Contradicting your husband in public. 

My wife and I did the same after hanging out with some friends, and we'd both picked at each other. On the way home I felt so condemned that I brought it up and we vowed to never criticize each other in public again. We've kept that promise almost perfectly for 25 years, and it's been wonderful. I'm glad you had a great marriage. It's a tremendous thing.

Exactly. I always feel very sad when I see how some couples treat/talk to each other. The eye-rolling, dismissive comments, snide remarks, funny "jokes" (that really just hurt), blatant discourteousness/ lack of consideration, lack of *appreciation* .. I often think: seriously - would you treat your friend like this?? 😥💔

Well, you can call it bad manners but If I know couple and I want to be close to them the Idea that they never SHOW lacks of intergity in marriage is fake. It's just fake. It would be better to calmly and delicately ask questions or tell different perspective than just pretend everything is good and set and you agree. I think it obviously might be uncomfortable but being sometimes corrected in public is a level of humility peope should have being Christian. Don't fix your proudness by making your spouse silent. Fix your proudness by being less proud.

So you both decided to disrespect God and reject His plan for the wife respect the husband and submitting to him as to God??? And that is respectful how? You chose the path of "equality and wickedness not God's way.

@@johnbreitmeier3268 Why would you think it is disrespectful? I wouldn't agree with my husband every time. It's normal. Being respectful doesn't mean being fake. I don't find simply disagreeing being based on Bible principles at all whatever you would describe as respectful based on your own perferences. Obviously some topics are touchy and wouldn't be good for open debate.

Yeah. I have never sorted through this before, so it's all new to me, but it makes sense. I think that the best thing to do is not make firm statements, while letting people chime in with conflicting info, and then let listeners make their own choices. This way all info is available, and no pride is damaged.

Small detail corrections don't bother me in the slightest, BUT, if I had a wife that did this, I'd be more concerned about other people finding her irritating. Not because I care what they think, but because she would probably be hurt and embarrassed. And I would end up defending her and possibly create a very awkward situation for everyone present.

@@eugenetswong the problem is that this well meaning lady in the video said the very thing that would likely upset me: people thinking my wife is irritating. For all she knows, the husband doesn't care in the slightest, but she still feels irritated on his behalf. People just need to accept one another, and not decide for another couple what constitutes disrespect. If someone like her told my wife to 'please stop correcting your husband constantly, and just let him speak', I would be quite upset with her and possibly tell her to mind her own business/marriage, and stop worrying about my wife helping me with the finer details. She doesn't really seem like the type who would actually say something like that, but the fact that she even mentioned it is rather telling with how irritated she can be about someone else's marriage dynamics.

@@eugenetswong I think that depends on what is being said because sometimes someone is saying a very incorrect thing that could lead to harm and that would need public correction at the time. however, something trivial as if something was on Monday or Tuesday should be let go as it’s most likely doesn’t change the core of what is being said.

@@kayhamilton3947 Yeah, I agree. I was speaking in the context of when it doesn't lead to harm.

It's likely not your husband you need be concerned with feeling disrespected, and instead the people you are with finding you irritating. Finding a way to stop constantly correcting him will likely avoid the need for your husband to tell someone else to mind their own business when they finally feel brave enough to ask you to stop interrupting and correcting your husband. I say this because if I were married and my wife corrected me over finer, factual details, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. As for theology, it depends on the manner in which she says it. For example, if you have a differing perspective, you could say something like, 'that's so interesting, I always thought it was xyz, perhaps I've been looking at it out of context.' This gives your husband the opportunity to consider your words without feeling like you're trying to undermine him. It may come as a shock to you, but you're allowed to disagree with your husband's views (hopefully not fundamental and important ones, otherwise you just might be unequally yoked), and you can even discuss this with him, indeed, even in front of friends. Paul just said wives shouldn't do it while at church. The problem with other people finding my wife's corrections irritating, is that I am likely to defend her, even more so when her corrections don't bother me. I'm a very insecure person generally speaking, but my one day future wife correcting my anecdotal errors I actually find endearing. Some of those errors if left unchecked can change the whole context of a story. It's a tightrope act, with very few right answers. I would feel offended by people being irritated with my wife on my behalf.

