I’ve watched several marriages fall apart when someone starts living a separate life & or just don’t care anymore. @ a low point in my marriage I considered just distancing myself from her & she’d “come to me”. That is usually the nail in the coffin for marriage & any relationship. Took me a long time to get it through my head that she’s not responsible for my happiness.
I told my ex husband that I wasn’t responsible for his happiness and he thought I was. He refused to work on our marriage. I waited and waited and he didn’t want to make it work. He wanted a wife and side pieces too. Glad you realized she wasn’t responsible for your happiness.
It's true a spouse shouldn't be responsible for their spouse's happiness, but if they were to respond 'I'm not responsible' and just leave it at that, I'd question if they're ignoring the fact a spouse can definitely influence whether a spouse is happy and should also have a vested interest their spouses happy or not. I may not responsible for my wife's happiness, but it definitely matters to me whether she is or not.
Marriage has nothing to do with "happiness." That's a Disney movie lie. Marriage is duty. Honor your commitment and do your duty. Do it for the glory of God.
@@simonedishelle6720 Debunking catholicism I'm more blessed than mary Proof = Luke 11:27-28 27 And it happened, as He spoke these things, that a certain woman from the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You, and the breasts which nursed You!” 28 But He said, “More than that, blessed are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” In Luke 11:27 that random woman LITERALLY said Jesus your mother is Blessed, but are Lord Jesus LITERALLY said Believers are more Blessed than mary. Amen and Amen _________________________ CHRIST alone John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. ACTS 4:12 Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” There is only One Mediator between God and men, LORD Jesus Christ= 1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God and one Mediator between God and men, the Man Christ Jesus. Hebrew 9:15 And for this reason He is the Mediator of the new covenant, by means of death, for the redemption of the transgressions under the first covenant, that those who are called may receive the promise of the eternal inheritance. Hebrew 12:24 to Jesus the Mediator of the new covenant, and to the blood of sprinkling that speaks better things than that of Abel. Hebrew 8:6 But now He has obtained a more excellent ministry, inasmuch as He is also Mediator of a better covenant, which was established on better promises. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by One Spirit to the Father John 15:5 5 “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. _________________________ Work of God = John 6:28 Then they said to Him, “What shall we do, that we may work the works of God?” 29 Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He sent.” _________________________ 1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach Paul allows bishops to get marry, but catholic church goes against paul. Now these catholic will give a Verses from 1 Corinthians7 to say that paul gave the advice to stay unmarried. But they will not tell you that the same chapter they quote says 1 Corinthians 7:28 "even if you do marry, you have not SINNED". The passage literally says "young women, young men" and a bishop is supposed to be a Church ELDER. Mic drop _________________________ Jesus said Matthew 23:9 9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. And also said Holy Father to Heavenly Father= John 17:11 11 Now I am no longer in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep through Your name those whom You have given Me, that they may be one as We are. Jesus said call no one Father but still catholics call *pope holy father. Sad _________________________ Whenever a catholic argue about mary being the mother of God Use this to defeat the argument. Luke 8:21 But He answered and said to them, “My mother and My brothers are these who hear the word of God and do it.” Matthew 12:46-50 46 While He was still talking to the multitudes, behold, His mother and brothers stood outside, seeking to speak with Him. 47 Then one said to Him, “Look, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside, seeking to speak with You.” 48 But He answered and said to the one who told Him, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” 49 And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, “Here are My mother and My brothers! 50 For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.”. Mark 3:35 For whoever does the will of God is My brother and My sister and mother.” John 19:26-27 26 When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” 27 Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home. ( Jesus basically said John is the son of mary, and mary is the mother of John from that time onwards). By the way sarah is the mother of all proof=Galatians 4:21-26. _________________________ We should not pray to apostles Romans 1:25 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. Acts 10:25-26 25 As Peter was coming in, Cornelius met him and fell down at his feet and worshiped him. 26 But Peter lifted him up, saying, “Stand up; I myself am also a man.” Acts 14:15 15 and saying, “Men, why are you doing these things? We also are men with the same nature as you, and preach to you that you should turn from these useless things to the living God, who made the heaven, the earth, the sea, and all things that are in them, Revelation 19:10 10 And I fell at his feet to worship him. But he said to me, “See that you do not do that! I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren who have the testimony of Jesus. Worship God! For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.” Revelation 22:8-9 8 Now I, John, saw and heard these things. And when I heard and saw, I fell down to worship before the feet of the angel who showed me these things. 9 Then he said to me, “See that you do not do that. For I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren the prophets, and of those who keep the words of this book. Worship God." Colossians 2:18 18 Let no one cheat you of your reward, taking delight in false humility and worship of angels, intruding into those things which he has not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, You cannot go to Father through saints nor mary, you can only go to the Father through Lord Jesus Christ= John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by one Spirit to the Father. Holy Spirit intercedes for us=Romans 8:26 26 Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And CHRIST as well=Romans 8:34 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Hebrews 7:25 25 Therefore He is also able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them. It's Christ and Holy Spirit who intercedes for us not apostles _________________________ Apostles are allowed to marry, 1 Corinthians 9:1-5 1 Am I not an apostle? Am I not free? Have I not seen Jesus Christ our Lord? Are you not my work in the Lord? 2 If I am not an apostle to others, yet doubtless I am to you. For you are the seal of my apostleship in the Lord. 3 My defense to those who examine me is this: 4 Do we have no right to eat and drink? 5 Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? If Peter (peter is cephas read John 1:42) the so called "first pope" was married, why does the catholic church doesn't allow "pope" to marry? _________________________ The so called vicar of christ/ pope/holy father Peter called himself a fellow elder in 1 Peter 5:1, and as per the qualifications of elder in Titus 1:5-9 the elder is allowed to get married; then why does the "pope" is required to be celibate and catholic? ( when Peter was neither celibate nor catholic). 1)Peter was not perfect human nor was he a perfect disciple 2)He sank down while walking on water 3)Our Lord said to peter get behind me satan 4)Peter reject our Lord 3 times 5)Our Lord rebuked Peter for calling fire from heaven 6)Our Lord rebuked Peter when he cut of the soilders ear 7)Paul rebuked Peter for being hypocrite because he was acting different in front of Jews and different in front of gentiles. 8) Moses messed up, and he was a important part of Bible ( that's why he never entered the promised land), 9)David messed up ( and he has the Holy Spirit), 10)King Soloman messed up, 11) Saul messed up and God regretted the decision (1 Samuel 15:10-11). Hatrick (Saul then David then Soloman back to back messed up) 12)The apostles run away a day before Lord Jesus got locked up. 13)The early church messed up Rev 2:18-20, 1 Corinthians, Galatians. 14) Apostle John when receiving Revelation worshiped an angel and the angel said "see you do not do that. Worship GOD" Revelation 22:8-9 If these great people could mess up, why do you think the catholic church wouldn't mess up. _ Galatians 4:21-26 21 Tell me, you who desire to be under the law, do you not hear the law? 22 For it is written that Abraham had two sons: the one by a bondwoman, the other by a freewoman. 23 But he who was of the bondwoman was born according to the flesh, and he of the freewoman through promise, 24 which things are symbolic. For these are the two covenants: the one from Mount Sinai which gives birth to bondage, which is Hagar- 25 for this Hagar is Mount Sinai in Arabia, and corresponds to Jerusalem which now is, and is in bondage with her children- 26 but the Jerusalem above is free, which is the mother of us all. Sarah is mother of all, Not mary Also the Church has many name like Christians, Evangelists, Children of God, Believers, servents of God, bride of Christ, but not once the Church is called catholics Changed the 10 commandments by deleting 2nd commandment, and dividing the 10th into 2 commandments. Also changing the real Saturday Sabbath to fake sunday sabbath.
The ONLY thing my ex-husband did was abuse me, constantly be unfaithful, abuse our children, and pretend to be a Christian within the "church". I seriously believed in putting my all into making it work. I remained with him for 20 years out of guilt and belief I would go to hell if I divorced him, but when he finally decided he was justified in killing me, I finally divorced him. Our children deserved to have someone around to love them and set an example of caring and giving rather than hate and taking. Sometimes there is NOTHING whatsoever that can be done. I am single to this day and plan to remain that way for the rest of my life, and it is the most wonderful thing in the world to have Jesus as my "husband". No matter the difficulties, I believed it was possible for God to change this man if I stayed a committed Christian wife and mother, but one thing I found to be true is that one person cannot make a relationship.
@@Tararrtma777 doesnt matter if hes a believer or an unbeliever, adultery is legal grounds doe a divorce and if a person is tryna kill you its best to get up out of there as well
Verse 13 says, "And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away." 1. Your husband obviously did not consent to live with you. 2. Your husband did not "bring forth fruits worthy of repentance," which is to say, he gave abundance evidence that he was a false believer. Leaving him was completely justified. I hope, in the divorce, your lawyer took him for everything he had.
