In college, my best friend's cousin (who also went to that school) was just like this idiot. It was the same attitude, "If I act like I'm some high roller, it's bound to somehow magically happen." I'd been to a few parties with this guy and it was hilarious (at first, then shit got creepy). He thinks he's as smooth as whipped butter and he was getting blown off all over the place. Of course, just like the guy in this vid, it's the same denial crap, "she's playing hard-to-get", "she's playing games", blah-blah-blah-crap. The funniest part is when he pulls out his party pictures to show us the hot chicks he's partying with. In every pic, he's got his arm around her smiling for the cam and she's totally leaning away and giving him side-eye or is openly cringing. They're good-looking girls but it's brutally obvious that they can't stand to be within 5 feet of him. It says a lot about him that he somehow doesn't see this. I'm glad this guy quit school halfway through his 2nd semester and left town (sometimes they hang around and pretend they're still a student, I'm so glad that didn't happen). I'm sure many girls there thought the same thing.
He's trying to control her and they haven't even been on a date yet. He says he wants an independent strong woman but no woman like that would put up with his nonsense for a moment.
Yeah, "I'm looking for a strong independent woman that I can control. Everything is great as long as you do what I want at all times!" What a corndog this guy is.
Him mentioning he gets approached by women 6-7 times a week and her friends being “jealous” is actually a manipulation tactic to devalue other women to make it seem like she is special because he wants her. You see he is trying to tell her “I can get women and I can get a girlfriend easily but I chose you to go after because you’re different” this man is extremely manipulative and likely has been abusive and controlling in other relationships. Props on her for getting a good laugh out of this though.
Calling it a "tactic" is almost giving this loser too much credit. That may work on gradeschoolers or if subtly integrated into coversation after a few dates where u've determined there's reciprocal interest, but the hamfisted exectecution & fact he's leaving this on a lengthy outrageously entitled voicemail, to someone he just met on the street, is so utterly transparent, desperately out of touch, & so embarrassingly pathetic, that he might as well be telling her he wets the bed & drives around in a rape van 😂.
Rich of you to assume that some girl had actually agreed to be with him with that horrible personality but perhaps some girls may have fallen victim to that.
@@meimei12350 Not likely. As a man with some deep seated insecurities that I've work hard on correcting and concealing, I can confidently pose three suppositions: 1. Women are extremely perceptive when it comes to sensing insecurity in a man 2. They hate insecurity more than anything else (this is messed up but--no cap--I have actually intentionally telegraphed insecurity to get a girl to break up with me so I could terminate the relationship guilt free because she worked with 3 of my friends' wives) 3. What this man is saying is coming from a place of insecurity, all of it. I know it when I see it. The purpose is not to devalue her friends and elevate her. It is to devalue her. To demonstrate that her value is less than his and she should feel fortunate for drawing his attention. iamaloner was close in his approximation but just slightly off. Guys that are approached by 6-7 women a day (the top .000000000001% of men) would never tell women that because they are probably only tangentially aware it is even occurring. This guy gets no quality tail. He might be able to neg a girl at the bar into sleeping with him once in a while but a gf is out of the question.
Fr 😂 He is the type of guy to go to a store, and then at check out he assumes the cashier is into him just for asking if he would like the change back.
"Women approach me 6 or 7 times a day." Female security guard: "Sir, this is at least the 6th, and last, time today I tell you to stay away from the gym if you don't have a membership!"
The actual guy "Dmitri the lover" used to be a doctor before he lost his licence back in the day. Look him up. The 6-7 women who approached him per day were more than likely just his actual patients lol
Introverted Strippers Those males are type of males whom are gun owners who proudly display there guns talk loud to hide just how inferior they truly feel an in actuality they're the most insecure people on earth because if they saw you in the club or grocery store or for that matter in public place they wouldn't the guts to walk up and introduce themselves to you because of feeling of rejection and the DNA of a coward hence the fake power by displaying the gun in public places !!
Please stop woman! You girls always do things like this and act like you know how to read people, but surprise surprise you always end up with douchebag and toxic man that will beat s*it out of you 😂 It's self-explanatory.
The utter AUDACITY for him to tell her to call back when she has the courage. I wish he'd done that to me I'd call him back all right just to crush his ego. He makes my skin crawl I can't stand it
You’re literally doing exactly what he wants lmao. All he’d need to do is defuse your anger and reframe your perspective then you’d start questioning yourself and convince yourself you called back bc deep down you love him. This “I’ll show him mentality” doesn’t do shit bc these ppl don’t give a fuck about u or anyone for that matter lmao. Just indifference or “grey rocking” as they call it in the abuse world is best when dealing with these people
There is a 💣 somewhere is Paris that will go off at precisely 3 oclock thursday afternoon. I have left a series of riddles that you will have solve before millions die…
If she called him, it would be only a matter of time before he started separating her from her friends, and then she'd be trapped forever in a mentally abusive relationship. He's a manipulator, big time.
