wants to talk to me.

@teascobie6557 4 месяца назад

42:23 "I'm glad I never fully gave myself to you because I would have been destroyed." His response to her saying this to him, tells us what she was dealing with. He blamed her for his cheating. He cheated before they were married so she never trusted him fully but still went along with the marriage knowing full well he didn't even like her...let alone love her. She was forgiving and giving him a chance. Had she cheated he would not have taken her back. She is absolutely right. Had she giving him her all she would be in an insane asylum, and he still would have divorced her because studies show when a woman gets sick most men don't stick around...

@shannonsnowwhite2301 4 месяца назад

Thank you for writing.

@Regina.Clarke 4 месяца назад

I can see how you’re saying this, and he could have been better with explaining it. I follow his podcast. The key he was saying is that they didn’t communicate about their needs. Their needs weren’t being met, so the cycle kept going. He lacked clarity and self awareness when he met her and also did hold to his needs when she showed she wasn’t that type. This is a problem many people go through even without cheating. I have been cheated on and it was a horrible experience because the narcissist blamed me for everything when I knew nothing. This example is nowhere near that energy. He has taken accountability but TOTALLY could have been better explaining it in that section which I agree with.

@shannonsnowwhite2301 4 месяца назад

@@Regina.Clarke I hear you on the blame game when we didn’t even know it. Not a fair chance or on an even playing field when one person only knows the game being played.

@tiberiajames5997 4 месяца назад

That marriage was doomed from the beginning because God didn't put them together. They put themselves together and sound like they married out of convenience.

@Mingchan 4 месяца назад

@@Regina.Clarke When someone words their accountability as blaming another person for their actions, that isn't being accountable. Instead of saying something like "our communication was bad" it should be "my communication was bad". Using "I" while explaining action/behavior is important in remaining accountable. I think he is still lacking self awareness & clarity because of the phrasing he uses throughout this interview.

@SF-wc1wx 4 месяца назад

I wonder how does his ex-wife feel about him sharing the things that happened during their marriage? Is that even more traumatic for her?

@Heyu7her3 4 месяца назад

She tells him she's okay with it, but she doesn't have a great history of being in-tune with herself...

@ThingsILike12 4 месяца назад

I can’t imagine it feels good to her. Maybe she’s just giving him enough rope…

@4gma59 4 месяца назад

His ex contributed to the disconnect.

@schemainevent 4 месяца назад

Something was still missing here for me. I couldn’t push past him and how he showed up. My ears, which are usually open and objective just couldn’t stomach “listening” to this guy.

@akstylez_ak5037 4 месяца назад

She probably feels humiliated. I know I would have. Because this is very personal. Women don’t support other women in situations like this. They are the reason many woman suffer in silence because of the same and blame other women make them feel. It’s like a crab in a barrel situation.

@YaGirlDynasty 4 месяца назад

Wow. Smh. I hope she’s healing and happy. 🙏🏾 ladies, please leave at the first sign of disrespect/betrayal. As you can see, it’s rarely the first and only time especially when their mindset is “I didn’t mean anything.” Get outta there. ♥️💨

@samco6884 4 месяца назад

Yes! And then it gets worse as they then feel justified and blame you even more for their actions

@HolisticManifesting 4 месяца назад

This is what lacking accountability looks like. ❤

@ThingsILike12 4 месяца назад

Yes!!!

@arai6147 4 месяца назад

You can call it whatever you want, but this man is speaking honestly.

@Thechagiplate 4 месяца назад

How so? He kept talking about what he did wrong and how he could have done better. That’s being accountable.

@branner3392 3 месяца назад

I’m glad I never really gave myself to you because you would have destroyed me….so true

@stephaniegrabau7289 3 месяца назад

@@Thechagiplatelol thank you for saying it

@staciacrick3373 4 месяца назад

“Safe place” with a stripper can also mean he doesn’t have to be held accountable nor have to live up to any expectations. It’s easy because there is no risk of true vulnerability with the bartender or stripper 😊

@wheathusk2499 4 месяца назад

Yup avoidant behavior

@HolisticManifesting 4 месяца назад

It annoys me how stupid women can be.