Thankfully you are now safe, at peace, and walking with the Lord. You had grounds to divorce your ex long before you did. Mike’s point here is about those who have vey weak excuses for divorce.
In the middle of a really hard time in my marriage I read a book that said Divorce is not an option. That became my motto for my marriage. I also realized if I could talk myself right out of being in love. I could talk myself right back into it. There was a day that a u-hual sat in my yard and my husband was loading up and moving to another state we were done. As our 5 kids sat on the couch as we told them what was happening.... deep inside like in my soul I guess I heard the words this is not God honoring find some way to work this out. I looked at my husband told him we needed to talk. The only way he was staying with me was if we all loaded up and moved. So the next day we all moved. That was 13ish years ago. We are about to celebrate our 22nd anniversary on 21st. It took a while but I talked myself right back into love and so did he. So when my kids where getting married those were the advises I gave them. Divorce is not an option. And you can talk yourself right back in love.
Exactly! Love is a choice. I have a similar story. We stayed together out of obedience. God has blessed that and we have been married 31 years. I always tell people, unless divorce is not an option, divorce will happen.
My youngest brother who is 21 is in a hard marriage. They got Married 1 year ago in July (married in 2021) this series has really helped my dad and I minister to him.
As an aside, of course sensitive to your own situation, please don't encourage 20 year olds to marry, even if the couple's been dating since they were 16. There's so much growth that generally happens between 20 and 23, even, that sets you up better to be a responsible, loving spouse.
Christian follow Jesus, the great apostasy follow wolves in sheep clothes. If you claim to be a Christian, then which group are you in? Why don't you fellowship with the other groups like you do with your group? Are you Baptist, that joins with the Jehovah Witness? What about Catholic, do you fellowship with the Mormon on their holy day?
@@dianetigert1310 I fellowship with baptist and Catholics, I used to fellowship with a Mormon but he moved and there aren’t many in this town, and I grew up with Jehovahs as neighbors and spent many nights at their house, when I see them at the store we are still very friendly. My basement fridge is from one of them. How else am I supposed to witness without fellowship? Now all of this is irrelevant to my original comment as my brother and his wife are both Christians that need to work on areas of their life, like we all do.
@@jasonhuang6332 Debunking catholicism I'm more blessed than mary Proof = Luke 11:27-28 27 And it happened, as He spoke these things, that a certain woman from the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You, and the breasts which nursed You!” 28 But He said, “More than that, blessed are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” In Luke 11:27 that random woman LITERALLY said Jesus your mother is Blessed, but are Lord Jesus LITERALLY said Believers are more Blessed than mary. Amen and Amen _________________________ CHRIST alone John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. ACTS 4:12 Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” There is only One Mediator between God and men, LORD Jesus Christ= 1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God and one Mediator between God and men, the Man Christ Jesus. Hebrew 9:15 And for this reason He is the Mediator of the new covenant, by means of death, for the redemption of the transgressions under the first covenant, that those who are called may receive the promise of the eternal inheritance. Hebrew 12:24 to Jesus the Mediator of the new covenant, and to the blood of sprinkling that speaks better things than that of Abel. Hebrew 8:6 But now He has obtained a more excellent ministry, inasmuch as He is also Mediator of a better covenant, which was established on better promises. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by One Spirit to the Father John 15:5 5 “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. _________________________ Work of God = John 6:28 Then they said to Him, “What shall we do, that we may work the works of God?” 29 Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He sent.” _________________________ 1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach Paul allows bishops to get marry, but catholic church goes against paul. Now these catholic will give a Verses from 1 Corinthians7 to say that paul gave the advice to stay unmarried. But they will not tell you that the same chapter they quote says 1 Corinthians 7:28 "even if you do marry, you have not SINNED". The passage literally says "young women, young men" and a bishop is supposed to be a Church ELDER. Mic drop _________________________ Jesus said Matthew 23:9 9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. And also said Holy Father to Heavenly Father= John 17:11 11 Now I am no longer in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep through Your name those whom You have given Me, that they may be one as We are. Jesus said call no one Father but still catholics call *pope holy father. Sad _________________________ Whenever a catholic argue about mary being the mother of God Use this to defeat the argument. Luke 8:21 But He answered and said to them, “My mother and My brothers are these who hear the word of God and do it.” Matthew 12:46-50 46 While He was still talking to the multitudes, behold, His mother and brothers stood outside, seeking to speak with Him. 47 Then one said to Him, “Look, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside, seeking to speak with You.” 48 But He answered and said to the one who told Him, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” 49 And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, “Here are My mother and My brothers! 50 For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.”. Mark 3:35 For whoever does the will of God is My brother and My sister and mother.” John 19:26-27 26 When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” 27 Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home. ( Jesus basically said John is the son of mary, and mary is the mother of John from that time onwards). By the way sarah is the mother of all proof=Galatians 4:21-26. _________________________ We should not pray to apostles Romans 1:25 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. Acts 10:25-26 25 As Peter was coming in, Cornelius met him and fell down at his feet and worshiped him. 26 But Peter lifted him up, saying, “Stand up; I myself am also a man.” Acts 14:15 15 and saying, “Men, why are you doing these things? We also are men with the same nature as you, and preach to you that you should turn from these useless things to the living God, who made the heaven, the earth, the sea, and all things that are in them, Revelation 19:10 10 And I fell at his feet to worship him. But he said to me, “See that you do not do that! I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren who have the testimony of Jesus. Worship God! For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.” Revelation 22:8-9 8 Now I, John, saw and heard these things. And when I heard and saw, I fell down to worship before the feet of the angel who showed me these things. 9 Then he said to me, “See that you do not do that. For I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren the prophets, and of those who keep the words of this book. Worship God." Colossians 2:18 18 Let no one cheat you of your reward, taking delight in false humility and worship of angels, intruding into those things which he has not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, You cannot go to Father through saints nor mary, you can only go to the Father through Lord Jesus Christ= John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by one Spirit to the Father. Holy Spirit intercedes for us=Romans 8:26 26 Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And CHRIST as well=Romans 8:34 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Hebrews 7:25 25 Therefore He is also able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them. It's Christ and Holy Spirit who intercedes for us not apostles _________________________ Apostles are allowed to marry, 1 Corinthians 9:1-5 1 Am I not an apostle? Am I not free? Have I not seen Jesus Christ our Lord? Are you not my work in the Lord? 2 If I am not an apostle to others, yet doubtless I am to you. For you are the seal of my apostleship in the Lord. 3 My defense to those who examine me is this: 4 Do we have no right to eat and drink? 5 Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? If Peter (peter is cephas read John 1:42) the so called "first pope" was married, why does the catholic church doesn't allow "pope" to marry? _________________________ The so called vicar of christ/ pope/holy father Peter called himself a fellow elder in 1 Peter 5:1, and as per the qualifications of elder in Titus 1:5-9 the elder is allowed to get married; then why does the "pope" is required to be celibate and catholic? ( when Peter was neither celibate nor catholic). 1)Peter was not perfect human nor was he a perfect disciple 2)He sank down while walking on water 3)Our Lord said to peter get behind me satan 4)Peter reject our Lord 3 times 5)Our Lord rebuked Peter for calling fire from heaven 6)Our Lord rebuked Peter when he cut of the soilders ear 7)Paul rebuked Peter for being hypocrite because he was acting different in front of Jews and different in front of gentiles. 8) Moses messed up, and he was a important part of Bible ( that's why he never entered the promised land), 9)David messed up ( and he has the Holy Spirit), 10)King Soloman messed up, 11) Saul messed up and God regretted the decision (1 Samuel 15:10-11). Hatrick (Saul then David then Soloman back to back messed up) 12)The apostles run away a day before Lord Jesus got locked up. 13)The early church messed up Rev 2:18-20, 1 Corinthians, Galatians. 14) Apostle John when receiving Revelation worshiped an angel and the angel said "see you do not do that. Worship GOD" Revelation 22:8-9 If these great people could mess up, why do you think the catholic church wouldn't mess up. _ Galatians 4:21-26 21 Tell me, you who desire to be under the law, do you not hear the law? 22 For it is written that Abraham had two sons: the one by a bondwoman, the other by a freewoman. 23 But he who was of the bondwoman was born according to the flesh, and he of the freewoman through promise, 24 which things are symbolic. For these are the two covenants: the one from Mount Sinai which gives birth to bondage, which is Hagar- 25 for this Hagar is Mount Sinai in Arabia, and corresponds to Jerusalem which now is, and is in bondage with her children- 26 but the Jerusalem above is free, which is the mother of us all. Sarah is mother of all, Not mary Also the Church has many name like Christians, Evangelists, Children of God, Believers, servents of God, bride of Christ, but not once the Church is called catholics Changed the 10 commandments by deleting 2nd commandment, and dividing the 10th into 2 commandments. Also changing the real Saturday Sabbath to fake sunday sabbath.