Really he already started by telling her that her friends were jealous “even if they wouldn’t admit it”. That is such a huge red flag from someone that they won’t let you have relationships with friends. He’d always be tapping on the wedges he put between them. You’re definitely right about forever trapped. Luckily he sucks at baiting the trap… At least for women with enough wisdom to know this type of guy.
These are the markers of a very insecure man. He's too stupid to realize it and I'm surprised how many people writing comments don't see it. He's not confident at all.
@@simrdownmon6431 If this is real, this guy is absolutely an overt narcissist. From their perspective, everyone is constantly thinking about them. Narcissists are very averse to learning new things and are usually dumb as a post despite them sometimes confidently spouting things as though they know what they are talking about. After about 5 minutes of talking to them, it becomes clear to everyone they have no clue what they are talking about. They can be absolutely dangerous if they perceive that you know that they are narcissists. Fun fact 8 out of every 100 people are narcissists and 16 out of every 100 people have high narcissistic traits. They are very low on, if not, completely devoid of any kind of genuine emotional empathy for anyone else but themselves (even though they may be able to bring themselves to cry at times or use tones of voice that make them seem as though they are genuine, they very much are not).
If men wonder why women are so protective of their personal space, this is why. This guy in person probably stands way too close, grabby and touchy-feely, looking you up and down, while making inappropriate comments about your body. Please, guys, learn from this.
Dawn, I don't get your last sentence "Please, guys, learn from this". Sounds like you are assuming every guy would be potentially like the malaka and should learn how to avoid it. To me this looks like almost same distorsioned perspective of reality like Mr Malaka himself had. 😏
@@knutlondon8243 I don't think she has a "distorsioned" perspective of reality. Plenty of guys act like this and can't understand why women don't find them appealing (or even safe). They *should* learn from this.
People need to learn to handle rejection the right way. If you are rejected, hey, it's nothing personal. He, or she, is just not into you. Learn to accept it and leave him, or her, alone!
I go to nightclubs pretty regularly and yes I've made out and even went home with women while going there, I've also got rejected a good number of times, and that's actually a really good thing because I at least put myself out there, better luck next time
@@jeanmichellelaurent your profile pic tho😭 But yes this is so true… we all have been rejected and we are all gonna reject someone. It’s never that serious and life goes on.
🤣it literally makes me recoil in my seat w embarrassment and discomfort...I thought the last video was right up there w the dudes momma calling to reschedule a date🤩
Start a relationship with that lunatic and he'll make sure she has no family or friends and she'll wear what he says she has to wear. Then when she tries to leave him she'll end up on Unsolved Mysteries.
@@baseman2002 lol it was more like sarcasm. But I got used to it because everywhere I moved to he was there. He was like herpes, it never truly goes away. It just gets quiet but comes back eventually lol
He gave the resume but was sketchy about references. "Sir, we have been unable to locate the woman with whom you had a 1 yr online relationship. Please contact Unsolved Mysteries immediately."
The entire time I'm thinking "he definitely covered another video sinilar to this one". Referencing it at the end was the most helpful. You're one of the greats!!
@@darkpisces8125 they couldn't find any finger prints to prove that it was him so gave up. The first time he tried to eliminate me was by Lossing up my back tire
This is DEEP insecurity manifesting as narcissism and borderline delusion. From past experience, do not engage in any way - negatively or positively. These types can become dangerous stalkers.
This is so freaking scary. I can't believe men like this exist, but alas here we are. I treat women with respect and always think about my actions and words because I don't want them to ever feel uncomfortable in any way. To see a guy go out of his way to make someone afraid is really concerning and sad.
I wonder why she gave him her number to begin with?…. Maybe she was kind of interested and then he made a complete jerk of himself and she was like heck no lol. Bullet dodged.
I love the uninterested expressions on her face, while drinking her wine. This guy is a piece of work. Glad she never returned his call. He sounds like the type that would slowly and methodically isolate you from family and friends ,while being emotionally and possibly physically abusive.
The audio is very old shes not the person who received the audio shes just faking a reaction using the old audio making like shes the one that received it. Its an audio by a pick up artist who went by the nickname dimitri the stud who is in jail now it was send in the early 2000s to a girl named olga.
No wonder it's so hard trying to meet people these days, having to wade through weirdness like this. He sounded like a major control freak. Not to mention a freak just in general.
It’s better to know off the bat if he/she is a weirdo as opposed to them pretending to be normal & you finding out later after you’ve invested yourself.