No, Mike did not say that a wife *IS* caring for her husband by correcting him, and is unaware. He said that it’s POSSIBLE that SOME women MIGHT think they’re just trying to be being helpful, and MIGHT be unaware. However, those are few and far between. And I personally think Mike said that just to be diplomatic. Women who correct their husbands in public subconsciously choose to believe they’re doing it to be helpful, but they’re just fooling themselves. I know, because that’s what I believed until I matured enough to be able to recognize my own hidden motives. The fact that you misquoted Mike’s comment, shows that you’re only hearing/believing what you want to hear.

I make this point "respectfully" (pun intended), but it always surprises me when a woman says that it never occurred to her that something that is clearly disrespectful was disrespectful. Sincerely, when people do that to you do you really not feel disrespected? If you're telling a story and somebody randomly cut you off and explains that you're telling it wrong you don't feel disrespected? Here's a starting point for figuring out what is disrespectful to your husband: would you feel disrespected if somebody did it to you? That's not to say that there aren't times when a man might consider something disrespectful that you wouldn't necessarily, but those are the exception and not the rule. Generally speaking, if it would make you feel disrespected, it makes your husband feel disrespected. I'm really shocked at how many wives claim that they don't understand that.

@@MattPerk7 You've stated the problem us wives have quite clearly: we don't understand. My husband never once sat me down and told me how disrespected he felt when I corrected him, wrong or not. I, on the other hand, prefer to be corrected when I am wrong. If his correction was done respectfully, I didn't mind it at all. He didn't like correction no matter how respectfully I did it. Have you communicated to your wife how you feel respected or disrespected or do you simply expect her to just know? Men think like men and women think like women. And I'm not "claiming: to not understand. I genuinely do not understand. Tell me how, as a wife, I should've handled this situation: My husband tried to adjust something quickly in the engine compartment of our car. The engine was running. He stuck his hand in and nearly got his finger ripped off via the fan belt. He is permanently disfigured now. He knew better, right? To show that I respect him, I should have said nothing? I hope I am not coming across as sarcastic. I genuinely do NOT understand. What would you have your wife do: respect you by remaining quiet and risk you permantly damaging your hand, or disrespect you by warning you? As a wife, remaining quiet was unloving; warning him was loving. Tell me what to do.

. It depends on who knows more at that particular time .

@@woobiefuntime No it does not. It depends on who is in charge and in a godly house that is the husband. You don't get to choose that if you choose God.

Women's responsibilities ARE the husband's concerns if he is in charge. She is responsible to both her husband and God.

@@johnbreitmeier3268 what I'm saying is it is like being a advisor. .if the husband is wrong then he should be corrected by his wife because it has a impact on the home

@@johnbreitmeier3268 i see it that it's not up to the husband to tell his wife how she should behave towards him. It is to lead her, and their family, in a Christ-centred way, towards God, in whatever contexts they are living. Both parties are free to describe how they feel, or struggle, when their spouse behaves negatively towards them (as Mike explained very well, imo) - or indeed to express appreciation of loving behaviour. But I agree with Mike, that our job is to concentrate on our own brief to them, rather than pointing out their brief to us. 🙏

I sensed you were just trying to help 🙏🏼 but the pointers to be graceful or handle it in private is helpful. A few things that stood out for me was learning to grow [spiritually] with your spouse, i.e., thicker skin/thinner skin or even realizing that your partner was trying to be helpful in their own [interesting] way. But we don't count shortcomings/wrongdoings, we count moments to honor Christ & His Bride 🙏🏼🤗

It's really awesome that you could recognize yourself in this quickly and didn't need to make excuses or try to justify yourself. None of us start out perfect...we won't get there this side of heaven either...but the only way to improve is being able to see our short comings or character flaws and start working on them with the help of the holy spirit.

@@kathyrickard9001 Thanks for the encouragement! Grateful for the conviction of the Holy Spirit! 🙏

Beautiful. I’m trying to wrestle this in myself, too!

One wonderful pastor I had would often say, " do you want to be right or do you want to have relationship???" He applied that to his own relationships with his congregants and his wife. If it's Tuesday or Thursday or May or July, what does it really matter? Love your ministry Mike Winger!

You and I both!!!

My wife does that also.

I don't feel at peace when I hear my mother "correcting" my father. It's like a question of pride that is unasked and it keeps going until years later she's feeling guilty but she's already done harm. The matriarch does not take over the patriarch I think that's the female egoism is to correct her husband in front of her children self righteously. As my mother does.

Amen.

This has nothing to do withother "equal" relationships. It has to do with whether you respect your husband or not.