I'm really struggling in my marriage. My wife is not a Christian and I feel like my faith is growing stronger & stronger each day but it means she thinks I'm drifting further from her everyday. She thinks I do too much church stuff and I'm in a tension between wanting to please her & please God and when those two world collides and I pick God she resents me. Please pray for me as I'm really struggling. I'm really trying to witness to her but I feel the more I do the more she hates God.
Witness to her with your love, compassion, and prayers. Be the light of Christ in your marriage. Let the Holy Spirit work in her heart. Jesus didn't only love people if they were following him. He loved them in their brokenness, in their unbelief. And with his love and mercy they realized who he was and followed him. Not because he told them to but because they wanted to be close to the way, truth and life. He is the only way to find true joy. Jesus also he came to divide. And if you are putting him above all things and all people, everything will be as it is supposed to be. Keep putting him first and let him do what only he can, which is change her heart. Praying for you and her that God will move in your life and heal the broken places in your marriage so that yall will be able to follow Jesus together. In Jesus name. Amen.
Do you do too much church stuff to the neglect of home life? Part of serving God is being a good husband and helping at home. Obviously I don’t know your life, but it’s okay to scale back if church is taking up time in an unhealthy way. Church work isn’t the only way to serve God, nor is it a summary representation of serving him. She needs to know that the gospel includes love for her too, despite her rejection of it.
Ditto what Window said. I've been in churches that took up a LOT of time. That was a good thing for families with the shared goal of serving Christ. But I've known of churches where that approached cult-like levels, too. You need balance. Keep in mind that losing your wife will limit your ability to serve in the church (well, in many churches, anyway). Saving your marriage is part of your testimony. So, pleasing your wife (within limits) IS part of pleasing God! When your wife is converted, you'll have something in common, something to share, something to build a life upon. You can't abandon church, but until your wife converts, you might have say "no" to some (not all) church activities to prove your love to your wife. If you haven't explained already.... She is secure in your love, and you wish she shared in your love for God, but you will love her no matter what. But you have to let God be God. Your wife does not outrank God.
When a person is not walking in peace and joy, they are likely to look for excuses outside of themselves. Depression sets in and they 'just want out of it', instead of working it through. This is why the Lord has given us a community of saints. In this individualistic society, we don't know how to live in community. We go to church and don't really know our fellow believers. That is not the Lord's way. He bids us to become one in love and service to each other, to use the fruit and gifts he has given each of us to help his fellows. A community of love will welcome the broken and struggling souls, without seeking to take the speck out of their eyes first before showing love. Create relationship in the Lord and be open to helping each other through life's struggles.
Here is the patience of the saints: here are they that keep the commandments of God, and the faith of Jesus. In today's world, where is anyone that qualifies as a saint? We strive to be saints because many are called yet few are chosen. ppl claim God saved them a sinner yet persecute the other sinners....all that God ask of us is help one another, some have gifts for one matter while others have their gift for another, but we are all called to help one another, doing the will of the father..Matthew 5:20 For I say unto you, That except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven.
@@mangudaimonger8915 Debunking catholicism I'm more blessed than mary Proof = Luke 11:27-28 27 And it happened, as He spoke these things, that a certain woman from the crowd raised her voice and said to Him, “Blessed is the womb that bore You, and the breasts which nursed You!” 28 But He said, “More than that, blessed are those who hear the word of God and keep it!” In Luke 11:27 that random woman LITERALLY said Jesus your mother is Blessed, but are Lord Jesus LITERALLY said Believers are more Blessed than mary. Amen and Amen _________________________ CHRIST alone John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. ACTS 4:12 Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” There is only One Mediator between God and men, LORD Jesus Christ= 1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God and one Mediator between God and men, the Man Christ Jesus. Hebrew 9:15 And for this reason He is the Mediator of the new covenant, by means of death, for the redemption of the transgressions under the first covenant, that those who are called may receive the promise of the eternal inheritance. Hebrew 12:24 to Jesus the Mediator of the new covenant, and to the blood of sprinkling that speaks better things than that of Abel. Hebrew 8:6 But now He has obtained a more excellent ministry, inasmuch as He is also Mediator of a better covenant, which was established on better promises. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by One Spirit to the Father John 15:5 5 “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing. _________________________ Work of God = John 6:28 Then they said to Him, “What shall we do, that we may work the works of God?” 29 Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He sent.” _________________________ 1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach Paul allows bishops to get marry, but catholic church goes against paul. Now these catholic will give a Verses from 1 Corinthians7 to say that paul gave the advice to stay unmarried. But they will not tell you that the same chapter they quote says 1 Corinthians 7:28 "even if you do marry, you have not SINNED". The passage literally says "young women, young men" and a bishop is supposed to be a Church ELDER. Mic drop _________________________ Jesus said Matthew 23:9 9 Do not call anyone on earth your father; for One is your Father, He who is in heaven. And also said Holy Father to Heavenly Father= John 17:11 11 Now I am no longer in the world, but these are in the world, and I come to You. Holy Father, keep through Your name those whom You have given Me, that they may be one as We are. Jesus said call no one Father but still catholics call *pope holy father. Sad _________________________ Whenever a catholic argue about mary being the mother of God Use this to defeat the argument. Luke 8:21 But He answered and said to them, “My mother and My brothers are these who hear the word of God and do it.” Matthew 12:46-50 46 While He was still talking to the multitudes, behold, His mother and brothers stood outside, seeking to speak with Him. 47 Then one said to Him, “Look, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside, seeking to speak with You.” 48 But He answered and said to the one who told Him, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” 49 And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, “Here are My mother and My brothers! 50 For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.”. Mark 3:35 For whoever does the will of God is My brother and My sister and mother.” John 19:26-27 26 When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold your son!” 27 Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home. ( Jesus basically said John is the son of mary, and mary is the mother of John from that time onwards). By the way sarah is the mother of all proof=Galatians 4:21-26. _________________________ We should not pray to apostles Romans 1:25 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. Acts 10:25-26 25 As Peter was coming in, Cornelius met him and fell down at his feet and worshiped him. 26 But Peter lifted him up, saying, “Stand up; I myself am also a man.” Acts 14:15 15 and saying, “Men, why are you doing these things? We also are men with the same nature as you, and preach to you that you should turn from these useless things to the living God, who made the heaven, the earth, the sea, and all things that are in them, Revelation 19:10 10 And I fell at his feet to worship him. But he said to me, “See that you do not do that! I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren who have the testimony of Jesus. Worship God! For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.” Revelation 22:8-9 8 Now I, John, saw and heard these things. And when I heard and saw, I fell down to worship before the feet of the angel who showed me these things. 9 Then he said to me, “See that you do not do that. For I am your fellow servant, and of your brethren the prophets, and of those who keep the words of this book. Worship God." Colossians 2:18 18 Let no one cheat you of your reward, taking delight in false humility and worship of angels, intruding into those things which he has not seen, vainly puffed up by his fleshly mind, You cannot go to Father through saints nor mary, you can only go to the Father through Lord Jesus Christ= John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. Ephesians 2:18 For through Him we both have access by one Spirit to the Father. Holy Spirit intercedes for us=Romans 8:26 26 Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And CHRIST as well=Romans 8:34 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Hebrews 7:25 25 Therefore He is also able to save to the uttermost those who come to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them. It's Christ and Holy Spirit who intercedes for us not apostles _________________________ Apostles are allowed to marry, 1 Corinthians 9:1-5 1 Am I not an apostle? Am I not free? Have I not seen Jesus Christ our Lord? Are you not my work in the Lord? 2 If I am not an apostle to others, yet doubtless I am to you. For you are the seal of my apostleship in the Lord. 3 My defense to those who examine me is this: 4 Do we have no right to eat and drink? 5 Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? If Peter (peter is cephas read John 1:42) the so called "first pope" was married, why does the catholic church doesn't allow "pope" to marry? _________________________ The so called vicar of christ/ pope/holy father Peter called himself a fellow elder in 1 Peter 5:1, and as per the qualifications of elder in Titus 1:5-9 the elder is allowed to get married; then why does the "pope" is required to be celibate and catholic? ( when Peter was neither celibate nor catholic). 1)Peter was not perfect human nor was he a perfect disciple 2)He sank down while walking on water 3)Our Lord said to peter get behind me satan 4)Peter reject our Lord 3 times 5)Our Lord rebuked Peter for calling fire from heaven 6)Our Lord rebuked Peter when he cut of the soilders ear 7)Paul rebuked Peter for being hypocrite because he was acting different in front of Jews and different in front of gentiles. 8) Moses messed up, and he was a important part of Bible ( that's why he never entered the promised land), 9)David messed up ( and he has the Holy Spirit), 10)King Soloman messed up, 11) Saul messed up and God regretted the decision (1 Samuel 15:10-11). Hatrick (Saul then David then Soloman back to back messed up) 12)The apostles run away a day before Lord Jesus got locked up. 13)The early church messed up Rev 2:18-20, 1 Corinthians, Galatians. 14) Apostle John when receiving Revelation worshiped an angel and the angel said "see you do not do that. Worship GOD" Revelation 22:8-9 If these great people could mess up, why do you think the catholic church wouldn't mess up. _ Galatians 4:21-26 21 Tell me, you who desire to be under the law, do you not hear the law? 22 For it is written that Abraham had two sons: the one by a bondwoman, the other by a freewoman. 23 But he who was of the bondwoman was born according to the flesh, and he of the freewoman through promise, 24 which things are symbolic. For these are the two covenants: the one from Mount Sinai which gives birth to bondage, which is Hagar- 25 for this Hagar is Mount Sinai in Arabia, and corresponds to Jerusalem which now is, and is in bondage with her children- 26 but the Jerusalem above is free, which is the mother of us all. Sarah is mother of all, Not mary Also the Church has many name like Christians, Evangelists, Children of God, Believers, servents of God, bride of Christ, but not once the Church is called catholics Changed the 10 commandments by deleting 2nd commandment, and dividing the 10th into 2 commandments. Also changing the real Saturday Sabbath to fake sunday sabbath.