@vashtikelly6837 4 месяца назад

DEPENDS ON HOW YOU SEE IT...I AM A DANCER AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THE MEN SHOW THIER TRUE NATURE AND WHO THEY REALLY ARE WITH US... THE REASON HE SAID 'SAFE PLACE' IS BECUZ WE ARE ALREADY NAKED AND HE CAN PICK THE WOMAN THAT HE PHYSICALLY DESIRES WITHOUT TRYING TO GET TO KNOW THE DANCER AND SNEAK AROUND WITH HER..HE CAN JUST GO TO THE CLUB, SIT DOWN AND TALK TO HER, AND IF SHE'S A CERTAIN TYPE AND HIS MONEY IS RIGHT, THEN HE CAN SEE HER AFTERWARDS FOR PLEASURE...THEN HE GOES HOME AND HIS WIFE IS NONE THE WISER...

@staciacrick3373 4 месяца назад

What’s with all caps? Anyway, that is easy because it’s not a reciprocal relationship and he is in a power position because he is paying for a service, which takes away true vulnerability. Emotional intimacy is about being vulnerable along with reciprocation, and expectations, not a feeling of superiority and power.

@vashtikelly6837 4 месяца назад

@@staciacrick3373 COMPLETELY AGREE...ALL CAPS IS BECAUSE IT'S HARD TO SEE FINE PRINT....

@lexxie225 5 месяцев назад

I hear him out, but so many excuses

@Mingchan 5 месяцев назад

The amount of shift blaming, excuses, & contradictions are unbelievable.

@jenniferbranch9047 5 месяцев назад

I would hate to be his ex-wife, present or future. Her private moments laid bare. He offers her no protection and she can't even defend herself. It's very sad. 😢 It's quite clear that she was not satisfied. Quantity is not quality but quality leads to desire.

@jenniferbranch9047 5 месяцев назад

Does he identify as Christian? Does he not know that his body is a temple? To his wife, he was extremely selfish. As the interview goes on, he speaks as if he has evolved, but there's any underlying tone of arrogance... no sincerity.

@Emptytopfloor 5 месяцев назад

This is what happens when men choose to prioritize quantity. Too many partners and lots of experiences mean nothing when it comes to quality of intimacy with one.

@lp9716 4 месяца назад

@jenniferbranch9047 thank you!! Plus I'm not for one moment buying the "she meant nothing to me" line. It may not have been love, but she meant something that you cheated with her even prior to marriage. I would hate being his ex wife as well as the ex side chick.

@teascobie6557 4 месяца назад

@@jenniferbranch9047 2 words: Derick Jaxn....talked a great game while living recklessly. Also, a "man of God"🙄

@PamelaSofia444 4 месяца назад

@@jenniferbranch9047agreed. The whole undertone of the interview is full of arrogance and he contradicts himself a few times. Plus, what an earth has a feather chandelier got to do with Lisa’s husband stroking her arm. He was maybe subtly trying to manipulate (seduce) Lisa by planting a seed and vision in her head of sensuality. Once a narc always a narc !!

@joanofarcxxi 4 месяца назад

😮 If a man cheated on you, do not forgive him. If he really loved and valued you he never would betray you. Cheating is the ultimate violation of your boundaries, dignity, and self respect. Cheating is bad character. He broke your agreement and tore your heart out. Do not forgive. Do not. He made his choice. Now let him deal with the consequences. Yes, it's hard, but if you stay with him he will continue to make you suffer. You must keep your safety, dignity, honor, and value as a woman. You heard what this narcissist said. According to him, using women to satisfy his ego and entitlement meant nothing. He just cared about his own needs. Did he ever consider her needs? He had cheated before. Red flag! A guy like this is NOT a keeper.

@glendorahorton9605 4 месяца назад

You must forgive him if you are a Christian! You don't have to reconcile yet you must forgive.

@joanofarcxxi 4 месяца назад

@@glendorahorton9605 I am not God, let God forgive. You move on quickly and in time you can forgive if God puts it in your heart to do so. I have learned in my life's journey that when we immediately cut people out of our lives for abusing us, karma takes care of it and we find peace and freedom surprisingly well. It's totally natural and effective to be angry and say "you shall not pass!!!". That anger is what gives the power and the courage to stay clear from fake promises and further harm.