My problem is that I've been corrected so many times that sometimes when I'm having an adult conversation with someone, I have to ask the person clarifying questions on the meaning of a word or phrase. I know it annoys the person but I genuinely don't understand. Example: At Walmart, There was a pre-built bike that I absolutely wanted. There was something wrong where I would turn the handlebars but the wheel didn't follow. I took it to Customer Service and gave a three option request. 1. May I have a discount since the bike doesn't work As Is. (No) 2. Is there someone in the store either today or tomorrow who can fix this bike? ("We don't do that here.") 3. Do you have a tool I cam borrow to attempt to fix the bike ("No." - I returned the bike to its place and borrowed a kit from the shelf to fix it and returned the kit to its place....It didn't work.) The statement with number 2, I was trying to clarify what the Representative meant by "here". Did she mean "At this counter, in this store today (the bike builder will be back tomorrow), or in this store at all?" I had to ask for clarification three times and she only repeated those three same words. I finally got her to say, "We can't fix this bike in this store at all ever." (I avoid shopping there most of the time. After reading online reviews, people stated the same problem with that bike. I dodged a bullet and am glad I didn't buy it.)

@@johnbreitmeier3268 Nitpicking conversations certainly has *everything* to do with all relationships, including friendships. Yes, this video was addressing the issue of respect between husbands and wives, but that doesn't mean that people are "wrong" to comment on respect between people in general. Where do you get off, thinking that you can direct the course of conversation in the comment section??🤔🤪🤪 At least it's still relevant to the video.

@@johnbreitmeier3268 well, respect can be found in other relationships besides the marital ones can it not? We're just talking about generalist respect which can then be applied to the marriage relationship

Yes, both ways for sure.

Respect is not only for husbands. Wives can be belittled or dismissed or criticized and these are all forms of disrespect. I find the church generally only talks about wives disrespecting husbands.

Respect is not only for husbands. Wives can be belittled or dismissed or criticized and these are all forms of disrespect. I find the church generally only talks about wives disrespecting husbands.

@@laurakosch that’s because that’s what the Bible focus on. You’re not wrong, disrespect can go both ways, but the husbands commandment is to love his wife. If he’s doing that, as unto the Lord, he will be respectful.

I think it depends on what it is being corrected or how important it is. Most stuff should definitely slide. Also it depends on your relationship. If things are generally good between you, with lots of mutual love and respect, an occasional correction is no big deal. If you’re relationship is already strained though, the smallest thing seems big. Been there. It sucks🤦‍♂️

Definitely the most helpful part of the video

That's when you confront directly and tell her "Don't speak to me like that"

If she doesn't repent, I think you're supposed to bring it to the elders' attention.

The Husband didn't properly check out her character beforehand did he?

Obviously a woman should not be rebuking a man. But for a woman to woman (as in your case), follow the proper procedure layed out in Matthew 18:15~17 / Luke 17:3~4. Then 1 Corinthians 5:11~13 specifically says not to associate with someone who is a "verbal-abuser." (This is what the word means. But it may not be translated that way in your version. It's the word right after "greedy-person, or an idol-worshipper"). And then goes on to judging and removing such a person from the assembly. Then related to a woman screaming and rebuking her husband specifically, you have 1 Timothy 2:11~15 and 1 Peter 3:1~6.

@@johnrockwell5834 Not necessarily. There's no guarentee that the person you married will still be the same person throughout the marriage. Each person will make his own choice day by day to serve the lord or not. To choose life or death. Bliss or eternal fire.

Ahhhh, the force is strong in this one🥷

Not to be abrasive but why the heck do you need to correct them on a date anyway? This is generally what people who always want to be right do

@@somethinggood9267 I used this as an example because that was the example used in the video, more than anything. I don’t make a point of correcting people on dates at all if I can help it. In real life, I try to only do so if there is a group conversation and there is a debate already occurring as to when a certain event/vacation/etc happened. Then I’ll pipe up and say when I *think* it was. Having said that, I’ll admit that I sometimes offer this info when it isn’t asked of me. It’s a nit-picky flaw of mine that I’ve been working on for years.

But when someone corrects another just to be right while telling a story, that's just about interrupting and a "look at me!" Mentality. Sometimes people just need to set aside pride.

Some facts are not relevant.

Stephen, no. If an IMPORTANT matter needs to be corrected, you can do it in a gracious way.