Pastor Mike, thank you for saying that you and your wife don't really have hobbies and pastimes in common but you make it work because you value the relationship. This is so helpful to know!
The things that you must have in common are your core values, how you feel about God, raising children, about money, about family. Hobbies and pastimes not so much. My mother always told me that.
Pastor, I love the comment you made saying “I can’t just cast it aside because it’s a hamburger I’m no longer eating that’s not pleasurable, so I just throw away.. it’s something that has an immeasurable value.” When we think of marriage, we shouldn’t think of it as something to dispose of, but something to savor.
I think the other side of this topic, for unmarried people (this includes me), is that this emphasizes just how important it is to take it very seriously who you marry with, or even get romantically involved with. Marriage is meant to be a life-long commitment of your entire earthly life, and it will demand a powerful and continuous effort of your very soul, every single day. If you are a Christian, you do have the power and wisdom of God Himself to help you with that. But even so, this is not a casual plaything. It is a very serious matter.
If your marriage is founded on your effort then it will fail. Humans have limits and burn out. Where is the mention of grace in your marriage plan? You can have a marriage work in one of two ways: you can either be extremely compatible, in which you rarely disagree. These marriages are rare and if you decide to go this route then it's possible you'll never find a suitable marriage partner at all. Or you can go into the marriage knowing how to forgive and give grace, showing humility toward your own sin as well. Again, effort is necessary but it is not sufficient to have a successful marriage.
@@razzendahcuben Agreed. I would add that if you’re straining to love someone in the early stages, it probably isn’t meant to be. No relationship is ideal, but being happy to be with that person and even eager to be patient and forgiving is a blessing and something to look for as well.
I hope none of what you hear scares you from wanting to get married (if it's a desire you have). I am married 10 years and can TOTALLY see how it would. My daughter told me she didn't want to get married cuz what if her husband did stuff she didn't like. Lol. The best marriage advice I can give anyone in Christ is to pick someone who will put Christ over everything and everyone, including you. And be someone who will put Christ over everything, including your spouse. Some marriages are more difficult cuz some personalities are more difficult and God's hand is over all of it, so if He allowed a marriage and you belong to Him, than it will be for your good and His glory you just have to trust Him.
@@razzendahcuben To be honest I live in an environment with very few Christians, so although my marriage "plan" is to meet someone very compatible, it's already extremely unlikely to encounter even a single genuinely Christian woman (or even a non-genuine one), who is not already married. More likely I'm going to walk the path of singleness, unless God arranges a miracle.
So true!!! My parents told me "Don't date anyone you wouldn't consider marrying." Not that you have to marry them necessarily but you should be able to consider it. Otherwise it's a waste of time and you're learning all the wrong lessons.
You need a shared vision and to work together. You don't work on a relationship. A relationship is a product of how you serve each other and build something together.
This is so helpful for me....exactly what i was wrestling with. I am un-equally yoked as well and struggle with these issues on a daily basis. Thank you Lord for Paster Mike and his ministry. 🙏
This happened to me and my wife, we were together but our lives were separate and no overlaps, my wife was not a Christian back then and her response to our situation was to seek out other men in online chats like Snapchat, I just found that out this year that she has been doing that for the last 4 years of our marriage,I was so devastated and even UpTo now am still trying to recover from the trauma bit by God's grace we are still together, she became a Christian as a result of this and we are allowing God right now to just rebuild our marriage, God is good and He will honor our obedience to His word, if I never stepped out in obedience to forgive my wife as God has forgiven me, our marriage would have been doomed, God bless you all that are going through rough marriages, He will see you through!
@@Nerazmus you are contentious and have no standard to derive what "better" is. You believe what you do based on ur view of the world, if you have nothing that you can reference then you are an intellectual rogue, namely you spout whatever appears at the top of ur head with no foundation to base ur thoughts off. Do you believe you came from star dust? Monkeys? None of those origins justify you to be sure you are even having a rational thought let alone discussing marriage. May God bring you to the knowledge of the truth before you die, which you have no control over.
@@gideon4773 Just build that stawman harder. I am sure it makes you think you are very smart. And jokes on you, Odin already gave me the truth of the universe. I hope your deeps may earn you a place in Vallhala as well.
Thank you for this, you are so correct Pastor Mike. I got into online video games for my husband, I used to love video games as a kid, but grew out of it in my teens. Now we play online video games every week and it's great bonding/quality time for us and we have made new shared friends through a friend's online gaming community. My husband is atheist and I am Christian, it might sound weird but those games have been such a blessing for us
I DO feel this way. Have been married (sadly) twice, due to their cheating and now, abandonment and being unequally yoked and his being never kind to my sons. I am now at peace, and NEVER desire to EVER be married again, and I am fine with that.
Man, that breaks my heart. I just celebrated 17 years with my wife, and I can’t imagine life without her. Today’s generation.. probably along with a couple generations before them, have a very distorted view of marriage and it’s depressing.
Almost 10 year’s married here. We had some right times but now it’s really getting GOOD! God has been faithful to us to restore us and draw us closer and closer together.
There isn't enough competent compatible people around for everyone and a good percent of people are just not built for marriage. On the other hand, with all these advances in medical field I wish someone would've invented some libido supression pill or something to end this insane yearning for intimacy and mating.
10 years married here as well, and I would like nothing less than to spend forever by her side. God brought us together for this, and I'd never want to break what we have. Bless you and your marriages out there!
My husband had been severely abusive. Pointless to go into a whole novel in the comment section but he has forced me in every way (physically, financially, emotionally, even ran away with our son) to stay. Ive since given my life to Christ and now, instead of feeling like my hands are tied, I look forward to the day Jesus sets me free. I focus on Jesus and reading my Bible and have actually grown a lot internally. But unfortunately, i still feel stuck. We have to remember that God doesn't keep us in bondage, the devil does. We have to know when divorce is right. Love is not forced, draining, depressing, dark. Love is freedom. Love is Jesus Christ. I pray Jesus allows me to be free in this walking life without this dark cloud called husband. If not, i will continue to honor The Lord until he calls me home ❤
Thanks for posting this, I need it right now. My husband has been lying to me over the course of 2 years about a large purchase he made. He has always seemed to embellish stories. I can not trust a word he says now. I'm really struggling to stay married to this man, and I don't understand why God would place me here in this situation after all the things that have happened. I have no reason to stay married, except that I made a promise in front of God and everyone at our wedding that I would stay with him through sickness and in health. Thank you for the reminder.
Peace be with you, Lori. I am not disrescting or labelling you wrongly. I believe God will restore your marriage but works must be done from your side. Please Ask those questions yourself. How many times did you commit sin so far? How often did you ask forgiveness? Are you respecting your husband regardless of his action? Are you still faithfully performing your role as a wife in your marriage? are you angry at him or his action? Have you ask your local Pastor for advice how to handle? Are you already giving up on your marriage in your heart? Have you died in your marriage? Are you puting 100% of your wholeheartly into the marriage ? Here me out. do you think you might be some how contributing to his behaviour? What I mean If you are someone who yell, control, disrespect, over react to your husband action, then your husband will by lying to you instead of telling thr truth just for not arguing with you. I hope You can take time to seek God through prayers and fasting (2-5 days/week) til God restore your marriage.