@lees3117 4 месяца назад

Foh with this. Bye

@stormship1647 3 месяца назад

You crazy …!…that’s pride right there….who are you ..or any woman to feel as if if a man is weak or not perfect you gotta leave him…that’s the princess syndrome and is fuelled by narcissism …”I have to have the perfect man cos I’m so wonderful”..!!! Also I think people are way to sexualised ..especially in America…it’s a bondage

@livingwithdrdenisej 2 месяца назад

If you fail to forgive you give the person who wronged you tremendous power over you. If you fail to forgive, you will never heal and this will prevent you from having a successful relationship in the future with anyone else. Forgiveness is not weakness but strength.

@AbeniBamidele 3 месяца назад

Love how he introduces the other woman as the initiator as he sits in her home...

@tiffanycalloway5299 2 месяца назад

Ha! Of course she was… She knew what he was there for!😬😅

@Journeybacktoself 2 месяца назад

What was he expecting?🙄

@malindarayallen 5 месяцев назад

This guy's BS about men being "physical beings". He's using a false generalization about men to justify his own behavior. I applaud Lisa's ability to keep a straight face. Also, this guy's wife married him after he cheated on her while they were dating. I'm glad he's recovering, but he still has a long way to go.

@---wj7zu 5 месяцев назад

And so is she.

@karmepresh915 5 месяцев назад

Yes, that was an uncomfortable statement, but if you continue to watch, he does clarify that it is a selfish male perspective to have.

@The_Philly_Bruja 5 месяцев назад

💯

@malindarayallen 5 месяцев назад

@@karmepresh915 That's fair. I confess I've had to digest this video in small chunks.

@kida758 5 месяцев назад

As a feminine, lgbt, androgynous male...who's a hopeless romantic when it comes to being attracted to masculine men....I COMPLETELY AGREE. It's all a social construct...that masculine men attempt use to their advantage for manipulation...to continue their poor, low-vibrational, "cornsick" behavior. As a male myself-I know for a fact that is not true. Men are not "physical" or "primal" beings...men are completely capable of being committed to one person in a loving, monogamous relationship. Men are completely capable of sexual discipline-in fact they even have much more intense, memorable, better orgasms....only having sex once every week, or other week. While being more productive in every other aspect of life. Speaking as a male who has a prostate(male g spot).

@sunshineyang89 5 месяцев назад

This triggers me alot.. because the ex would fantasy about other women and would never think of me.. I would wear lingerie, try to be seductive but it was never enough. I will never talk to a drug addict and a porn boy again.

@steph.1111 5 месяцев назад

This is a healed version of that. Take peace of mind to see it exist. Much love

@DearFutureWifey 5 месяцев назад

Thanks@@steph.1111

@melam9508 5 месяцев назад

So sorry that happened to you. It sounds like he really objectified you and women in general. We deserve so much better.

@Mingchan 5 месяцев назад

@@steph.1111 This is not a healed man. This is man that is justifying his actions & trying to compartmentalize every move he has made. For the amount of comments you have on here defending him - I bet you're a wayward.

@christinejones4785 4 месяца назад

Yeah the ones that don’t watch porn usually have actual real life sex & the F boys have too many insecurities that’s why they need to believe their sexually so wanted but most of the time they’re just users and abusers

@chiquitadixon8463 3 месяца назад

Oh my goodness he’s just realizing after 8 years of divorce it just hit him. Cheating is selfish of a partner to do. I just appreciate this man honesty to speak his growth and truth.😢❤

@sahirradessessoz 3 месяца назад

Exactly 😮

@719kai719 4 месяца назад

CLEAR AND OPEN COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL FOR IT TO WORK.

@MindfulSimpleSolutions 5 месяцев назад

Powerful conversation, very transparent thank you for this episode Lisa, Amazing 👏!

@butterflybreezy 4 месяца назад

Informative. But- I cannot understand why he blames Black women, female headed households, strong matriarchs. Who else was supposed to keep the culture and the family together when some Black men either couldn't, or wouldn't do it? He admitted many are absent.

@EMuro-wu7uy 5 месяцев назад

To me cheating is a deal breaker. But there are many conversations that need to be had. What is okay, what is not okay. For a healthy marriage there has to be so many conversations. I had a healthy marriage, it was amazing.