I was stalked by a creepy religious man and as a man I felt super uncomfortable I had to hire security for awhile now I can’t imagine how a women must feel without protection.:((
@@daniboy4153 I live in a dangerous area in Tampa. I've had two death threats, one attempted mugging, hit and run on my bfs truck. It's so much worse than you think. I have a pocket knife. Women tend to learn to be hypervigilent and paranoid. I walk to the store sometimes (never after the sun sets), and I've dealt with so much honking and weird men staring at me. Getting honked at. Men trying to flirt and when you don't flirt back, they get angry and call you a bitch. I've heard "Its a compliment, you should say thank you bitch". I look behind me constantly. If a man is walking behind me, I stand and wait and let him pass me. You can feel their eyes on you. I cover my butt with my purse so they can't stare. Anyway sorry if my comment is too long, it's just something I've got to let out sometimes
I had a guy say these things on a date. When I didn't contact him he sent me 20 paragraphs in a row like this starting with saying "your welcome" for making an exception to go out with me (even though he "actually doesn't date women my color") into accusations than demands and ending with full threats. Funny thing is I was actually making an exception for him because I was told my standards were too high needed to be more "reasonable." Guess who's happily back unreasonable standards :)
Someone told my daughter that she needed to lower her standards. No, the person she dates must have high standards set for their self. Then, they are worthy of my daughter.
I had this happen to me without any dates. No dates, no flowers no nothing yet somehow our hometown thinks I am his ex fiance. I was also told I was unreasonable for not letting him do whatever he liked and leaving for college
I read an article about this voice mail a while back that stated this guy is James Sears, a Canadian editor of an anti-Semitic tabloid who was convicted of willful promotion of hatred against women and Jewish people back in January of 2019. The audio of his voice mail has actually been making the rounds on the Internet for a number of years now.
@@crossthreadmcalthair399 Um…. R/nice guys But in seriousness most women aren’t nervous about door opening unless you’re too aggressive doing it. But approaching a woman from behind or standing too close is definitely threatening.
Fascinating. An ex girlfriend who's half Italian once told me the same thing about Italian men,that she would never again date a man of Italian descent. I have no dog in the fight(not Greek or Italian);just interested in the parallel.
I had to give creeps my number waaay too many times just to save myself. And just telling them wasn't good enough, they'd call me immediately and demanded to see my screen to make sure it wasn't a fake number. I had guys corner me, touch me, kiss me etc. and sometimes the only way to get out of such a situation was giving guys my number, being nice to them (but not too much or you'll f*ck up big time) and fake being in a rush to get away.. it's so sad I (and so many other women) have to constantly worry about being harrassed just by leaving my home.
@@luna.8461 This really breaks my heart and why I was happy to be deemed "that crazy psycho b-!" because I will tell someone ONCE and after that they get the fire and brimstone treatment when that gets ignored. I'm done with being polite to people who translate my "no go away" to "yes please come and violate me". It hasn't been a problem for me anymore in quite some time now.
Had a girl like this. She used to say how she would date body builders, and police officers with K9's and she would help dog sit sometimes, and all I said was "oh wow, you must have the pick of the litter then". I stopped messaging her after that, but needless to say, when you ghost people like this, they EXPLODE your phone with messages and calls. Its really sureal and fascinating at the same time.
I am thinking of going back to school for my master's in Psychology. My first and major thought about this guy's voicemail " presentations" would set the perfect standard for the course on aberrant personality types... The demonstration of which he is a textbook exemplification of classic narcissistic disorder. Totally accomplishes the polar opposite of his intentions - he sounds like he making a pitch for a MLM scheme!..... Cringe meter is off the charts!
Oh wow, ur totally right! He does sound like he’s making a marketing pitch! 🤣 the guy sounds pathetic. What kind of person says “I get approached 6-7 x a day”? 🤦🏽♀️ If that’s true then go get with this those chicks loser! Stop trying to get at the girl who obviously wasn’t interested. Already investing so much effort in trying to convince someone to like u… ugh.. nerd!
Creating his own facts: "Your friends tell you not to return calls, you play games like you see on stupid tv shows. So this is how it's going to work..." He's the kind of guy that will tell you what you think, how you feel, and gaslight you at every turn. At least he was considerate enough to plant his 🚩🚩🚩in front of her from the start so she could know to avoid him.