Hey Mike, I appreciate everything you said and I completely agree with you that marriage is a picture of Christ and the church and not about our personal happiness. I've been married 34 years to an unbeliever, so I know this well. But I did want to comment about what you said about having nothing in common. I'm sure the Scriptures are not talking about hobbies or fun things you like to do together. As a wife married to an unbeliever, I know full well the pain of having nothing spiritual in common. And this is the hardest part. The very core of who I am is something my husband knows nothing about because we do not have Christ in common, the same world view, godly priorities, or anything related to biblical truth. We are called to be one, and that is very hard (and I might even say that those verses about not being yoked to an unbeliever are implying that it's impossible). That's where the real pain comes from. Married couples who don't share hobbies does not even come close to what the Scripture is talking about.
People MUST be more thoughtful and prayerful about WHO they are marrying in the first place. I married, when I was young and naive, and it was the worst. Albeit I should have stayed with Him, I see that in hindsight, but I should have been more discerning in the first case of marriage. I was quite careless and undiscerning.
I agree. I also think young people rushing into marriage so they can have a "license" to have sex is also contributing to people ending up in miserable marriages. I understand some people fear sexual sin but we still need to be more discerning about our decisions
@@las8883 Whether we are in fear of sin or not, we should fear (respect and revere) God always. It is not a sin to marry after all - just know that the marriage is before God, and is a committment for life. The heart of the people in the marriage, and if they truly live for God, matters more in the long run Wise counsel, spiritual maturity and growing Christ-like character are important for overcoming the obstacles of life and living for God. Edit: I do agree being more discering is needed, espescially when fleshly desire flare
The bible says "husbands, love your wives" not "wife your loves." People have lazily begun to think that if loving a spouse doesn't happen easily or requires any effort, then it's ok to divorce. Back when the bible was written, spouses often didn't even know each other before their parents arranged for them to marry, so the biblical command indicates very much that love and respect is something you do because you're married; you don't marry because you love someone.
@@Forgotten_Foods Action often brings about the emotions, as well. I don't always feel like studying God's Word, but He tells me to do it, so I usually obey. Reading His beautiful promises brings that warm-fuzzy sense of love and awe. Making a point to deliberately care for your spouse will likely help grow the feelings you're looking for.
Really good conversation and great comments . There are so many personal reasons I think we all have troubles in marriage. I have been married all together 45 years . But not to the same person. I have stood in prayer for God to be The Lord over my life . HE has rescued me every time and worked it all out for the good. What Mike said , we can’t leave because we are unhappy. It’s not about ME . I am wanting to finish well as unto the Lord . HE knows and will bring about that desire of the Heart if we every day make HIM the First Love ❤️
Mike, you’re awesome. I’m grateful for your teachings and the graceful but direct way in which you approach and answer these questions. My wife (a professing Christian) abandoned me three years ago. The sadness that I recognise behind the heart of these questions is so much deeper than I think many realise. When she first left she said she wanted a divorce. I pursued her every day for the last three years. I fought endlessly on the spiritual front and prayed so that the skin on my knees were hard. At times I felt utterly helpless and felt as though my prayers weren’t helping. At times she also spoke about honouring the marriage and sometimes read a devotional with me. I also prayed for us before bed whenever we were together. But I’ve done the math and over the past 3 years (more than a thousand days) we didn’t even see each other 100 days. Recently, I was sharing listings of rentals with her as I need to move into a new place (all our possessions are with me, I don’t even know where she lives) and it’s as if this was the thing that pushed her too hard. She then said that her feelings haven’t changed and that she still wants a divorce. She says things like, it’s too much for her to know that she is the cause of my heartache, sadness and loneliness. I’m now starting to accept that it doesn’t matter what I do. I feel conflicted and don’t know how to pray for her anymore. I don’t know how long she will take to actually file for divorce. I never wanted to separate or give up or anything of the sort. I have consistently told her that I am willing to forgive anything and everything. I’ve even said that she doesn’t have to tell me about relationships (she denies ever “cheating” but admits to enjoying the “attention” of other men) that she has had until she’s ready. I don’t know what to do. I start feeling as though I should initiate the legal process because I don’t think she even cares what that is because she just carries on with her life regardless. She has lived with another man (they play professional sports together) but changed that arrangement when I threatened to file for divorce if he doesn’t move out. She assured me afterwards that she isn’t and will not live in the same house as another man. All the teammates are younger and single and I think they’ve lived together as a team or something but honestly I don’t know my wife at all anymore and I always tried everything I could. I tried being stern and sending her Scripture that condemns her lifestyle and I tried giving her space and not being a Bible-pusher. Today, it feels like nothing helped and I don’t know what to do next. Do I continue life as I have for the last three years? Isolated from social gatherings, declining invitations to weddings, pretending (when other people ask me - because they see it on social media [I’ve been off social media for nearly three years because I couldn’t bear to witness her sharing everything about travelling the world and taking part in all these competitions etc, while I’m drowning in sorrow trying to work and build a future and a home for us]) to be excited for her as she continues to pursue her sports career which I’ve been trying to support financially too as she doesn’t get paid. Dude, I’ve processed a lot of the betrayal, disbelief and living without her but I don’t know how I’m supposed to honour Christ in our marriage anymore. I simply don’t. If you could respond, I would so highly appreciate it. I can share my email address or something. If not, I’d still like to thank you for your ministry. I have learnt, and continue to learn so much from watching your videos. God bless you Mike.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds really hard. You could try contacting Sarah on Pastor Mike’s site on the internet. I think that would have a better chance of reaching Pastor Mike’s ear. My other advice-are you a member of a local church? If so, is there someone there whom you might bring into your situation?-someone closer to your life.
@@levifox2818 thank you Levi, I’ll give that a go. I am a member of a local church. I’ve been here for almost a year but I haven’t joined a cell group or anything like that. I have spoken to the pastor before. I have been thinking about contacting him for a visit again the last couple of weeks. Thanks Levi
@@LiftRunFight thanks Travis. I am a very active and healthy person. I’ve always been doing sports. For the past 2&1/2 years I’ve been lifting weights too and I frequently run and cycle. Of course I notice a drop in mood and motivation when I skip a day and lack consistency. What I need is practical Biblical advice as to how do I honour Christ because I need to make decisions. I can’t just go to work, gym, church repeat.
I’ve been divorced for 10 years and have not remarried and honestly it’s out of fear. I don’t want another failed marriage and I don’t wanna have to work so hard to make it last I want it to come naturally.
I suppose you shouldn’t have to work too hard if you dedicate time to dating/courting, and not rush into marriage with just any guy. It’s possible to find the right person again.
"My yoke is easy and my burden is light" When we think Jesus took away all of our problems with sacrifice, we follow in his footsteps until we realize sacrifice doesn't do that. "If you had known what these words mean, 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice,' you would not have condemned the innocent."
@@shellyscholz1256 They're quoting Matthew 12:7, the context is when Jesus and the disciples were traveling on the Sabbath. The disciples were hungry and picked heads of grain to eat from the land, and some Pharisees accused them of breaking the Sabbath because the picking was seen as work. Jesus rebuked them saying that both David and the temple priests broke the Sabbath with good reason and were deemed innocent. So his disciples were not the issue, but the hearts of the pharisees being more concerned about the letter of the law being upheld rather than having compassion for others even if it broke the Sabbath law.
I've been watching lots of pastoral care videos like this recently because my sister recently got divorced for basically this reason. She said her husband was just cold and doesn't care about her, and she is sick of caring about him and getting mad all of the time. He always acted like they're going to do the things in life that he plans and ignores her desires. Obviously, he is being a bad husband, but its hard to find a biblical grounds for divorce in this scenario. Naturally, they went to many biblical counseling sessions and this is what she was told; so she is REALLY mad at the "patriarchal church" right now since they all told her there was no biblical grounds for divorce and their "encouragement" of her husband to do better was weak and useless. Her divorce is finalized now, but she's still really mad at the church for "giving bad advice" and "keeping her trapped in her marriage for years past when she should have left." I never found a way to encourage her husband to change his personality; I always thought he was a little bit anti-social and a jerk. He really didn't care what I said to him and I imagine he didn't care much about what the pastors at his local churches said either. So, while I do absolutely agree that he would be miserable to be married to, my sister's language about her life began to revolve around "I deserve to be happy" and "I'm not going to do anything that doesn't make me happy anymore" just like you mention in this video. She's started following and quoting "ministries" like Patrick Weaver, who specialize in appealing to angry women by telling them slightly altered versions of the gospel that appeal to people who are upset with the church. I find that to be very problematic.
Yes, it's the tickling of the ears. As Christians we're responsible to submit and obey our Lord in whatever circumstance we are. The problem with us is we keep wanting to hang on to our "rights". As a Christian I have no right. I die to myself, serve my Lord and others. Am I doing that? Did your sister do that? She's only responsible for herself. How her husband responds is his problem with the Lord. Is it hard to live with a man who doesn't obey the Lord? Yes. But again, how am I responding to what God is asking me to do?