@bina913 4 месяца назад

@EMuro-wu7uy I agree with you! But, you can have numerous conversions before marriage with your spouse-to-be & they still do the opposite! Talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words… men & women lie and can be selfish… having the mature conversations will NOT make one’s marriage immune to adultery!! Both spouses needs to be genuine, unfortunately it can be difficult to tell who has your best interest at heart smh.

@EMuro-wu7uy 4 месяца назад

@@bina913 I agree, I was lucky I had a terrific marriage to my spouse, unfortunately he passed on, and being single again is difficult. I know there are some good men out there, but there are also ones that have a lot of problems. I'm working on myself for now. Before I date again.

@4nasj 4 месяца назад

HAD a healthy marriage??

@EMuro-wu7uy 4 месяца назад

@@4nasj he died.

@ladyk7317 2 месяца назад

It's so refreshing to hear an intelligent honest man share his wisdom and experiences 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💋

@melam9508 5 месяцев назад

In the beginning he said it was only physical with the other women and that he could care less and later he said it wasn´t just physical but that it was about vulnerability and complained that his wife wasn´t vulnerable enough with him and that he went to the other women to get that type of connection. So what is then? Gaslight much?

@Mingchan 5 месяцев назад

100%!!! This guy's story just doesn't add up!!

@eesynopsis7393 4 месяца назад

He was opening up about the complexity of his personal reasoning for cheating, which is a different thing than how a man perceives sex with the woman he wants above all others, vs just any woman he can have a physical experience with. He was attempting to fill a void, using the physical act of sex. Obviously it's not going to, and lead to him being worse off. This entire video is him going into depth about that

@Mingchan 4 месяца назад

@@eesynopsis7393 How is shift blaming "going into depth"? There's a clear difference between someone explaining 'I am the cause of my failed marriage here are the reasons why' vs 'my wife's lack of sex or caring I masterbated is why I did x,y,z' WORDING IS SO IMPORTANT in when remaining accountable! Instead of saying I'm at fault - he continuously shift blames on her or atempts to justified his lack of morals. This man is not self aware - his therapist did a sh-t job of helping him heal.

@ThingsILike12 4 месяца назад

Gaslight a lot.

@huntsvilleshuffler8834 4 месяца назад

I love what he had to say. There’s a lot of truth in here. Thank you for sharing your story!!

@confusedwhynot 3 месяца назад

Thank you for having this interview. Toxic Relationships are bad!!! IF YOU START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A LIE YOU CAN BET IT WILL END IN A LIE.

@zewditiku8182 4 месяца назад

Very interesting and very well said about the way the people who have been affected have handled the situation so well that it has become very clear to the world that the situation has changed. Keep up your great values for yourself, I love it. ❤

@sonne2351 4 месяца назад

So appreciate the openness with which this topic is being discussed. Thank you! Every little bit I am hearing so on point down to the adoption. Sure hope you find that woman you are looking for. Rooting for you!!!

@nadiawitbooi8039 4 месяца назад

This is and was so helpful to me. Relationship trauma can mess you up. I have been through it, and it totally changed me from being a woman who poured out my soul, moving across the country, leaving a job and my family for someone, to changing my religion for my person to a broken and angry person who is to scared to open her heart again. The only thing that kept me hopeful was God, that somehow and someday I will be ok again. Ready love fully and openly again. I'm so grateful to have watched this video, it is saving alot of relationships, marriages and in some cases LIVES! THANK YOU BOTH. GOD BLESS YOU.

@Only_phillysophical 4 месяца назад

Women are disposable right? You had two women who loved you and you speak about the one you fantasize about and have physical needs for as if she garbage. You cheated with this same woman over and over again, and you’re writing your emotions off for that person and speaking about her like she is nothing but a flesh light. I feel bad for you sir.

@Sonictheshorthog 4 месяца назад

Cheating is for people who have no self discipline, integrity and lack of discipline. I was once accused of cheating and felt so disrespected. I left him! I was very annoyed and upset but he thought was acting defensive. I would rather leave a person than to cheat.

@Liz-in8lu 4 месяца назад

I was accused of cheating by a man, I was shocked. 1. I would never cheat. 2. What does he think of me then? 3. Is he cheating and that’s why his mind when there?!