@@josda1000 Is that what goes on? Perhaps. Or perhaps the person giving correction is trying to be helpful. You are right, however, that it is always a good thing to remove ego from the equation no matter who is speaking.

@@jasonreed2116 If the goal is truth and accuracy, then everyone in the conversation might be edified by helpful corrections. But as you say, it would depend on the circumstances. If the one being corrected and the one correcting can both keep their egos out of it, then no harm no foul.

One more thing, if I say something wrong and you don't correct me, we are going to have a problem. Because you are allowing me to be wrong. I am FOREVER a learner.

She is insecure and feels social anxiety and seems to respect her imagined image more than you. She’ll need some practice/therapy to learn why she does it and how to do something different

That sucks. Wasn't she like that at all when you were boyfriend and girlfriend? I'm 32, male and single btw.

Yes, I think a lot of people experience that. And I think the people that do it often either don't notice, and/or probably won't admit it. Really unhelpful behaviour. 😕🙏

You should talk to her about it. Tell her it upsets you

@@sherlockhomeless7138 I don't remember her doing the interrupting, no.

yep! There is a difference in being corrected on something minor and someone just being a nag for the sake of being a nag.

Yes, shyness doesn't really come into it 😁

Very true, when I used believe the conventional meaning of introversion, and in wanted to change some things about me with regards to social languages and thought it was innate, I prayed it away because people have it wrong and then say it's a genetic thing. and now I have people thinking I'm not an introvert, with shocked faces and making shady remarks when I disappear for weeks, or not constantly going out, thinking I've been hanging out with other people... When I was at home.

Hats off to you! It sounds like when it happens in your relationship, it doesn't adversely affect communication, and it's more a teamwork thing, which is cool. I think sometimes, though, the person correcting can be taking away from the point the other person is trying to make, and it can seem like they're correcting the *person* rather than clarifying details. But I actually get you - I'm big on accuracy, too! 😁

Same! Accuracy and honesty are so important to me!

I don´t know a single guy who does not take public correcting and interupting as disrespectful. I certainly do and would not like to be treated like that. (I agree with Mike though, it really matters how you do it)

Good day. The last time I checked only women can give birth and produce milk for each baby. A man can never exactly be a woman. It is sad that American culture and the world's culture at large have changed husbands working hard outside the house and women working hard inside the house until the children are raised. Please reach at least one soul each week with the true gospel of Jesus Christ. Let us get ready for the new earth. Stars are not that big and cannot be trillions of miles away because of Revelation 6:13. Stars are sources of light and help with seasons. If Judge Jesus is considered a foreign prince, would you defend the constitution or obey the word of God? Sodomy (homosexuality) is a deathstyle. Biology is when two men and two women will never have their own literal children. Tragedy is when a husband and a wife cannot literally make one flesh. People should go preaching at abortion clinics. You abhor idols but you commit sacrilege by going to church every sunday. Remember that Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed by the Lord in Genesis. Sodomites (homosexuals, furries, necromancers) are disobeying the first commandment which God gave, which is, Be fruitful and multiply. Women should wear dresses and a head covering. Men should wear trousers with no head covering. The mark of the beast is spiritual and physical. Only God can create in the Bible sense which is to bring something out of nothing. Peace unto you. Let us follow the pure Christian religion. Dragon is the old word for dinosaur. Elohim is a devil. The saints are going through tribulation but that will end when the Lord Jesus shall return. The world shall go through the wrath of God, not tribulation. The saints shall possess the kingdom and we shall reign here for a 1,000 years. The feet of our Lord Jesus will touch the Olivet mount. The gospel of John shows that the Lord Jesus rose before the first day of the week. He died in the midst of the week and rose on the sabbath. Daniel 9:27, John 19:31, John 20. We would say that he died on Wednesday and rose on Saturday. The first passover of the holy old king James Bible always comes before the heathen Easter. Read Acts 12:1-4. If the first passover falls around Easter like in 2022, then something is wrong. The calendar problem must be solved. I am not relying on man and that is why the belief I have is different from most people. We ought to pray for the repentance and success of kings and all those in authority. I pray for president Joe Biden and his cabinet to do well and repent of their sins. I have been praying for all those in authority since I read 1 Timothy 2:1-4 some years ago. I am a sabbath keeping, new moon celebrating, holy day feast observing Christian that would never knowingly eat pork, shrimps, or anything sacrificed to idols. It is an abomination for a Christian to eat shrimps, pork, chicken, etc. Adam and Eve were children of God but they sinned by eating from an unclean tree. The mark of the beast will be IN the right hand or IN the forehead. It is spiritual and physical. Most of the world worships the beast by keeping sunday, friday, Christmas, Easter, Eid, Diwali, etc. The carnal mark is linked to a digital economy. Our Lord Jesus never ate shrimps or pork. Prayerfully read Leviticus 11:43 and Revelation 21:8. If you make yourself abominable, that is a sin! Repent. The new covenant will not save you if you continue being rebellious and stubborn against the word of the Lord. It is a sin to steal and a sin to forget the sabbath (saturday). *1 Samuel **15:23** KJV - For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.* Witchcraft, sorcery idolatry, witches, sorcerers, idolaters will be cast into hellfire. Only they that are washed in the blood of the Lord Jesus and keep his commandments shall be kings and priests. There is no such thing as a sunday rest or sunday sabbath in the Bible. Only the seventh day is blessed, sanctified and hallowed. Isaiah 66:22,23 says that from one new moon to another and from one sabbath to another shall all flesh worship before the Lord in the new earth. Matthew 7:21-23 proves that not everyone that says Jesus is Lord will enter the kingdom. We need to do the will of the Father which is to obey and honor our Lord Jesus Christ. He kept the new moons and we ought to keep them.