If only there were a better solution or something else that could be done. Even though it’s biblical, it’s a lot to ask someone to feel uncared for by their spouse until death. She isn’t right for giving up, but maybe the next step would have been just helping her find an emotional support system and continuing to hammer at the husband’s conscience.
Good on your sister! Unequally yoked isn't just about believers and non believers, it's about being with someone who works with you as an equal partner in a team. Getting divorced was the best thing I ever did, going from dragging the partner through life along with my own load, to someone who wants to put in as much and being on the same wavelength. A good relationship isn't 50/50, it's 60/40 - with both partners are trying to be the 60%.
Thanks for the encouragement. I needed to hear this, nothing in common quite boring, but I’m hanging in there because it’s pleasing to the Lord. Maybe someday my husband who is a sweet narcissist will get saved. 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
@@mikitta47 why would you say that? Not every situation is going to be the same as yours. My husband was an narcissist atheist. He’s now about to start seminary. Look at men like Lee Strobel, least likely candidate to change yet God used Him to glorify His name. When we abandon hope of course nothing will change.
I've been married twice. Both times I got divorced due to my husbands cheating. I still believe in marriage and would love to get married again but I'm not sure I can trust myself. When it comes to dating with the intentions of marriage I seem to see all good and none of the bad. By the time I see the bad (usually that the man is a cheater) I'm years into the marriage.
I love what Mike says here. So insightful. I got divorced many years ago (4 children) I had a few relationships after but never successful. I became a born again Christian 2 yrs ago and knowing what I know now I would have totally stayed married because I know now that focusing on the Jesus is the only thing I truly need. I will be single until He comes again or until my ex passes on. Please think before you leave bc you think you aren't happy. Happiness if fleeting!! The joy of God is foundational.
Get this. You can have no common interest with your partner but somehow because you love that person to the core, you go along with her. The problem in marriage starts with WHY did you marry the person? The reason when told reveals why people have problems. The core reason that makes a marriage work is because you marry the person because of God. This is why we should attach ourselves to people who also honor God. When people honor God and respects Him, certain characteristics of the person will automatically be present like being forgiving. Everyone who truly honors God knows how to forgive. They love God and people. Although many Christians are not perfect, yet they're in improving phase because they stick with God. God is the One and ONLY ONE who can make a person better and better throughout the years. Marry someone who respects God. Someone who gives you peace when you're with them. Don't marry because of the standard of the world, you will regret it.
Seems like a lot of people want to share the benefit of their wisdom on things they have no experience of. It's easy to judge how someone walks when you've never worn their shoes.
True words, my situation is reversed to Mike's, i have, guns, guitars, motorcycles, I'm training to become a pilot, i have a motorcycle Vlog on RU-vid, i like to make and fix things, and renovate houses i also love snorkeling and surfing. My wife doesn't have any hobbies... she's not one for participating or coming with me to do things. I'm also very cuddly and affectionate and she is not, i say and do a lot of loving things, but she doesn't. We are both believer's but It's hard to relate when you have nothing in common, i know the Lord holds us together, it's not our interests. Its very hard when you are different people but you jist have to sort it and work through it.
Can I give some odd advice? I’m a non-believer, married to a devout Christian man for 10 years now. He sings at his church and attends functions multiple times a week. He’s a hunter/fisher and I’ve been vegetarian for 5 years now. Stop focusing on those “differences,” and stop saying you have nothing in common. You can have different likes/dislikes and find other things in common. Accept your spouse for who they are and try to find those things about them that you used to find quirky and endearing. Have sex more. If you’re female, consider getting off the pill (use a non-hormonal method). You will be amazed how much more you like your husband when you’re off of the pill. It sounds ridiculous, but it’s very true! Don’t give up on your marriage yet.
11 So he said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another , she commits adultery. Mark 10
As Christians, the idea that suffering today is miniscule to the happiness of the next life is compelling, but I'd submit there are completely secular reasons to embrace suffering now, because it frequently buys you quite a bit for your future in this life. Exercise, house cleaning, being proactive at work. All of those entail some measure of suffering that pay dividends, and, moreover, if you don't do them now, it'll be more work later. And these are simple chores. Deeper initiatives like learning an instrument, building friendships, saving money, and other efforts take months or years to do, but produce happiness far in excess of the toil of building them.
We divorced 32 years ago i became a believer and he didn't while married. He took up alcohol instead. He wanted out more than me, and I have never remarried. He has. I did miss him for a long time, but time has healed many wounds. I've never felt God gave me the green light to remarry. Divorce is an awful thing to go through, I feel for this woman. That being said - either stay married or remain single for life. Where ever you are - pray - get counseling. Happiness is a choice, but at the end of the day only God can bring us joy, peace, contentment.
My husband and I are SO different. He's an engineer and I am the artsy type. Good advice on making yourself experience your spouse's interests and hobbies. I will say however, I don't think I'll be inviting him to roller skate with me and I don't think he'll be upset about it. 😄
I do get this but there should also be the warning of dont just stay in bondage for yrs when youre being abused yrs on end. I have been in a very toxic marriage for nearly 17 yrs & have stayed through it all because Im a Christian & because Im finicially dependant & have nowhere else to go either. My life is so sad and miserable . How would God want someone living like I do daily? Even our earthly fathers would not. Sometimes you just have to seperate . At that point I have decided to just be alone till Jesus takes me home
Don't choose hobbies for pleasure. Choose them for helping you fulfill your role as a man. Things like physical fitness and learning how to protect your family. A man should spend his time on those things that provide value, not following his wife around the mall.
We are not allowed to separate, except for a time for prayer and under both agreeing. Then reunite. Once married, your body die not belong to you alone, it also belongs to your spouse. The 2 become one. Righteousness is the most important thing there is. It is more important than being “happy.” Be happy in righteousness.
I think if the church did more to keep people on the church rather than pointing fingers and making this a bigger issue than it is, more Christians would want to stay in church. Have you ever not been loved by someone that was supposed to love you? I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Show me what love is and I may believe more. My Bible says that the kingdom of God is not a matter of talking but of power - I see very little of that and very much talking.
What if your husband is drinking and lying and possibly cheating? I'm a recovering alcoholic and I can't be around alcohol. I'm so conflicted, but I've separated and he continues to drink and has now pushed his children away. Am I supposed to let him do this to me forever? I was married under false pretenses. He pretended to be a Christian to get me, and pulled me away from my faith, even tried to interfere with my prayer life so I wouldn't pray.
I guess my question is how do you some people get so lucky in finding the perfect spouse while others marry when they’re young and dumb to someone they’re not compatible with? God blessed me in every way and gave me a man that I respect, love, and behaves in an honorable way. He makes sure our lives our lead by Christ. I guess what I’m saying is I feel for those that made a terrible choice in their youth and just want a fresh start.
my wife cheated on me and then divorced me although she was the cheater..i married unbeliever and the pain is still there 11 years later and i feel my boys have been affected by her choices..sad but true..
Mike: if you do a hundred things with your wife just because she likes them and you don't care about those things, that just means your hobby is spending time with your wife. ❤ and that's a good thing
I think you may have missed the heart of this question. It's not apathy "this marriage isn't doing it for me, I'd rather not be married", it's pain. "This hurts so much that I would rather be lonely by myself than lonely with my spouse". It's not about hobbies. Being married to an atheist (who switched about 8 years after marriage from being a teacher and worship leader) is incredibly difficult, especially when raising children! He won't talk about his reasons. He won't talk about anything. I pray for freedom. Either he'd leave me (through divorce or death I'm sorry to admit), or switch himself back on and come back to God and to me. Once my friend was talking about what she'd do if she were a widow, and talked about getting married again. And I was so shocked "Really?! Why would you do that?!" And it made me realize how warped my views on marriage have become. I need to get a better handle on this, as my children are growing and I don't want to discourage them from getting married. I mean, I do! It's a trap! But really I think it's not. Not for everyone.
I can’t get involved in things he likes because all he likes is “movies and pornography” I’m not interested in his sins. I’m rather disgusted with my spouse. I can honestly say I have had enough but I will suffer for my 5 children. I will suffer until they are grown. I cannot live like this. It’s not that I want my marriage to make me happy but I am 99% of the time miserable with him. He is shady, has passwords on his phone, calls hotlines promises to change and nothing ever changes and the perversion runs deep. It’s worse than just a female naked…..for the most part I can’t look at him. No trust and No respect. I read books like live and respect and to me it’s a joke because all of their issues in their marriage are stupid “like my spouse got me a pair of jeans for Christmas that I don’t like?” Really? That’s the height of your issues…..where are these books talking about deep issues?