@DarlingEbony 2 месяца назад

He likely accused you because that is what he was doing.

@TammyReneeCoaching 5 месяцев назад

Lisa!!!! I’m only 21 minutes in and he is doing such an amazing job telling his story. I have complete pictures of how this all went down. I’m so grateful for his transparency and honesty. Relationships take so much work that I’m not willing to put in. I can control the outcome of my business, but not one woman can control the outcome of putting her heart in another man’s hands. Ok, I need to hear the rest of this interview. Thank you Lisa, for such an amazing guest!

@warmwelkom 5 месяцев назад

And I am now looking for the interview with the wife and the other woman and the ex-wife ... 😉

@wendyharris1710 4 месяца назад

I really like the show though it was seven months ago. Just found your station. I really enjoy your conversations. I’m at a point in my life where I’m off the roller coaster and I’m in a labyrinth/maze … as an older woman almost 70 but I get mistaken for in my 50s because of my energetic approach to life. Working on living in the moment living in trying to not get in a situation people misunderstand. I like to help people, but I find that people misunderstand my kindness as a situation to take advantage of. I’ve had to walk away from so many people in my life over the years and most recently my family on the death of my father. That’s why I’m no longer on the roller coaster. I’m in that maze and it must say it’s amazing That my life is changing but I also find it hard to fit into the patterns of life because I no longer need anything and I don’t want my wants to be misconstrued. I need people or want people know I can walk away I don’t need anything that people are offering that is negative or Abusive or someone using you for their own outcome. Very hard, though as a nurturing caretaker to walk away from a lot of situations like that trying to change the results without changing who I am the authentic person new boundaries new guidelines I think too many women are living with old tools and old strategies. There’s a need for new ways to get from .8 point B and get the results you want again thank you for yourinterview with I’m finding them extremely informational and rewarding on my current path or journey of life.

@pennyhouston8929 4 месяца назад

Absolutely important conversation. Intimacy v. Sex and the part where what does it look like broken down and executed in a relationship. Love it! I hope my future husband can be transparent like this👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@kathryncothern3433 4 месяца назад

Excellent conversation. Appreciate his 100% honesty and transparency. Being in a relationship involves so many elements to truly have a deep connection. Being together is only the surface level. There is sooooo much deeper stuff that each person needs to be connected with the other. Trust, honesty, safety, security, respect, vulnerability, transparency, integrity, etc. are absolutely pertinent. Each person must work on their own self, their Self Love, in order to bring it to the table....so a healthy relationship can grow. Appreciate this podcast! Thank you. ❤

@neemajohn4023 4 месяца назад

Absolutely... 100%

@divaflow-lr7zs 4 месяца назад

Most definitely 💯

@zek280 4 месяца назад

Love 😘 it

@lightlyric 5 месяцев назад

This is so right on time. I'm going to share this with my guy friends who have talked about this same struggle.

@AlexiaHDIntuition 5 месяцев назад

WAO this is incredible and so much needed to understand a ton of stuff regarding men 😜🙏

@deadlykitten.5908 2 месяца назад

It is my belief that information is put on your path for a reason. This video blew me away. So insightful. Thank you. 🙏

@grumpyschnauzer 4 месяца назад

This was exactly my Ex-husband… emphasis on EX. He had no idea what intimacy and connection meant and I was scrambling to figure this all out to avoid our relationship ending… then realized he wasn’t. Exactly every single experience he mentions happened in my relationship.

@cliffthecoolcat 5 месяцев назад

It sounds like neither of them were sexually satisfied.. I know what that is like to be disappointed because you are always doing it the way they like it. It gets old and you start to resent your partner when it can only be done their way.

@teascobie6557 4 месяца назад

lots of married unsatisfied women out there

@cliffthecoolcat 4 месяца назад

@@teascobie6557 you ain't kidding. It's the majority of women.

@tiffanycalloway5299 2 месяца назад

I agree. Very unsatisfactory and especially when they present such great demands, for their pleasure.

@MarcM143 5 месяцев назад

Lisa! Love your content. Thank you!

@katepopovic6054 4 месяца назад

Marriage is about serving. People should serve each other in marriage, selflessly, whole-heartedly and with kindness and tolerance.