@@thomasfryxelius5526 I think both sexes care! It would really irk me you know just be kind!

Spot on👍

FOR SURE

I’m not sure how someone else can make you feel dumb, unless there’s validity to the claim… otherwise it’s pride.

Yes. Now you know what to look for in your potential mate.

Hah! I tried the, "I feel (thus and so) when you do (such and such.)" And I got told, "Your feelings are not my problem." I was so gobsmacked that I didn't know what to say!! Of course, the issue was that he was *absolutely responsible* for what he'd done that had given rise to my feelings. But I missed the opportunity. 😟😟🤪

That is very wise. What are some of your personality flaws?

Exactly. And what you said can apply to all sorts of interactions with various people in one's life. Usually the issue is with the person who's doing the constant correcting and nitpicking, while the person on the receiving end, if not careful with their thoughts, may veer toward thinking, "What's wrong with me that keeps causing so-and-so to constantly do this?" Thus heaping the poor behavior of the other person onto themselves in the form of needless insecurity.

I see this kind of comment a lot. It is the assumption that the man is in the wrong. If the woman is wrong it is the man's fault. This isn't logical or Biblical. People are people. They all make mistakes. Even, shutter, wives with loving husbands need to get their act together at times.

@@bassmanjr100 I’m afraid you may be reading things into my statement that I didn’t intend. Allow me to clarify: It doesn’t have anything to do with anyone being “in the wrong”, anyones “fault”. I’m simply saying the best way to garner respect, is to live in a manner that deserves respect. This seems completely logical to me. And since I’m quoting on a video from Mike Winger, I assumed my comment would be understood to mean that this man would be living in a biblical manner, as the leader of the family. In short, we should not expect respect….just because. That seems illogical.

@@bassmanjr100 You have a point; Yes, even women can be wrong. But the focus on the man isn't a matter of blame. It's one of responsibility. A leader is responsible for what happens even if he's not to blame. It's his responsibility to address the issue and find a good resolution.

@@josephmiller997 incorrect. It’s a husbands responsibility to be sensitive to the Spirit of God and to lead his family. He is not responsible for any of her behavior if he is led by the Spirit. She has free will. She will stand alone on judgement day.

Jesus is always someone who is respectful. He is commanding the wife to respect (literally "fear") her husband. So, if she refuses to respect her husband, she's actually disrespecting Jesus. So, in these cases, the man needs to love his wife even if she refuses to subject herself to him, and the woman needs to subject herself to her husband even if he is an unbeliever or disobeying God. (1 Peter 3:1+, etc.)

What scripture

@@Diamond-eq2xj Matthew 18:15-17. Related is Galatians 6:1 and 1 Timothy 5:20

@@voymasa7980 correcting someone is not “sinning against them” which is what Matthew spoke about. The Galations verse has nothing to do with this and 1st Timothy 5 quite literally says those who are sinning rebuke in the presence of all. So how would that have to do with not correcting them publicly…?