I’m sorry about your situation, and there’s not much I can offer, but here’s the advice I have: Are you and/or your husband members of local church? If so, the pastor(s)/elders should be involved if there is unrepentant sin.
@@levifox2818 his father is a Presbyterian minister, believe me, he doesn’t care about what anyone tells him. He smokes marijuana around his kids, he tries to wear womens clothes but I burn or dump it when I come across it. I have two sons and honestly I don’t want my boys around his weird crap. He doesn’t even have a job. I’m homeschooling and breeding my dogs. I’m at my wits end. He says he has all of these medical issues so he can’t work. I don’t believe any of it and yes he goes from one doctor to another hoping they find something wrong with him. The fact is he’s just lazy
Saddened to hear this. Your children do need to be protected. They need to be protected from learning the same deadly habits your husband is establishing. Praying for the Lord Jesus to protect you and your children at the moment. Do you have people in your life you can talk to about this, such as at church, church leadership, or with a gospel loving counselor? From what I see, your husband needs Jesus. He is deeply broken, yet doesn't seem to realize it. Also, I don't want to speak for Mike, but in this video I think he is speaking to marriages that are dividing because of lives gradually going their separate ways. In your case, there is unfaithfulness and abandonment involved, which are different. Does that make sense?
@@brooksquirk It does make sense. I actually went to a Christian counselor and she advised to leave but I did not. I have since then stopped going. Thank you and yes if you can please keep me in your prayers. God is truly the only one who can help me. I have thought about leaving but I don’t want him to have any custody of our kids. I don’t know what would happen with them alone with his influence. That’s why I have stayed suffering honestly.
I do lots of things my husband likes to do because we don’t have many common interests. As long as I can pursue my interests I’m more than happy to do things he enjoys.
My lost my wife of 32 years. Two years ago. We came out of abusive marriages. Her ex was an abusive alky. Mine was bipolar and tried to kill me. We fell in love and stayed there. It can happen.
I said exactly that when I divorced. Wasn’t “happy” until I found my way back to the Lord (or He pulled me back). I repent of my divorce. So sad and not His way.
This is what my ex wife argued as to why she wanted out: I wouldn’t change and was too apathetic, causing her to not be happy. And she asked if I was truly happy with her not satisfied with me. I said marriage wasn’t about happiness, which she didn’t want to hear. I’m not saying I didn’t have problems & weaknesses, but she decided she wanted out, & that was that. She told me she didn’t want to remarry when we separated. 3 months after the divorce was finalized, she’s getting remarried. I was praying for restoration, but I really don’t know what to do now. I am afraid for her, as this will be marriage #3.
My wife left me after only 2 years of marriage. Before I realized just how bad it was to her, it was too late for me to save it. Nothing I did worked. Separated now for 8 months, the divorce hasn't progressed because the wife isn't prioritizing it. I wish I had never gotten married. As a single, soon to be divorced person - my life is so much more peaceful now and I have more money than I ever did before. I'm not happy about how it turned out. But I'm 28 and I can see my self living this way the rest of my life
Honestly I kinda wish I hadn't gotten married. It's easier to just be single and focus on God. So many of us want a spouse, to be married, to have a family. My dream and goal for as long as I can remember has been to become a mother. But you know what? Maybe some things are worth giving up your goals dreams for. Now I'm stuck in a broken marriage that my husband doesn't care about fixing. I might as well be single because our "marriage" is basically dead already. I wish I'd given up on my dream of motherhood to avoid this suffering. If I knew that this is what my marriage would become I never would have wasted my time with it. Stay single for Jesus, y'all. He's a better husband than any human being ever could be.
Mike, if by any chance you see this question, I keep listening to everything i can about unequally yolked marriages. And no one absolutely no one answers the actual question. What people, especially pastors seem to miss is the fact that a person isnt trying to leave an unequally yolked marriage becausse they are seeking happiness. The point is that there are marriages with militant atheists, where you find yourself with someone who truly hates everything about how you think, who you are, to the point where you disgust them. To the point where when you have kids, you are seen as a danger to the kids. Where they force you to live like an atheist with them and keep "your God to yourself". This is not about hobbies. This is sooo difficult to listen to everyone treating an unequally yolked marriage as some normal marriage where everything else is the same, but they simply dont want to come to church with...it is so much more. They want a filthy sex life, and you are a terrible person for being closed minded. Their family tries to save your child from you and your God. It is serious stuff. It's nothing to do with not having activities in common. Please please, you have such a clear way of explaining everything, please give us a moment and help us understand what to do in these situations. I by no means want a divorce. By no means. But how do I live and tust this person and their family with my child? (though I know what we ask for takes lots of time of prayer and study).
My mom was saved after she divorced my dad and was remarried. My stepdad and us kids made fun of her and mocked her to no end. She just smiled and went on. This went in for years and my stepdad left her for a younger woman after many years I believe it was 25 years of marriage. I have 3 sisters and we are all saved and she saw all of us serving Jesus while still alive. I asked her how she did it. She said God that she did in service to God and trusted him. She was not looking at circumstances and she was a woman of prayer. She was an incredible woman of faith. I pray that we can trust and praise God in our trials.
This is more of an offtopic questions but I was wondering if anyone can help guide me? I'm trying to transition from the JW congregation and I have no clue on what I need to do to educate myself about god. I want to learn what Mike has, to learn about the bible in it's untwisted, faithful words.
One blatantly missing point, and the primary point, marriage is a covenant to show the world God's image. An image of love and submission. If you're focused on your own happiness, you've already derailed the train. Marriage is to be obedient to God's law and submit to His will.
Thanks Mike for your comments. I love your style and appreciate your input on scripturally living in 2022. We are both active believers, and my wife of 18 years just wanted to and then got out of the marriage. The preacher simply said 'shes allowed to go' (using 1 Cor 7;11). I said Jesus said 'shes not allowed to go' (verse 10). The words, "let her remain unmarried" (verse 11) begs the question, am I now unmarried? Also, how does one believer simply write off marriage vows, and does it mean 1 Tim 5:8 applies that she is has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever? Why are marriage vows, 'whither thou goest I will go', 'for better for worse', 'I will never leave thee or forsake thee', 'til DEATH do us part', taken so lightly by everyone including church?
As far as I know, physical adultery and abandonment are the only reasons a marriage can end (and of course, death). I'd say you are free to re-marry. [Maybe Mike will reply soon.] you wrote: Why are marriage vows, 'whither thou goest I will go', 'for better for worse', 'I will never leave thee or forsake thee', 'til DEATH do us part' As I understand it, marriage is a sex contract, basically. Extra content here: Going way back, there was no ceremony it seems. That was a bad idea. Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife that I may go in to her, for my time is completed.” So Laban gathered together all the people of the place and made a feast. But in the evening he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and he went in to her. And in the morning, behold, it was Leah! And Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? Did I not serve with you for Rachel? Why then have you deceived me?” -excerpt Genesis 29
Its more like, I dont think God wants me to be this unhappy. All I can think about is finding someone else, which is committing adultery every day in my mind. Id rather get divorced and repent for one thing than have to repent daily being married to someone I truly dislike. But idk. Im still in it because I'm still trusting God to turn this around. I cant do it, he can't do it, but God can. Its just a matter of if he wants to or not. Or maybe I'm supposed to stay unhappy forever for a bigger reason. Idk. All the thoughts come into my brain.
There are many reasons people get divorced one God never brought them together to begin with. To one spouse is unwilling to participate in the marriage as dictated scripturally. The church is really bad at defining marriage as a “legal, civil, contractual “marriage. And it is not the Bible is very clear on what a marriage between a man and a woman should be. The roles of a man and a woman within a marriage. How her husband is to love his wife. When that disobedience does not go confronted the marriage becomes an umbilical marriage and as a mockery to the world of what a Christian marriage should be. If a marriage is not a marriage in heart it is not a marriage in spirit. And it takes two. If the unwilling party purposes to rob the willing party of the gift that God intended them God will deal with them just like a wicked servant who buried his talents instead of multiplying them. I think the church is teaching on marriage has crippled 80% of the marriages I have seen in the church where they are miserable and their marriages do not glorify God. How about we set the standard high and they’ll be consequences of losing your marriage if you don’t do it the biblical way.