@Macsinvideo 4 месяца назад

This is one of the best interviews ever. Thank you for your transparency. It’s liberating to watch although I have been through similar situation.He has so much understanding.

@FloralConcerto 5 месяцев назад

Wonderful interview, learned a lot from this one.

@projectqueen610 4 месяца назад

It's so sweet to see this imperfect man making such an effort to acknowledge his own mistakes.

@user-iv8bj5ps7v 4 месяца назад

Thank you for your amazing work! Love it all❤️ And also love the fact that you don’t have intros 😄 Skip them in other podcasts anyway

@AshleyJax 4 месяца назад

Thank you for being vulnerable with us and sharing your trial and triumph I have been deeply hurt by my now ex husband and forgiven him for everything and all I wanted was to understand why he would not face his issues knowing that it was the cause. It just boils down to not trusting God to heal him and holding onto what he thinks is protecting him has actually imprisoned him to this destructive lifestyle. I’m enjoying the stories of victory in your life keep going it’s so encouraging!

@merleterry7775 4 месяца назад

He was in denial sis he didn't give it to God to help him deal with himself.

@pamelabrown2028 5 месяцев назад

Love the fact that he's being so open, and he obviously knows God now as he refers the tactics of the enemy and the sin !!

@arlene8284 5 месяцев назад

❤

@HolisticManifesting 4 месяца назад

I've learned that anybody can say anything.

@anniemarie444 5 месяцев назад

I’m so impressed with your honesty. Truly grateful.

@oluwakemiadeleke1809 4 месяца назад

I just love this interview. So detail and real. So much facts were unleashed. I love men who can boldly accept their wrongs and ready to make things right if granted another opportunity. Nice one bro ❤❤

@yesicabello_ 4 месяца назад

The best conversation Lisa!!! 🎉🎉

@Mingchan 5 месяцев назад

8 minutes in & I can tell by his facial reactions - the remorse is not there. He talks about not blaming his partner initially (that it was an internal issue) & then goes into how his wife didn't want to have sex or they didn't discuss frequency. That's still shift blaming!!! If he dated his wife for 6 years & cheated during that that time frame too - their foundation was never solid. It's funny to me how he can claim Christian views but be a cheater since the beginning. Pretty hypocritical. When he talked about the other woman - he smiled - almost grinning at the experience. This is what real unremorseful cheaters do. There would be no smiling or grins over past actions. Where is the pain in his story? He talks about shame like it's cloak of defense rather than it being a real & raw thing he did. I feel awful for his wife.

@Am-mm6iz 5 месяцев назад

I cheated on my husband and just the other day I was smiling while thinking how I cheated. I am remorseful but I am still human and like the guy said you have to control your thoughts. He's probably telling himself wait this isn't funny.

@Mingchan 5 месяцев назад

@@Am-mm6iz As a wayward person it's your responsibility to your spouse to showcase your remorse. Especially while talking about the affair!! Laughing, smiling, etc might be involuntary but when you become aware of it - SAY SOMETHING. Hiding that is just as bad as hiding an affair!!!! This guy never addressed that aspect in this video & it continues throughout the entire episode. It shows me that his guy is completely lacking self awareness.

@steph.1111 5 месяцев назад

We respond to pain with laughter dummy.

@mattlyles902 5 месяцев назад

His divorce was 8 years ago. His pain and shame could be gone. But also, smiling doesn’t mean happy, sometimes smiling is just a coping mechanism for the pain and talking through it. It’s now about teaching vs beating himself up still.

@heide-raquelfuss5580 5 месяцев назад

Somebody who 'reads' the BS on his face and so on. Good observation!

@hopeinhumanity. 5 месяцев назад

I remember my ex partner saying he felt sick to his stomach at the thought of hurting me. I felt at the time it was selfish for him to feel that way. Listening to this episode helped me to see a different perspective. Thank you.

@Pukipika 3 месяца назад

Takes courage to be honest and vulnerable to share. Thank you

@TC-yx3bs 4 месяца назад

this was incredibly enlightening to me. so many things that this man shared so honestly made things in my recent relationship and it’s failures make a lot more sense to me. even though i knew some of this on a subconscious level, it really gave me clarity. there isn’t anything i could have changed since he was never willing to openly discuss issues or stop doing hurtful things so ultimately it would never be successful. but this was quite helpful and i appreciate the willingness of this man to talk so openly.