@@Diamond-eq2xj you misapprehend. I never said correcting someone is "sinning against them", you switched the subjects of the verse: the point is the reproving is done 1:1 discreetly first, then, if they don't listen, with 2-3 witnesses, and only after them "continuing in sin" (like 1 Tim 5:20 affirms) reprove them before the congregation. Galatians 6:1 is linked because the reprover should have a spirit fo meekness themselves in this reprove, so it's not to be done pridefully or arrogantly; this comports with Jesus warning to remove the beam from your own eye before trying to remove the speck of dust from your brothers. By taking them to the side to reprove 1:1 at first, and if necessary before only a couple witnesses, it also gives you the opportunity to not look like a fool if you were the one wrong.

@@voymasa7980 quick question. Is english your first language? I haven’t even read all of what you said. I couldn’t make it past the first sentence. I believe you mean miscomprehend…

Ooooh, that's a tough one... Mike, please answer for this man!

Honor the Sabbath regardless. Do stuff to serve her on the other days to make sure you carry your weight, maybe do more or hire out help.

You should read 1 Peter 3:1~6 and submit to that instead.

@@XeenMusic 😂

Yes. What advice do they have when the other person is outright lying or exaggerating at your expense? Roll over like a doormat and take it?

@@lindenpeters2601 With at least men (I would presume it would carry over to a woman, but I can't be 100% certain), they are to go one on one. If they don't listen, then take two or three others. If they still don't listen, then take it before the entire assembly. Matthew 15:15~17 15 “But if at any time your brother might sin, be going away; convict him alone between you and him. If at any time he might hear you, you gained your brother. 16 But if at any time he might not hear, take alongside with you still one or two, in order that by the mouth of two or three testifiers every word might be made to stand. 17 But if at any time he might refuse to hear them, speak to the assembly. But if at any time he might even refuse to hear the assembly, let him be to you even as the one of the nations and the tax collector." But since women themselves are to be silent in the assembly, it would be clear at that point that men would be involved by then in dealing with the situation. Otherwise, the women needs to follow 1 Peter 3:1~6, in which it states that if her husband does not obey the word of God, that she is supposed to win him over without words. So, she's not supposing to be nagging and rebuking him and correcting him for his sins.

@@XeenMusic What about love her as he loves and nourishes his body?Why is your correction one sided???

Wow, that's fast! 😂

Are you dealing with her or in relationship with her? Big difference.

He usually uses ESV and NASB from what I’ve seen.

He had transitioned to the ESV for a bit, but is back and forth, he used primarily the NKJV for the longest time. He often references most of the other actual translations.

He was correcting you in public, what were you doing to disrespect him?

My wife and I did the same thing. I noticed it one day and brought it up. We agreed never to do that again, and it was actually easy. We've had a wonderful 25 years together.

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 I never say 'you do this or that' I always say ' we'. If I don't he will throw it back at me and argument would start. I probably am guility of things as well, so I allways say WE.

Thank you for addressing this. They soft pedaled the issue badly.

The problem is, if your wife actually does not respect you then this will only make the situation worse LOL

As long as it is in the context of her recognizing him as an authority in her life. Obviously, good parents will learn how to treat their children respectfully, but the kind of respect that children show to their parents is different in that it is a recognition of the parents Authority. If you work for somebody at a job, hopefully they have respect for you but your respect for them is on a slightly different level because of the authority that they have concerning the work that you do for their company or for the work that they have been tasked with overseeing. A coach should have respect for his team, but the respect that they have for him is on a slightly different level because he is an authority. It's the same thing in a marriage. Obviously a good husband should have respect for his wife but her respect for him is different in that he has authority over her. I think that's what is often missed in modern-day marriages. Wouldn't you agree?

Perhaps, but our Bible says vengeance is the Lords and nowhere are we permitted to disobey the Lords commands to us, because our spouse has. Jesus said, take up YOUR cross and follow ME.

@@BoxBoy86 The idea of revenge is an explanation, not an excuse. I know a wife who’s doing this, and I think it’s a very bad behavior. And some men like to humiliate their wife in public. That is bad too.

@@biaberg3448 agreed 🙏

Amen this statement was a red flag of the feminist cancer that has seeped into almost every area of everything. Only jokes at men’s expense are allowed. This is why society is ruined. Mike Winger just actually added to the problem here rather than take a strong stand and be disliked for it

A wife ignoring her husband is certainly a form of disrespect. I certainly agree with you that a wife who makes mild contradictions like that in public is far better than a wife who is completely inattentive to her husband all together.