So you're saying that the instant sin enters the marriage, it's invalid? The Bible has acknowledged the validity of marriage done by both the church and the state, never has it treated a married foreigner to God's law as if they weren't married because "God never brought them together in the first place". God clearly respects every count of marriage, even when spouses are terrible. With Abgail and Nabal, Abigail couldn't be married unless the fool Nabal died, and how did he reward Abigail for her faith? Killing Nabal and handing her over to David,, the king, whose heart she swayed from anger. Job and his wife, even though Job's wife was sinful enough to tell him to curse God and die. Is that respecting her husband? Thats disrespecting her husband and God himself. But what happens at the end of Job? God doesn't say "Well, your wife is a blasphemer and disrespectful to you, so I'll get rid of her and get you a new one." No. Job stays with his wife, who kicked him while he was down, who tore at the man she was supposed to support when they were in despair. Instead, Job has many more children by her and is blessed. Abraham tries to pawn off his wife to another man more than once for his own safety. Surely he has broken his marriage covenant, by willingly pushing her toward the bed of another man? Or what about David, the adulterer? He was never separated from his wives, nor was he killed like what was lawful. Or Solomon, with far more wives than outlined for a biblical king? What about all of the polygamy in the Bible? Did God respect the marriages, or did he encourage them to get divorced? What of Hosea and Gomer? Was that a marriage made for the two to edify each other? At least consider these things and how they are regarded by God and in Scripture.
Hey, just wanted some advice. If anyone minds responding. I can't find it in myself to make a permanent change. I'm impulsive, so resisting sin is hard for me. I guess I've made a habit out of ignoring the still small voice. I believe in Jesus, but not myself. I'm stuck in a cycle of sin and guilt and asking God for forgiveness. That'd what I need advice for. Idk how to break old habits and form new ones. I always end up sliding back to where I started. This since I first believed at 17. How do I gain discipline, and stay on the narrow path.
I totally get doing stuff my wife wants to do. We went to Star Trek convention in Vegas and Disney in Orlando on two of our vacations. I would never go to those places on my own, but I like going because my wife likes that stuff. It's fun to give her experiences she likes even when I don't care about that stuff. But that works because I choose to love my wife every day. It's a purposeful decision I make and act on daly. Marriage is where we can practice our faith every day. Pick a Christian principle. If you can do it with your spouse, you can do it anywhere. If you can't, how real is your faith? Part of our purpose is to love certain people in our lives. It's a job God has given you to do. Fulfill your divine purpose and love your partner. The world owes you nothing and life isn't fair. Don't wait for some universal fairness to kick in. Choose to love your spouse and decide that they owe you nothing at all.
Got married young, and he "relaxed" after marriage (meaning he stopped doing the things that he'd been doing before) and then when we had children, he couldn't handle the stress and changed drastically. Also, I changed drastically. I had always been cushioning him (without knowing it!) so that he felt safe and happy. When we had a baby who cried in the night and I was exhausted, I couldn't provide that cushion in the same way. A caring gesture, the most effort that I could give, might be "you can sleep in, I will take the baby out so you get a good few hours of silence" but when he was used to something much more elaborate, such as "I bought your favourite donuts and have run a bath and after that we can watch the show that you like to watch, and I won't ask you for anything all weekend, because I know you're stressed at work", a few hours to sleep in felt like nothing. Of course, with the benefit of hindsight, I know I should have required much more of him right from the beginning, but my love language is acts of service and I loved him very much without being very wise.
People stop caring when they stop investing in each other. Think about the dating phase, when you thought good things about that other person, engaged in fun activities, took the time to just sit and talk. You grew closer because there was intentionality in the relationship. Go back to that place, even if it seems long dead. God can work wonders if you're obedient.
I'm sorry to bother but I am not sure what bible to read I have an NIV is it true to the word? Or should I buy a different one? Just a bit overwhelmed and not sure how to worship and learn, or pray do I pray to God or Jesus ?
The NIV is a good translation. Personally, I prefer the ESV (it’s more word for word), but the NIV works well. Generally, per biblical example, we pray to the Father, but I think praying to Jesus is good as well. Pastor Mike has a video on Bible translations if you want more information on that. You can probably find it with a quick search (it won’t let me share links here).
Divorce is permitted for 2 reasons. If anyone knows why there is a 3rd, besides physical adultery and abandonment, then he/she should provide scripture.
@@mikitta47 That can be almost anything. Scripture here: But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. 1 Corinthians 7 ESV
I do not find that most people get divorced due to being just unhappy. The question is why are you unhappy. My ex husband and I were in a cycle of his emotional abuse for years and although we went to counseling, he would not do the recommendations and stop this cycle of stonewalling and not talking to me for days. I find usually one party is unwilling to make the changes necessary to make the marriage work. I also find that the church does not really teach how the husband is suppose to lead. They teach a lot on communication but there is definitely a breakdown in how a husband is to treat the wife.
Is marriage only when you go through the ceremony and get rings, and are recognized by the state? Or can people who just have a boyfriend/girlfriend, but are living together, be considered married? Also, if two people are unequally yoked, one learns the other is into witchcraft/crystals, one is a leftist or liberal with their politics, and one of them is feeling increasingly anxious and depressed, would it be wrong to leave if considered married or actually married?
U shouldn't get that close before finding all that stuff out. How is that even a situation lol? How does witch craft and crystals and politics go under the radar?
if the person you thought you married turns out to have been into witchcraft and have completely different politics, then it's possible you weren't married in the eyes of God. Depression and anxiety doesn't make it ok to separate and remarry
I've been anxiously waiting for the full interview, instead of tidbits outside of the full encompassing context, but these videos are still a blessing in their way.
@@BroadwayBella55 if you go to womensbiblestudy. c o m they are on there. Hover over "Watch Online" then under the "Marriage" category click on "Marriage Questions Conference." If I post the link RU-vid will auto-delete my comment.
Don't stay in abuse. That's terrible. But don't use divorce because you don't like him/her anymore, or because you think you found someone who would make you happier, that's terrible too.
I understand where you're coming from, but it can still be applicable because a lot of professing Christians are not worthy of being married to Christ. They love the idea of being married to Him, but they have the attitude that He has to do all the work, they have to contribute nothing to the relationship, and they get to dictate the terms.
As Al Batten says, "Always marry an ugly girl". People who leave a marriage think, "A different person will be better" but usually all you do is exchange one set of problems with a different set hence the statistic of multiple divorces. There is a slogan, "Live Happy". Well, if you live happy you will "die sad" because life is over. You should "Live Sad" so that when die you'll "die happy" because life is over.
“I’m so miserable I dream of being alone rather than with my husband” “Don’t complain and do things you don’t like and aren’t interested in to make him happy.”
“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” Philippians 2:4-11 ESV Let us not look at others to see what they can do for us, but rather look at ourselves to see what we can do for others. Jesus was not only our perfect sacrifice but our perfect example. So let’s follow His example of humble servitude giving glory to God. “True humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” Hopefully this encouraged and motivated you today. God bless you!
Jesus himself said that divorce is permitted under certain circumstances. Why was this not addressed in this answer? That's the problem with this pop forum, we get incomplete answers and uncareful words.
@@kjkernSerendipity people go on and on about the whole "turning water into wine" thing and the "feeding the 5000 from a few loaves of bread" Why don't people ever talk about the really impressive miracle Jesus performed? Having 12 close friends past the age of 30 (eh, 11 I guess).
I know the struggle of looking for hobbies, and friends. But I have also gone through several pages regarding "hobbies for men." Rather humorous, and I didn't pick any from the list.
Hey Sarah/Mike, I've never been able to get a question I'm, for the live stream on Friday, so please allow me to pose one; since God is Father, Son, Holy Spirit. Does God have three minds/wills, or is it one mind, one will? Does that make sense? Take care👍
Asking someone like Mike a question like this is always painful for me to hear because no one but you and your children can know what you're going through and judge best what is too much and what is simply a lack of love and connectedness. I grew up with a Roman Catholic mom and a Jehovah's Witness father, who also happened to be an undiagnosed Manic Depressive/Bipolar. We lived in literal hell for years and were all traumatized by the arguments and physical violence. The constant tug-of-war over religion. The horrible things my dad would say to my older sisters while unmedicated for his condition scarred them deeply. I was relieved when mom finally divorced our dad and thought maybe now we might have some kind of a normal childhood, but by that time, only 2 of the 5 of us girls were still living at home and the damage was done. Our whole lives have been colored by the painting my ill-suited parents created. Weigh the pros and cons, the harms and the benefits, and get the heck out of there if great harms are being done. And trust in the MERCY of Almighty God to grant you GRACE and forgiveness so you can move forward with peace. Why do Christians always say how God's Mercy and forgiveness is boundless, and yet not so boundless as to cover our sin of escaping an enduring, unending despair? Only someone who's living in such an environment can comprehend that kind of agony.
I don't challenge christian leadership much anymore because I think it's an awful idea but something I have grown to realize about divorce is this. It happens all the time for all kinds of reasons. Some times when two people are so toxic and incapable of reconciliation they get divorced. Wright wrong????? I certainly don't know but reality for sure. If you end up divorced I suppose it's simply the position you find your self in. Real question then is are you going to be a better person than before or worse. What else can you do?