@sp4rkle81 4 месяца назад

Thank you both, I’ve learned so much 📝

@kharab31 4 месяца назад

This interview was awesome. He dropped some gems and placed accountability where it needed to be.

@AllWeNeedIsTruthAndLove 3 месяца назад

Love that. "what if we held each other accountable to the truth." YES. ♥

@user-ll3nr2qg9g 2 месяца назад

I thought this was an awesome interview! Thank you for sharing Laterras.

@gabrielakarl3859 4 месяца назад

As someone who has cheated, i love this interview. Lisas body is so tense

@lizzierose007 5 месяцев назад

I say get out if you're not happy. You will get your Karma one day, and it will be worse. It might not happen right away, but it will.

@Ostipherous 4 месяца назад

This man has been incredibly candid. I do appreciate the peep into his mind. It imparts necessary understanding. The male-female dynamic is truly fragile.

@BelAge 4 месяца назад

Thank you for your honesty, Mr. Whitfield. It was a very enlightening interview.

@lorifarrell4892 4 месяца назад

Thank you for clarifying where I contributed. My break up wasn’t all my man’s fault. The cheating was, but not what lead up to it. Meryl Streep in “It’s Complicated” said it best. Something to the effect of (I didn’t have to acknowledge my failure in the divorce) “Because I didn’t have to when you cheated.” That sticks.

@oldwoodsquotes3495 4 месяца назад

Sorry about that 😢

@missliberty10 5 месяцев назад

When she found his lubrication n the shower and was ok with it and not step up her game ,he was insulted ,i think he wanted her to find it ,so she did make a change and accomodated him more ,it was only an exuse for him to have sex else where.

@annekenney6914 4 месяца назад

Yeah, it was a manipulation. Why would she care? She doesn't want sex as much as him.

@ThingsILike12 4 месяца назад

A very narcissistic plot. Just like confessing was supposed to make her beg him to stay. I love hearing his story. He digs a new pit each time he tells it.

@jewla1585 4 месяца назад

Yup they leave easter eggs for mayhem to arise and she was a smart lady for not taking the bait. She let him unfold and reveal his true colors to her and now she is free from a life of lies and misery with this man

@brendajones8073 4 месяца назад

It’s truly sad he seeing things more clearly now after divorcing. He’s speaking facts!

@damiodunaiya4038 4 месяца назад

God bless you man... I stayed up at 1am to watch this video. Thank you for sharing & saving somebody! Thanks Lisa

@arlene8284 5 месяцев назад

I love how transparent the guest is .... 🎉 This video has helped me so ❤much

@debm460 4 месяца назад

Laterras, thank you for sharing your perspective. It brought out understanding and compassion. It all goes back to self love, knowing yourself and what would make you and your partner happy. Marriage / relationships are loving partnerships. Lisa, again - thank you for showing us how to navigate life. The more we learn, we can evolve and do better.

@msjw1997 3 месяца назад

This is the most intelligent conversation I’ve EVER heard from a man who wasn’t a licensed, very well trained therapist. He is so emotionally aware now because he really learned how to be someone with true integrity. BRAVO!👏 👏 👏 👏 👏This is so difficult for most people.

@tasha5557 3 месяца назад

I think its beautiful how you have grown. Your ability to share your struggles. I have never cheated but I have been on. This has been enlightening.

@Que772 4 месяца назад

He never got his lust under control before marriage.

@alypat3443 5 месяцев назад

Maybe his wife didn't find him attractive, women need safety and trust, she must have sensed he is a potential cheater. She is better off without him.

@teascobie6557 4 месяца назад

he cheated on her while they were dating...that sealed the deal and projected his future behaviour in the marriage.

@AllWeNeedIsTruthAndLove 3 месяца назад

Brave beautiful man. Favourite Frame: "Meet the needs without any expectation." Love the Importance he is placing on Clear Honest Direct Communication ♥

@donnaakins7364 3 месяца назад

This podcast was very innovative and there needs to be more men that have these standards and qualities. God bless you man of God! Communication is the key in all relationships.🙏🏼