The marriage questions conference. From what I can tell, there have been at least 8 sessions posted so far and Mike is the speaker of sessions 3,5, and 7.

Dating is wrong

@@blakeavila4409 When you're single? Wrong how?

@@spacecoastz4026 Bonds you with someone else's future wife

@@blakeavila4409 What? So you believe in only arrange marriages and not dating and finding the right person? I'm not bonded to anyone but my wife.

@@spacecoastz4026 There is no such thing as the right person. Only ready people and not ready people. When men and women are alone together they emotionally bond. Even if you’re no longer bonded with other women you can still remember them and they can still remember you. I’m not for arranged marriage (I’m not against it either) I’m for betrothal and courting in each other’s houses with each other’s families and never alone one-on-one

Someone else replied that it’s called the “marriage questions conference”. It’s available in full on utube.

@@alstroemeria227again4 Thanks!

Fair

As Mike said, if it´s really vital and could actually hurt people you might have to

Best thing you can do to avoid this is to be a meek and pleasant wife. Follow the examples in the scriptures.

truth. Apparently its ok if you walk all over women and belittle them....

I find our society including our churches have done the opposite. In our culture and entertainment, men are often depicted as stupid and lazy and only able to function through life because of their amazing, brilliant wives. The women expect the men to work very hard, pay for everything, protect everyone and then be the butt of jokes. And our culture wonders why men pass on marriage all together more than ever. If our churches try to turn the tide back an inch towards something Biblical they are called patriarchal bigots. That is why most have either given up or put 90% of the focus on men.

​@@bassmanjr100 um what? has nothing to do with this comment. "whine whine" men are teased. Oh please. For every man that is "belittled" by being told to get his keister off a couch instead of playing video games, there is a woman who is told she is not attractive enough, pretty enough, feminine enough, whatever, not enough of a "trophy wife". Get real.

@@rachelm9350 You should really think about something other than your appearance for a change. Vanity is not a Christian value.

They would need to talk one-on-one and talk out the issues.

Pray

I would ask that woman why she married that man in the first place. How bad of a judge of character do you have to be to marry a man who is completely unrespectable?

continue to respect him and fulfill her role as a godly wife regardless of if he fulfills his role. our calling doesn’t change depending on whether or not others fail or succeed at fulfilling their own calling. the same is true for Christians in general. we’re still called to evangelize and walk with the Lord even if our brothers and sisters in Christ are failing to do the same

@@SeanWinters I mean people can change, especially after they get married...

What would you do if she refused to go somewhere private?

Your brain and the way it works is unique LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. Tell me why you get a label for the way you think?

@@Epic_Shotz Are you upset about this? Because I am quite dysfunctional in the ways that correspond to mild autism. Do you not believe in autism?

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Doesn’t matter HOW it is done. If the spouse finds it disrespectful, it will never be right. Ultimately, the other spouse has control over how they perceive it. You may have all the loving intentions in the world, but if it’s harmful to your spouse, doesn’t matter. If you truly love your spouse, you will stop hurting them in “loving” ways. It’s all the balance. Your spouse should grow thicker skin and you should grow thinner, but in the end, if it really bothers your spouse, what kind of a monster are you to tell them, “Oh honey, you KNOW I love you! That’s why I disregard your feelings and wishes and do what I THINK is ok regardless of how it makes you feel! Grow thicker skin because that’s what Mike said to do!” 🤦‍♂️ Love is kind. If your “love” isn’t … it’s not kind or love. Edit: fixed mistake

@@JimLookin if someone is constantly offended they have an issue.

@@rachelm9350 Indeed. But who has the issue? My point is if it is something that always bothers your spouse, why continue to do it? You can’t wash your hands and walk away because “they should be enlightened enough to deal”. The Bible deals with this issue when telling stronger Christians to not do things that cause harm to weaker Christians. It continues by saying weaker Christians should grow up and take on the “meat” of the Word and not only want “milk”. Both are charged with something to do: grow and be tolerant/loving towards those growing. Edit: If someone refuses to grow and stop being offended, you are indeed correct. I was inadequately stating clearly the point that to continue to do something that hurts your spouse could be “ok”. I think we can all agree that someone who always disregards how something affects their spouse while clinging to the stance it was technically “correct” in what they did. Hopefully this clarifies better my intention. Thank you for adding your bit so I could fill in what was missing.