Yup! My first husband AFTER we were married had the audacity to tell me I didn’t really need to think for myself, I should just ask him. I left 7 months after we married & never looked back. I knew the signs that it was only going to get worse!
this reminds me of those guys that have to remind people that they're the alpha male like if you have to remind someone your alpha male the odds are you're probably not an alpha male
When I get rejected I go on about my business and know maybe she wouldn't be interested in me and just work on myself. I don't ever threaten anyone or never get too cocky. I know my values and if someone doesn't see it that's fine. As long as I'm happy and feel great everyday I'm good. A girlfriend would be nice but not much of a need. But I would never ever be so demanding like this creep. Here's an idea for any creep like this dont do this stuff dont leave voice mails or excessive texts just live your life go to the gym, take up a hobby, play games with the boi's. Me I do all that and skateboarding and I take dance lessons now and I love it. Thats enough for me as long as I can make myself smile is all I ever want. Get out there but don't be creepy. You yes you are your own best friend and they need you no matter what.
He's literally trying to hire her for a position that recently opened up and listing the company fringe benefits she'll be graced with the possibility to earn after every positive performance review.
i think its a human thing, not just a guy thing. ive definitely heard women talk this way to men. either way, theres about 3000 red flags waving and alarms going off in my head lol
Jesus...what's really sad is I've known these guys. And as a man, I can say, watch out ladies who you speak to. Because you might end up in some Silence of the Lamb type situation or something like that. Sucks, these creeps ruin it for good guys.
don't think you good guys have *too much to worry about ...Guys like this... we know to avoid... just glad there are some good guys out there. *can't stand my bad grammar, had to edit.
I don't think they ruin it... in fact they make us appreciate the good guys even more. However the irony is... it's often the "Demitri's" who are convinced THEY are the good guys. 🙄 The true good guys don't think they are... they just go about their day in hero mode; mowing the yard, flipping flap jacks for their kids and folding laundry.
Don’t be fooled, there are women like this too! And even platonic friendships with men or women can become scary. It can happen to anyone with any person of any gender or ethnicity.
Demitrys long distance relationship consisted of him sending money to his "woman" in Russia of whom he'd never met face to face. The relationship hit hard times when his credit card was declined one day so she stopped sending him pictures and he decided he doesn't play games like that.
Omg!!!! When he said “I’m giving you the opportunity..” it reminded me of someone I went on 2 dates with and he was planning trips and living together. He scared the hell outta me. Needless to say we went our separate ways but he definitely put up a fight.
Apparently “Dimitri” is James Sears - “At first, in the early 90s, he was a medical doctor but when he pleaded guilty to two accounts of "sexual impropriety with three patients" he had his licence pulled. A decade or so later Sears reappeared under the guise of Dimitri the Lover, a pick up artist who would would train men in the “art of seduction” in a $3,000 two-day course. And now in recent years it seems another transformation has occurred with Sears stepping into the public role of a hate-monger. On November 15, Toronto Police charged Sears with two counts wilful promotion of hatred against identifiable groups (women and Jewish people) for the content found in Your Ward News, a community paper in which he is the editor-in-chief. The publisher of Your Ward News, Leroy St. Germaine, 76, is facing the same charges. The two were arrested Wednesday morning. The paper, in recent years, has become one of Canada’s most notorious publications. Inside its pages you can find rape advocacy, an abundant amount of anti-Semitism, conspiracy theories, and just too much to list here. One article, published last year, states that “age of consent should be the age at which a woman can safely have sex, and not a random number chosen by our ZioMarxist oppressors.” It was this kind of writing that led to the duo of Sears and Germain, receiving the first charge focused on promotion of hatred against women. Lisa Kinsella and her husband Warren-two political operatives, writers, and activists-worked to stop Your Ward News and said that this is the first time charges connected to the willful promotion of hate against women have been laid.” From: Editor of Canada’s Most Racist ‘Newspaper’ Charged With Hate Crimes By Mack Lamoureux
@@fightingtosurvive6527 Thanks for noticing the typo. I just copied that excerpt from the article, so if you happen to feel like mentioning it to the author too, I’m sure they’ll fix it in the original.
This is what they should play in psychologically lectures at the start of the syllabus on narcissistic sociopaths. This guy makes Dennis Reynolds sound like Mister Rogers.
For anyone wondering, the voice on the voicemail is James Sears or "Dmitri the Lover". He was one of many pick up artists way back in the day. This audio clip is at least 12 years old (you can search the original audio on yt) and I know this because I heard it on a radio show when I was younger, so he's not calling the woman in the video but some blonde woman named Olga he met at a a cafe, I believe. His rap sheet is long, medical malpractice, harassing woman in cafes or restaurants in Toronto and running a anti-semitic newspaper among other things.
He reminds me of the man that recorded himself a few years ago that walked into the sorority house and began shooting. He did the same thing going on about how good looking he is and what a catch he was. She dodged a majorrrrr bullet.
He sounds exactly like an ex doctor of mine. Very knowledgeable but TEXTBOOK narcissist. His Facebook pic was him in a lounge chair with his shirt wide open and visible hair plugs. He acted like he was a gift to mankind. Lol